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Would she look prettier if she smiled more?

At a restaurant the other night, I returned from the table to hear my brother-in-law tell my daughter that she should smile because it makes her look prettier. I turned to him, in front of his daughters and my daughter and said, "Uh...what?" [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 29, 2016 - 41 answers

What's reasonable to expect men to understand about women's experiences?

Specifically if a man identifies as feminist, should he then understand why a woman would take stories of sexism against other women personally? An ongoing source of conflict with a man in my life is that we'll discuss something sexist happening in the world and when I want a moment of commiseration about it like "man, that sucks, what a shitty world, I'm sorry" he won't give it and doesn't understand why I take it personally unless it is something that personally happens to me. [more inside]
posted by pocketfullofrye on Mar 23, 2016 - 50 answers

To be young, gifted, and non-white

I'm an introvert working in a newsroom. I'm in a position that manages people, workflow, and the news. The Big Boss started out a Nice Guy but is now The Big Bad. I enjoy the work. I do not enjoy getting treated like shit. How do I keep my sanity? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 17, 2016 - 24 answers

So helpful. So responsible.

How can I stop doing work that my male co-workers are nimbly avoiding doing? Or, alternatively, get credit for it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 2, 2016 - 22 answers

What to do about bosses inappropriate language?

My boss's boss used inappropriate, sexist language in a work setting. I'd like to address this in some way, but I'm not sure how to proceed. [more inside]
posted by too bad you're not me on Feb 26, 2016 - 40 answers

Cognitive Bias Hiding Sexism

I recall reading in Overwhelmed by Brigid Schulte about a study in which participants were asked to evaluate how much men and women talked during a discussion. It demonstrated that while both men and women talked equal amounts during the discussion, evaluators thought women talked more. Am I imagining this, or can someone point me to the study? I would also welcome other research in the same vein - cognitive bias that causes people to not see the effects of privilege.
posted by sibilatorix on Feb 25, 2016 - 14 answers

How can I combat my own internalized sexism?

I'm male and I keep hurting my female partner, mainly (I think) because of cultural conditioning that tells me that my needs are more important than hers. Despite my best efforts and significant progress I seem unable to stop and fully control this, and I need help. [more inside]
posted by PercussivePaul on Feb 22, 2016 - 46 answers

I'm Biased, Now What?

I manage various affinity groups at a large law firm so I am constantly trying to find ideas and research about programming and how to facilitate change. Can anyone point me in the direction of people (authors, speakers, researchers) who are coming up with "crazy", innovative, and/or shocking ways to address bias at work/in society? [more inside]
posted by jasbet07 on Jan 25, 2016 - 6 answers

How to convince him that women are still not equal?

A little while ago I showed my boyfriend, who has sometimes infuriating views about women, this College Humor video about women's hymens. After watching this, he said that the video was sexist towards men. Why am I so angry, and is that a fair assessment? And how to defend feminist positions more cogently than I presently do? [more inside]
posted by starcrust on Dec 13, 2015 - 51 answers

am I sexist for wanting a lady cleaner?

I have employed a cleaner on and off or the last few years, but am now at a stage where I'm deciding to commit to a fortnightly clean as work responsibilities ramp up. The cleaning agency I use has sent me a male cleaner to be my new regular, the first I've ever encountered. I am having a strange reaction that I'm trying to reconcile myself with and need a little help to differentiate the crazies. Details after the jump... [more inside]
posted by starcrust on Sep 16, 2015 - 52 answers

What professions started out female-dominated, were taken over by men?

I'm looking for more examples of professions like programming that started out as "women's jobs" but were later taken over by men, when they realized the work had potential to be prestigious. Mothers cooking for their families vs mostly male pro chefs is another one, though probably harder to place historically. I'm sure there are more examples. Do you know any, with sources if possible?
posted by jklaiho on Sep 11, 2015 - 29 answers

When is it legal to discriminate by sex/gender in job postings?

A mailing list I'm in has received a job posting calling for a male journalist. The justification for the gender is that it's a tv channel for financial news, and the reporters will be reading stuff all day, so they want to have a man and a woman alternate reading stories, and they have already hired the woman. [more inside]
posted by kandinski on Sep 9, 2015 - 11 answers

Replies to sexist remarks for feminist allies

My husband's co-worker is making leering, sexually suggestive remarks to him the attractiveness of their women colleagues. He is at a loss for how to tactfully reply in a way that does not spell professional suicide but also makes it clear that this is not cool. [more inside]
posted by HotToddy on Jul 27, 2015 - 49 answers

Why would somebody behave like this, and how should I have handled it?

Please help me process this incident of horrible male behavior, put it in perspective, and come up with some ways to respond if I am ever unfortunate enough to experience something like this again. The balanced, zen part of me says that jerks like this must be living pretty sad lives*, and are probably more miserable than they try to make other people, but right now, that zen part needs a little support. [more inside]
posted by rpfields on Jun 9, 2015 - 17 answers

Mom being drawn into anti-science/racist conspiracy thought please help

My mom is elderly. She and her husband support my mostly unemployed brother in his 30s. I live far away but talk to her daily. My sibling and his father are into racist, misogynistic ideas and believe the end of the world is coming. They stockpile supplies and make my mom read David Icke (anti-semitism thinly veiled as "reptile aliens" taking over the government) as well as how vaccines and GMOS are poisoning us. I tried to talk to her but she thinks what I say is hard to understand (academic language) so maybe science is hiding something. [more inside]
posted by partly squamous and partly rugose on May 31, 2015 - 11 answers

Where do GamerGaters plan their harassment?

In the next few months we're having a convention. It has the possibility of attracting GamerGate attention. We've talked about the possibility that the panels will be disrupted, but if there's definitely trouble brewing we'd like to know about it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 24, 2015 - 5 answers

Please recommend a book/article by a woman about workplace sexism.

A friend has been given an opening by a leader in a large, conservative organization to help him understand women's experiences of sexism in the workplace. Is there a book or article by a woman talking about her experiences you would recommend? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 27, 2015 - 16 answers

Is this sexist? Should I talk to him about it?

My boss frequently makes comments about the clothes female employees are wearing. I'm wondering if they are considered sexist and if I should talk to him about them. [more inside]
posted by EatMyHat on Mar 20, 2015 - 41 answers

How to handle the anger?

I’ve had a lot of bad experiences with men, from being harassed on the street or in public places, friendship, and dating situations. It makes me incredibly angry. I’ve stopped dating as a result, but that hasn’t stopped the harassment, and it certainly hasn’t gotten rid of the feelings of anger. If you’re a woman who has been in similar situations, how did you handle the anger? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 15, 2015 - 43 answers

No, you really do need to tone it down

I read this recent question which had a lot of stories about women being told they are too "strident", "mean", "demanding", etc. at work. I have gotten feedback like this in the past too so I am wondering, is there some way to tell if it's just sexist bullshit or if you personally really do need to take it down a notch? [more inside]
posted by bleep on Jan 23, 2015 - 21 answers

How do I cope with my offensive roommates?

I'm a woman who is living with two straight cismen who routinely have loud, offensive, misogynistic/racist/queerphobic conversations in the apartment's common areas. I'd like them to stop doing this in shared spaces because it makes me and my guests uncomfortable. I need tips for talking to them. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 27, 2014 - 25 answers

Group projects and sexism

There's one person in my (school) project group who seems to really not respect the ideas and skills of the women in our group. Now what? [more inside]
posted by btfreek on Nov 10, 2014 - 31 answers

# = ♀ ?

How and when did referring to a woman as a "number" become a euphemism?
posted by Heatwole on Oct 23, 2014 - 21 answers

How to discuss possibly sexist behavior

Is there a way to have an open conversation with someone about behavior that may be discriminatory toward women (but could be explained in other ways too) without accusing them or putting them on the defensive? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 10, 2014 - 16 answers

How can I address the sexism in my parents' estate planning endeavors?

How can I address the sexism in my parents' estate planning endeavors without seeming like I'm a money-hungry vulture? My parents were born in the 40s and recently they have been working to set up a revocable trust. They have two children, me and my sister. My sister is unmarried and I have two preschool/elementary-aged daughters myself. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 31, 2014 - 25 answers

"You know who talks about race?! RACISTS."

What's it called when someone accuses someone of pointing out an injustice as perpetrating that injustice by describing it? Is there a name for this rhetorical device? An example would be in Jon Stewart's recent segment about Ferguson where a news anchor was quoted as saying "You know who talks about race?! RACISTS." [more inside]
posted by wrabbit on Aug 30, 2014 - 14 answers

Should I tell the truth or let him down easy?

I'm going to break up with a guy I've been seeing for about a month. Wondering if I should stick to platitudes or tell him the truth, which is that he has some unsavory, borderline misogynistic views. [more inside]
posted by placoderm on Aug 3, 2014 - 44 answers

pressures to be attractive - men vs. women

My husband believes that men are just as pressured to be attractive with the same consequences socially if they aren't attractive. I think the pressures on women are MUCH higher (and much more unattainable), and that the social fallout is much larger if a woman isn't attractive and following the social norms of attractiveness. Who is right? And if I am right, help me explain this to my husband. [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson on Jul 30, 2014 - 65 answers

50 Shades of Street Harassment

My question is primarily about how best to deal with street harassment with the caveat that just ignoring it is not my preferable solution. [more inside]
posted by frizzle on Jul 16, 2014 - 52 answers

Reporting a WA State trucker for making obscene, sexist gestures?

While driving with my young children in the car, the white male driver of a large WA State semi truck suddenly pulled up alongside my car on a WA state road, honked his horn, and made obscene, sexist gestures that simulated cunnilingus, directed at me (I'm a woman). Right in front of my kids. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 27, 2014 - 24 answers

Colleagues make sexist comments out of female earshot. What do I do?

I am a feminist, and many (not all) of my colleagues routinely make sexist comments. They know I am not okay with this, and instead of holding back, they now often do it even more blatantly, partly to get a rise out of me. I'm something of a beginner feminist so I don't know what to do. Tips please? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 17, 2014 - 33 answers

Feminist basics for dads?

I'd like to get some recommendations on the basics of feminism, especially as it might relate to things a dad can do to help his daughters prepare for and deal with sexism in society and also do his part in understanding the world and making it a better place for women (and by extension all people). [more inside]
posted by Reverend John on Dec 21, 2013 - 34 answers

How to best deal with a despised close friend of my SO?

For reasons that I find entirely justifiable, I despise one of my significant other's closest friends. Until recently, we have gotten along, and although he treats his girlfriend terribly and frequently complains about their relationship to my SO and me, I thought he was just unhappy in his relationship, and dismissed it. Recent events have brought to light that, not only does he dislike me deep down, it appears he genuinely thinks of women in general as nothing more than inconsequential beasts with breasts that somehow continue to exists despite their obvious stupidity and inability to do anything of value. Obviously this revelation makes me a little uncomfortable with the idea of he and my SO cavorting about together without me being around to deter the "I hate women" diatribe. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by Quincy on Dec 19, 2013 - 32 answers

After decades of it, I think I've had my fill. Too bad for me, eh?

How do I learn to better cope with the cumulative effects of sexual harassment? I feel like at some point I used to know how to keep it from getting under my skin, but not so much anymore. I sense a deep resentment building in my core, and I need your guidance/coping skills, please. [more inside]
posted by heyho on Nov 4, 2013 - 36 answers

I came here to learn about the body, not your sexism and politics

I have a professor who constantly makes sexist comments and drops right-wing political commentary into a class where it's totally irrelevant, and I'm not the only one in class who notices. I am documenting instances of these behaviors to report to school higher-ups. What's the best way to frame my complaints, make sure they're seen by the right person, and maybe get some classmates on board with me? Examples and snowflakes below. [more inside]
posted by ActionPopulated on Aug 7, 2013 - 46 answers

Anyone else have a sexist mom?

Looking for recommended feminist reading as well as personal anecdotes towards helpful dialogue with Mom, and to examine and deal with the crazy, effed up, sexist ideas with which I was raised and may have accepted as normal and true. [more inside]
posted by little_dog_laughing on Jun 27, 2013 - 32 answers

Watered Down Sexism?

Ordered one drink, received - what I consider - a more 'feminine' version of said drink. Something to complain further about? [more inside]
posted by Suffocating Kitty on Jun 6, 2013 - 56 answers

Help me come up with a sassy quip in response to people's sexism.

I work in a small shop in a male dominated trade. I am 26 but read younger (by up to 10 years if you have a weird idea of how teenagers look) small, blonde, and need to dress casually (jeans and a tshirt and sneakers) due to the nature of my work. Customer's ask me on a near-daily basis if I'm my boss's daughter. I hate this, I feel it undermines my value as an employee who has worked hard to be in the position I'm in. I'd like to think of a response that makes them feel like a ninny for one second, without offending customers. [more inside]
posted by euphoria066 on May 17, 2013 - 47 answers

How did women come to be regarded as inferior in society?

Why/how did this idea actually start? [more inside]
posted by metacognition on Apr 23, 2013 - 29 answers

Help! I'm living in a "Family Guy" episode.

My boyfriend of a little more than a year is a totally. great. guy. With one exception: he thinks that being funny means saying whatever overtly racist, homophobic or sexist joke he can think of as a response to many situations. I always stop and tell him it's not cool, then he says, "what? I'm just kidding." Now, I worry he might actually be pretty sexist. What to do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 26, 2013 - 181 answers

I want some male comedian bits... on gender

Dave Chappelle. Chris Rock. Louis C.K. Some of the funniest male comics are the least funny when it comes to gender -- incisive humor suddenly deteriorates into sexist tropes and gender war cliches. Are there any male stand-up comedians who have interesting routines about women?
posted by spamandkimchi on Mar 9, 2013 - 8 answers

How to stage a Privilege Intervention

I have a friend who has a long history of saying hurtful things based on stereotypes to his friends. I want to gather his friends and stage an intervention. How to go about this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 18, 2013 - 21 answers

Give me ammo for the next sexist conversation

I work with a group of colleagues that I get along well with, mainly male. However, certain subjects come up, my Sexism Klaxon starts going off... but any comments I make always get batted down with "chill out we're only joking" or something similar. Can you give me tips to not always come out of these conversations either seething with frustration or feeling like the Grand Ruiner Of Conversations? [more inside]
posted by greenish on Jan 25, 2013 - 89 answers

How to properly cope with the discrimination and bullying in many of my classes?

Conflicted upon how to deal with bullying and discrimination (of various kinds) I am experiencing in my classes this semester. [more inside]
posted by pixienat on Nov 22, 2012 - 17 answers

Does it, actually, make it easier to dust?

What advice used to be commonly accepted, but is now widely viewed as sexist? [more inside]
posted by karminai on Nov 14, 2012 - 57 answers

Tooth Fairytale

How can a male (myself) defray the risk involved in entering a career (dental assistant) dominated by the opposite sex? [more inside]
posted by gorgor_balabala on Nov 12, 2012 - 10 answers

Wait, I'll take the blue pill!

Within the last year, I've come to consider myself a feminist. I haven't felt this impassioned by anything in a long time. But my new perspective doesn't mesh well with coworkers and friends, and I'm constantly aware of things that never used to bother me. How can I cope with the frustration? [more inside]
posted by ista on Oct 30, 2012 - 30 answers

Other stories that could tie in to Pussy Riot

Contemporary Russian punk, protest, artistic, and musical climates in re: Pussy Riot detainment. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe on Aug 4, 2012 - 3 answers

How do I respond when people insult themselves while complimenting me?

How do I respond when people insult themselves while complimenting me? Especially, when those insults are race related. [more inside]
posted by DorothySmith on Jun 27, 2012 - 52 answers

How 'bout I pay for your wedding if you sucker your friends into giving me money?

My father asked me to use my social networks to get my friends to use his business. When I balked, he tried telling me that if I did, he'd pay for my wedding with the money. Am I right to be offended? And what do I do? [more inside]
posted by corb on Jun 19, 2012 - 31 answers

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