I've slept with a lot of guys and only enjoyed it with like 10% of them. Are my standards too high, or too low, or what?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 18, 2013 -
21 answers
I'm getting back into dating after a long hiatus and I realized I have no idea how to protect myself from STDs without seeming like a crazy, overly-cautious prude. Help!
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 9, 2013 -
23 answers
I love him deeply, miss him terribly. He loves me more than anyone he's ever met. We go together like peas and carrots. But I broke up with him over one health problem that he can and would fix if I told him how much it bothered me. Am I nuts?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 3, 2013 -
41 answers
I have a friend who insists on a certain way of understanding how men and women couple off. Basically, he sees the situation as rather animalistic, where all the women are essentially waiting to be asked out, and the first men to do so get the "choicest" women. The rest of the women are left for, well, the rest of the men. Obviously, this is pretty traditional/sexist/chauvinistic. Anyway, barring all that, he feels a constant urgency to get to women "before somebody else does," because "the best women will be taken." Of course, I understand asking someone out before someone else does, but his theory is off-putting to me.
It seems like human personalities, reasoning, circumstances, geographies, and cultures throw a monkey-wrench into his theory. Things are a lot more complicated in my mind. Do you have an alternative way of seeing the dating world, have a different experience, or are there any studies that you could point me to on this subject?
posted by uncannyslacks
on Jan 23, 2013 -
38 answers
Very excited about a new guy I'm seeing. We were getting hot & heavy and he admitted to having performance anxiety issues, that he would like to go slow, and just needs to get comfortable with me. What can I do to ease his mind... & body? Slightly NSFW.
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posted by hollypolly
on Jan 18, 2013 -
13 answers
Should I pursue a casual FWB relationship with this narcissistic but very intellectually interesting and sexy jerk?
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posted by tamagogirl
on Dec 27, 2012 -
109 answers
Horny Old Man Filter: Tips for ensuring that my straight dude's libido ages gracefully.
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posted by sureshot
on Dec 23, 2012 -
39 answers
Should I (and if so, how should I) reveal to my upcoming quasi-blind quasi-date that I look different than he expects me to?
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posted by mauvest
on Aug 21, 2012 -
44 answers
The quick and dirty: I'm seeing a guy. We slept on the first date, he brought up dating exclusively and we were both in earnest, mutual agreement that neither of us were looking for a FWB type of deal. Caveat: He's moving at the end of the summer. How best to proceed? Details behind the cut to fill in the blanks...
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posted by chloe.gelsomino
on May 24, 2012 -
22 answers
looking for some NSA encounter while travelling, willing but clueless: help me do this casual hookup thing?
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posted by anonymous
on May 13, 2012 -
19 answers
Last fall, I
asked you guys for some help with my OkCupid profile. Your advice worked really well for me! I've changed a fair bit since then and now that I'm getting back into dating full-time I'm going back for round 2 with the hive mind.
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posted by modernserf
on May 2, 2012 -
18 answers
Starting to see someone. Yay! Just burned the crap out of my body. Help! (Gross details inside.)
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 13, 2012 -
28 answers
Second hookup/date tips for a girl who likes to pick up guys? (How to encourage said guys to make a move the second time around).
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 15, 2012 -
18 answers
Ever been engaged to someone and had a lot of fear and doubts about this decision? How did you find resolution/come to a decision about those fears?
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posted by BlueMartini7
on Feb 1, 2012 -
13 answers
I'm female in my mid-twenties and due to circumstances have been a late entrant into dating. I've been out with several guys (ages 27 - 33) and am trying to get a better handle on how quickly things move forward in terms of physical/sexual. So while every guy, girl, and experience is different, could someone share what they might consider standard in their experience? I'd be curious to know what peoples' typical natural progressions are (for a person they're dating, not a hook up) in terms of the steps, not necessarily timing. For instance, do you generally do the first base/second base/third bases in order?
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posted by sowrite
on Nov 26, 2011 -
32 answers
I was set to marry "The One." He broke my heart. Sex hasn't been the same since, nor have I fallen in love. Is this just because I haven't found the right guy, or is it all in my head?
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posted by DoubleLune
on Oct 4, 2011 -
16 answers
Please help me lick my wounds. I need some advice on how to get over rejection and find someone who doesn't think I'm a slut.
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posted by Ashen
on Sep 10, 2011 -
71 answers
Dating someone whose native language is different than yours - can it work? Ever dated a latin american man? Are the cultural differences too great?
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posted by BlueMartini7
on Sep 3, 2011 -
35 answers
Dating filter: The women I tend to feel most connected to pretty much all want to have children. But I don't. Or at least, I mostly don't. How do I deal?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 23, 2011 -
48 answers
I've been dating this guy for a few weeks now, and I'm not sure where things are going.
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posted by raynax
on Jul 26, 2011 -
15 answers
He seemed to really like me, then I got my period when we were having sex, did this turn him off me?
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posted by emmy83
on Jul 12, 2011 -
36 answers
Coping advice for a dating trauma? Soothing words before I can see my therapist? Do I go through a job interview tomorrow?
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posted by angrycat
on Jun 26, 2011 -
33 answers
How do you stop yourself from caring whether someone you've just started seeing is sleeping with/will sleep with other people?
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posted by Chrysalis
on Mar 25, 2011 -
31 answers
Met a stranger I want. Should I, and how? Mildly NSFW Dear-Penthouse-style description and query inside, written by a young female person who is a little out of her element.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 14, 2011 -
45 answers
My 20 year old younger sister is dating a 30 year old man. Is this a cause for concern?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 14, 2011 -
62 answers
