Resources, books, tips, anecdotes for a man dealing with a wife that doesn't seem to have an inherent sex drive?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 18, 2013 -
48 answers
My husband is suffering the sexual doldrums of early middle age. Unfortunately, it's a catch-22: you have to be motivated to seek help...but when your sex drive is that low, you really don't care. How can I help him even want to have sex again?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 20, 2013 -
30 answers
A few months ago during pillow talk, I gave my husband permission to have sex with me while I was asleep. Last night he did it, and I felt far more violated than I expected. How should I deal with these feelings of resentment and regret, given that I gave him prior consent? (Possible TW.)
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 6, 2012 -
23 answers
I love my wife, and I'm attracted to my wife, but I don't think about having sex with her anymore, and we haven't had sex for over a year. We've had lots of problems, and we've worked through many of them, but this one is the toughest for us. Is it possible to rekindle our sex life after so much time? Has anyone been able to do that? If so, how? Throw away address: emailzzzzzzzzzz@gmail.com
posted by anonymous
on Jun 1, 2012 -
14 answers
Not too long ago, I was hanging out with a very good friend's wife. I have been friend's with him for almost ten years now and have known and been friends with his wife for half that time.
She confided in me something very disturbing about their marriage - that they hadn't had sex in a few years (about the same amount of time as their marriage) and it feels more like a room-mate situation. I am going to keep the details to a minimum but I'm sure you can extrapolate.
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posted by anonymous
on May 28, 2012 -
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My wife of 14 years never tells me she loves me. She never initiates sex. She never holds my hand, kisses or casually touches me. No pillow talk. No thoughtful little gifts. I do all of these things for her as often as I can.
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posted by anonymous
on May 22, 2012 -
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Four years ago I married a great guy. We've been together a total of eight years. Sometime around when we got married...maybe a little before, I stopped wanting sex with him. I dreaded it on our wedding night/honeymoon. At first I thought it was just a phase, something to do with wedding planning burnout and general nerves. Four years later, it's even worse than it was. Otherwise, we have a good relationship, I think. We have everything in common, a shared worldview, good communication. Because of the sexual issue, we have talked numerous times about separating. I guess what I can't figure out is, why this has happened, and if our entire relationship is worth ending over it.
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posted by anonymous
on May 20, 2012 -
80 answers
I'm ridiculously attracted to my wife but her sex drive is an issue. And when we do have sex, the effort I put into the act isn't reciprocated, which to me is almost the biggest issue. We've talked about it but nothing's really changed. What next?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 6, 2012 -
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Can anybody recommend a sex positive relationship therapist in or near Chicago?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 21, 2011 -
1 answer
Should I marry the girl I like having sex with, or the one I like the rest of the time?
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posted by fraac
on Sep 16, 2011 -
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How can I best support my GF in her bisexual identity/lifestyle in a way that doesn't ignore my own needs?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 1, 2011 -
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Am I a bad person? It's recently been pointed out to me that I have HUGE abandonment and rejection issues. The guy that I'm seeing told me this - not my husband. Get ready for a bunch of conflicting information...
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 27, 2011 -
36 answers
Dating filter: The women I tend to feel most connected to pretty much all want to have children. But I don't. Or at least, I mostly don't. How do I deal?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 23, 2011 -
48 answers
I'm having a difficult time trying to mentally process an ex's recent wedding because I'm hung up on the sex/religion aspect of it all. I need advice on how to stop thinking about him.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 21, 2011 -
33 answers
What is going on with this lump in my genitalia? (female) Does this sound like an STD or something else?
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posted by fantoche
on Jun 14, 2011 -
26 answers
How can I regain my sexual drive? I'm 30 and since I started my sexual life at 18, I was always very active and imaginative in relation to my, hm, "performance" in bed. But things went totally downhill over the last year or so. My SO was finalizing his divorce with his ex last year, which was very stressful for both of us, plus I had a masters degree to finish, then got married and moved to another country. My dad found that he has cancer and had a very delicate op. To sum it up, a very stressful year.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 12, 2011 -
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I believe that my wife has an inflated view of the male sex drive, which has been a bit of a source of contention over the course of our 12 year marriage. Due to a whole host of factors my wife believes "normal" men do nothing but chase their woman around the house 24/7. Are there any resources (web pages, articles, blog posts, forum posts, etc.) that might help me make my case?
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posted by anonymous
on May 16, 2011 -
38 answers
Is sexual incompatibility enough of a reason to end a 15 year marriage? It seems like a lame reason, but she would prefer to do it once a month, while he has the urge once a day (but I'd settle for once or twice a week). Is there any hope for this couple?
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posted by hoodkeyben70
on Mar 23, 2011 -
93 answers
At what point does it go from typical pregnancy hormones to a physiological/psychological concern?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 1, 2011 -
14 answers
My husband loves erotic photography and wants to start doing it. I'm not as thrilled, but I want him to have a hobby.
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posted by frosty_hut
on Sep 27, 2010 -
76 answers
Is this just a bad phase in the marriage, or a sign of more to come? Many details inside, but basically, no sex, no intimacy, a lot of distance, and counseling isn't an option - and I don't really know where to go from here, or if I just have unrealistic expectations.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 16, 2010 -
49 answers
My hubby's kinky. I'm not. Please help us figure out a fair way to compromise in the bedroom.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 23, 2010 -
46 answers
How can I stop being hypersexual, get my therapist to see that it's threatening my marriage, and start focusing on my husband again?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 6, 2010 -
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Harry and I got married when I was 42. Ours was a rocky relationship at its worst and absolutely riveting at its best. Even today the passion we share and yes, even the fights we occasionally have are intense, but all the laughter, that is what kept us together. We are sharing our 25th wedding anniversary on our wedding day this December. We are writing vows and I wanted to know what are the little things in relationships that made you love someone the most? I feel like all the things I want to say are cliche I need inspiration. I don't want to disappoint him.
posted by anonymous
on Oct 16, 2009 -
13 answers
My significant other and I have started introducing swinging to our marriage and need some advice.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 27, 2009 -
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I love my husband, he is a wonderful, caring, attractive man but for some reason I don't want to have sex with him even though I'm really REALLY interested in sex.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 9, 2009 -
21 answers
My wife and i are working through some difficult issues. We love each other dearly, but we're no longer physically intimate. Neither one of us is willing to give up on our relationship. How do I make things work while we're trying to make things work?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 21, 2009 -
10 answers
A common story: after 7 years of marriage, post-partum depression and a now-3 year old kid, sex (and sexiness) is long gone. I (husband) would like it back. I'm trying to be a supportive partner and make things better, but don't seem to be having any impact. She says she cares, but doesn't make efforts to help. Any suggestions?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 10, 2009 -
38 answers
Is it true that 3 days before and 3 days after a woman's period, there is sort of like a grace period, where the woman won't get pregnant?
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posted by minsid
on Dec 29, 2008 -
21 answers
How do married same-sex couples hold title? Any recommendations or resources for California same-sex unions wanting to change title to their property?
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posted by Graygorey
on Nov 13, 2008 -
4 answers
I ran across an old friend on a social networking site. Five years ago, we went on a few dates and slept together a few times. He wants to have coffee. Really, just coffee. He's in a relationship, I'm married. Is it OK to see this guy? Should I tell my husband about our past?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 13, 2008 -
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Conversation starters needed for married couple's date night. The wife is a bit introverted and needs some prodding to get a conversation started... if it doesn't include career, kids or family.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 11, 2008 -
19 answers
Can you help me with titles, online shopping sources for 1950s tongue-in-cheek sex/marriage manual?
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posted by Lesser Shrew
on Jun 21, 2008 -
5 answers
