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How can a guy dress more sexy?

oxit — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 10:19:46 -0800

How can a guy dress more sexy? Being a guy I have a good understanding how women can dress more sexy, but for myself I have little clue. How do I dress more sexy for the opposite gender?

I have a decent wardrobe of things that I bought specifically for their looks and I do actively combine them so that they fit together and I supposedly look good. Still I wouldn't say it or I ever look sexy or hot.

If this is a stupid question, because (1) I already do look sexy, or (2) I have to behave sexy instead or (3) ... feel free to let me know, also.

[Background: Central Europe, 30-ish, average sporty, fashionable, and outgoing, healthy BMI]

Feel good in my skin.

lwclec072 — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 09:30:07 -0800

How to feel sexy in my skin for once?? I lost quite a bit of weight during my adolescent years due to hormonal issues which has left me feeling self conscious about my body since then. I have stretch marks all over my thighs, butt, sides, saggy breasts, arms, etc. I've been in a relationship with the same guy for going on 3 years and I've been really craving feeling sexy to him, like other women, he says guys only look at other women when they're not satisfied and he does.

I obviously do not have the greatest body image and just looking for tips on things I can do to improve that and feel better in my skin which hopefully will make him see me differently. I'm not a large woman I weigh 145 so the weight isn't such an issue for me.

Bringing sexy forward

Anonymous — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 18:47:02 -0800

Help me be more comfortable with my (straight, female) sexuality and be more sexy Several well-meaning friends have told me in my single phases over the years that I dress too much like a priss and should try to look and act a bit more sexy, and just well, lighten up and not take things so seriously. I've realised I actually have little idea of what to do/wear and moreso, feel uncomfortable with the idea. I would like to feel natural and confident and comfortable with playing up my sexuality (being flirty and dressing in an attractive way) and I'm not sure why I don't (was not raised religious or anything).

I take part in a lot of male dominated activities and have always had this perhaps misguided idea that not playing up my sexuality when mixing with the guys was a matter of integrity and a way to be taken seriously. I'm also pretty uncomfortable with unwanted sexual attention and feel anxious when someone hits on me and I'm not interested because I worry that I won't get the balance of kind and assertive right and I tend to feel guilty for not reciprocating. I'm not sure if this is part of it.

I dress very femininely, but more along the lines of "girly" than "womanly" - pretty but definately not sexy. It probably doesn't help that I also look much younger than I am.

I'm not a prude but I think I might come across like one because I feel so uncomfortable with being "sexy" until I actually get in the bedroom - and this is obviously limiting my opportunities to do so! When I go out to clubs with other single girls they're just so much more confident and out there than I am, and I feel kind of awkward. I still want to be me but would also like to be a bit more sexy and womanly without feeling ridiculous or like a piece of meat.

I always feel uncomfortable when I get attention for my appearance, so I try to underplay it and cover up, but then get frustrated when someone I find attractive doesn't notice me.

Help me shake out of this please!

Can you hear me now, you horny bastard?

Anonymous — Sun, 20 Jul 2008 18:27:05 -0800

Good examples of heterosexual audio erotica or porn, please? Doesn't matter if it's real or faked, just as long as it's good and hot. Scorching hot. Tear the clothes off your significant other, RIGHT NOW GODDAMIT, hawt.

Audio books, podcasts, CDs, whatever, we're open to various mediums. Even if there's a particular movie that sounds hot, that'll work also, just as long as it doesn't have to be watched, merely listened to.

Sexy clothes for a girl with a tomboy style?

Anonymous — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 13:08:55 -0800

What should I wear to the bars with my new romantic interest tonight? I'm going out to this bar: http://www.yelp.com/biz/el-rio-san-francisco tonight with a guy I've been on 2 dates with before. We're meeting up with a bunch of his friends (my first time meeting them!)
I'm a snowboarder, and my clothing style reflects that - a lot of Oakley/Volcom tshirts, down vests, jeaas, and fleece coats. I think I look good, but not sexy. None of my clothes show any cleavage or anything. I think he's the same style - he skateboards - but since I've only seen him twice, I can't say for sure. I don't want to look completely out of place with his friends.

What can I wear that will preserve my current, kind of punky style, but also be sexy? I'm thinking maybe a cargo skirt, or a v neck long sleeve shirt with a down vest. Please help!

He Can Pluck My Strings Any Time.

PhatLobley — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 22:16:37 -0800

Who are the hottest, sexiest guitarists out there? Guys who play the guitar are hot. So says conventional wisdom and a very good friend of mine. I want to make her a mix CD of the hottest guitarists around. Guys who make you want to throw your bra onstage and your body at them. Guys who are sexy because they play the guitar and guys who are sexy because they're sexy and just happen to play the guitar. When you think of getting all hot and bothered from watching a dude strum (or shred or whatever), whom do you think of? Responses from all eras and genres are acceptable. Just make 'em hot.
As a straight guy who admits he's gay enough to occasionally identify sexy guys, here's a list I've compiled by going through my music library quickly and picking out the guys about whom I thought "Yeah, he's a hottie," or "I hear he's a hottie." Help me expand it and/or pare it down, i.e. add your own suggestions and criticize mine.
Paul McCartney, John Lennon, Beck, Ben Harper, Bob Dylan, Gavin Rossdale, Joe Strummer, David Gray, Ben Gibbard, George Michael (not sure he counts as a guitarist, but there is the "Faith" video), Billie Joe Armstrong, Hank Williams III, Jack Johnson, Jeff Buckley, John Mayer, Kurt Cobain, Brian Aubert, Sting, Sufjan Stevens, Rivers Cuomo, Jack White, Pete Townshend, Jeff Tweedy.

Where was this desk online?

folktrash — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 11:11:37 -0800

Lost Link: I found a super splendid sexy aluminum desk online a while back and now it is lost! It is brushed, a simple "n" shape, with a smaller "n" inside that slides out for the keyboard. Something like "one desk" or "slim desk" maybe? All my googlage is for not. The photos show it with an imac naturally. Can anyone reclaim my sanity?

Sexy and scary?

Anonymous — Sun, 04 Nov 2007 20:35:28 -0800

My girlfriend and I are looking for a sexy, scary movie. My girlfriend and are in a long distance relationship, which sucks, but we are going to see each other again next weekend. One of the things we've enjoyed doing together in the past is watching scary movies - Halloween, Night of the Living Dead, The Exoricist, etc.

Anyways, she asked me the other day about spicing it up a little bit. We want to find a scary movie that also is strongly sexy. You know, the type you can watch with a bottle of wine, be delightfully scared and then have an evening of extracurricular fun. Preferably something I could either pick up at Blockbuster or order on Amazon and have by the end of the week.

Hand-typed translation on the cheap, preferably free?

vanoakenfold — Thu, 19 Jul 2007 06:41:12 -0800

I need a free or absurdly inexpensive English translation of a Japanese message board post page. It's a skosh long, but might make for a good exercise? All of the automatic web translators turn it into a grammar trainwreck. There was a recent "Sexy 8 Beat" concert by Morning Musume. I found, on good faith, a transcript of one section of the concert (where one of the members was graduating out of it, and the remaining members were saying their farewells). Anyone feeling benevolent?

Link .. post is No.38, the 2nd reply down. All of the free automatic translators don't make any sense, and even give the names of the speakers literal translations =P

looking for a song, goes something like this: "sexy girl, sexy girl, sexy guitar, sexy guitar, sexy sexy" google didnt help.

freddymetz — Sat, 31 Mar 2007 11:17:53 -0800

looking for a song, goes something like this: "sexy girl, sexy girl, sexy guitar, sexy guitar, sexy sexy" google didnt help.

Do men get bored of seeing sexy underwear on their girlfriend all... the... time?

trampesque — Wed, 07 Mar 2007 05:50:39 -0800

Do men get bored of seeing sexy underwear on their girlfriend all... the... time? I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 months, and I am a big, big fan of very sexy underwear. Stockings, hold-ups, different styles of knickers (different colours, shapes, fabrics, see-through, not see-through - though always very very classy: the term 'crotchless' makes me cringe) and my boyfriend absolutely loves it.

He does comment on it a lot, once to say "its basically off the scale how sexy you look right now". So I'm guessing it's working very well. (I'm not being vain at all here, just giving an indication of how much he does like it.)

I was just wondering, if he sees it all the time, is he going to tire of it so that I somehow have to crank it up a notch? (And I don't really know how one would do that without, say, passing on underwear altogether.) Or do men just never tire of seeing their girlfriends in a variety of sexy lingerie?

Oh, as a sidenote, I do really enjoy wearing it, it's definitely not all for him. Most of it I've had for years and wear it just for myself. So to calm it down a little would actually be pretty boring for me. But I was wondering if maybe I should calm it down occasionally so that it's extra pleasing for him when I do break out the really hot stuff.

Gutal awmaar baina.

thirteenkiller — Fri, 20 Oct 2006 12:28:05 -0800

Help me find sexy black boots for a very cold climate. High black heeled boots are all the rage for urban professional Mongolian women. My friend, who will be doing her dissertation research interviewing Mongol elites in country this winter, would like to have some. So, help me find some.

Here's what we need:

Sexy
Black
Heels
Knee-high or almost
Good traction (Mongol sidewalks don't get shovelled - any snow that falls gets packed into ice, so by December you can basically skate your way through the whole city.)
Windproof (I think that precludes styles advertised as "breathable")
Warm (This is of secondary importance, because she can always insulate with lots of socks, but it would be really nice! Mongolia gets so so so SO SO cold, you would not even believe it. Seriously.)

Although the heel isn't pointy and ridiculous like Mongol women prefer, these would be just about perfect, but they're outrageously expensive. I've looked through the Zappos collection and there are some possibilities there, so suggest something on Zappos if you'd like, but I'm really interested in stuff from other sites. Bayarlalaa!

Who are the oldest men and women still widely considered sexy?

hoverboards don't work on water — Thu, 02 Mar 2006 09:31:44 -0800

Who is the oldest man still widely considered sexy? I'm looking for well-known names, so it's probably not worth mentioning that hunky uncle you have...

Some examples might be Sean Connery (76), Harrison Ford (64) or Paul McCartney (64). These seem to be the "obvious" choices to me. Are there any equally obvious choices for oldest sexy woman?

Please honey, I'm trying (Its just that I'm a bit dense)

iurodivii — Tue, 24 Jan 2006 08:09:00 -0800

Please share your best ideas on showing the man/woman/etc. in your life that you love them, day-in day-out. My wife is GORGEOUS. I'm not the only one who thinks so. I fought hard to wrest her from the eternal abyss of notbeingwithme and win her. I Love her dearly. I have, throughout our 4 years of dating and now our year and a half of marriage, come up with many fantastic large-scale surprises and delightful enjoyments that have both made her swoon and have fallen flatly deflated at our feet, as we laughed at my silliness. But now I am realizing {read as "she is making it clear -in the unspoken way that women are initiated upon marriage into using -that..."} I am not holding up my part of the daily bargin:

That is, letting her know how sexy *I think* she is, as the person i am sharing my daily life with. I don't need to sky-write it in 30 foot letters over her office, I just need to ... well that's where i get lost...

I've already read through this link (http://ask.metafilter.com/mefi/22967) regarding helping your wife feel sexy. But my lady is at a high point right now in the sexy-o-meter and its me that needs to catch up with her.
I am interested in the little daily things that can be done to build a solid foundation of intense infuriating infatuating desire upon which the two of us can float away into our fantasies. Any suggestions from the best things you've said/been said to you, to little rituals you two share that are deeply meaningful and intimate-between-souls. I know that these things are very idiosyncratic to particualr people and relationships, but I feel like a barren desert in need of a (b)rainstorm here.

What's the best ultra compact 5 megapixel (or more) digital camera that I can get?

antifuse — Fri, 06 Jan 2006 04:07:24 -0800

UltraCompactDigicamFilter: What's the best ultra compact 5 megapixel (or more) digital camera that I can get? I'm in the market for an ultra-compact digicam. From looking at Amazon (where I'll be buying, thanks to some Christmas gift cards), I figure I'm looking in the £200 range, give or take. I know it's been previously discussed, but the last one I could find was way back in May (specifically asking about compacts) and the market is drastically different now. Here's what I'm looking for:

Ultra small - I'm talking card camera styles here

Big LCD - the standard appears to be 2.5" on the newer cameras

Good(ish) low light performance - I'm guessing lots of my pictures will be taken indoors, hanging out with friends

Still able to take good outdoors/landscape pictures - I want to be able to snap away when I'm out for a walk and that perfect picture presents itself

Decent lens quality - don't want the lens to be complete crap either.

Fast performance - shutter lag, AF, and off-to-picture time

Battery life - I'd like it to be reasonably decent

Video mode - 640x480 required, 30fps a nice-to-have

Sexiness - much as I hate to admit it, the sexiness factor is definitely important.

So far, my contenders are the Nikon Coolpix S1, Canon Ixus 55 (SD450 in N.A.), Sony DSC-T5, Casio Exilim EX-S500, Fuji Finepix Z1, and the Kodak EasyShare v550. Does anyone have any experience with any of these cameras? Any suggestions on brands to avoid at all cost? Any clear winners out of that list? They are all approximately the same size, have approximately the same specs (more or less), and are approximately the same prices. I've got a quick specs comparison up for anyone who might be interested in what I've researched so far... So - any ultracompact officianados out there?

I slit the sheet, the sheet I slit, and on the slitted sheet I sit.

striker — Wed, 09 Nov 2005 12:24:16 -0800

Help me sexy-fi the bed. We're looking for new bedding to make a more sexy, luxurious sleeping experience. What do we want? What thread count, material (silk? egyptian cotton?), pieces? Where should we get this stuff? It should not only feel great, but look the part as well. We're doing the all white and comfy thing now, but want to improve the atmosphere.

Mix tape suggestions

Lisa S — Thu, 09 Dec 2004 21:14:09 -0800

Any ideas for songs to put on the quintessential Music to Fuck To Mix?
(John Mayer, Dave Matthews, Barry White need not apply.)

Ask MetaFilter questions tagged with sexy

How can a guy dress more sexy?

Feel good in my skin.

Bringing sexy forward

Can you hear me now, you horny bastard?

Sexy clothes for a girl with a tomboy style?

He Can Pluck My Strings Any Time.

Where was this desk online?

Sexy and scary?

Hand-typed translation on the cheap, preferably free?

looking for a song, goes something like this: "sexy girl, sexy girl, sexy guitar, sexy guitar, sexy sexy" google didnt help.

Do men get bored of seeing sexy underwear on their girlfriend all... the... time?

Gutal awmaar baina.

Who are the oldest men and women still widely considered sexy?

Please honey, I'm *trying* (Its just that I'm a bit dense)

What's the best ultra compact 5 megapixel (or more) digital camera that I can get?

I slit the sheet, the sheet I slit, and on the slitted sheet I sit.

Mix tape suggestions

Please honey, I'm trying (Its just that I'm a bit dense)