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Why am I so unhappy with my perfectly OK life?

I am having a hard time figuring out how to fix some of my mundane, yet very real, problems. Is it time for a counselor or psychologist? Any advice out there that could help me sort all this out? More (lots more) details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 30, 2014 - 27 answers

What to do about a sexless, but not loveless, marriage?

I have been dreading asking this question because it’s so painful, but I feel like I really need to get this sorted out so I can move on with my life. So here it is: My husband and I haven’t had sex in over a year, probably inching closer to two years by now and I wonder if I’m just fooling myself/prolonging the inevitable in staying married to him. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 31, 2014 - 31 answers

How can I both cure my depression and get my sex drive back?

I used to like all kinds of funky sex. Since depression came into my life a few years ago, I've been far, far less sexual. In the last few months, I can't even find the will to masturbate let alone allow my beloved to penetrate me or otherwise enjoy sexual activity with me. I don't want to be depressed anymore, and I also want to get back to embodying the sexual being I used to be. How? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 29, 2014 - 10 answers

Love him, leave him?

Please help me sort out my long-term thinking about my very good but maybe not perfect relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 15, 2014 - 23 answers

Am I uptight, or is he being a perv?

I'm a woman in my mid 40's, and my husband is in his early 50's. We've been married over 20 years, have 3 great kids and a relatively good life. But our sex life has taken a weird turn here lately (at least for me). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 16, 2014 - 39 answers

We are "on a break". How long should it last?

My fiancee and I have been together for seven-and-a-half years, owned a house together for three, and in the spring of this year she agreed to marry me. Last week she told me, quite out of the blue, that she wanted a break from our relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 18, 2013 - 40 answers

Engaging with a wife that doesn't seem to have a sex drive?

Resources, books, tips, anecdotes for a man dealing with a wife that doesn't seem to have an inherent sex drive? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 18, 2013 - 48 answers

Help me help my husband get his mojo back.

My husband is suffering the sexual doldrums of early middle age. Unfortunately, it's a catch-22: you have to be motivated to seek help...but when your sex drive is that low, you really don't care. How can I help him even want to have sex again? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 20, 2013 - 30 answers

Sex for dummies

Should I try to fix our sex life? If so, where do I start? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 23, 2013 - 13 answers

How to cope with sleep-sex fantasy gone wrong?

A few months ago during pillow talk, I gave my husband permission to have sex with me while I was asleep. Last night he did it, and I felt far more violated than I expected. How should I deal with these feelings of resentment and regret, given that I gave him prior consent? (Possible TW.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 6, 2012 - 23 answers

Not having much sex - is this bad?

I'm married, and we don't have sex much at all. Should I be worried? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 11, 2012 - 27 answers

Bringing sexy back?

I love my wife, and I'm attracted to my wife, but I don't think about having sex with her anymore, and we haven't had sex for over a year. We've had lots of problems, and we've worked through many of them, but this one is the toughest for us. Is it possible to rekindle our sex life after so much time? Has anyone been able to do that? If so, how? Throw away address: emailzzzzzzzzzz@gmail.com
posted by anonymous on Jun 1, 2012 - 14 answers

Friend's wife confided in me about their marriage and I'm worried. How can I help?

Not too long ago, I was hanging out with a very good friend's wife. I have been friend's with him for almost ten years now and have known and been friends with his wife for half that time. She confided in me something very disturbing about their marriage - that they hadn't had sex in a few years (about the same amount of time as their marriage) and it feels more like a room-mate situation. I am going to keep the details to a minimum but I'm sure you can extrapolate. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 28, 2012 - 30 answers

Help me help my marriage

My wife of 14 years never tells me she loves me. She never initiates sex. She never holds my hand, kisses or casually touches me. No pillow talk. No thoughtful little gifts. I do all of these things for her as often as I can. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 22, 2012 - 43 answers

I don't want sex with my husband. What should I do?

Four years ago I married a great guy. We've been together a total of eight years. Sometime around when we got married...maybe a little before, I stopped wanting sex with him. I dreaded it on our wedding night/honeymoon. At first I thought it was just a phase, something to do with wedding planning burnout and general nerves. Four years later, it's even worse than it was. Otherwise, we have a good relationship, I think. We have everything in common, a shared worldview, good communication. Because of the sexual issue, we have talked numerous times about separating. I guess what I can't figure out is, why this has happened, and if our entire relationship is worth ending over it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 20, 2012 - 80 answers

How to prevent self sabotage?

Asking for a friend: How can a person get over a crippling anxiety of getting dumped? [more inside]
posted by stedman15 on Feb 20, 2012 - 11 answers

Love Me Tender, Love Me True (Love Me Back???)

I'm ridiculously attracted to my wife but her sex drive is an issue. And when we do have sex, the effort I put into the act isn't reciprocated, which to me is almost the biggest issue. We've talked about it but nothing's really changed. What next? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 6, 2012 - 45 answers

Sex Postive Therapist in Chicago?

Can anybody recommend a sex positive relationship therapist in or near Chicago? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 21, 2011 - 1 answer

How do I teach my husband to seduce me?

How do i teach my husband how to seduce me? maybe a book or something? NSFWish [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 24, 2011 - 16 answers

How to go about having a casual fling?

How to go about having a casual fling? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 18, 2011 - 13 answers

What kind of girl should I marry?

Should I marry the girl I like having sex with, or the one I like the rest of the time? [more inside]
posted by fraac on Sep 16, 2011 - 102 answers

Supporting a bisexual partner without ignoring my own needs

How can I best support my GF in her bisexual identity/lifestyle in a way that doesn't ignore my own needs? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 1, 2011 - 12 answers

Want to have my cake and eat it too.

Am I a bad person? It's recently been pointed out to me that I have HUGE abandonment and rejection issues. The guy that I'm seeing told me this - not my husband. Get ready for a bunch of conflicting information... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 27, 2011 - 36 answers

Looking for childfree love in all the child loving places.

Dating filter: The women I tend to feel most connected to pretty much all want to have children. But I don't. Or at least, I mostly don't. How do I deal? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 23, 2011 - 48 answers

Schroedinger's ex: I'm over him. I'm not over him.

I'm having a difficult time trying to mentally process an ex's recent wedding because I'm hung up on the sex/religion aspect of it all. I need advice on how to stop thinking about him. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 21, 2011 - 33 answers

I'm worried I might have an STD... or something.

What is going on with this lump in my genitalia? (female) Does this sound like an STD or something else? [more inside]
posted by fantoche on Jun 14, 2011 - 26 answers

How can I regain my sexual drive?

How can I regain my sexual drive? I'm 30 and since I started my sexual life at 18, I was always very active and imaginative in relation to my, hm, "performance" in bed. But things went totally downhill over the last year or so. My SO was finalizing his divorce with his ex last year, which was very stressful for both of us, plus I had a masters degree to finish, then got married and moved to another country. My dad found that he has cancer and had a very delicate op. To sum it up, a very stressful year. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 12, 2011 - 12 answers

Help me show my wife that men aren't as sex-crazed as she thinks?

I believe that my wife has an inflated view of the male sex drive, which has been a bit of a source of contention over the course of our 12 year marriage. Due to a whole host of factors my wife believes "normal" men do nothing but chase their woman around the house 24/7. Are there any resources (web pages, articles, blog posts, forum posts, etc.) that might help me make my case? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 16, 2011 - 38 answers

Is lack of sex worth ending a marriage over?

Is sexual incompatibility enough of a reason to end a 15 year marriage? It seems like a lame reason, but she would prefer to do it once a month, while he has the urge once a day (but I'd settle for once or twice a week). Is there any hope for this couple? [more inside]
posted by hoodkeyben70 on Mar 23, 2011 - 93 answers

Can pregnancy hormones create sexual compulsion?

At what point does it go from typical pregnancy hormones to a physiological/psychological concern? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 1, 2011 - 14 answers

Can GGG stand for Great, Gregarious, Genial?

What if I don't WANT to be GGG anymore? Is my marriage doomed? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 31, 2010 - 36 answers

Husband wants to take nude pics

My husband loves erotic photography and wants to start doing it. I'm not as thrilled, but I want him to have a hobby. [more inside]
posted by frosty_hut on Sep 27, 2010 - 76 answers

Is this normal in a marriage?

Is this just a bad phase in the marriage, or a sign of more to come? Many details inside, but basically, no sex, no intimacy, a lot of distance, and counseling isn't an option - and I don't really know where to go from here, or if I just have unrealistic expectations. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 16, 2010 - 49 answers

Sexless wife feels fat.

Should I be worried if my husband refuses to have sex? Or is it just me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 14, 2010 - 33 answers

Can we skip the flogging tonight, dear? I have to wash the drapes.

My hubby's kinky. I'm not. Please help us figure out a fair way to compromise in the bedroom. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 23, 2010 - 46 answers

Ashamed of my thoughts during sex

I keep thinking about porn when I have sex with my wife. NSFW. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 12, 2010 - 31 answers

How can I help my wife want sex?

How can I help my wife want sex? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 9, 2010 - 39 answers

Fantasizing about other men - help!

How can I stop being hypersexual, get my therapist to see that it's threatening my marriage, and start focusing on my husband again? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 6, 2010 - 35 answers

How to reignite the spark?

I love my husband but I am having trouble loving my husband. (probably NSFW) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 3, 2010 - 23 answers

How can I help make same-sex marriage legal?

The legalization of same-sex marriage is very important to me. What can I do to help? [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl on Nov 6, 2009 - 19 answers

Tired of all the cliche's

Harry and I got married when I was 42. Ours was a rocky relationship at its worst and absolutely riveting at its best. Even today the passion we share and yes, even the fights we occasionally have are intense, but all the laughter, that is what kept us together. We are sharing our 25th wedding anniversary on our wedding day this December. We are writing vows and I wanted to know what are the little things in relationships that made you love someone the most? I feel like all the things I want to say are cliche I need inspiration. I don't want to disappoint him.
posted by anonymous on Oct 16, 2009 - 13 answers

Help us get in the swing of things

My significant other and I have started introducing swinging to our marriage and need some advice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 27, 2009 - 11 answers

I love my husband but I keep wanting other men

I love my husband, he is a wonderful, caring, attractive man but for some reason I don't want to have sex with him even though I'm really REALLY interested in sex. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 9, 2009 - 21 answers

No sex no fun

What is one to do when the sex has gone out of the marriage? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 4, 2009 - 66 answers

Sex - how many times/month is typical for married couples?

For couples married around 5 years - how many times a month do you have sex? [more inside]
posted by blahtsk on May 27, 2009 - 31 answers

How do I make things work with my wife while we're working through our issues?

My wife and i are working through some difficult issues. We love each other dearly, but we're no longer physically intimate. Neither one of us is willing to give up on our relationship. How do I make things work while we're trying to make things work? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 21, 2009 - 10 answers

Sex life gone, complications of course, how to improve things?

A common story: after 7 years of marriage, post-partum depression and a now-3 year old kid, sex (and sexiness) is long gone. I (husband) would like it back. I'm trying to be a supportive partner and make things better, but don't seem to be having any impact. She says she cares, but doesn't make efforts to help. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 10, 2009 - 38 answers

how to boost libido in a long-term relationship

Help us (straight couple in our late twenties) fix our sex life so we can stay together. [more inside]
posted by monkeygenius on Mar 31, 2009 - 33 answers

Should I tell my wife about my new fetish?

Should I try to ask my wife to let me try a sex act that I know she'll think is gross? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 9, 2009 - 27 answers

Are there any effective birth control pills.

are there any effective birth control pills out there? [more inside]
posted by minsid on Jan 19, 2009 - 32 answers

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