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Do I save my father, or save myself? Can/should I do both?

My father was going to use all of the money in our joint savings account on a business. The money was originally intended for me; I just survived a mental health crisis that almost killed me, resigned from my job, broke up with my SO, and am recovering at one of my sister's homes in a new state. So I seized what was left of it And? From what I can extrapolate from a relative, now homeless and too prideful to go get help. I don't know what to do. Snowflakey and complications inside. [more inside]
posted by Ashen on Nov 20, 2016 - 26 answers

How to get a massage when you don't like to be touched?

I would like to begin receiving massages for self care purposes but due to childhood sexual abuse I'm extremely sensitive around physical contact, particularly from strangers. I am located in Brisbane, QLD Australia and wondering if anyone has any insights on local services in the area or even just information and guidance on how to go through this process after experiencing sexual abuse. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 14, 2016 - 26 answers

Springtime for Hitler, but IRL and about sexual abuse

Almost a year ago, there was a very public humiliation for myself and 50+ other people, mostly women, in our medium-sized town. It was sexual in nature. Now someone, unrelated, is literally making a musical comedy about it. Auditions were last week and the playwright is not responding to our very vocal opposition. What's the most effective way to stop, or thwart this? [more inside]
posted by witchen on Jul 2, 2016 - 48 answers

Finally believing it wasn't your fault

If you are a survivor of sexual assault (especially childhood sexual assault) aside from therapy what helped you realize and know for certain that what happened wasn't your fault? How did you get to a point of certainty where all of your being knew you weren't to blame? [more inside]
posted by kanata on Apr 26, 2016 - 26 answers

Managing obsessive thoughts about my mind playing tricks on me

Late at night when I can't sleep, I think about whether my perceptions and memories are accurate. I become quite convinced that I am not a reliable narrator of my own life and it is very distressing. It's like I get trapped in thought loops. Do you have strategies for dealing with this? [more inside]
posted by fair isle sock on Mar 19, 2016 - 11 answers

My sister is dating the best friend of the teacher who abused her

My older sister was sexually abused by a teacher at our high school more than twenty years ago. She acted out a lot sexually as a teenager after that and briefly married a different teacher immediately after graduation. She divorced the second teacher and spent some time dating the first teacher, but then she married someone else and moved across the country. She has recently moved back, and has started dating a man who was, according to another family member, best friends with the first teacher. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 15, 2016 - 26 answers

Sexual abuse recovery chaos

This is me. In the two weeks since writing that post, I've talked to my partner and have had my first session with a therapist who specializes in sexual assault. Right now I feel like I am going crazy. What's going on? [more inside]
posted by fair isle sock on Jan 5, 2016 - 17 answers

Was this sexual abuse or rape? Or what?

Please help me understand something bad that happened to me when I was a child. I hate talking about it but I feel like I need someone's thoughts on this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 23, 2015 - 26 answers

What are some resources about child on child sexual abuse?

What are some resources to help parents deal with child-on-child sexual abuse? Trigger Warning: details of the incident inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 30, 2015 - 6 answers

EMDR and Inpatient treatment

Have you had EMDR or gone for inpatient therapy for PTSD/sexual abuse? Care to tell me about it? [more inside]
posted by kanata on Oct 5, 2014 - 14 answers

The sibling who molested me is getting ordained

I am a woman in my early 30’s. Starting when I was around 8, my older sister (who would have been 11) molested me. We have never talked about this. My parents know but are in denial. In high school, she became interested in religion and became a Christian, which has endured since then, and a few years ago she decided to attend seminary and become a minister. I have thought about all the complexities of this, but I am still not sure how best to proceed, if I proceed at all. I want whatever I do, if I do anything, to be healing (mostly for myself), fair, and considerate of all involved. I’m putting more information inside, and, while I can’t boil this down to a single question, would love any thoughts you have on this issue. I am posting anonymously, but if you’d like me to contact you for any reason, just say so and I will PM you from my real account. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 20, 2014 - 18 answers

How can I get my Mom to stop saying inappropriate things to me?

How can I get my Mom to stop saying inappropriate things to me? My Mom has said on done inappropriate things in front of my my entire life. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 3, 2013 - 31 answers

What was this YA book about sexual abuse?

Help remember the name or author of a book of short stories targeted to children or young adults. The theme of the stories was body autonomy and how to react to sexual abuse. More description inside. [more inside]
posted by agentofselection on Jun 10, 2013 - 2 answers

University Sexual abuse policies

I'm working on researching undergraduate University policies on sexual abuse and hitting a wall. Ideally I'm looking for the highlights and lowlights of Canadian university policies and how they respond to sexual abuse committed by students and/or to students. Is there a school out there that is really getting this right? Does anyone know where things are desperately wrong? I need some reliable sources to draw from, because what I've been finding has mostly been hearsay or dodgy.
posted by Glambie on Apr 30, 2013 - 6 answers

Ugly Family Secret: what to do?

My Dad died in early December, and I've unearthed a nasty secret while cleaning up/out his house. What do I do about this? Importantly, do I tell my Mom, who is also elderly and quite sick? (mom is in a nursing home and has been essentially quadriplegic for about 20 years). There's no real 'right answer' but I'd like people's responses. Details below the cut. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 6, 2013 - 44 answers

Sex Postive Therapist in Chicago?

Can anybody recommend a sex positive relationship therapist in or near Chicago? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 21, 2011 - 1 answer

Can't I just get a pelvic exam over the phone?

Advice needed on: birth control; gynecologists; and confronting the first two as a sexual abuse survivor. Therapist and gyno recommendations in the Seattle area also sought. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 7, 2011 - 28 answers

What do I call this?

Some things happened to me when I was a child and I'm not sure what to call them but I think they were abusive? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 5, 2011 - 20 answers

Help me untrigger myself

How can I learn to untrigger myself? I have post traumatic stress disorder due to being sexually abused by my dad for twelve years. [more inside]
posted by overglow on Jun 1, 2011 - 20 answers

Help a survivor figure out how to get medical care.

How do sexual abuse survivors handle getting long-term medical care? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 19, 2011 - 20 answers

Questions to ask about entering a psychiatric facility

My spouse will soon be voluntarily entering a psychiatric facility in order to deal with some trauma from sexual and physical abuse when they were a child. I have some questions I hope you can help answer. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 31, 2011 - 10 answers

I need to Find A Therapist

I need to find a therapist in San Francisco who treats men who were sexually abused as children. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 25, 2011 - 4 answers

Evidence-based donations

What organizations deserve my money to prevent child abuse and ameliorate the consequences? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 19, 2011 - 9 answers

Am I really a terrible wife?

My husband is on a new psychiatric medication and he is now convinced that he was abused as a child. I am not sure... and it is tearing us apart right now. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 26, 2010 - 27 answers

Should I reschedule my therapist appointment with a therapist of a different modality?

Should I reschedule my therapist appointment with a therapist of a different modality? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 24, 2010 - 17 answers

Tell me about the treatment of abuse in adults.

What are some of the effects of long term child abuse? What methods are used to help adults recovers from the effects of said child abuse? [more inside]
posted by Brandon Blatcher on Oct 28, 2009 - 22 answers

Upcoming trial

How can i get through this when i have nobody to relate to? [more inside]
posted by xopaigexo on Sep 24, 2009 - 19 answers

How do I protect my baby girl?

I'm pregnant. How do I stop my family's cycle of sexual abuse? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 13, 2008 - 55 answers

How could you not believe it?

Why is it that certain people do not believe accusations of childhood sexual abuse? [more inside]
posted by mynameismandab on Aug 12, 2008 - 39 answers

Is my mom's behavior towards my little brother inappropriate?

My mom's quasi-incestuous behavior towards my younger brother seriously squicks me out. Is her behavior actually quasi-inscestuous? And what should I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 14, 2008 - 29 answers

Should I get free and specialized counseling to segue into more general therapy?

I need/want to talk to a counselor or therapist soon about a multitude of things. My insurance doesn't really cover therapy and I have one option for getting free counseling, but it would be somewhat "specialized" and not answer all of my questions. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 29, 2007 - 6 answers

Help me deal with a partner's past abuse.

My girlfriend admitted to me recently that she'd been sexually abused as a child. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 10, 2007 - 20 answers

Childhood rape?

My on-again-off-again girlfriend of ~oneyear confided in me recently that she was raped when she was eleven by a boy approximately 4-5 years her senior. My question has two parts, one concerning my responsibility toward her and the situation I have just learned about, and one concerning my newfound apprehension with regard to her sexual preferences. [much] [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 9, 2006 - 26 answers

How do you deal with an abusive past?

Child abuse - how to cope with it and how can someone get closure and ensure that the culprit never does anything like it ever again? [more inside]
posted by longbaugh on Oct 4, 2006 - 13 answers

How to locate a child molester.

A good friend recently told me about sexual abuse at the hands of a family friend. This man went on to later abuse her sister. She wants to find him (more inside) [more inside]
posted by alltomorrowsparties on Aug 12, 2006 - 4 answers

Perhaps I should become a Buddhist monk and leave the situation.

Wow. My sexuality is really messed up. [more inside]
posted by Jake Apathy on Jun 17, 2006 - 32 answers

My stepfather sexually abused me as a child. It keeps depressing me but my Mom doesn't know and I don't want him arrested. What can I do?

As a kid, at age 16, I was sexually abused. This continued until I was 18, and went to college. The guy is my stepfather, and I still run into him when I visit my mom, but we dont talk about it. I've been having bouts of reoccuring depression, and this is playing a large role. I think it's interfering with my schoolwork, however it comes and goes. When I feel ok, I hardly think about it anymore. I was thinking about using the university's free student counselling, but I dont want this guy arrested, because my mom doesnt know, and I dont want her to. I cant afford therapy that's not free. What should/can I do?
posted by anonymous on Feb 14, 2005 - 29 answers

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