I read a novel that has lots of sexual scenarios, one of which involves a "frigid" woman who is repeatedly offered grissini (breadsticks) by a waiter as a subliminally sexual seduction.
There was another ongoing scene in which a woman was a research subject for testing orgasm response.
Why? Because I can't remember and like the pirate with the steering wheel belt buckle, it's driving me nuts. Thanks!
posted by haineux
on Mar 3, 2014 -
I'm having trouble finding any decent quality writing on sex advice or on sex in general where the author and target audience are both straight men. Part of this is about being interested in reading such content, part is about wondering if there really is a void here and if I should start writing myself to fill it. [more inside]
posted by MeanwhileBackAtTheRanch
on Jan 11, 2014 -
For the last odd month, I have been getting together with this guy and having really enjoyable/intimate/fun sex together. He just wants to be friends, but I'm half trying to convince myself that it could be/will be more, eventually. I just don't get it, how can the sex be this lovely with no emotional attachments on his side? [more inside]
posted by Ocellar
on Dec 28, 2013 -
I've been dating my girlfriend for about two years and we've been living together (with her five year old son) for about four months. Over the last six months or so, I've had several new sexual problems that I've never experienced before. I ejaculate very quickly after penetration, my refractory period is so long that I'm basically "one and done," and my libido has decreased. I'm still very attracted to my girlfriend, and she can still turn me on, but I also have more days when I'd be perfectly happy to cuddle up and watch a movie instead of having sex, which is completely unlike how I felt a year or so ago.
I'm not THAT old, and all the other parts of my relationship are going extremely well. Why am I experiencing these problems, and what can I do to solve them? [more inside]
posted by Chuck Barris
on Dec 7, 2013 -
However bizarre my inquisition, for those men and women who have 'been down,' and eaten the proverbial flower, what have your experiences been like? What does it taste like? Men taste like skin and smell a bit earthy.. and sometimes taste incredibly salty which is slightly unpleasant but not off-putting in the moment lol. So what do we taste like?
posted by OneHermit
on Nov 18, 2013 -
The new boyfriend would like me to be more switch-y (and peg him, too) and I'd like to be able to provide that to him but past abuse makes me very adverse to causing people pain even if I know they'd enjoy it and also puts me off being the penetrative partner. How do I enjoy being the dominant/penetrative partner? I love it when the BF dominates me and causes me pain (a not-insane amount and he's always very respectful of my boundaries and comfort) so how can I become more comfortable reciprocating pain to him and how can I become comfortable with being the penetrative partner? [more inside]
posted by code_n_cakes
on Oct 20, 2013 -
I am a woman on hormonal birth control and in a mostly monogamous relationship with a guy. My boyfriend recently had sex with a woman who's been having unprotected sex with multiple partners, and the condom broke (pregnancy is not a concern). What's a reasonable course of action from here? [more inside]
posted by serelliya
on Oct 17, 2013 -
I am in therapy trying to deal with childhood sexual abuse. I am having a hard time keeping my adult life together and not feeling insane. How do I learn to calm down and keep going instead of wanting to cry every day? [more inside]
posted by kanata
on Jul 28, 2013 -
The book I'm looking for is one I remember reading in my childhood. It had a boy as a protagonist. It was similar to The Wizard of Oz in that the boy was travelling with friends through a magical realm to free it from some kind of oppressive rule. And when the boy arrived to the happy ending (which I think took place in the royal palace) it was revealed that actually he's not a boy - he's a girl. A princess, to be exact. And a rightful ruler of the realm. Which came as quite a shock to him/her. I must have been less than 10 years old when I read it, which places the book in the 1970s. Did I imagine it or does it really exist? (it is possible that I mixed it up with The Wizard of Oz, although I think I've read it later).
posted by hat_eater
on Jul 11, 2013 -
He says he's on board with making babies, but can't wrap his brain around actually doing it. More inside. [more inside]
posted by coolsara
on Jun 29, 2013 -
I need the hive wisdom on this. My GF and I have stupendous, earth-shattering sex. I'm 58, she's 59. Really. We're both very open, intuitive, and energetic. I take @ 10mg of Levitra (generic) an hour before hand, and it works well.
When we start out, we often partake in a modest amount of cannabis, and then I focus on her. I usually have a solid erection before we start, but once I start my ministrations, it lessens, and by the time she is ready for "it", it's usually deflated. [more inside]
posted by ecollie
on May 28, 2013 -
Write the numbers 1 to 20 on a set of cards, one per card but two cards of each number, put them on the foreheads of a group of twenty men and twenty women, and give them a couple minutes to try to pair up with the person of the opposite sex with the highest-ranked card: they will always end up with someone close to their own rank. Who originally thought of this? [more inside]
posted by renovatio1
on May 20, 2013 -
I'm staying in an AirBnb room rental for the first time in a few weeks with my SO. The rental is just a room in someone's house, where there are roommates who will be there for the weekend. Is it considered rude to have sex with my SO in the room? [more inside]
posted by sockpuppetofexistentialconfusion
on Apr 5, 2013 -
I dated a girl for 9 years, and we broke up last year. I now have a new girlfriend and we are both very much in love. However, my libido has all but disappeared and we are unable to have sex without great difficulty. I need advice on why this has happened and how I can address it. Thank you. [more inside]
posted by lichen
on Apr 3, 2013 -
After many years of monogamy followed by several years of celibacy (continually enforced by the fact that, out of raw fiscal necessity, I will continue to share a house and mortgage with my ex for the indefinite future)
, a chance encounter has left me with the opportunity to enjoy one (or, fingers crossed, more than one!) casual hookup(s) with a breathtakingly attractive near-stranger.
Can you walk me through this process -- safety, guidelines, what to do/not do or say, etc. -- like a complete newbie? [more inside]
posted by electroshock blues
on Mar 25, 2013 -
My older brother (in his 50s) posted something on FB regarding the Steubenville rape case, which was: [more inside]
posted by HopperFan
on Mar 17, 2013 -
What would cause my vagina to suddenly be tighter?
I've been sexually active since I was 19, and I'm 31 now. In the last 2 years I've suddenly gotten comments from multiple partners about how tight I am. In particular, a porn star I was dating, who obviously has seen his fair share of vaginas, tells me mine is the tightest he's ever felt.
Aside from this being a totally awesome sexual superpower I seem to have developed, what could have happened?
The only thing I can think of is that before these two years, I had a dry spell of about a year. I know that can tighten things up. But I've been having a decent amount of sex in the last two years - at least 1-2 times a month usually, with the exception of the three months of dating the porn star (cause, well, dating a porn star). Apparently I'm still as tight as ever. Wouldn't that tightening that resulted from the dry spell have loosened up again by now?
What's going on with my lady bits?
posted by dithmer
on Jan 16, 2013 -
Should I pursue a casual FWB relationship with this narcissistic but very intellectually interesting and sexy jerk? [more inside]
posted by tamagogirl
on Dec 27, 2012 -
Does confidence really
make a difference when it comes to attraction? If so, I'd like to generate enough in time for New Year's. [more inside]
posted by Ashen
on Dec 18, 2012 -
I have extreme negative reactions to witnessing public displays of affection (PDA) or overhearing sex (e.g. anger, disgust, heart racing, crying). I get that I need therapy, but what kind should I be looking for? [more inside]
posted by Manlee Forresiddy
on Nov 30, 2012 -
Random thought/Someone must have made this question: Anyone know of an online site that allows you to map out areas on a (3D or 2D) human model as "hot" or "cold"?
I'm thinking of something that would allow people to map out their erogenous zones as they know them or discover them. [more inside]
posted by Decimask
on Nov 28, 2012 -
I 'think' I want to get comfortable with not using condoms. How do I go about this? [more inside]
posted by csox
on Sep 24, 2012 -
On Friday I got a call from my primary care physician saying that my HCV AB EIA QL (Hepatitis C) test result came back reactive. The same test in August 2011 was nonreactive. I am waiting for the referral to the GI department to be processed so I can find out what happens next. In the meantime I'm freaking out. [more inside]
posted by thrasher
on May 9, 2012 -
I love the whole process of sex, but as soon as I'm getting ready to orgasm, my ladyparts explode into pain and burning and it makes me super sad. [more inside]
posted by iLoveTheRain
on May 6, 2012 -
I'm super attracted to him. My ladybusiness apparently isn't. (AROOGA AROOGA TMI NSFW alert) [more inside]
posted by dekathelon
on Apr 7, 2012 -
Fellatio filter. Interesting topic for my first post ever... My wonderful boyfriend and I have a great sex life but he can only come from intercourse (and usually only when he sees me getting off from it) or from rough, consistent, deepthroating, the latter of which I struggle with severely and just cant seem to pull off even though I love performing "normal" oral sex. How can I give him what he needs in this area (which would make me SO happy) without feeling like I'm going to suffocate and die (dramatic, I know, but seriously what I feel). Modest details inside... [more inside]
posted by bostontina
on Feb 14, 2012 -
Ever been engaged to someone and had a lot of fear and doubts about this decision? How did you find resolution/come to a decision about those fears? [more inside]
posted by BlueMartini7
on Feb 1, 2012 -
I'm single and I've been saying for ages I want to have more sex. I'm getting sick of finding I'm in the mood and not being able to (really) enjoy it. A new guy I met recently has fallen madly for me, and would clearly get physical if I showed any interest in him. Truth is I don't find him physically attractive at all, and I don't think there is any chemistry for me, but he seems trustworthy and an ok person. Assuming he would be ok with sex w/o a relationship, am I crazy to shag him just because I want the sex? Have any of you girls ever done this - what was it like? Worth it?
posted by EatMyHat
on Jan 28, 2012 -
Is it a poor idea to let your partner have sex with other people, knowing that you will be hurt by it? Will it be more likely to help or hurt our relationship if he indulges in his fantasies with other women – and is this a reasonable compromise for someone to make? [more inside]
posted by labandita
on Jan 22, 2012 -
I'm involved in a new relationship with a guy that I like. He's what I would describe as very self-contained. Quiet, comes off as pretty shy, and requires a bit of effort to get to know. Things have recently started to get physical, but I'm finding myself frustrated because I have no idea how to read this guy's signals and moving things forward is up to me. What does complete silence mean? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jan 18, 2012 -
I think my boyfriend is cheating on me, or at least looking for opportunities to do so. The problem is, if I can't trust him not to cheat, then I also can't trust him to tell the truth if I confront him. So how do I deal with this? (details below) [more inside]
posted by myShanon
on Dec 10, 2011 -
Should I marry the girl I like having sex with, or the one I like the rest of the time? [more inside]
posted by fraac
on Sep 16, 2011 -
Please help me lick my wounds. I need some advice on how to get over rejection and find someone who doesn't think I'm a slut. [more inside]
posted by Ashen
on Sep 10, 2011 -
Dating someone whose native language is different than yours - can it work? Ever dated a latin american man? Are the cultural differences too great? [more inside]
posted by BlueMartini7
on Sep 3, 2011 -
I'm looking for reputable (i.e. with citations/bibilographies) histories or studies about the evolution of sexuality within the Judeo-Christian religions. [more inside]
posted by Doleful Creature
on Aug 18, 2011 -