Give me advice on how to deal with desire for men that are not my husband. [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Dec 1, 2008 - 14 answers

I'm 48 (he's 61) and this is the first "casual" relationship I've ever been in. Next time I see him, I'm going to tell him it's just not working for me. How likely is it that what started out as casual can turn into something more, which is what I would like? [more inside]
posted by KCMOwriter on Nov 21, 2008 - 7 answers

Sex is often touted as beneficial for one's health. Is this supposed to be true for both men and women, and how much evidence is there for the claim (apart from calorie expenditure, which is still negligible compared to actual aerobic exercise)? And is it primarily the orgasm that's supposedly healthful, or even sex sans orgasm?
posted by taramosalata on Nov 10, 2008 - 20 answers

Two frustrating issues about me that keep coming up, in the context of dating/relationships. (sex talk, so maybe NSFW) [more inside]
posted by symbollocks on Nov 10, 2008 - 33 answers

How can I take my time consummating a new relationship but still make sure my new boyfriend has similar sexual tastes? [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Nov 7, 2008 - 12 answers

I love my SO but I'm no longer attracted to him. [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Nov 3, 2008 - 31 answers

Now that I'm sober ... how the heck do I go about dating? [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Oct 29, 2008 - 23 answers

What are the rules of long-distance, we-met-online relationships when they transition into real life potential romance? [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Oct 8, 2008 - 17 answers

How do I healthily express and engage my sexuality without dating or casual encounters? (nsfw) [more inside]
posted by zeek321 on Oct 4, 2008 - 18 answers

Help me overcome my fear of sex. [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Sep 13, 2008 - 18 answers

If I know I wont be happy with him in the long term, why is it so hard to break up with him now? [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Sep 9, 2008 - 38 answers

great guy, bad sex, what should i do? [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Sep 3, 2008 - 30 answers

How do I fix this vicious, vicious cycle? [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Aug 13, 2008 - 15 answers

My girlfriend wants me to stop using a condom. [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Aug 1, 2008 - 61 answers

Love, intimacy, sexual frustration, distance, inaction... help me deal with the complexities of it all. [more inside]
posted by curagea on Jul 31, 2008 - 19 answers

I'm in a loving but sexless relationship. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Jul 30, 2008 - 27 answers

Can somebody (especially women) point me to images in film, text, or other media of the kind of lover that women would think of as loving, appreciative, and understanding, as well as manly and attractive, or comment on my situation in ways that would help me understand how to be a better lover to my beloved wife? [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Jul 17, 2008 - 50 answers

I would like to be more, er, assertive in bed, but I'm too shy. How can I get past this? Is there a good self-help book on the subject? Is there anything you've personally tried that worked for you? [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Jul 16, 2008 - 19 answers

So, I'm 21 years old and trying to figure out the appropriate way to treat sexual relationships. On the one hand, I want to become more experienced and enjoy my youth. On the other hand, I don't want to be too hedonistic if this might damage future relationships or my ability to trust or be trusted. I would like to try out a few relationships first before seeking something long-term, but I don't want this to hurt my chances for something long-term. Are there any ground rules I need to lay down beforehand? Am I expecting to have my cake and eat it too? [more inside]
posted by whitedoor on Jun 14, 2008 - 26 answers

When my girlfriend asks me about my sexual fantasies, should I tell her that I think about having sex with her friends, or lie? [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Jun 8, 2008 - 61 answers

What would you say to someone who doesn't want anything more than just casual sex with you when you are looking for a full on relationship with them? [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on May 6, 2008 - 32 answers

The type of guy I like to spend time with isn't the type I like to have sex with. What now? Probably NSFW! [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on May 5, 2008 - 31 answers

I've gone on two dates with a guy I met online. Our second date, last Friday, ended with some groping and making out. He wanted me to sleep over his place, but I decided not to. The next day we chatted online, he said he had a great time and I did too. He called me on Monday the day after we had a flirty/ close to booty call text session. I let him know I wanted to see him again. I was hoping he would ask me out again, because i don't want to go straight to his place to see him again. I'd like to go on another date or two before we hit the sheets. How should I let him know in better words? Should I go ahead an ask him out on a date, if he doesn't?
posted by Anonymous on Apr 18, 2008 - 26 answers

How to turn bad sex good, or at least better? [more inside]
posted by different on Mar 30, 2008 - 18 answers

What are some good books/essays/articles about human sexuality, sexual and romantic relationships, and sexual or otherwise affection-entangled activity - with an emphasis on the theoretical? I'm thinking more along the lines of Judith Butler than The Joy of Sex - so suggestions should be at least vaguely academic. (Things like Leaves of Grass count as vaguely academic). [more inside]
posted by bubukaba on Mar 10, 2008 - 21 answers

Dating a divorced man. Help me rationalize this relationship mess before I gouge my eyeballs out. [more inside]
posted by sansgras on Mar 9, 2008 - 76 answers

How do you become intimate with someone? Help me figure out on-going trouble with my girlfriend. [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Mar 2, 2008 - 45 answers

How do I turn my current best friend into something more? [more inside]
posted by kldickson on Feb 22, 2008 - 50 answers

feelings about his past relationships? how to get past it? [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Jan 29, 2008 - 17 answers

My girlfriend and I have religious and cultural differences. How can our relationship work? [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Jan 21, 2008 - 47 answers

How Do I Tell Him I Don't Want Her In Our Bed? Should I Tell Him At All? I’m having a difficult internal discussion with myself this morning, in anticipation of a real discussion I think I should have later this evening. To wit: my S.O. brought a fantasy into our bed last night that disturbs me a lot. [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Jan 11, 2008 - 22 answers

I am looking for a magazine that would be interested in a story I've written about being in love without sexual attraction. Nerve is the only magazine that I can think of, but from the looks of things, I doubt they accept anything from writers outside of sunny California. My story isn't sexual explicit, but I don't think a mainstream/family-friendly publication would be interested in this. Does anyone have any suggestions for a Nerve-esque magazine (or zine) that accepts non-fiction that isn't supposed to make you horny?
posted by haasim on Jan 10, 2008 - 13 answers

Help me sort out my feelings about the relationship I’m in because I just can’t seem to figure it out. (long and complicated - sorry!) [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Dec 25, 2007 - 23 answers

I have an STD and don't know what time is the right time in terms of telling the partner. Please help, I'm scared out of mind! [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Dec 16, 2007 - 42 answers

I don't infatuate easily, and am very slow-to-warm-up with regard to romantic interests. What's a gal like me to do in the world of speed dating? [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Dec 6, 2007 - 8 answers

How can I keep my head on straight as a first time "friend with benefits"? Is this just not for me? Of course there is a LONG story after the jump. Wee, come with me! [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Nov 30, 2007 - 25 answers

How can I remove the awkwardness from initiating physical intimacy? [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Nov 28, 2007 - 28 answers

So I've started sleeping with my neighbor... [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Nov 25, 2007 - 16 answers

Early sexual/non-sexual odd-experiences filter. How common is a guy climaxing without any sex at all? [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Nov 8, 2007 - 29 answers

I've been having Cuckold fantasies for the better part of my long-term relationship now. My girlfriend does not approve, on the contrary, she's appalled. I don't want to lose her, but ordinary sex just doesn't interest me a lot anymore. What to do? [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Nov 7, 2007 - 25 answers

Is a single guy owning cats a turnoff? [more inside]
posted by Loto on Oct 15, 2007 - 71 answers

I have a girlfriend, and we've been seeing each other for about 6 months now. The other day, I ran into an old flame I haven't seen, nor had the opportunity to significantly persue something with her (i.e. no sex, foreplay only in the past) because we stopped communication at some point and just lost touch. I'm feeling torn for some reason; I mean, my g/f now is hot, loves me to death, and extremely good to me treatment-wise. Am I just experiencing a classic case of "More-ism?" [more inside]
posted by gmodelo on Oct 8, 2007 - 27 answers

Please help me not be the next 40 year old virgin! [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Jul 21, 2007 - 31 answers

How do you dispel the awkwardness that comes after a hookup? [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Jul 21, 2007 - 11 answers

My girlfriend gets an UTI after almost every time I go down on her. Help us save our sex lives! [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Jul 21, 2007 - 22 answers

I've re-connected with an old flame, who is now divorced. He's been off-limits for so long, but now wants to come visit me. I'm thrilled. I'm single. But I can't stop worrying that it will somehow fall apart and not happen. [more inside]
posted by FlyByDay on Jun 29, 2007 - 25 answers

Is sex not always, or nearly always, really good for men while they're in a relationship? Warning: Severely naive question [more inside]
posted by trampesque on Jun 21, 2007 - 43 answers

I have a girlfriend I'm in love with. But I'm also in love another girl. She's leaving town, and I want to sleep with her. Why shouldn't I? [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on May 7, 2007 - 108 answers

How do I help relieve my boyfriend's sexual performance anxieties? [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Apr 8, 2007 - 20 answers

Throughout my life, I've had to learn social interaction as if I were a Martian anthropologist... consciously studying, taking notes, and practicing. A few years ago, I finally cracked "how to make friends" and seemingly overnight, I started making real connections. It was amazing. But now, from experience and from talking to my all-too-quickly growing posse of close female friends (most of whom I wished could have been more than that), I'm learning that the way you interact with someone you're interested in isn't as simple as having a great friend that you make out with like there's no tomorrow. There are subtle, maybe very simple, but essential things that separate lovers from pals. I need you to tell me-- in the most literal terms possible-- what those things are. [more inside]
posted by Anonymous on Mar 20, 2007 - 39 answers