My sex life is in the toilet ever since my husband had his ileostomy. Please help. [more inside]
I need the hive wisdom on this. My GF and I have stupendous, earth-shattering sex. I'm 58, she's 59. Really. We're both very open, intuitive, and energetic. I take @ 10mg of Levitra (generic) an hour before hand, and it works well. When we start out, we often partake in a modest amount of cannabis, and then I focus on her. I usually have a solid erection before we start, but once I start my ministrations, it lessens, and by the time she is ready for "it", it's usually deflated. [more inside]
Looking to spice things up in the bedroom through a five senses game. A card with each sense for him/her on it is mixed and then we have an enticing way to deal with that sense. Any suggestions? [more inside]
Write the numbers 1 to 20 on a set of cards, one per card but two cards of each number, put them on the foreheads of a group of twenty men and twenty women, and give them a couple minutes to try to pair up with the person of the opposite sex with the highest-ranked card: they will always end up with someone close to their own rank. Who originally thought of this? [more inside]
I'm curious about varying up my solo sex life as a male, probably with toys. [more inside]
Incident report of a young woman and much older upper-middle class man. [more inside]
How can I (lady) have enjoyable sex? [more inside]
Sex-filter: What the hell did we do to my vagina/uterus/entire abdominal cavity? [more inside]
After seeing this comment, I would like to ask: How do you say "no" to someone you do kinda want to have sex with?
If I have a sulfa allergy and my bf is taking a sulfa antibiotic, could having sex with him have caused these super weird rashes I've gotten? [more inside]
My 15-yo daughter has been dating a guy for about a year, has recently become sexually active with him, and we're moving toward getting her on hormonal birth control. The fact that she even came to me to talk about this is a minor miracle. How can I encourage a sex-positive attitude? What boundaries and limits, if any, should I establish? [more inside]
I am a female who would love to love giving head. However, a couple of key things keep this from happening. [more inside]
What are the best exercises to help you thrust/pound harder and sustain your weight with your arms for longer.
I've been out of the dating arena for a long time (years), and I'm just now starting to go on dates and stuff. So far nothing has happened, but it's starting to get to the point where it might. If I make out with a girl, could I get an STD? I'm not sure whether it's "very possible," "unlikely, but not impossible," or what. Most of the safer sex info is kind of vague, which I find even more alarming.
Is there any biological evidence for the assertion that female sexuality is more fluid than male sexuality? Or is this imbalance more likely due to cultural factors? [more inside]
How do I get rid of feelings of worthlessness, anxiety, and distance in my relationship that seem to occur when I'm not having sex? [more inside]
1. I want to deck out the hotel room. We're staying at a Denver Marriott for the wedding night before flying out. I want roses, candles etc... all nice and romantic. Will the marriott put out candles, rose petals, roses and chocolate strawberries for me? I'll be coming from faraway in the mountains, so if they could do it for me that would be awesome. 2. We're doing gift exchange between eachother. Any ideas what I should get my bride?
I want to be a healthy, fit person, and I want my partner to want that, too. What's the selling point? How can I convince my SO to make this change with me and notice how our generally very sedentary life is sucking the life out of our relationship? Help! [more inside]
Do Catholic couples have sex when the woman in the relationship is pregnant? [more inside]
He was my first everything, and I can't get over him even months later. [more inside]
I'm staying in an AirBnb room rental for the first time in a few weeks with my SO. The rental is just a room in someone's house, where there are roommates who will be there for the weekend. Is it considered rude to have sex with my SO in the room? [more inside]
I dated a girl for 9 years, and we broke up last year. I now have a new girlfriend and we are both very much in love. However, my libido has all but disappeared and we are unable to have sex without great difficulty. I need advice on why this has happened and how I can address it. Thank you. [more inside]
One of my kinks is being watched by strangers online. How can I make sure this is safe? [more inside]
How would a person who believed they were a sex god/goddess act? [more inside]
After many years of monogamy followed by several years of celibacy (continually enforced by the fact that, out of raw fiscal necessity, I will continue to share a house and mortgage with my ex for the indefinite future), a chance encounter has left me with the opportunity to enjoy one (or, fingers crossed, more than one!) casual hookup(s) with a breathtakingly attractive near-stranger. Can you walk me through this process -- safety, guidelines, what to do/not do or say, etc. -- like a complete newbie? [more inside]
My husband is sleep-copping, and it's waking me up. Help us fix it! [more inside]
My new partner's dirty talk seems ripped from porn. How do I handle this? [more inside]
Looking for some new male + female sex positions! [more inside]
Resources, books, tips, anecdotes for a man dealing with a wife that doesn't seem to have an inherent sex drive? [more inside]
I'll try to keep this as short and as informative as I can. I posted on here a little while ago about some sexual problems I've been having, mainly being about struggling to get and/or maintain an erection. Unfortunately instead of getting better things have only gotten worse. [more inside]
My older brother (in his 50s) posted something on FB regarding the Steubenville rape case, which was: [more inside]
Simply put, if one goes shopping for such things in traditional shops, it's shocking the markup %. Does the hive have any recommendations for sites with broad variety and competitive pricing?
I'm a lady and my boyfriend's penis keeps popping out during sex. How can we stop this? [more inside]
Most recent relationship did a number on my self-confidence. Help me figure out how to regain what was lost. Details inside. [more inside]
I have condom induced erectile dysfunction. I would love suggestions on condom brands or other solutions for this not to be a problem. [more inside]
How to deal with intense anxiety from stupid and risky sexual decisions in the (pretty) distant past? [more inside]
I slept with a person I have to deal with in an educational setting now and in the future - how to proceed when that kind of relationship ends up getting sexual by accident? [more inside]
Am I leading someone on if he sleeps in my bed but not with me? [more inside]
I'll try to keep this short and thorough. I'm a 25 year old male, I've been dating my girlfriend for 3 months, and I'm still a virgin. I've never had a ton of sexual experiences in my past (oral), but this one has me a little confused and stressed out. About 4 days ago I was with my girlfriend and we were giving each other oral, (we haven't had vaginal sex yet) I always go down on her first and then she does down on me. Now normally I get incredibly turned on, very easily, and with anything from hugging and cuddling, to kissing and foreplay. It always gives me a very full and hard erection, and in the past I've never had any problem at all about having an orgasm. However on this night while my girlfriend was going down on me, right in the middle I suddenly became soft and completely lost my erection. This has never happened to me before, and in the last 4 days, everything that normally turns me on and gives me that full erection, has barely even given me a "chubby" so to speak. I'm finding it very hard to get turned on, and its making both my girlfriend and I quite upset. [more inside]
Seeking insurance broker recommendations for a new family in NYC. Co-op, Auto, and now with progeny, Life. Obviously want a person/office that we can trust, and will look out for our interests in the long haul. We live in Queens, and work in Manhattan. Bonus question: are any brokers fee-based, or do all work on commission-type arrangements?
I am looking for a certain type of vibrator. [more inside]
My husband is suffering the sexual doldrums of early middle age. Unfortunately, it's a catch-22: you have to be motivated to seek help...but when your sex drive is that low, you really don't care. How can I help him even want to have sex again? [more inside]
I have some sexual limits or preferences that I've been told are pretty weird. Both male and female friends have told me that they are really weird (I am female). But it's just the way I am and it's not going to change. I have been having dating problems because of it. I need some advice on the best way to tell men about my limits, and the best way to find that rare person who would be fine with them. [more inside]
Early-30s straight guy here. Shy with women, by no means a social butterfly (social moth?), so have little sexual experience - I lost my virginity relatively late and have only had a handful of very brief relationships and one-night stands since. I'd like to have some casual sex as a way of gaining confidence and learning the ropes (oh, and for fun), but haven't had any success finding it so far. Ideas? [more inside]
I'm kinky, but only sometimes. He's kinky, all the time, and more so than me. He also displays a focus on certain specific sex acts that I find worrying and is interfering with our sex life - not the things we do, but the things it seems he has to do to come or be happy. How do we deal with this? What do these desires of his mean? And if I'm not into the things he has to do, does it mean he's not into me? (Insecurities abound) [more inside]
I've slept with a lot of guys and only enjoyed it with like 10% of them. Are my standards too high, or too low, or what? [more inside]
My question is disgusting and primarily about my butt. Details below. [more inside]
How do I persuade my long-term partner to do what I need about half the time? He is not, I repeat not, a good American progressive who's been through therapy. He loves me and wants to satisfy me, but is not a willing participant in the "hey, let's have an open discussion" approach. What are some alternative tactics? [more inside]
Roomies' religious convictions are colliding with my lifestyle. They're saying no sex in the house, period. They want overnight guests to sleep in a separate room. I really need the house. How do I manage this? [more inside]