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Is he a narcissist, or just very self-centred?

I've been dating a guy (30) for half a year, and though I am blinded by love, I'm starting to see signs that he could be narcissistic, but am not sure. [more inside]
posted by palomago on Aug 18, 2014 - 44 answers

Sensual, not sexual

In a new friendship/relationship. Help us explore our sensual sides without sex! Possibly mild NSFW details inside. [more inside]
posted by Beaker's stripey socks on Jul 10, 2014 - 24 answers

How to deal with sexual jealousy in a relationship?

My boyfriend sometimes expresses sexual attraction to other girls when he's with me and I'm wondering if a) his actions are reasonable, b) my reaction to this is reasonable or c) if there are underlying issues behind this that need to be addressed. [more inside]
posted by sweetshine on Jun 2, 2014 - 72 answers

Love him, leave him?

Please help me sort out my long-term thinking about my very good but maybe not perfect relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 15, 2014 - 23 answers

Am I uptight, or is he being a perv?

I'm a woman in my mid 40's, and my husband is in his early 50's. We've been married over 20 years, have 3 great kids and a relatively good life. But our sex life has taken a weird turn here lately (at least for me). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 16, 2014 - 39 answers

Libido Rollercoasters Going In Different Directions...

After years of his turning me down sexually and not wanting to touch me as I enjoy, now he's interested... and I’m not. Is there anything we can do? [NSFW] [more inside]
posted by Someone Else's Story on Mar 14, 2014 - 18 answers

Back to school with Fs in sex and social life.

I just started an intense school program and I have very little sex drive or social drive. This is frustrating for my boyfriend. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 8, 2013 - 8 answers

Should I continue seeing this guy who is in an open relationship?

It started out casual but a few months in I have started to develop feelings - and he still has a girlfriend who he is in an open relationship with. I know I don't want a relationship with him (open or otherwise) as we are too different, but is there any way I can make this work casually without getting too emotionally involved? [more inside]
posted by pennywise_1 on Nov 4, 2013 - 27 answers

Should I tell my boyfriend about my ex who is dying?

My boyfriend (lets call him Mike) does not know about my ex boyfriend's existence (Lee). I found out his brother died a couple of months ago, and now he has the same disease and may or may not survive as well. I am quite upset about this, should I tell Mike about him or just keep it to myself? [more inside]
posted by lovisa91 on Oct 29, 2013 - 30 answers

Lets get it on, or get it off!

I’m going for a “One final attempt to straighten things out” about our sex life. Ineed a few lines to take and thought to hold on to so that I don’t come across as aggressive or needy or at least not slightly responsible... [more inside]
posted by krisb1701d on Sep 5, 2013 - 16 answers

What is it like to have sex for the first time? Advice?

As someone with Asperger's Syndrome and that doesn't socialize much, I know virtually nothing about relationships and sex, and I never really believed that I would experience either of those. But I have finally met someone I connect with and we both want to have sex! [more inside]
posted by 8LeggedFriend on Aug 4, 2013 - 20 answers

Want to enjoy sex but am turned off by myself

I don't have a low sex drive, but I rarely want to have sex. Or rather, I WANT to have sex but I don't want to be me while I'm doing it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 18, 2013 - 22 answers

I know they're nice, but they're not for me!

I'm in an amazing relationship, with someone I've known for over two years, and we've been dating for a year-ish. We're both women in our early 20's. I've only dated women up to this point, and been very happy with that. It seems that my brain doesn't want to keep that status quo anymore and is trying to convince me I want to experience being with men. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 6, 2013 - 10 answers

Sex is Natural, Sex is... Fun (Right?)

My very sweet, kind, funny, smart, caring, new, younger boyfriend is... how to put this... terrible in bed. Over several months, we've had about a half dozen "encounters" (we live in different cities), and they have left me feeling bewildered, drained, confused, and overwhelmed. It's not that there's one thing that isn't working, and it's not "technique"-- it's like the entire foundation is out of alignment. Either we're just super incompatible, or one of us is doing something wrong. I'd really like to figure out how to approach this, and I don't know how to even begin this conversation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 1, 2013 - 40 answers

How to not feel like shit when you can't get no satisfaction

How do I get rid of feelings of worthlessness, anxiety, and distance in my relationship that seem to occur when I'm not having sex? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 18, 2013 - 29 answers

How can I inspire my partner to be a healthy, fit person with me?

I want to be a healthy, fit person, and I want my partner to want that, too. What's the selling point? How can I convince my SO to make this change with me and notice how our generally very sedentary life is sucking the life out of our relationship? Help! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 16, 2013 - 31 answers

Me or relationship.

How do I decide whether this relationship is worth staying and working on or leaving and working on myself? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 30, 2012 - 31 answers

How do I make my open relationship a reality?

I'm looking for practical suggestions on finding casual sex in the context of an open relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 19, 2012 - 19 answers

don't you want me, baby?

How do I deal with my new boyfriend's low sex drive? [more inside]
posted by bengalibelle on Nov 11, 2012 - 46 answers

Unwilling threesome

My boyfriend has been sneaking porn into bed to secretly look at while having sex with me (pictures on cell phone while behind me). He has been doing this for a year. How do I deal with my resulting body issues and how do we repair intimacy? [more inside]
posted by cakebatter on Aug 31, 2012 - 94 answers

Are we friends with benefits?

Are we friends with benefits? [more inside]
posted by xopaigexo on Jul 16, 2012 - 28 answers

Makeout Romance to Friend Zone--Do I go to party now?

Should I go to a party even though I've been downgraded to "friend zone"? [more inside]
posted by LemonGardot on Jul 13, 2012 - 37 answers

How to deal with this mismatched kink?

He's into being dominated; I'm not into dominating. He wants to visit a dominatrix; I'm terrified about what it might do to our relationship, but also worried about our sans-dominatrix relationship more generally. Help? [more inside]
posted by sock puppety puppet on Jun 22, 2012 - 26 answers

Are massage parlors cheating?

What do I do with a husband who has been getting handjobs @ massage parlors...help! [more inside]
posted by momtothreedc on Jun 13, 2012 - 64 answers

Sex and the Negative Guy

Dear MetaFilter: I need advice on serodiscordant dating. (That is, when a HIV- guy starts seeing a HIV+ guy.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 5, 2012 - 10 answers

Help me help my marriage

My wife of 14 years never tells me she loves me. She never initiates sex. She never holds my hand, kisses or casually touches me. No pillow talk. No thoughtful little gifts. I do all of these things for her as often as I can. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 22, 2012 - 43 answers

I don't want sex with my husband. What should I do?

Four years ago I married a great guy. We've been together a total of eight years. Sometime around when we got married...maybe a little before, I stopped wanting sex with him. I dreaded it on our wedding night/honeymoon. At first I thought it was just a phase, something to do with wedding planning burnout and general nerves. Four years later, it's even worse than it was. Otherwise, we have a good relationship, I think. We have everything in common, a shared worldview, good communication. Because of the sexual issue, we have talked numerous times about separating. I guess what I can't figure out is, why this has happened, and if our entire relationship is worth ending over it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 20, 2012 - 80 answers

I love you, but...

Do healthy, happy couples ever have periods where one or the other feels the ennui of "I love you, but I'm not in love with you?" If so, how do they resolve it? How do they decide if it's worth resolving?
posted by Caligula's Idiot Cousin on Apr 10, 2012 - 12 answers

I've lost interest in sex with my boyfriend, and find things increasingly uncomfortable in that department. What should I do?!

I've lost interest in sex with my boyfriend, and find things increasingly uncomfortable in that department. What should I do?! I'm a 28 year old female, and have been in a long term committed relationship with my current boyfriend for about 3 years now. I'd been a virgin up until about 2 and ½ years ago. My upbringing was uneventful, and I've never had any traumatic experiences that I can recall involving sexuality, however I have always felt embarrassed about sex related things, which is why before my current boyfriend I always just made out with whoever I felt like. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 28, 2012 - 15 answers

How to prevent self sabotage?

Asking for a friend: How can a person get over a crippling anxiety of getting dumped? [more inside]
posted by stedman15 on Feb 20, 2012 - 11 answers

Sexual relationship with someone with a bad history

I'm dating a girl who has had a difficult past and who seems to be strangely absent during sex. Help me figure out how best to deal with this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 6, 2012 - 6 answers

What if I don't feel intensity in my relationship?

Is it bad if I don't feel an intense/passionate kind of love in my relationship? [more inside]
posted by Asian_Hunnie on Jan 26, 2012 - 26 answers

How to confirm whether boyfriend is cheating without creating a shipload of unnecessary melodrama?

I think my boyfriend is cheating on me, or at least looking for opportunities to do so. The problem is, if I can't trust him not to cheat, then I also can't trust him to tell the truth if I confront him. So how do I deal with this? (details below) [more inside]
posted by myShanon on Dec 10, 2011 - 48 answers

Boyfriend And I Don't Have Sex

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We are happy and are sexually active, but we just don't have sex. I know that everybody does it at any age now, and that everywhere you turn, you are somehow reminded of it, but is that so bad? Basically, when we first got together, everything was (of course) perfect. He was a virgin but I wasn't, and he knew that. I liked the fact that we had a lot of sexual tension but that he didn't ever pressure me to do anything I didn't want to. Basically, he wanted me to make the shots. And I feel almost like it's still that way now. [more inside]
posted by xopaigexo on Nov 29, 2011 - 29 answers

I want to accept my sex drive.

Help me accept my sex drive and become okay with fulfilling my sexual needs outside my sexless (and open) relationship. [more inside]
posted by chameleon on Nov 16, 2011 - 16 answers

Communication and Sexual Issues in Relationship. Who to Talk To?

My girlfriend and I have been together for over 2 years now. Without getting into too much details, I have real no desire to have sex with her for reasons I'm not sure of. [more inside]
posted by Peeekay on Oct 18, 2011 - 13 answers

Am I thinking about sex and dating the right way?

I was set to marry "The One." He broke my heart. Sex hasn't been the same since, nor have I fallen in love. Is this just because I haven't found the right guy, or is it all in my head? [more inside]
posted by DoubleLune on Oct 4, 2011 - 16 answers

How to go about having a casual fling?

How to go about having a casual fling? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 18, 2011 - 13 answers

Schroedinger's ex: I'm over him. I'm not over him.

I'm having a difficult time trying to mentally process an ex's recent wedding because I'm hung up on the sex/religion aspect of it all. I need advice on how to stop thinking about him. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 21, 2011 - 33 answers

Should I be feeling upset/insecure about a change in my boyfriend's attitude towards certain sexual activities (NSFW)?

Should I be feeling upset/insecure about a change in my boyfriend's attitude towards certain sexual activities (NSFW)? [more inside]
posted by 2X2LcallingCQ on Jul 13, 2011 - 30 answers

When to work it out and when is it just too bad?

My husband lightly (very lightly) slapped me when I asked him to do things a little differently during sex. Now what? [more inside]
posted by counterintelligence on Jun 28, 2011 - 77 answers

We started with sex. Then liked each other a lot. Now how do we slow down?

I met a girl from a club and we had sex. She had a boyfriend then (she cheated on him with me). She is now single & we have been incredibly close. I think I'm being clingy and I need help BIGTIME because I really like her. [more inside]
posted by Vandal on Apr 30, 2011 - 23 answers

How can my girlfriend and I stay..."pure" until marriage ?

How can my girlfriend and I stay..."pure" until marriage ? [more inside]
posted by 70klicks on Apr 23, 2011 - 53 answers

This relationship, it's like Groundhog Day.

How to extricate myself from a negative relationship cycle. [more inside]
posted by noella on Apr 21, 2011 - 47 answers

How do I better deal with my partners medically induced loss of libido?

MentalHealthFilter: Anyone personally dealing with bipolar partners sexual issues? Mildly NWS, and long as heck. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 23, 2011 - 8 answers

30 year old man dating 20 year old woman?

My 20 year old younger sister is dating a 30 year old man. Is this a cause for concern? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 14, 2011 - 62 answers

Did we do that?

I hooked up with my friend but she doesn't remember doing it, what is going on? (NSFW possibly) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 7, 2011 - 25 answers

How can I delay female orgasm?

SexFilter: I am a woman who is orgasming too soon, too powerfully, such that it's interfering with my boyfriend's ability to do the same. What do we do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 10, 2011 - 12 answers

Slept with a girl - now nothing.....

Slept with a girl - now nothing..... [more inside]
posted by mark25 on Jan 10, 2011 - 28 answers

No sex... if that's okay with you?

I feel under enormous amounts of pressure to have sex with my boyfriend, but I'm just not interested in sex right now. I have some issues with anxiety/depression, and I'm going through therapy that is raising certain questions for me about the nature of my past sexual interactions. I'm very confused, and I need time to sort it all out. But in the meantime, what am I supposed to do/say? What do I owe my SO as a loving partner? (possibly nsfw) [more inside]
posted by Tulip on Jan 9, 2011 - 22 answers

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