I know the basics, but how can I find out more detail about my personal STI risk so that I can make informed decisions?
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posted by Cogito
on Feb 3, 2013 -
9 answers
I am worried a recent decision I made caused psychological damage to my libido. What are my options for recovery (if needed)?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 3, 2013 -
17 answers
"Men want sex" and "women want romance" -- so the stereotypes go.
To what extent does the average woman believe (or not believe) in these stereotypes? Does anyone know if there is research on this? I've been searching for hours, but haven't turned up anything yet.
posted by tybeet
on Jan 31, 2013 -
11 answers
Hi all--
I am a female writer with a high sex drive. With most of my moods, I have figured out how to use the energy of anger or sadness or whatever to write something borne from it. But when I'm feeling horny, I really don't know what to do with it, aside from write about sex, and I want to be able to do more than that. This may sound like a silly inquiry, but I'm wondering if other artistic sorts have dealt with it.
posted by anonymous
on Jan 30, 2013 -
12 answers
I am starting a casual relationship/FWB situation. Previously, I'd only had sex in a relationship or a one night stand. What should I be thinking about ahead of time? What are some guidelines/general expectations that you've used in this situation?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 27, 2013 -
7 answers
I have a friend who insists on a certain way of understanding how men and women couple off. Basically, he sees the situation as rather animalistic, where all the women are essentially waiting to be asked out, and the first men to do so get the "choicest" women. The rest of the women are left for, well, the rest of the men. Obviously, this is pretty traditional/sexist/chauvinistic. Anyway, barring all that, he feels a constant urgency to get to women "before somebody else does," because "the best women will be taken." Of course, I understand asking someone out before someone else does, but his theory is off-putting to me.
It seems like human personalities, reasoning, circumstances, geographies, and cultures throw a monkey-wrench into his theory. Things are a lot more complicated in my mind. Do you have an alternative way of seeing the dating world, have a different experience, or are there any studies that you could point me to on this subject?
posted by uncannyslacks
on Jan 23, 2013 -
38 answers
So, a few years ago I bought a set of cock rings, and I seem to have lost two of them! Can you help me find me a similar set?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 23, 2013 -
5 answers
Very excited about a new guy I'm seeing. We were getting hot & heavy and he admitted to having performance anxiety issues, that he would like to go slow, and just needs to get comfortable with me. What can I do to ease his mind... & body? Slightly NSFW.
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posted by hollypolly
on Jan 18, 2013 -
13 answers
What would cause my vagina to suddenly be tighter?
I've been sexually active since I was 19, and I'm 31 now. In the last 2 years I've suddenly gotten comments from multiple partners about how tight I am. In particular, a porn star I was dating, who obviously has seen his fair share of vaginas, tells me mine is the tightest he's ever felt.
Aside from this being a totally awesome sexual superpower I seem to have developed, what could have happened?
The only thing I can think of is that before these two years, I had a dry spell of about a year. I know that can tighten things up. But I've been having a decent amount of sex in the last two years - at least 1-2 times a month usually, with the exception of the three months of dating the porn star (cause, well, dating a porn star). Apparently I'm still as tight as ever. Wouldn't that tightening that resulted from the dry spell have loosened up again by now?
What's going on with my lady bits?
posted by dithmer
on Jan 16, 2013 -
16 answers
Straight guy here, mid-30s. I'm a relationship virgin apart from two or three very brief and superficial ones, and would be an actual virgin if not for a handful of sexual encounters, almost all of them very unsatisfying. I've always fantasized about love and sex but whenever things get real my heart and body seem to lose all interest. What's wrong with me and are there other people out there in the same boat?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 13, 2013 -
35 answers
I desperately need help resuscitating my sex drive. Embarrassing, painful wall of text inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 7, 2013 -
21 answers
We're pregnant! But we're on the fence about finding out the baby's sex. Parents: what did you decide? Did you regret your decision or love it?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 3, 2013 -
92 answers
How do I decide whether this relationship is worth staying and working on or leaving and working on myself?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 30, 2012 -
31 answers
Should I pursue a casual FWB relationship with this narcissistic but very intellectually interesting and sexy jerk?
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posted by tamagogirl
on Dec 27, 2012 -
109 answers
Horny Old Man Filter: Tips for ensuring that my straight dude's libido ages gracefully.
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posted by sureshot
on Dec 23, 2012 -
39 answers
I'm looking for practical suggestions on finding casual sex in the context of an open relationship.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 19, 2012 -
19 answers
Does confidence
really make a difference when it comes to attraction? If so, I'd like to generate enough in time for New Year's.
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posted by Ashen
on Dec 18, 2012 -
26 answers
What can I do to prevent my wrist from hurting when I'm stimulating myself during sex?
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posted by misspony
on Dec 14, 2012 -
16 answers
Sometimes when I have a sexual thought, I can literally feel a buzz, a reaction in my brain just above the ears on both sides of my head, almost an electrical feeling, usually in two short pulses. What is this? Do you experience it? More details inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 12, 2012 -
7 answers
For christmas, I'd like to be able to make my girlfriend orgasm, and would appreciate some help.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 6, 2012 -
27 answers
The guy I'm dating has no problems maintaining an erection during oral sex, but once we start to have vaginal sex, he loses his erection almost instantly. We've never talked about it or acknowledged it, and I don't know how to talk to him about it.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 3, 2012 -
28 answers
I've recently been through some major life changes and find myself feeling strong romantic feelings for an old friend, former co-worker. I fear acting on my feelings because I don't want to jeopardize our platonic friendship which, at my age (65) is precious. I worry that even talking about my change in feelings for this woman might ruin our friendship. I'm not certain that she has reciprocal feelings for me, although I think she might. We are very compatible in most regards, intellectually, shared interests and activities, etc. And the friendship just as it is is rare and cherished. Should I 'confess' and risk what we have, or accept it for what it is and look elsewhere for the intimacy I seek? As might be obvioius, I have limited experience in physical (sexual) and emotionally-close relationships.
posted by NorthCoastCafe
on Dec 3, 2012 -
10 answers
On herpes and forgiveness. Nine months into our relationship, my boyfriend told me that he has HSV-2. That was almost a year ago. It still bothers me. What now?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 2, 2012 -
47 answers
I can't seem to get "excited" with thoughts (or bikini pics) of my long distance girlfriend. I am far too young to have issues with this in a general sense and I don't. I can still get turned on by other things, and videos and what not (you get the point). We haven't met yet but we will be meeting in the relative future and something sexual might happen, and probably will.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 2, 2012 -
9 answers
I have extreme negative reactions to witnessing public displays of affection (PDA) or overhearing sex (e.g. anger, disgust, heart racing, crying). I get that I need therapy, but what kind should I be looking for?
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posted by Manlee Forresiddy
on Nov 30, 2012 -
11 answers
Random thought/Someone must have made this question: Anyone know of an online site that allows you to map out areas on a (3D or 2D) human model as "hot" or "cold"?
I'm thinking of something that would allow people to map out their erogenous zones as they know them or discover them.
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posted by Decimask
on Nov 28, 2012 -
1 answer
I'm dating someone new who is 38 and considers herself to be more or less a virgin. She's nervous about sex but also pretty interested. How can I make this ok for her?
Total NSFW oversharing below...
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posted by mockpuppet
on Nov 23, 2012 -
15 answers
This is a big ask: help me find out how to healthily move on, be comfortable with myself and have an inkling of ambition. I've had a little trouble moving on from this one relationship, and I think some perspective would be nice. It is also related to various anxieties I have now. Snowflakey details inside. Sound advice deeply, deeply appreciated.
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posted by lethologues
on Nov 9, 2012 -
12 answers
Unsure
When and how do you decide it’s ok for an opposite sex to sleep with your adolescent / young adult at your house?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 8, 2012 -
53 answers
A few months ago during pillow talk, I gave my husband permission to have sex with me while I was asleep. Last night he did it, and I felt far more violated than I expected. How should I deal with these feelings of resentment and regret, given that I gave him prior consent? (Possible TW.)
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 6, 2012 -
23 answers
My boyfriend cleans up nice! Yay! But...how do I get him to clean up, just a wee bit more frequently? And should I?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 15, 2012 -
32 answers
Asking for a friend: what is this bawdy folk-ish story involving a criminal, a judge, the judge's wife, and forced sex with a goat?
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posted by Bardolph
on Oct 11, 2012 -
0 answers
Is sex vital in a marriage? Do I need a new perspective, a new conscience, counseling, or a divorce? (NSFW)
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 10, 2012 -
42 answers
I am trying to come to terms with the fact that I'm kinky, but I feel like my life is over and I wish I could just cut this out of me and get rid of it.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 10, 2012 -
53 answers
