My boyfriend has been sneaking porn into bed to secretly look at while having sex with me (pictures on cell phone while behind me). He has been doing this for a year. How do I deal with my resulting body issues and how do we repair intimacy?
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posted by cakebatter
on Aug 31, 2012 -
92 answers
My wife was sexually assaulted over a decade ago, before we met, resulting in an unhealthy sexual situation over teh past few years. Our therapist has suggested that we watch some adult videos together to try to re-expose her to sexual situations in a safe and positive manner, but I need some help choosing, based on the following requirements...
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 20, 2012 -
16 answers
I think my boyfriend is cheating on me, or at least looking for opportunities to do so. The problem is, if I can't trust him not to cheat, then I also can't trust him to tell the truth if I confront him. So how do I deal with this? (details below)
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posted by myShanon
on Dec 10, 2011 -
48 answers
My boyfriend and I have been fighting/bickering quite a bit the last couple months, but he says he has never loved anyone like he loves me. That being said, we haven't had sex for almost three weeks, and have only messed around twice in the shower. I initiated both of the shower incidents, and I've made my concern about the lack of sex known. He blames it on stress at work and being tired after work and then the gym. But, I can see that he's looked a porn almost every day for the last 10 days. Am I being sensitive by being upset by this? I feel like if he's horny enough to look at porn, why shouldn't he be saving that energy for me?
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posted by yummywaffles
on Feb 15, 2011 -
23 answers
Who are some good examples of sex-positive performers or sex workers from non-White backgrounds? (Porn stars, burlesque performers, erotic artists, strippers, erotic models, porn producers, erotica writers, etc)
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posted by divabat
on Jan 15, 2011 -
25 answers
RelationshipFilter: Is my partner addicted to porn, bored of our relationship or do I have fairytale expectations?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 9, 2011 -
20 answers
I found out my 40 year old boyfriend was looking at porn of girls that look underage, should I be creeped out by this? These sites are definitely legal and there aren't actual underage girls on them, but they certainly look it. I'm looking for a guy's perspective on this.
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posted by LOLcat
on Jun 11, 2010 -
70 answers
Am I addicted to pornography? If I am, what can I do? Is there a Porn Addicts Anonymous?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 31, 2009 -
23 answers
Lost to the internet: A few years ago there was an artist who created porno scenes using fully clothed models. I think i saw it on Mefi, but my search-fu is not strong enough.
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posted by NGnerd
on Aug 9, 2009 -
5 answers
How do I healthily express and engage my sexuality without dating or casual encounters? (nsfw)
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posted by zeek321
on Oct 4, 2008 -
18 answers
Does porn benefit society? Over the years we've read a lot about the ills of pornography but the world doesn't seem to be falling apart any faster than it was before the internet came along. What's the latest thinking on this?
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posted by vizsla
on Jun 18, 2008 -
22 answers
Are stories (text) about children engaging in adult-only activities (and I don't mean paying their taxes) considered child pornography?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 25, 2006 -
3 answers
I am trying to kick my internet porn habit, and need suggestions on how to resist my temptations.
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posted by ilikebike
on Aug 12, 2006 -
24 answers
Any film that is pornographic in nature depicts sex as an interaction of two bodies that resembles two jackhammers fighting. Anything rated 18 or lower pictures sex as something that happens with virtually no movement and very little exertion.
Why have these two forms not only seperated but moved quite so far apart?
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posted by twine42
on Apr 10, 2006 -
23 answers
"Non-exploitative pornography": is it a contradiction in terms? I'm especially interested in MetaFilter women's opinion. Thanks.
posted by PenguinBukkake
on Sep 20, 2005 -
37 answers
I want to introduce my (semi-sheltered) wife to porn DVDs and erotica books without scaring her off.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 31, 2005 -
29 answers
I'm female, sex-positive, and a feminist. Help me deal with my residual issues about porn.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 11, 2005 -
29 answers
I have some honest questions about porn, inspired by the recent Suicide Girls brouhaha.
PLEASE: CIVIL DISCUSSION AND NO FLAMES! CAN WE DO THAT? WE CAN, RIGHT? Anyone can state their own opinion or knowledge without attacking someone else's contradictory opinion, eh? Thanks! *More inside.*
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posted by Shane
on Feb 4, 2005 -
85 answers
I snooped in my husband's e-mail account. I know that was wrong to do, so you don't have to point that out. What I found was a bit surprising. A co-worker of his sent him pictures of herself. All were dirty, and included "showing pink," sex with her boyfriend, and giving a bj to her boyfriend. I don't have a problem with him looking at porn; I regularly look at porn myself. But this seems odd to me since he didn't tell me or show me the pictures (for reference, some are from a few days ago, and some are from a few weeks ago). He had a different girl show dirty pictures of herself before, but he told me about that. I don't think he's cheating on me with this current girl because he is kept pretty busy, and I haven't noticed anything weird between them. So my question is: is this bad? should I "confront" him?
posted by anonymous
on Jan 27, 2005 -
56 answers
