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Handling the shame of suicide

I attempted suicide a week ago. Things are good now. New meds and more therapy. Tons of support. Really really glad I am alive and feel safe and secure that it won't happen again. But how do I deal with the shame of seeing how I hurt people who love me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 13, 2014 - 31 answers

Job application anxiety and disappointment

At the beginning of this year I finished my courses and exams to become an emergency medical technician. I finally have the certification I that allows me to work in the field, but I’m fighting against paralyzing anxiety that’s making it hard to apply for jobs. This is something that I've struggled with the past, but the stakes feel a lot higher this time and I’m looking for advice on how to proceed. [more inside]
posted by arcolz on Jan 22, 2014 - 11 answers

Books about suffering loss but being better for it

I'm going through some things that have both brought me a lot of sadness and presented an opportunity to change my life for the better. I'm wondering if there are any books the MeFi hive can recommend, novels, memoirs or otherwise. They should be about people who have suffered loss, perhaps enduring shame, but emerging better for it. [more inside]
posted by Cybria on Jan 17, 2014 - 11 answers

Trying to live happily ever after, after an affair. But with a twist.

I love my boyfriend dearly and we have had a very strong exclusive relationship for over a year now. However, we started as an affair while he was married. I am still struggling with the guilt I have over this. Are there any resources out there for helping people deal with the aftermath of the affair when the couple is now the husband and the mistress and not the husband and wife? [more inside]
posted by Argyle Sock Puppet on Jan 9, 2014 - 45 answers

Task management for the overwhelmed

Are you easily distracted and overwhelmed? What task management techniques/systems have you found successful? [more inside]
posted by overeducated_alligator on Dec 30, 2013 - 17 answers

How to deal w being around people/things that remind you of nightmares?

I feel ashamed and uneasy about being around people that remind me of my nightmares. How do I cope with it? [more inside]
posted by ichomp on Oct 8, 2013 - 2 answers

Feel bad about going to strip club, Help!

So I went to a strip club when I was pretty intoxicated and feeling lonely and depressed. Long story short I got a series of lap dances where you were allowed to touch the strippers. I feel tremendous guilt and shame about going there and objectifying women. [more inside]
posted by mrdrummed on Oct 4, 2013 - 41 answers

How do you come to terms with your feelings after a break up?

I've just broken up with someone I still love after a very tumultuous year and am struggling with feelings of shame. What ways can you suggest to deal with these feelings and come to terms with what has happened? [more inside]
posted by Ranting Prophet of DOOM! on Jul 28, 2013 - 9 answers

I need medical care and I'm too ashamed to go to the doctor.

I need to go to the doctor, but intense shame is keeping me from seeking help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 18, 2013 - 46 answers

How to help a relative cope with past sexual assault?

My elderly mother in law recently confided in me that her now-deceased husband sexually assaulted her decades ago and it haunts her daily. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 19, 2013 - 10 answers

Still scared about stupid sex

How to deal with intense anxiety from stupid and risky sexual decisions in the (pretty) distant past? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 8, 2013 - 27 answers

Sorry to inflict this on you.

My question is disgusting and primarily about my butt. Details below. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 18, 2013 - 28 answers

Possibly HIV Positive -- Now What

I may have HIV and I don't know what to do about it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 28, 2013 - 51 answers

Recovering from child sexual abuse online

I'm finally processing the reality of being a victim of online enticement by a child predator. Besides therapy, are there any good resources for helping deal with the shame? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 21, 2012 - 12 answers

How do I stop masturbating to violent images?

I am a woman who is deeply ashamed of what sexually excites me and need help or resources in learning to stop my porn/masturbation problem. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 22, 2012 - 24 answers

Bankrupt

I think I need to file bankruptcy. Guilt and shame. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 26, 2012 - 17 answers

Help me be less of a catastrophe

Trying to climb out of huge life hole. Complications: shame, depression and probable ADD, inattentive type. Before you suggest therapy, I have an appointment at the local community mental health intake place this Thursday. I just need to know I can get through this, and that others have made major life changes at 40+ that have stuck. I have few IRL friends I can talk to about this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 18, 2012 - 16 answers

Help me get the bullies out of my head so I can go to the gym in peace

You were bullied as a child, especially in gym class. You protected yourself from the mocking by being invisible and dropping those classes as soon as possible. You were embarrassed and afraid if people noticed the way you run or move. You didn't learn to dance because of this shame. As an adult, you have gotten over this fear/shame and have become physically fit and strong. How? [more inside]
posted by sadmadglad on Jun 9, 2012 - 37 answers

Overcoming shame after quitting a job

I quit a job without notice more than a year ago, and I still haven't fully recovered. Please help me overcome my shame and move on with my life. [more inside]
posted by constellations on Apr 18, 2012 - 31 answers

You're amazing!!!........I suck.

How to deal with the shame that comes after hypomanic behaviour? [more inside]
posted by costanza on Apr 5, 2012 - 19 answers

Caught up in more shame.

I did some out of character, stupid things while in the middle of a long nervous breakdown. I told many of my close friends. Now how do I handle the shame? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 21, 2012 - 15 answers

Help a girl say no.

Late-twenties female in need of new strategies for handling intimate encounters and avoiding disassociation during sex and shame afterwards. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 5, 2012 - 35 answers

How to stop blushing when coworkers talk about sex

Help me stop blushing when people at work talk about sex. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 13, 2011 - 20 answers

Learning to love sport again

How do I get over my feelings of fear and shame with physical activity? [more inside]
posted by snowysoul on Dec 4, 2011 - 17 answers

And she became a hermit, never checked email again, and lived happily ever after except for the gnawing self doubt and failed dreams.

Sticks and stones can break my bones but unread emails make me want to hide in a closet. Please help me get over my avoidance of communication. Bonus: failed therapy attempt; social outcast complications. [more inside]
posted by griselda on Dec 2, 2011 - 26 answers

I said I'd never and now I have

Do you know of any literary quotes on the theme of self-disgust and shame when authors or characters realise they have turned into that which they once despised? [more inside]
posted by cincinnatus c on Nov 23, 2011 - 10 answers

How did you tell others you were in an abusive relationship?

I realized last night that I need to get out of my emotionally abusive marriage. I'm really scared for a lot of reasons. For those of you who have been in my shoes, how did you "come out" to others about your situation? How did you cope with people who told you you brought it on yourself? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 9, 2011 - 32 answers

Is EI too shameful?

Work is ending next week, nothing lined up to follow. Should I go on EI or is that too shameful/irresponsible for someone of an upper middle class background? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 5, 2011 - 19 answers

How not to people-please your way to relationship angst

How do those who tend to people-please stay honest with their feelings and needs in romantic relationships? I want to avoid becoming overwhelmed and disoriented after about half a year or so, which seems to happen again and again. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 27, 2011 - 14 answers

How to stop feeling like I'm not good enough?

In my work, with my family, and my friends, I suddenly feel like a child, or that I am inferior to them. I'm not!, So why am I jobless and friendless? BTW: I don't feel this way in other areas of my life, only when it comes to work and friend-making. [more inside]
posted by midnightmoonlight on Aug 12, 2011 - 6 answers

Guilt and shame

Could someone give me good, colloquial definitions of guilt, shame, and the difference between them? Or maybe I'm looking for another word... [more inside]
posted by dogcat on May 22, 2011 - 18 answers

an apopogy for the unforgivable

I've been invited to a wedding where I'm only going to know a couple of guests. One of them is a woman who has every right to hate my guts. Help me navigate this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 29, 2011 - 46 answers

How do I get over the shame of my bigoted teenage past?

How do I get over guilt and shame of sharing very prejudiced things online as a teenager? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 13, 2011 - 38 answers

Save Me From Style Parody

Quick, MeFites! In less than an hour I'm dressing to go to the Cirque du Soleil. I'm determined to wear my vintage black velvet strapless evening gown with flamenco ruffles. How do I style it tongue-in-cheek without trying too hard? [more inside]
posted by tel3path on Jan 16, 2011 - 13 answers

Reign of blows.

Help me alleviate a noxious family dynamic. [more inside]
posted by Nomyte on Dec 11, 2010 - 31 answers

Maybe a dingo can has mai babby

I feel really guilty, because of social and family pressure, for not wanting kids. I am sure my guilt over feeling like I want kids is less painful than having a kid I don't really want. Will this feeling of "I'm not an upright citizen because I don't want babies" go away? How can I make it better? How do MeFites without kids (by choice, or not) cope with being asked about it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 10, 2010 - 51 answers

Frustration leads to anger, anger leads to shame, lather, rinse, repeat

I've lived in Japan for some time now, but I'm not very good at the language. When I encounter anything beyond the simple, and I don't understand what's going on, I feel frustrated, then angry, then ashamed, which undermines any confidence I have to speak the language, which makes it less likely that I'll do better the next time. What can I do to break this cycle? [more inside]
posted by MShades on Aug 8, 2010 - 15 answers

Shame on you.

What are some tricks that classy people use to make others feel ashamed of themselves after they've treated someone badly? [more inside]
posted by kitcat on Jul 16, 2010 - 44 answers

How can I get rid of these awful feelings?

How do I deal with feelings of guilt and shame after drinking? I admit to a drinking problem; that's a different question. What I would like to know is specific strategies for making the morning after less hard on my conscience. Or do I need to just suck it up and deal with it as the natural consequence of my drinking? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 2, 2010 - 44 answers

How did Stella get her geekiness back?

How can I stop being so self-conscious about my geekiness? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 17, 2010 - 32 answers

Oh the shame

Can you help me come to terms with my DUI? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 13, 2010 - 8 answers

How do I deal with the stress of bedbugs?

I have bed bugs and it is driving me crazy. The exterminator won't arrive for another two days! How do I deal with the psychological stress of it all? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 9, 2010 - 15 answers

Teaching to Distraction

I teach college. I have ADD. I have some kind of mental block against fully planning my courses. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 20, 2010 - 6 answers

Getting Past Embarassment

How do you get past embarassment? [more inside]
posted by The Biggest Dreamer on Dec 6, 2009 - 23 answers

How can I deal with my acute feelings of shame?

I feel intense, acute, brief episodes of shame every day, several times a day. What can I do about them? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 22, 2009 - 29 answers

Help me clone a Hamburger Helper recipe.

Help me recreate the flavor of discontinued Hamburger Helper (either Pizza Pasta or the original Cheesy Italian Shells, before they reworked and ruined it)! [more inside]
posted by kingjoeshmoe on Jul 11, 2009 - 10 answers

I'm disgusted by what turns me on. Please help.

It seems like the only thing that can get me off is extremely unpleasant written erotica (details inside, to keep the front page clean). Do I have a problem? Should I see a therapist? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 30, 2009 - 47 answers

The shame of cancer?

Why was cancer once considered a shameful disease? [more inside]
posted by Quietgal on Dec 31, 2008 - 40 answers

Am I marked as defective forever with Borderline Personality Disorder?

How do you shake off the shame of being diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder? Will anyone ever want to be my friend again? [more inside]
posted by beautifulcheese on Nov 22, 2008 - 40 answers

Pulling the Fat out of the Fire

I have fucked up yet another academic semester. This is the third time--I fucked up as a freshman, took time off, came back, fucked up again, took more time off, and came back and have repeated the cycle. Only now, now that I've realized I've shot myself in the foot again, I desperately want to recover my academic career somehow. Is it possible? Is it over? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 19, 2008 - 34 answers

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