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Is he a narcissist, or just very self-centred?

I've been dating a guy (30) for half a year, and though I am blinded by love, I'm starting to see signs that he could be narcissistic, but am not sure. [more inside]
posted by palomago on Aug 18, 2014 - 44 answers

How do i deal with my boyfriends distance and communication issues?

My boyfriend cancels so often on our dates, and we haven't had sex even though we have been together for half a year, which makes me think he could have a sexual problem or is afraid of getting close to me. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by palomago on Aug 10, 2014 - 59 answers

International dating- help me stay safe in worst case scenario

I am currently involved in a sexual/dating/subculture where international meetings are normal. Most recently, men have met me in my city and then we have planned a trip later.... And I have had a fab time with these men- they have been great fun! I am okay with meeting men for dinner in Oslo, London or Stockholm..... I have no problem hopping on a plane and meeting a man, spending a few days with him and nipping back home... but I cannot figure out how to make sure that my flight home is paid for- if something doesn't work out. Is there any way to have your flights and hotel paid for, in a way that the host can not just cancel on you if you refuse to have sex with them?
posted by misspony on Jun 4, 2014 - 27 answers

How do I know if I am in love "enough" with my partner?

How do I know if I am in love "enough" with my partner? Snowflakery to follow [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 30, 2014 - 26 answers

ain't 2 proud 2 beg

I have a wonderful relationship with my boyfriend. We are both mid-thirties; have discussed marriage and kids and are on the same page;we live together; and things are great. Except for one thing - I initiate sex most of the time and want it more. I know the next part is not right, but, me initiating things all of the time makes me feel bad. I know it is a stereotype to expect men to be wanting to have sex more. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 23, 2014 - 9 answers

How To Talk About Sex

Occasionally, I bring up the subject of sex with my partner, and I always get nowhere. Sex has never been something that we've really talked about. We had those first few conversations when we met several years ago: disclosures of risks, general preferences, expectations for monogamy, etc. and from there we just let it develop naturally. We need to talk about it because our sex life isn't meeting my needs, and I've asked to talk about it, but I still don't know how to talk about it, and I'm afraid this is just going to become another in a string of failed attempts to talk about sex. [more inside]
posted by this *is* my happy face on Dec 19, 2013 - 28 answers

What Does a Woman Taste Like?

However bizarre my inquisition, for those men and women who have 'been down,' and eaten the proverbial flower, what have your experiences been like? What does it taste like? Men taste like skin and smell a bit earthy.. and sometimes taste incredibly salty which is slightly unpleasant but not off-putting in the moment lol. So what do we taste like?
posted by OneHermit on Nov 18, 2013 - 19 answers

Can I learn to cope with possibly permanent lack of a sex and love life?

I'm a straight guy, late thirties. I have little sexual experience and have never been in a romantic relationship, for reasons of social anxiety and body image which I won't get into here. It's coming to seem possible that this will never change, and that thought is extremely painful to me. How can I learn to live with it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 28, 2013 - 35 answers

We are "on a break". How long should it last?

My fiancee and I have been together for seven-and-a-half years, owned a house together for three, and in the spring of this year she agreed to marry me. Last week she told me, quite out of the blue, that she wanted a break from our relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 18, 2013 - 40 answers

Lets get it on, or get it off!

I’m going for a “One final attempt to straighten things out” about our sex life. Ineed a few lines to take and thought to hold on to so that I don’t come across as aggressive or needy or at least not slightly responsible... [more inside]
posted by krisb1701d on Sep 5, 2013 - 16 answers

What is it like to have sex for the first time? Advice?

As someone with Asperger's Syndrome and that doesn't socialize much, I know virtually nothing about relationships and sex, and I never really believed that I would experience either of those. But I have finally met someone I connect with and we both want to have sex! [more inside]
posted by 8LeggedFriend on Aug 4, 2013 - 20 answers

Fear and Loving in NYC

Why am I not successful in love and lust? [more inside]
posted by nob'dy on Jun 5, 2013 - 35 answers

How can I inspire my partner to be a healthy, fit person with me?

I want to be a healthy, fit person, and I want my partner to want that, too. What's the selling point? How can I convince my SO to make this change with me and notice how our generally very sedentary life is sucking the life out of our relationship? Help! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 16, 2013 - 31 answers

Not-OK Cupid

I've slept with a lot of guys and only enjoyed it with like 10% of them. Are my standards too high, or too low, or what? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 18, 2013 - 21 answers

I adore him, but find his health problems a turn off. Is there a fix?

I love him deeply, miss him terribly. He loves me more than anyone he's ever met. We go together like peas and carrots. But I broke up with him over one health problem that he can and would fix if I told him how much it bothered me. Am I nuts? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 3, 2013 - 41 answers

What is the dating world actually like?

I have a friend who insists on a certain way of understanding how men and women couple off. Basically, he sees the situation as rather animalistic, where all the women are essentially waiting to be asked out, and the first men to do so get the "choicest" women. The rest of the women are left for, well, the rest of the men. Obviously, this is pretty traditional/sexist/chauvinistic. Anyway, barring all that, he feels a constant urgency to get to women "before somebody else does," because "the best women will be taken." Of course, I understand asking someone out before someone else does, but his theory is off-putting to me. It seems like human personalities, reasoning, circumstances, geographies, and cultures throw a monkey-wrench into his theory. Things are a lot more complicated in my mind. Do you have an alternative way of seeing the dating world, have a different experience, or are there any studies that you could point me to on this subject?
posted by uncannyslacks on Jan 23, 2013 - 38 answers

Love and sex have never worked for me and I don't understand why.

Straight guy here, mid-30s. I'm a relationship virgin apart from two or three very brief and superficial ones, and would be an actual virgin if not for a handful of sexual encounters, almost all of them very unsatisfying. I've always fantasized about love and sex but whenever things get real my heart and body seem to lose all interest. What's wrong with me and are there other people out there in the same boat? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 13, 2013 - 35 answers

Should I pursue a casual FWB relationship with this narcissistic but very intellectually interesting and sexy jerk?

Should I pursue a casual FWB relationship with this narcissistic but very intellectually interesting and sexy jerk? [more inside]
posted by tamagogirl on Dec 27, 2012 - 109 answers

Romance with old friend

I've recently been through some major life changes and find myself feeling strong romantic feelings for an old friend, former co-worker. I fear acting on my feelings because I don't want to jeopardize our platonic friendship which, at my age (65) is precious. I worry that even talking about my change in feelings for this woman might ruin our friendship. I'm not certain that she has reciprocal feelings for me, although I think she might. We are very compatible in most regards, intellectually, shared interests and activities, etc. And the friendship just as it is is rare and cherished. Should I 'confess' and risk what we have, or accept it for what it is and look elsewhere for the intimacy I seek? As might be obvioius, I have limited experience in physical (sexual) and emotionally-close relationships.
posted by NorthCoastCafe on Dec 3, 2012 - 10 answers

Months ago, boyfriend told me he has herpes. It still bothers me. What now?

On herpes and forgiveness. Nine months into our relationship, my boyfriend told me that he has HSV-2. That was almost a year ago. It still bothers me. What now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 2, 2012 - 47 answers

Help me help my marriage

My wife of 14 years never tells me she loves me. She never initiates sex. She never holds my hand, kisses or casually touches me. No pillow talk. No thoughtful little gifts. I do all of these things for her as often as I can. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 22, 2012 - 43 answers

She wants to be EXCLUSIVE? What a weirdo!

I feel like a freak for wanting a long-term relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 15, 2012 - 31 answers

I love you, but...

Do healthy, happy couples ever have periods where one or the other feels the ennui of "I love you, but I'm not in love with you?" If so, how do they resolve it? How do they decide if it's worth resolving?
posted by Caligula's Idiot Cousin on Apr 10, 2012 - 12 answers

Are we wrong for each other or too scared to try?

My partner and I feel comfortable and safe in our relationship, and we feel love for one another. But we are sexually unfulfilled, and to a smaller extent emotionally and/or intellectually troubled. How do we know whether to break up or to work at it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 28, 2012 - 20 answers

What if I don't feel intensity in my relationship?

Is it bad if I don't feel an intense/passionate kind of love in my relationship? [more inside]
posted by Asian_Hunnie on Jan 26, 2012 - 26 answers

too horny for witty headlines

I want to have sex without love but I can't love sex without it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 9, 2011 - 19 answers

Sex and Love.

How do you get over the shock and pain of discovering you've been sleeping with someone who hasn't been in love with you for months? [more inside]
posted by These Birds of a Feather on Nov 15, 2011 - 13 answers

sexzual chemistry

Is it possible to get over some pretty big sexual chemistry if you really frigin love someone? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 21, 2011 - 21 answers

What kind of girl should I marry?

Should I marry the girl I like having sex with, or the one I like the rest of the time? [more inside]
posted by fraac on Sep 16, 2011 - 102 answers

She (wants to be) an Easy Lover.

How can I become a better lover? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 13, 2011 - 15 answers

What to do when in love with two people?

What to do when in love with two people? (Sex talk so possibly NSFW) [more inside]
posted by shortbus on Jul 7, 2011 - 23 answers

Huh. I'd forgotten what it felt like to have one's heart in one's stomach.

Coping advice for a dating trauma? Soothing words before I can see my therapist? Do I go through a job interview tomorrow? [more inside]
posted by angrycat on Jun 26, 2011 - 33 answers

We started with sex. Then liked each other a lot. Now how do we slow down?

I met a girl from a club and we had sex. She had a boyfriend then (she cheated on him with me). She is now single & we have been incredibly close. I think I'm being clingy and I need help BIGTIME because I really like her. [more inside]
posted by Vandal on Apr 30, 2011 - 23 answers

Savage Inequalities?Sex& Menopause

Savage Inequalities? Menopause and Erotic Intimacy. I have skimmed many AskMes and haven't seen quite this combination. Dan Savage is often touted and cited, but this combination is not well covered. What do Mefites and others do when their sex life is on indefinite hold due to their female partner's menopause? What if polyamory is off the table? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 8, 2011 - 9 answers

I really forgot how much dating sucks

Can you help me regroup after a disastrous OK Cupid experience or two? [more inside]
posted by angrycat on Mar 3, 2011 - 23 answers

We're working together, alone, again --- no no no

How to deal with no-go work infatuation [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 1, 2011 - 28 answers

All my life I've been good, but now, whoa oh oh oh oh I'm thinkig "What the hell!"

Help me get my gay groove back, or find it in the first place! [more inside]
posted by Ceci n'est pas un sockpuppet on Feb 1, 2011 - 6 answers

Why did she tell me she was raped?

She told me she was raped. Why? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 3, 2011 - 26 answers

Stuck in an impossible dating dilemma: overhaul my entire self, or never have a relationship with a man?

Stuck in an impossible dating dilemma: overhaul my entire self, or never have a relationship with a man? [more inside]
posted by tamagogirl on Dec 7, 2010 - 28 answers

Help me write a love scene. A good one.

Struggling writer asks: Help me write a non-cringeworthy love scene! What are some of your favourite literary love scenes, and what made them great? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 11, 2010 - 25 answers

Should this about-to-be-30 female virgin give up on exploring relationships with men? (NSFW)

So I'm a late-twenties bi woman, and I'm still a virgin who's never had a boyfriend or girlfriend (I prefer guys). I'm glad I waited this long, though - even when I was 18, my Asperger's had me feeling somewhat younger socially and emotionally, and I was nowhere near ready to date or do anything. But now I've reached the point where I'm ready to start meeting some nice prospects, looking for a relationship and, yes, having sex. (NSFW) [more inside]
posted by tamagogirl on Nov 1, 2010 - 15 answers

What if she won't ever do what I need to do?

My fiance has basically told me, that she will NEVER/practically never be willing to do my personal fetishes with me..... I don't know what to do about that. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 3, 2010 - 89 answers

Disposable Me.

When is it reasonable to expect exclusivity in the online dating community? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 4, 2010 - 19 answers

Crying after Sex

I usually cry the first time I have sex with someone. Does anyone have explanations for/experience with this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 11, 2010 - 17 answers

How to be ok with my boyfriend's feelings?

Crazy card alert? Please, help me sort out my relationship, MeFi world! [more inside]
posted by LemonGardot on Jul 6, 2010 - 15 answers

How do I stop feeling so mercenary and unconsenting in my relationships?

How do I stop feeling so mercenary and unconsenting in my relationships? Right now my issue is primarily in romantic situations. I think that I know why I'm like this and have figured it all out mentally, but I need some practical strategies for avoiding situations that trigger my weirdness. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 18, 2010 - 10 answers

Should I reunite with my ex-boyfriend?

(relationship filter] Please help me choose between true love and great sex. Of course, I don’t really mean that. But I do need help making a decision and whatever I decide to do, someone’s heart is going to be broken. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 25, 2010 - 47 answers

Help me move through this PLEASE

Insight, advice, perspective required for relationship dramas/attempt to become emotionally unstuck (longggggg) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 16, 2010 - 12 answers

How do I fix me?

I feel like my life is over and I'm only 35. I feel completely stagnant and stuck, relationshipwise and jobwise. Do I need to change things or do I need to learn how to deal? Help me figure out how to be a happier person. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 28, 2009 - 34 answers

Do I need to know what (or who) he did while we were broken up? Is it wrong to ask?

Do I need to know what (or who) he did while we were broken up? Is it wrong to ask? [more inside]
posted by blackcatcuriouser on Oct 7, 2009 - 35 answers

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