How do I let my new partner down easy that I may not be able to do all the breath play and choking she might want?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 6, 2013 -
12 answers
Hi all--
I am a female writer with a high sex drive. With most of my moods, I have figured out how to use the energy of anger or sadness or whatever to write something borne from it. But when I'm feeling horny, I really don't know what to do with it, aside from write about sex, and I want to be able to do more than that. This may sound like a silly inquiry, but I'm wondering if other artistic sorts have dealt with it.
posted by anonymous
on Jan 30, 2013 -
12 answers
I am heterosexual. During a party, I was asked by a roommate if I was gay. This is not the first time - I need help navigating my insecurity regarding my sexuality. Details inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 22, 2012 -
52 answers
[heartbreak/confused sexuality filter] Recently admitted my romantic feelings toward a close friend, but have no idea how to pick up the pieces of my actions and move forward. Somewhat messy details within.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 17, 2012 -
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I'm a heterosexual American man in my mid-20s. I have no relationship experience, never had sex, never kissed, never held hands, blah blah blah. I'm not looking for help approaching women, I just need some ideas on how to cope with a life of loneliness.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 16, 2012 -
68 answers
I am trying to come to terms with the fact that I'm kinky, but I feel like my life is over and I wish I could just cut this out of me and get rid of it.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 10, 2012 -
53 answers
Advice and guidance for someone grappling with sexual and emotional orientation? Specific case inside.
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posted by anonymous
on May 19, 2012 -
10 answers
I'm seriously stuck about my feelings for my best friend. How do I distance myself emotionally when the feelings of attachment are so intense that I can no longer concentrate enough on myself?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 12, 2012 -
19 answers
Wondering whether I might have mild androgen insensitivity syndrome and that it may play a role in my sexual orientation. I haven't turned much up on this on Google. Does anyone have any expertise on the subject?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 10, 2012 -
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I am feeling guilty and confused about sexual issues I had with my ex. Please help give me ideas about how I should have handled this, and what I can learn from it (sorry, this is long and a bit convoluted).
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 17, 2012 -
21 answers
Help me figure out what's going on with my sexuality and what it means for my long-time relationship.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 16, 2012 -
32 answers
I need resources for helping a sexually inappropriate adolescent boy learn to respect women. Some of the details are creepy and probably triggering.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 10, 2011 -
76 answers
Women of AskMe, what does pinching a man's ass mean and/or how should one react to such an event?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 12, 2011 -
43 answers
I am a 25 year-old gay(-ish?) male living in New York City. Perhaps uncharacteristically, I have a really strong drive to have kids (of my own) and really want to do so in the next five or ten years. I'm torn about how to get there though, given relationship difficulties that hinge largely on unresolved issues relating to my sexuality. Warning: TL;DR potential, but significant context is necessary.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 25, 2011 -
21 answers
Sex question :) What else is there to experiment with, besides the act itself? Looking for as many ideas as possible.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 8, 2011 -
20 answers
The internet is freaking me out about Yaz and I am looking for more common sense answers to my concerns rather than 'This will medicine will give you blood clots and kill you.'. More specific details inside about me, and my health and my concerns.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 2, 2011 -
15 answers
Am I a lesbian? Bisexual? Or, straight but asexual? Please help. I am, obviously, very confused.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 24, 2011 -
33 answers
I think I'm a lesbian. I'm married. I have no gay friends. My family is Conservative Christian. What do I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 16, 2011 -
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You know how awkward you feel at 12 when you're trying to talk to the cutie in your class? Well, that's me, but at 27, and with women. I'm a woman, and I'm completely lost with how this works. Maybe lost is an understatement. Could you walk me through what you did, if you experienced this?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 28, 2011 -
12 answers
Masturbation when co-habitating hacks: How do you work out "alone time" when you're living with your SO?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 18, 2011 -
42 answers
What kind of therapy or self-help can I do to stop picturing all sex taking place in a room where I was abused?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 26, 2011 -
7 answers
Being bisexual in a relationship... How do you deal with being attracted to the other sex? How do you know you're supposed to be with the sex you're with?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 12, 2011 -
15 answers
I consider myself straight, but am interested in having sex with a girl just to see what it's like. I am under the impression that lesbians are not big fans of people like me.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 7, 2011 -
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my wife and i are approaching the ten year mark in our relationship, and with that comes a bit of sexual boredom. we have tried many new things, but the problem appears to be more disposition than lack of creativity.
we are not very well off financially, so going down to the local sex therapist is not an option. we are simply looking for some inexpensive/free (books, blogs, etc.) suggestions that may change minds.
can anyone help?
posted by anonymous
on Nov 8, 2010 -
7 answers
Are there any systematic/scientific-method-y ways of learning more about one's sexuality (namely, personal arousal cues/triggers)?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 15, 2010 -
7 answers
After questioning and coming to terms with my sexuality and yet a lower sex drive due to somewhat not sure causes (though I'm getting tests done out of curiosity), I was invited over for some fun.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 14, 2010 -
12 answers
My hubby's kinky. I'm not. Please help us figure out a fair way to compromise in the bedroom.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 23, 2010 -
46 answers
I'm 19 years old, a guy. I was wondering what has happened to my sexual attraction. Typically during the college and high school years in the past, I used to be more sexually attracted to different guys (yes I'm gay).
Right now it's summer break and I spend most of my time at home and not really in the presence of different people. Now when I occasionally go out, I don't seem to have the sexual oomph that I've had in the past.
I do have success with my self, but it doesn't seem as strong as before.
What is it a problem with? Is it low sex drive? Is it that I'm going crazy? Is it that I'm not seeing enough people? Is my attraction limited to types of people and is that normal? I think it is.
posted by anonymous
on Jul 26, 2010 -
9 answers
Sexuality seems to be a very fluid and complex matter, and perhaps bisexuality even more so. My question is, when and how did you realize you were bisexual? And on a side note, I'd like to hear some opinions on a unrequited love situation.
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posted by anonymous
on May 24, 2010 -
11 answers
Help me stop obsessing over having an orgasm with my partner (because if I can do THAT, I might actually stand a chance of having one - d'oh! Obsessing again...)
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posted by anonymous
on May 22, 2010 -
14 answers
I'm less bisexual than I thought I was. And now I'm engaged to be married to a wonderful guy who loves me and depends on me, and realizing that I cannot sustain attraction to him for more than fleeting moments every few months. How do I minimize the damage, here?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 30, 2010 -
48 answers
Some now-former friends have decided to jump into polyamory as a solution to a big mess of relationship crazy. I think this is a terrible, terrible idea, for reasons specific to both the couple and polyamory as a whole. But how do I discuss this with them (and others) without sliding down the slippery slope of defining what other types of relationships are "right" or "wrong"?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 26, 2010 -
50 answers
I know my anxiety to be a liar. I don't know how to shut it up. Please help me get a handle on it before it derails something amazing.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 29, 2010 -
16 answers
My fiance sent a close-up photo of his junk to someone. Judging by the email address, it went to another man. As far as I know, my fiance is straight.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 17, 2010 -
41 answers
My 14-yo son has recently come out to me as gay. Should I share anything about the "experimental" phase of my youth?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 7, 2009 -
74 answers
My husband will probably be starting hormones and this may eventually lead to gender reassignment surgery. I fully support him, however it goes. There is a lot of advice out there for how transgendered people should tell their partners or parents, but very little for how supportive partners should tell their families. Any advice? (longer story inside)
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 13, 2009 -
8 answers
I'm a dude; he's a dude. I'm in love with him, and I need to get over him. But I can't. Please help me.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 12, 2009 -
22 answers
