I'm kinky, but only sometimes. He's kinky, all the time, and more so than me. He also displays a focus on certain specific sex acts that I find worrying and is interfering with our sex life - not the things we do, but the things it seems he has to do to come or be happy. How do we deal with this? What do these desires of his mean? And if I'm not into the things he has to do, does it mean he's not into me? (Insecurities abound)
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 20, 2013 -
28 answers
My husband is making fetish videos of himself, and I'm not sure what to do about it (if anything)
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 23, 2012 -
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He's into being dominated; I'm not into dominating. He wants to visit a dominatrix; I'm terrified about what it might do to our relationship, but also worried about our sans-dominatrix relationship more generally. Help?
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posted by sock puppety puppet
on Jun 22, 2012 -
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Is it a poor idea to let your partner have sex with other people, knowing that you will be hurt by it? Will it be more likely to help or hurt our relationship if he indulges in his fantasies with other women – and is this a reasonable compromise for someone to make?
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posted by labandita
on Jan 22, 2012 -
107 answers
I have accidentally discovered my boyfriend's secret fetish. He is ashamed and upset. I'm terrified of losing him. Please help me navigate this. (Some details NSFW.)
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 19, 2011 -
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A fetish is causing me a great deal of anxiety, could anyone help me figure out how to deal with this?
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posted by Scrimshaw
on Apr 26, 2011 -
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Please help me deal with issues regarding sexual orientation and gender identity, and either assure me that I’m not a bad person or tell me how to stop being a bad person. A lengthy, detailed and NSFW explanation follows.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 28, 2011 -
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My fiance has basically told me, that she will NEVER/practically never be willing to do my personal fetishes with me..... I don't know what to do about that.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 3, 2010 -
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I like being humiliated, and go to great lengths to get it. Should I rather go into therapy?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 5, 2010 -
11 answers
What is a good argument for the immorality of
terribly sadistic but ultimately consensual sex, from a secular perspective?
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posted by limon
on Jan 2, 2010 -
61 answers
Fetishes and relationships: Help me find objective, balanced, third-party information for my girlfriend.
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posted by zeek321
on Aug 2, 2009 -
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It seems like the only thing that can get me off is extremely unpleasant written erotica (details inside, to keep the front page clean). Do I have a problem? Should I see a therapist?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 30, 2009 -
47 answers
NSFW: My boyfriend and I (a woman) have explored many sexual fantasies together - but how should I respond to his desire for a
blumpy?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 2, 2009 -
33 answers
KinkFilter: Is there currently any sociological research on sexual kinks, specifically long-term BDSM relationships? My friend and I were talking a couple days ago, and we were wondering if D/s dynamics were more common among certain demographics (i.e., college-educated, middle class, particular ethnic groups, certain religions, etc.), and I decided that MeFi might know if anyone was publishing on this stuff.
posted by aliceinreality
on Nov 26, 2008 -
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Some of the disciplinary acts I endured as a child and teenager have spilled over into my adult sex life. Is this a healthy thing to encourage, or should I avoid these acts altogether?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 31, 2008 -
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A potential romantic partner has a very specific phobia. As luck would have it, it happens to be pretty much the exact thing that is my very private fetish. I have never shared it with anyone and don't plan to share it with anyone. Are we doomed, or could we somehow make this work to our advantage?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 16, 2008 -
31 answers
Where can I find therapy which will allow me to understand / cope with / overcome a fetish?
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posted by ninepin
on Nov 1, 2007 -
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BSDMFilter : Is it true that there are far more male bottoms then there are female tops?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 20, 2006 -
14 answers
I think people would pay to watch me do (tame) stuff on the internet, but getting from that idea to the whole moving forward, I need help.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 2, 2006 -
16 answers
So has anyone tried to explain sexual kinks and fetishes? I don't mean in a cataloguing sense, but in the same sense that an evolutionary biologist explains a fish's tail shape. Where it came from, what purposes it serves, that sort of thing.
posted by kavasa
on Mar 5, 2005 -
29 answers
