How should I respond to sincere, respeated requests for a blumpy?

Anonymous — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 17:26:26 -0800

NSFW: My boyfriend and I (a woman) have explored many sexual fantasies together - but how should I respond to his desire for a blumpy? It's the only thing he keeps asking for, after six very happy, exploratory years together, but I really don't want to. How can I a) respond humorously to his repeated requests for a head job while shitting, and b) let him know that this is not something I will agree to, regardless of how much we love each other, while c) letting him know he is loved and wanted and that d) I'm happy to explore many, many things, but not this? I'm far from a prude, but it's starting to become a bit of an obsession (more so after he found (recently) it has a name and thus decided that rule 34 is a goal, not commentary, and it's up to us to create it if we can't find it). Thanks, hivemind!

Are incest fantasies common? Are they healthy and acceptable?

Anonymous — Mon, 06 Feb 2006 16:26:38 -0800

Questions about a sexual fantasy that may be disturbing to some people. How common are incest fantasies (and I do stress the fantasies part - they have nothing to do with real life or real people. And no minors in the fantasies.)? Are they considered psychologically healthy fantasies to have? Are there theories as to the roots of such fantasies?

If they are healthy fantasies, will they ever become more socially acceptable, as bdsm and rape fantasies have done? And if anyone who has these fantasies him/herself is willing to speak up, how have you dealt with the shame attached? Are you able to be open about these fantasies to trusted significant others, friends or family?

And if they are not healthy, would simply trying to suppress them and not think about them make them worst or more intense?

I would love to hear people's personal opinions, but any helpful quotes from or links to professional studies and opinions would also be very much appeciated, as google didn't turn up any. Your comments may save me from unbearable shame and constantly beating myself up - I'm getting sick and tired of it and have enough other emotional problems to deal with already. I sincerely thank you for any helpful advice you can give me.

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