I work in a small shop in a male dominated trade. I am 26 but read younger (by up to 10 years if you have a weird idea of how teenagers look) small, blonde, and need to dress casually (jeans and a tshirt and sneakers) due to the nature of my work. Customer's ask me on a near-daily basis if I'm my boss's daughter. I hate this, I feel it undermines my value as an employee who has worked hard to be in the position I'm in. I'd like to think of a response that makes them feel like a ninny for one second, without offending customers.
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posted by euphoria066
on May 17, 2013 -
47 answers
My boyfriend of a little more than a year is a totally. great. guy. With one exception: he thinks that being funny means saying whatever overtly racist, homophobic or sexist joke he can think of as a response to many situations. I always stop and tell him it's not cool, then he says, "what? I'm just kidding." Now, I worry he might actually be pretty sexist. What to do?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 26, 2013 -
181 answers
Dave Chappelle.
Chris Rock.
Louis C.K. Some of the funniest male comics are the least funny when it comes to gender -- incisive humor suddenly deteriorates into sexist tropes and gender war cliches. Are there any male stand-up comedians who have interesting routines about women?
posted by spamandkimchi
on Mar 9, 2013 -
8 answers
I have a friend who has a long history of saying hurtful things based on stereotypes to his friends. I want to gather his friends and stage an intervention. How to go about this?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 18, 2013 -
21 answers
I work with a group of colleagues that I get along well with, mainly male. However, certain subjects come up, my Sexism Klaxon starts going off... but any comments I make always get batted down with "chill out we're only joking" or something similar. Can you give me tips to not always come out of these conversations either seething with frustration or feeling like the Grand Ruiner Of Conversations?
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posted by greenish
on Jan 25, 2013 -
89 answers
Conflicted upon how to deal with bullying and discrimination (of various kinds) I am experiencing in my classes this semester.
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posted by pixienat
on Nov 22, 2012 -
17 answers
How can a male (myself) defray the risk involved in entering a career (dental assistant) dominated by the opposite sex?
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posted by gorgor_balabala
on Nov 12, 2012 -
10 answers
Within the last year, I've come to consider myself a feminist. I haven't felt this impassioned by anything in a long time. But my new perspective doesn't mesh well with coworkers and friends, and I'm constantly aware of things that never used to bother me. How can I cope with the frustration?
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posted by ista
on Oct 30, 2012 -
30 answers
Contemporary Russian punk, protest, artistic, and musical climates in re: Pussy Riot detainment.
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posted by mermaidcafe
on Aug 4, 2012 -
3 answers
How do I respond when people insult themselves while complimenting me? Especially, when those insults are race related.
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posted by DorothySmith
on Jun 27, 2012 -
52 answers
My father asked me to use my social networks to get my friends to use his business. When I balked, he tried telling me that if I did, he'd pay for my wedding with the money. Am I right to be offended? And what do I do?
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posted by corb
on Jun 19, 2012 -
31 answers
I recently read an article that contained a quote from someone in the movie industry about how it isn't currently worthwhile, or a priority, to make movies for a female audience/from a female perspective/ something along those lines. I have tried to find the associated article, but searching "movie industry women sexism" isn't very successful. I think I
may have read the article at Jezebel. I may have even found it here. But I totally can't find it now. Help!
posted by windykites
on Jun 10, 2012 -
4 answers
My daughter has repeatedly brought home books from the school library that I have a problem with. I'm a feminist and I'm anti-censorship. I'm lost.
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posted by taff
on Jun 6, 2012 -
146 answers
Feminism 101: I had a visceral reaction to a link a friend of mine posted and I was too enraged to clearly address his ignorance.
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posted by MaryDellamorte
on Apr 23, 2012 -
53 answers
Please recommend regularly-updated webcomics that are largely about the experience of a minority group.
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posted by painquale
on Mar 7, 2012 -
5 answers
This political campaign season has brought it to my attention that sexism is alive and well in America. Instead of sitting around with my blood boiling, what can I
do?
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posted by ootandaboot
on Mar 1, 2012 -
16 answers
I need a tactful but clear way to correct stereotype-based assumptions about my abilities.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 18, 2012 -
39 answers
Are the Walking Dead comics as sexist as the show? I love post-apocalyptic literature. I hate sexism.
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posted by Mavri
on Nov 20, 2011 -
32 answers
Bookfilter: looking for fantasy novels without the entrenched sexism. An impossible task? There are plenty of fantasy stories in which the woman proves herself equal to the men, but that's not what I'm looking for. I want a setting in which that proof simply isn't necessary.
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posted by marginaliana
on Oct 18, 2011 -
79 answers
How do you confront sexism constructively? Without damaging friendships, relationships with coworkers, or coming off patronizing?
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posted by whoaali
on Aug 20, 2011 -
25 answers
Occasionally, my boyfriend makes remarks about womankind that I find sexist and hurtful. Last night, I called him out on such a remark. Was I overreacting? How should I handle this the next time it happens?
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posted by anonymous
on May 31, 2011 -
100 answers
This afternoon, a girl at work confided in me that a male colleague of ours has been making her feel uncomfortable. I want to help her, but I find myself questioning my own motives. I don't want to be one of "those" guys...
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 17, 2011 -
36 answers
I am looking for articles that address the backlash against feminism in the age of the internet.
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posted by windbox
on Apr 3, 2011 -
11 answers
One of the other graduate students in my lab occasionally makes comments that I feel are sexist - just barely so, but sexist nonetheless. How do I deal with this?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 26, 2011 -
63 answers
It's kind of uncomfortable at times, being a female professional in a male-dominated work environment where most of the female employees are on the other side of the business-coin as support staff (less education and pay). Was yesterday's incident somewhat sexist or am I being an educational elitist?
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posted by lizbunny
on Dec 15, 2010 -
69 answers
YANAL: What is the legality of not allowing a man to carry a bag into a South Dakota movie theater?
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posted by 47triple2
on Nov 28, 2010 -
30 answers
Seeing a guy who's a little socially awkward. He hasn't initiated any physical affection, and tonight he revealed that he said something disparaging about me to a mutual friend. How to proceed?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 8, 2010 -
37 answers
Any thoughts on how to politely ask people not to say sexist things around my child and/or deflect those statements?
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posted by miss tea
on Jul 23, 2010 -
44 answers
Is it acceptable and PC to refer to grown-up women as girls in this context? Does it say something about the person who does it?
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posted by sively
on Apr 28, 2010 -
87 answers
Am I lunching with the new office creep? Or am I just letting my dislike get in the way.
Either way how do I extricate myself from this situation?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 15, 2010 -
19 answers
People at work, including my boss, are always raving about how organized I am. Normally, this would be a compliment, but lately I wonder if I'm not being underestimated. How can I get my boss to take me more seriously?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 26, 2010 -
21 answers
I have come to realize that I have a hard time empathizing with men, and it’s making it very hard to even begin to look for a satisfying male relationship, romantic or otherwise.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 10, 2009 -
30 answers
I'm looking for a print advertisement for Clinique Happy perfume from the (I think) late 90s. It features a beefy football player and an extraordinarily thin woman holding a cake. Can you direct me to a copy?
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posted by binocularfight
on Sep 8, 2009 -
8 answers
My uncle recently mentioned to me that he's never read any book written by a woman. Apparently this is because he doesn't think they'll be any good - he seems to think women can only write romance novels. I find this both horrific and hard to believe, but he seemed serious. So, Hive Mind, I need your help in drafting a list of the very best books written by female authors. Help me teach him the error of his ways!
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posted by badmoonrising
on Jul 29, 2009 -
92 answers
The use of the word "man" as a stand-in for humanity, in academic writing -- what's the final verdict?
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posted by creasy boy
on Mar 16, 2009 -
38 answers
