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And if you don't kink then you're no friend of mine.

I'm kinky, but only sometimes. He's kinky, all the time, and more so than me. He also displays a focus on certain specific sex acts that I find worrying and is interfering with our sex life - not the things we do, but the things it seems he has to do to come or be happy. How do we deal with this? What do these desires of his mean? And if I'm not into the things he has to do, does it mean he's not into me? (Insecurities abound) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 20, 2013 - 28 answers

Why would you want someone to say that to you?

Why are humiliation and/or degradation sexually exciting for some? [more inside]
posted by thrasher on Oct 10, 2012 - 18 answers

Husband has a double life

My husband is making fetish videos of himself, and I'm not sure what to do about it (if anything) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 23, 2012 - 21 answers

How to deal with this mismatched kink?

He's into being dominated; I'm not into dominating. He wants to visit a dominatrix; I'm terrified about what it might do to our relationship, but also worried about our sans-dominatrix relationship more generally. Help? [more inside]
posted by sock puppety puppet on Jun 22, 2012 - 26 answers

Should I let my boyfriend sleep with other women?

Is it a poor idea to let your partner have sex with other people, knowing that you will be hurt by it? Will it be more likely to help or hurt our relationship if he indulges in his fantasies with other women – and is this a reasonable compromise for someone to make? [more inside]
posted by labandita on Jan 22, 2012 - 107 answers

How do I deal with my boyfriend's secret?

I have accidentally discovered my boyfriend's secret fetish. He is ashamed and upset. I'm terrified of losing him. Please help me navigate this. (Some details NSFW.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 19, 2011 - 47 answers

Can you tell me how to get my bum get cleaner than your average whistle?

How can I best prepare my rear end for "special" anal sex? (NSFW) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 17, 2011 - 16 answers

I want to watch her have sex with someone she loves.

How can I encourage my SO to go solo..and let me watch? NSFW details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 11, 2011 - 10 answers

Fetish... Anxiety... Asexuality... Help?!

A fetish is causing me a great deal of anxiety, could anyone help me figure out how to deal with this? [more inside]
posted by Scrimshaw on Apr 26, 2011 - 19 answers

I need help with sex and gender issues.

Please help me deal with issues regarding sexual orientation and gender identity, and either assure me that I’m not a bad person or tell me how to stop being a bad person. A lengthy, detailed and NSFW explanation follows. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 28, 2011 - 19 answers

What to wear to a kink con?

I'm attending a weekend-long alt-sex/kink convention. What clothing should I pack? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 31, 2011 - 10 answers

What if she won't ever do what I need to do?

My fiance has basically told me, that she will NEVER/practically never be willing to do my personal fetishes with me..... I don't know what to do about that. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 3, 2010 - 89 answers

Naughty music needed

Imagine a party à la Madonna's Justify my Love video. What music would you play?
posted by Dragonness on May 27, 2010 - 31 answers

Humiliation fetish - do I need therapy?

I like being humiliated, and go to great lengths to get it. Should I rather go into therapy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 5, 2010 - 11 answers

Is extreme but consensual sadism immoral?

What is a good argument for the immorality of terribly sadistic but ultimately consensual sex, from a secular perspective? [more inside]
posted by limon on Jan 2, 2010 - 61 answers

Fetish too far vis a vis my girlfriend.

Fetishes and relationships: Help me find objective, balanced, third-party information for my girlfriend. [more inside]
posted by zeek321 on Aug 2, 2009 - 11 answers

I'm disgusted by what turns me on. Please help.

It seems like the only thing that can get me off is extremely unpleasant written erotica (details inside, to keep the front page clean). Do I have a problem? Should I see a therapist? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 30, 2009 - 47 answers

How should I respond to sincere, respeated requests for a blumpy?

NSFW: My boyfriend and I (a woman) have explored many sexual fantasies together - but how should I respond to his desire for a blumpy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 2, 2009 - 33 answers

Which demographics are the kinkiest?

KinkFilter: Is there currently any sociological research on sexual kinks, specifically long-term BDSM relationships? My friend and I were talking a couple days ago, and we were wondering if D/s dynamics were more common among certain demographics (i.e., college-educated, middle class, particular ethnic groups, certain religions, etc.), and I decided that MeFi might know if anyone was publishing on this stuff.
posted by aliceinreality on Nov 26, 2008 - 14 answers

Is it healthy to reenact childhood discipline as an adult?

Some of the disciplinary acts I endured as a child and teenager have spilled over into my adult sex life. Is this a healthy thing to encourage, or should I avoid these acts altogether? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 31, 2008 - 16 answers

Fetish vs. Phobia: recipe for disaster?

A potential romantic partner has a very specific phobia. As luck would have it, it happens to be pretty much the exact thing that is my very private fetish. I have never shared it with anyone and don't plan to share it with anyone. Are we doomed, or could we somehow make this work to our advantage? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 16, 2008 - 31 answers

Bike-sex, breaking the law?

Why does the law have a problem with sex with a bicycle? [more inside]
posted by popcassady on Nov 15, 2007 - 21 answers

Where can I find help in dealing with a sexual fetish?

Where can I find therapy which will allow me to understand / cope with / overcome a fetish? [more inside]
posted by ninepin on Nov 1, 2007 - 25 answers

What's my kink?

Do I have a (sexual) kink? Should I have a kink? If I do have a kink, how do I discover it? [more inside]
posted by Ethereal Bligh on May 31, 2007 - 27 answers

More male bottoms then female tops?

BSDMFilter : Is it true that there are far more male bottoms then there are female tops? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 20, 2006 - 14 answers

This is me blushing

I think people would pay to watch me do (tame) stuff on the internet, but getting from that idea to the whole moving forward, I need help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 2, 2006 - 16 answers

Attraction across races

Are you attracted to people of races different from your own? [more inside]
posted by Big Fat Tycoon on Jun 3, 2005 - 85 answers

Help me have sex with my girlfriend.

Help me have sex with my girlfriend. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 5, 2005 - 44 answers

Theoretical explanation for kinkyness.

So has anyone tried to explain sexual kinks and fetishes? I don't mean in a cataloguing sense, but in the same sense that an evolutionary biologist explains a fish's tail shape. Where it came from, what purposes it serves, that sort of thing.
posted by kavasa on Mar 5, 2005 - 29 answers

"Mainstream" Fetishes

What constitutes "mainstream" with regards to fetishes? [MI] [more inside]
posted by billybunny on Nov 18, 2004 - 39 answers

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