You know how awkward you feel at 12 when you're trying to talk to the cutie in your class? Well, that's me, but at 27, and with women. I'm a woman, and I'm completely lost with how this works. Maybe lost is an understatement. Could you walk me through what you did, if you experienced this?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 28, 2011 -
12 answers
Masturbation when co-habitating hacks: How do you work out "alone time" when you're living with your SO?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 18, 2011 -
42 answers
Questioning my sexuality. In a relationship. Also, how do I get over my completely unhealthy need for drama in a relationship? I believe these two issues are conflated in my case.
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posted by tweedle
on Mar 6, 2011 -
8 answers
What kind of therapy or self-help can I do to stop picturing all sex taking place in a room where I was abused?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 26, 2011 -
7 answers
Being bisexual in a relationship... How do you deal with being attracted to the other sex? How do you know you're supposed to be with the sex you're with?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 12, 2011 -
15 answers
I consider myself straight, but am interested in having sex with a girl just to see what it's like. I am under the impression that lesbians are not big fans of people like me.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 7, 2011 -
21 answers
I'm wondering if there exists a published timeline that explains all the psychological changes before, during, and after puberty in regards to sexual fantasies.
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posted by antgly
on Jan 28, 2011 -
5 answers
I have some friends who have had blocks in realizing their sexualities and I'm wondering what the cause of it is. I can't seem to find much information on this topic anywhere else.
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posted by antgly
on Jan 7, 2011 -
20 answers
How do I reconcile my interests and passions with creativity and human sexuality, in the face of death, grief, and tragedy? Are there any thoughtful heartfelt resources from those who have talked about the two?
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posted by divabat
on Jan 3, 2011 -
10 answers
AskMeFi is always a place you can count on getting good info and help from the community. Is there a site where you can get the same quality of answers and thoughts in regard to sex?
Been looking and keep finding junk and adolescent user bases.
I'm not so much looking for clinical, more along the lines of an open and *open minded* community dedicated to sex and all things sex related.
A place where I could ask something on the 'fringe' side and get helpful, grown up input.
Thanks
posted by mrflibble
on Jan 1, 2011 -
6 answers
How strong is the correlation between non gender conformity and homosexuality?
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posted by antgly
on Dec 1, 2010 -
32 answers
How can we develop the kind of family where things like race and sexuality and other big topics are discussed in an open, healthy, relaxed way?
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posted by flail
on Nov 29, 2010 -
17 answers
my wife and i are approaching the ten year mark in our relationship, and with that comes a bit of sexual boredom. we have tried many new things, but the problem appears to be more disposition than lack of creativity.
we are not very well off financially, so going down to the local sex therapist is not an option. we are simply looking for some inexpensive/free (books, blogs, etc.) suggestions that may change minds.
can anyone help?
posted by anonymous
on Nov 8, 2010 -
7 answers
Are there any resources available for young LGBT individuals who are not able to live in their current living environment due to being kicked out or are denied entry into the home? Also it would be nice to find out about employment and college resources for us. I'm not a minor - I'm 19 years of age.
posted by antgly
on Nov 1, 2010 -
22 answers
What is getting a PhD really like? Is it worth it? I want to be a researcher in psychology, sexuality, and gender.
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posted by tweedle
on Oct 15, 2010 -
48 answers
Are there any systematic/scientific-method-y ways of learning more about one's sexuality (namely, personal arousal cues/triggers)?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 15, 2010 -
7 answers
About a week ago, I was lying down on my bed not feeling well emotionally - I had been very low feeling and had lots of anxieties and stressful feeling for months.
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posted by antgly
on Sep 27, 2010 -
11 answers
After questioning and coming to terms with my sexuality and yet a lower sex drive due to somewhat not sure causes (though I'm getting tests done out of curiosity), I was invited over for some fun.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 14, 2010 -
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Not really sure how to let this out to my college counselor. In February of this year, I came out to my mom and brother. Things were better than I thought they would turn out to be. A couple of month later, my Dad somehow got the impression that we were all hiding something from him and as such, coerced me to tell him what was going on. I told him. He was somewhat judgmental of me and I completely stopped talking to him about these topics. Ever since that, I've been worried about how my future decisions will affect my relationship with my parents.
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posted by antgly
on Aug 30, 2010 -
53 answers
My hubby's kinky. I'm not. Please help us figure out a fair way to compromise in the bedroom.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 23, 2010 -
46 answers
hey... I was wondering where I can find the best evidence to prove that sexuality is biological or womb hormonally rather than child rearing caused? Just for my parents who are damn annoying.
Thanks!
posted by antgly
on Aug 17, 2010 -
33 answers
I'm 19 years old, a guy. I was wondering what has happened to my sexual attraction. Typically during the college and high school years in the past, I used to be more sexually attracted to different guys (yes I'm gay).
Right now it's summer break and I spend most of my time at home and not really in the presence of different people. Now when I occasionally go out, I don't seem to have the sexual oomph that I've had in the past.
I do have success with my self, but it doesn't seem as strong as before.
What is it a problem with? Is it low sex drive? Is it that I'm going crazy? Is it that I'm not seeing enough people? Is my attraction limited to types of people and is that normal? I think it is.
posted by anonymous
on Jul 26, 2010 -
9 answers
My partner has a wild sexual history and would like to incorporate threesomes into our sex life. I am not comfortable with this idea at all. Do these sort of discrepancies point to some sort of sexual incompatibility? (Many more details insides . . . NSFW.)
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posted by fignewton
on Jun 24, 2010 -
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I'm confused somewhat about my sexuality. It's an issue for me. Likely I'm gay and not straight.
I'm wondering how can I tell apart aesthetic appeal from sexual attraction.
Also, am I in denial to some point, because I'm constantly wondering over whether if I like women or not? That's why I'm wondering about the difference between aesthetic appeal and sexual attraction.
posted by antgly
on Jun 16, 2010 -
49 answers
I'm currently questioning my sexuality.
However I'm not sure who I'm sexually and romantically attracted to.
All of the attraction that I've seemed to have has been to guys, but I'm not sure if it was sexual btw. I'm 19 years old if that helps.
What is the most accurate indicator of sexual orientation / attraction?
I'm not sure if I'm attracted to girls or not, thanks...
posted by antgly
on Jun 9, 2010 -
20 answers
Sexuality seems to be a very fluid and complex matter, and perhaps bisexuality even more so. My question is, when and how did you realize you were bisexual? And on a side note, I'd like to hear some opinions on a unrequited love situation.
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posted by anonymous
on May 24, 2010 -
11 answers
Help me stop obsessing over having an orgasm with my partner (because if I can do THAT, I might actually stand a chance of having one - d'oh! Obsessing again...)
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posted by anonymous
on May 22, 2010 -
14 answers
My brother just came out to me as being gay. I'm gay too. The problem here is that I'm clueless about how to deal with this. Also, I hate to say it, but my overwhelming feeling right now is sorrow.
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posted by Avenger
on May 5, 2010 -
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I'm less bisexual than I thought I was. And now I'm engaged to be married to a wonderful guy who loves me and depends on me, and realizing that I cannot sustain attraction to him for more than fleeting moments every few months. How do I minimize the damage, here?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 30, 2010 -
48 answers
I'm planning a training for elementary and middle school educators on sexuality and gender in education. What do YOU wish your teachers/educators would have known/talked about/done/etc?
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posted by gleea
on Apr 26, 2010 -
23 answers
Some now-former friends have decided to jump into polyamory as a solution to a big mess of relationship crazy. I think this is a terrible, terrible idea, for reasons specific to both the couple and polyamory as a whole. But how do I discuss this with them (and others) without sliding down the slippery slope of defining what other types of relationships are "right" or "wrong"?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 26, 2010 -
50 answers
I know my anxiety to be a liar. I don't know how to shut it up. Please help me get a handle on it before it derails something amazing.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 29, 2010 -
16 answers
I've been with my boyfriend for three years (living together for half that amount of time). This is my first long-term relationship. Previously, my relationships lasted anywhere from 3-6 months. So I don't have a real point of comparison for anything outside of the endorphine-rush phase.
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posted by Blazing Star
on Mar 22, 2010 -
10 answers
My fiance sent a close-up photo of his junk to someone. Judging by the email address, it went to another man. As far as I know, my fiance is straight.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 17, 2010 -
41 answers
Please share with me your best tips for keeping my raging lust in check while I'm getting to know someone I find very attractive.
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posted by velvet winter
on Jan 5, 2010 -
24 answers
I've been told by several people that I kiss "like a high schooler," and that this is a bad thing. I'm a straight male in my mid-20s and relatively a n00b, sexually. What are ways for me to become more mature in my physical intimacy?
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posted by Spock Puppet
on Nov 16, 2009 -
30 answers
My 14-yo son has recently come out to me as gay. Should I share anything about the "experimental" phase of my youth?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 7, 2009 -
74 answers
I need some academically credible synonyms for same-sex erotic activity that are less ambiguous than "gay sex" and less clinical-sounding than "homosexual contact."
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posted by Jon_Evil
on Oct 26, 2009 -
16 answers
I'm 25 years old, male, attracted to women. I have some funny fetishes, and there is something called "autogynephilia",
love of oneself as a woman, that I'm pretty sure applies to me. What kind of woman can I get into a relationship with who would be understanding?
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posted by jikeda
on Sep 18, 2009 -
19 answers
There are gay icons and lesbian icons - are there people who are bisexual/pansexual icons?
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posted by divabat
on Sep 15, 2009 -
47 answers
Which are the words that refer to the genital organs in Swedish? I've been told that Swedish has a "neutral" sexual/anatomic terminology that is neither vulgar, nor childish, nor medical/technical. "They call it like we call a nose a
nose, and a leg a
leg".
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posted by megob
on Sep 13, 2009 -
12 answers
