my wife and i are approaching the ten year mark in our relationship, and with that comes a bit of sexual boredom. we have tried many new things, but the problem appears to be more disposition than lack of creativity. we are not very well off financially, so going down to the local sex therapist is not an option. we are simply looking for some inexpensive/free (books, blogs, etc.) suggestions that may change minds. can anyone help?
Are there any resources available for young LGBT individuals who are not able to live in their current living environment due to being kicked out or are denied entry into the home? Also it would be nice to find out about employment and college resources for us. I'm not a minor - I'm 19 years of age.
What is getting a PhD really like? Is it worth it? I want to be a researcher in psychology, sexuality, and gender. [more inside]
Are there any systematic/scientific-method-y ways of learning more about one's sexuality (namely, personal arousal cues/triggers)? [more inside]
About a week ago, I was lying down on my bed not feeling well emotionally - I had been very low feeling and had lots of anxieties and stressful feeling for months. [more inside]
After questioning and coming to terms with my sexuality and yet a lower sex drive due to somewhat not sure causes (though I'm getting tests done out of curiosity), I was invited over for some fun. [more inside]
Not really sure how to let this out to my college counselor. In February of this year, I came out to my mom and brother. Things were better than I thought they would turn out to be. A couple of month later, my Dad somehow got the impression that we were all hiding something from him and as such, coerced me to tell him what was going on. I told him. He was somewhat judgmental of me and I completely stopped talking to him about these topics. Ever since that, I've been worried about how my future decisions will affect my relationship with my parents. [more inside]
My hubby's kinky. I'm not. Please help us figure out a fair way to compromise in the bedroom. [more inside]
hey... I was wondering where I can find the best evidence to prove that sexuality is biological or womb hormonally rather than child rearing caused? Just for my parents who are damn annoying. Thanks!
I'm 19 years old, a guy. I was wondering what has happened to my sexual attraction. Typically during the college and high school years in the past, I used to be more sexually attracted to different guys (yes I'm gay). Right now it's summer break and I spend most of my time at home and not really in the presence of different people. Now when I occasionally go out, I don't seem to have the sexual oomph that I've had in the past. I do have success with my self, but it doesn't seem as strong as before. What is it a problem with? Is it low sex drive? Is it that I'm going crazy? Is it that I'm not seeing enough people? Is my attraction limited to types of people and is that normal? I think it is.
I want to be sexy. Unfortunately, I'm a straight man. [more inside]
When is arousal not attraction? [more inside]
My partner has a wild sexual history and would like to incorporate threesomes into our sex life. I am not comfortable with this idea at all. Do these sort of discrepancies point to some sort of sexual incompatibility? (Many more details insides . . . NSFW.) [more inside]
I'm confused somewhat about my sexuality. It's an issue for me. Likely I'm gay and not straight. I'm wondering how can I tell apart aesthetic appeal from sexual attraction. Also, am I in denial to some point, because I'm constantly wondering over whether if I like women or not? That's why I'm wondering about the difference between aesthetic appeal and sexual attraction.
I'm currently questioning my sexuality. However I'm not sure who I'm sexually and romantically attracted to. All of the attraction that I've seemed to have has been to guys, but I'm not sure if it was sexual btw. I'm 19 years old if that helps. What is the most accurate indicator of sexual orientation / attraction? I'm not sure if I'm attracted to girls or not, thanks...
Sexuality seems to be a very fluid and complex matter, and perhaps bisexuality even more so. My question is, when and how did you realize you were bisexual? And on a side note, I'd like to hear some opinions on a unrequited love situation. [more inside]
Help me stop obsessing over having an orgasm with my partner (because if I can do THAT, I might actually stand a chance of having one - d'oh! Obsessing again...) [more inside]
My brother just came out to me as being gay. I'm gay too. The problem here is that I'm clueless about how to deal with this. Also, I hate to say it, but my overwhelming feeling right now is sorrow. [more inside]
I'm less bisexual than I thought I was. And now I'm engaged to be married to a wonderful guy who loves me and depends on me, and realizing that I cannot sustain attraction to him for more than fleeting moments every few months. How do I minimize the damage, here? [more inside]
I'm planning a training for elementary and middle school educators on sexuality and gender in education. What do YOU wish your teachers/educators would have known/talked about/done/etc? [more inside]
Bob and Carol and Ted and Alice and Lions and Tigers and Bears and Hot Tubs and Hairy Chests and Press-On Nails...
Some now-former friends have decided to jump into polyamory as a solution to a big mess of relationship crazy. I think this is a terrible, terrible idea, for reasons specific to both the couple and polyamory as a whole. But how do I discuss this with them (and others) without sliding down the slippery slope of defining what other types of relationships are "right" or "wrong"? [more inside]
I know my anxiety to be a liar. I don't know how to shut it up. Please help me get a handle on it before it derails something amazing. [more inside]
I've been with my boyfriend for three years (living together for half that amount of time). This is my first long-term relationship. Previously, my relationships lasted anywhere from 3-6 months. So I don't have a real point of comparison for anything outside of the endorphine-rush phase. [more inside]
Sex interest filter [more inside]
My fiance sent a close-up photo of his junk to someone. Judging by the email address, it went to another man. As far as I know, my fiance is straight. [more inside]
Please share with me your best tips for keeping my raging lust in check while I'm getting to know someone I find very attractive. [more inside]
I've been told by several people that I kiss "like a high schooler," and that this is a bad thing. I'm a straight male in my mid-20s and relatively a n00b, sexually. What are ways for me to become more mature in my physical intimacy? [more inside]
My 14-yo son has recently come out to me as gay. Should I share anything about the "experimental" phase of my youth? [more inside]
I need some academically credible synonyms for same-sex erotic activity that are less ambiguous than "gay sex" and less clinical-sounding than "homosexual contact." [more inside]
Question’s about my virgin girlfriend pertaining to sex and sexuality. [more inside]
I'm 25 years old, male, attracted to women. I have some funny fetishes, and there is something called "autogynephilia", love of oneself as a woman, that I'm pretty sure applies to me. What kind of woman can I get into a relationship with who would be understanding? [more inside]
There are gay icons and lesbian icons - are there people who are bisexual/pansexual icons? [more inside]
Which are the words that refer to the genital organs in Swedish? I've been told that Swedish has a "neutral" sexual/anatomic terminology that is neither vulgar, nor childish, nor medical/technical. "They call it like we call a nose a nose, and a leg a leg". [more inside]
Looking for subtle ways to let people know that I'm gay [more inside]
My husband will probably be starting hormones and this may eventually lead to gender reassignment surgery. I fully support him, however it goes. There is a lot of advice out there for how transgendered people should tell their partners or parents, but very little for how supportive partners should tell their families. Any advice? (longer story inside) [more inside]
Where The New Comics At?: In addition to my many other hats I may be getting a job reviewing new erotica/sexuality/explicit etc comics in the future. I'd get my pick of any comic/graphic novel to review as long as it includes some element or discussion of sex or sexuality or whatever. The problem is that I have no idea what the new releases are and I can't seem to find a centralized list of upcoming titles with enough description. [more inside]
Help me be more comfortable with my (straight, female) sexuality and be more sexy [more inside]
I am a Toronto-based artist researching aging and sexuality for an upcoming project. I'm looking to talk to people over the age of 65 who can be quite candid about their sexuality. I'm looking for suggestions as to where I can find people to talk to. I'm trying some obvious places like Craigslist and Lavalife with some success and wondering if anybody has any other ideas. And if the people live in/around Toronto, that's even better, but not essential. Thanks.
What is an appropriate way to discuss homosexuality with a 10 year old child? [more inside]
Does there exist a culture where sex doesn't result in orgasm? [more inside]
Why do B-complex vitamins and zinc enhance orgasm? [more inside]
I'm a dude; he's a dude. I'm in love with him, and I need to get over him. But I can't. Please help me. [more inside]
Transgender resources in San Francisco and the Bay Area? [more inside]
Do straight chicks dig lesbian erotica? My wife trolls the net for stories of girl on girl sex. No pics. No videos. Oh, and by the way, our sex life is not so good. Might she be gay? curious? or do straight girls dig lesbian sex stories?
As a bisexual woman I've been thinking lately about the strange status of bisexual men in my society (the USA). There are surely plenty of bi men around - I've met several and dated a couple, but I've read very little in depth writing from the point of view of men who date or sleep with both men and women. [more inside]
Are vibrating cock rings any good? [more inside]
Family holidays: some help at navigating not-so-subtle gender cues? [more inside]
I never get morning erections anymore. Why? [more inside]
every weekend evangelist missionaries knock on our door for a chat. I'm wondering how to politely express my support for gay marriage, sex education, access to abortion services etc. while staying friendly and not getting in a forty minute conversation that goes nowhere. [more inside]
I want to read about sexuality. [more inside]