I've always been a rather aggressive lover, but it wasn't until I met my most recent girlfriend (who is a submissive) that I fully understood my sexuality. I enjoy BDSM, and I don't intend to stop enjoying that experience simply because my girlfriend broke up with me. (Snowflake details below, possibly NSFW.)
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 13, 2012 -
28 answers
I can't trust my girlfriend. I haven't been able to trust past girlfriends. Help? (snowflake details ahead)
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 11, 2012 -
27 answers
Dear MetaFilter: I need advice on serodiscordant dating. (That is, when a HIV- guy starts seeing a HIV+ guy.)
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 5, 2012 -
10 answers
I've achieved the absolutely perfect FWB situation. Absolutely perfect aside from the fact that I can't stand him.
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posted by ad4pt
on Jun 4, 2012 -
32 answers
I'm in my mid to late 20's, and am about to have sex for the first time in nearly a decade. And could use some advice.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 3, 2012 -
32 answers
I love my wife, and I'm attracted to my wife, but I don't think about having sex with her anymore, and we haven't had sex for over a year. We've had lots of problems, and we've worked through many of them, but this one is the toughest for us. Is it possible to rekindle our sex life after so much time? Has anyone been able to do that? If so, how? Throw away address: emailzzzzzzzzzz@gmail.com
posted by anonymous
on Jun 1, 2012 -
14 answers
Not too long ago, I was hanging out with a very good friend's wife. I have been friend's with him for almost ten years now and have known and been friends with his wife for half that time.
She confided in me something very disturbing about their marriage - that they hadn't had sex in a few years (about the same amount of time as their marriage) and it feels more like a room-mate situation. I am going to keep the details to a minimum but I'm sure you can extrapolate.
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posted by anonymous
on May 28, 2012 -
30 answers
The quick and dirty: I'm seeing a guy. We slept on the first date, he brought up dating exclusively and we were both in earnest, mutual agreement that neither of us were looking for a FWB type of deal. Caveat: He's moving at the end of the summer. How best to proceed? Details behind the cut to fill in the blanks...
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posted by chloe.gelsomino
on May 24, 2012 -
22 answers
My wife of 14 years never tells me she loves me. She never initiates sex. She never holds my hand, kisses or casually touches me. No pillow talk. No thoughtful little gifts. I do all of these things for her as often as I can.
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posted by anonymous
on May 22, 2012 -
43 answers
Four years ago I married a great guy. We've been together a total of eight years. Sometime around when we got married...maybe a little before, I stopped wanting sex with him. I dreaded it on our wedding night/honeymoon. At first I thought it was just a phase, something to do with wedding planning burnout and general nerves. Four years later, it's even worse than it was. Otherwise, we have a good relationship, I think. We have everything in common, a shared worldview, good communication. Because of the sexual issue, we have talked numerous times about separating. I guess what I can't figure out is, why this has happened, and if our entire relationship is worth ending over it.
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posted by anonymous
on May 20, 2012 -
80 answers
Testosterone supplementation for women - looking for research or information to share with my doctor.
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posted by anonymous
on May 17, 2012 -
5 answers
Emotional cheating vs. Real Life cheating (with prostitutes!) or how to handle hormones...
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posted by anonymous
on May 16, 2012 -
71 answers
looking for some NSA encounter while travelling, willing but clueless: help me do this casual hookup thing?
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posted by anonymous
on May 13, 2012 -
19 answers
On Friday I got a call from my primary care physician saying that my HCV AB EIA QL (Hepatitis C) test result came back reactive. The same test in August 2011 was nonreactive. I am waiting for the referral to the GI department to be processed so I can find out what happens next. In the meantime I'm freaking out.
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posted by thrasher
on May 9, 2012 -
15 answers
I love the whole process of sex, but as soon as I'm getting ready to orgasm, my ladyparts explode into pain and burning and it makes me super sad.
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posted by iLoveTheRain
on May 6, 2012 -
25 answers
Last fall, I
asked you guys for some help with my OkCupid profile. Your advice worked really well for me! I've changed a fair bit since then and now that I'm getting back into dating full-time I'm going back for round 2 with the hive mind.
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posted by modernserf
on May 2, 2012 -
18 answers
So our teenage daughter slept with her married teacher. Not as much of a disaster as usual with her, but advice would be appreciated.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 30, 2012 -
79 answers
I've looked at every question here dealing with the Nuvaring, and read all the patient information, and yet still I don't know: What does it feel like during sex?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 27, 2012 -
23 answers
I want to have more sex, but I don't want to get hung up about it. How do I stop obsessing about (not) getting any?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 25, 2012 -
17 answers
Inspired by
this comment, I am on a search for read-aloud friendly erotica. (specific stories or authors) Suggestions, metafilter? I'd prefer something that is on the internet, but books are ok too.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 15, 2012 -
5 answers
Footwear vs fashion vs kink: organic/edible shoe polishes and treatments, or home-made alternatives?
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posted by rokusan
on Apr 11, 2012 -
6 answers
Do healthy, happy couples ever have periods where one or the other feels the ennui of "I love you, but I'm not
in love with you?" If so, how do they resolve it? How do they decide if it's worth resolving?
posted by Caligula's Idiot Cousin
on Apr 10, 2012 -
12 answers
I'm super attracted to him. My ladybusiness apparently isn't. (AROOGA AROOGA TMI NSFW alert)
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posted by dekathelon
on Apr 7, 2012 -
70 answers
Is it normal for a woman to begin feeling invisible in her thirties? Please excuse the fact that this question might come off as totally narcissistic and a little crazy but it's been something that has been on my mind a lot lately and I was hoping to get some perspective on the situation.
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posted by thelastgirl
on Apr 4, 2012 -
48 answers
Help me remember the
NYTimes (?) article I read about the relationship between gender ratios and sexual dynamics on college campuses!
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posted by UniversityNomad
on Mar 31, 2012 -
11 answers
Girlfriend's sexual fantasy: Rough sex while listening to dirty hip-hop. Song suggestions??
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posted by fso
on Mar 23, 2012 -
51 answers
My wife was sexually assaulted over a decade ago, before we met, resulting in an unhealthy sexual situation over teh past few years. Our therapist has suggested that we watch some adult videos together to try to re-expose her to sexual situations in a safe and positive manner, but I need some help choosing, based on the following requirements...
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 20, 2012 -
16 answers
Starting to see someone. Yay! Just burned the crap out of my body. Help! (Gross details inside.)
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 13, 2012 -
28 answers
Paging Dr. Freud! Why did this happen? I called out my father's name instead of my husband's in bed.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 11, 2012 -
17 answers
Birth control pills + diarrhea: does it reduce the pill's efficacy, and if so, when can we start having sex without a condom again?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 9, 2012 -
11 answers
I get really nervous during (attempted) sex with new people. I feel like a nervous teenager. Help me get out of my own damn head!
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 8, 2012 -
16 answers
Sex workers in Osaka. 5,6 years ago, a friend took me thru a small, singular neighborhood in Osaka, Japan. Rumored to be controlled by Yakuza, it was an area for sex. The ground floor of the buildings were open to the street, and the 'girl' was sitting, almost enthroned, on a chair or platform surrounded by flowers and cushions. I guess the protocol was to 'shop' the street, and enter the one that appealed to you. We did not tarry, despite my fascination, because my Japanese friend was female, w/ her hair tucked up, and she felt a need to keep moving. She had explained that the city wanted to raze the area as some kind of urban renewal. I wanted to get some Japanese friends to talk to some locals, and find a way to document this unique place, but that never happened. Does anyone know of this? And what eventually happened?
posted by ebesan
on Mar 6, 2012 -
15 answers
Late-twenties female in need of new strategies for handling intimate encounters and avoiding disassociation during sex and shame afterwards.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 5, 2012 -
35 answers
I've lost interest in sex with my boyfriend, and find things increasingly uncomfortable in that department. What should I do?! I'm a 28 year old female, and have been in a long term committed relationship with my current boyfriend for about 3 years now. I'd been a virgin up until about 2 and ½ years ago. My upbringing was uneventful, and I've never had any traumatic experiences that I can recall involving sexuality, however I have always felt embarrassed about sex related things, which is why before my current boyfriend I always just made out with whoever I felt like.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 28, 2012 -
15 answers
