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BDSMfilter: munches, play parties, and social anxiety

How can an shy, inexperienced kinkster approach potential play partners without being too pushy or creepy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 14, 2014 - 5 answers

Are these blogs viral marketing?

Here are three NSFW porn blogs, called: tattoos-n-blondes, i-n-k-e-d-b-i-t-c-h, and s-u-i-c-d-al-r-e-v-e-n-g-e; all are hosted on tumblr, and all frequently reblog each other's posts. Does anyone know: are these blogs actually viral marketing for Jack Daniels? About once every 20-30 images in each, there is a prominently displayed picture of Jack Daniels whiskey, either by itself or being held by a lass. Are these blogs being independently run, but paid by the Brown-Forman corporation? Are the blogs actual sanctioned advertising directly from that corporation? Attempts to ask the blogs via tumblr's messaging feature have gone unanswered.
posted by Greg Nog on Jan 4, 2014 - 23 answers

Past abuse and trying pegging, BDSM with the new boyfriend

The new boyfriend would like me to be more switch-y (and peg him, too) and I'd like to be able to provide that to him but past abuse makes me very adverse to causing people pain even if I know they'd enjoy it and also puts me off being the penetrative partner. How do I enjoy being the dominant/penetrative partner? I love it when the BF dominates me and causes me pain (a not-insane amount and he's always very respectful of my boundaries and comfort) so how can I become more comfortable reciprocating pain to him and how can I become comfortable with being the penetrative partner? [more inside]
posted by code_n_cakes on Oct 20, 2013 - 9 answers

Looking for some new male + female sex positions!

Looking for some new male + female sex positions! [more inside]
posted by Sloop John B on Mar 19, 2013 - 12 answers

And if you don't kink then you're no friend of mine.

I'm kinky, but only sometimes. He's kinky, all the time, and more so than me. He also displays a focus on certain specific sex acts that I find worrying and is interfering with our sex life - not the things we do, but the things it seems he has to do to come or be happy. How do we deal with this? What do these desires of his mean? And if I'm not into the things he has to do, does it mean he's not into me? (Insecurities abound) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 20, 2013 - 28 answers

How can we both tie each other up?

I'm submissive. He's submissive. Now what? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 30, 2012 - 11 answers

Dealing with insecurity in the BDSM/poly life

BDSMfilter: Newbie male bottom + experienced poly top = insecurity vortex! Help! [more inside]
posted by RockPuppet on Oct 22, 2012 - 13 answers

I want to be a normal person

I am trying to come to terms with the fact that I'm kinky, but I feel like my life is over and I wish I could just cut this out of me and get rid of it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 10, 2012 - 53 answers

I'd totally run for International Ms Velvet. Or International Ms Fuzzy Fabric Of Any Sort.

How did leather, latex, and vinyl get to be the most popular and celebrated materials in the kink/BDSM world - as opposed to say velvet, silk, organza, lace, muslin? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Sep 25, 2012 - 24 answers

Safety First: The casual sex version

What are your safety tips for casual sexual encounters? (Probably NSFW text inside) [more inside]
posted by KinkySockPuppet on Jun 13, 2012 - 14 answers

So apparently I'm kinky. Now what?

I've always been a rather aggressive lover, but it wasn't until I met my most recent girlfriend (who is a submissive) that I fully understood my sexuality. I enjoy BDSM, and I don't intend to stop enjoying that experience simply because my girlfriend broke up with me. (Snowflake details below, possibly NSFW.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 13, 2012 - 28 answers

BDSM filter: How to find a "nice/sensitive" guy who's naturally dominant in bed?

I'm looking for a partner who matches me well on a personality level and who is also naturally dominant in bed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 11, 2012 - 18 answers

Please Sir, may I have some more?

Kink-filter: How can I initiate sex while maintaining my submissive role in the bedroom? NSFW D/s details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 30, 2011 - 16 answers

Aftercare In Fiction

Recommendations for erotica featuring BDSM aftercare? Help me out, Mefites, please!
posted by anonymous on Jun 6, 2011 - 4 answers

What to wear to a kink con?

I'm attending a weekend-long alt-sex/kink convention. What clothing should I pack? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 31, 2011 - 10 answers

Help me find the right toys in NYC!

Please give me your recommendations for well-stocked BDSM-inclined sex shops in NYC. Note: *not* Babeland. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 22, 2010 - 3 answers

Yeah, I'm kinky... is that a problem?

Should I come out of the BDSM closet? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 2, 2010 - 13 answers

Can we skip the flogging tonight, dear? I have to wash the drapes.

My hubby's kinky. I'm not. Please help us figure out a fair way to compromise in the bedroom. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 23, 2010 - 46 answers

Pillow (Fight) Talk

How can I get over my shyness to get the (d/s) sex I want? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 23, 2010 - 27 answers

Reconciling my submissive feelings

I am looking for advice about or stories of coming to terms with submissive feelings in bed. I'm a lady in my mid 20s and I like dudes. I've seen a few questions like this one and this one, from the perspective of guys who want to be more dominant with their girls, but are finding it hard to get in the head-space. I'm interested in the opposite angle. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 21, 2010 - 35 answers

How to find lovers who are into bdsm but not in the scene?

BDSMFilter: How can I find non-monogamous kinky lovers out here in the vanilla world? I've gone to munches and classes at TES (a bdsm organization here in NYC) and other bdsm groups, but I never meet people there with whom I can connect on other levels. Is there a trick to finding kinky folk in vanilla settings? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 1, 2010 - 16 answers

Is there a Rough Guide to rough sex?

She’s keen on the rough stuff – I’m new to it [NSFW] [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 4, 2010 - 36 answers

Wannabe Third (and general KinkFilter)

As part of my New Year's Self-Improvement Program (tm), I'm seeking out a few sexual experiences I haven't had but would like. In particular, I'd like to be the third in a heterosexual couple's threesome. I'm a mostly-straight man in San Francisco. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 5, 2010 - 8 answers

Is extreme but consensual sadism immoral?

What is a good argument for the immorality of terribly sadistic but ultimately consensual sex, from a secular perspective? [more inside]
posted by limon on Jan 2, 2010 - 61 answers

How to manage feelings in BDSM/casual sex relaionships?

Your tips on figuring out my feelings as I enter into casual play relationships? (risque elaboration within) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 4, 2009 - 10 answers

Have rope, will travel.

Another "kinky sex hacks" question... (NSFW) [more inside]
posted by puckish on Mar 3, 2009 - 8 answers

I'm not good at tying knots around a beautiful woman.

My girlfriend loves being tied up. Unfortunately, I never was a boy scout and suck at tying knots. (nsfw) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 28, 2008 - 18 answers

Which demographics are the kinkiest?

KinkFilter: Is there currently any sociological research on sexual kinks, specifically long-term BDSM relationships? My friend and I were talking a couple days ago, and we were wondering if D/s dynamics were more common among certain demographics (i.e., college-educated, middle class, particular ethnic groups, certain religions, etc.), and I decided that MeFi might know if anyone was publishing on this stuff.
posted by aliceinreality on Nov 26, 2008 - 14 answers

Subtle kink in popular culture?

Books and movies with BDSM overtones? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 28, 2008 - 34 answers

Better pain management through electricity

Kinkyelectricsex: My partner wants to bring a TENS machine into the bedroom. How safe or dangerous are these things? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 3, 2008 - 7 answers

sex in bondage porn? i'll be damned.

What's a good resource for the history of laws governing BDSM pornography? [discussion, of course, potentially nsfw] [more inside]
posted by nadawi on May 13, 2008 - 6 answers

Please point me to resources to better understand "switching" in BDSM.

Please point me to resources that describe the phenomenon of "switching" by some BDSM participants. [more inside]
posted by Forktine on Apr 13, 2008 - 3 answers

D/s newbie seeking help

Help for a couple starting to experiment with a D/s relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 11, 2008 - 16 answers

Kinky Couture

Where are the good, exciting online fetishwear sites? [more inside]
posted by Ambrosia Voyeur on Mar 6, 2008 - 10 answers

Tell me (a girl) how to sex up my partner like he wants: with me in charge!

My partner wants me to dominate him. That's totally not my style, and his pickiness makes it harder, but I'm trying my best, and it's working! Up to a point. (NSFW text inside.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 12, 2007 - 49 answers

Is kink curable?

SexFilter - is kink curable? [more inside]
posted by Jake Apathy on Aug 16, 2007 - 20 answers

Help me overcome my reluctance to dominate my girl and fulfill both our fantasies.

Help me overcome my reluctance to dominate my girl and fulfill both our fantasies. I would feel silly and disconnected dominating my girl the way she wants to be dominated in the bedroom. How can I step beyond my self-consciousness to give her what she wants while remaining sensual enough to satisfy myself? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 13, 2007 - 24 answers

Help us get our freak on!

Help my partner and I find a place to do BDSM play where we'll fit in. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 9, 2006 - 3 answers

More male bottoms then female tops?

BSDMFilter : Is it true that there are far more male bottoms then there are female tops? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 20, 2006 - 14 answers

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