How do I get rid of feelings of worthlessness, anxiety, and distance in my relationship that seem to occur when I'm not having sex?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 18, 2013 -
29 answers
How to deal with intense anxiety from stupid and risky sexual decisions in the (pretty) distant past?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 8, 2013 -
27 answers
I can't seem to get "excited" with thoughts (or bikini pics) of my long distance girlfriend. I am far too young to have issues with this in a general sense and I don't. I can still get turned on by other things, and videos and what not (you get the point). We haven't met yet but we will be meeting in the relative future and something sexual might happen, and probably will.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 2, 2012 -
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I have extreme negative reactions to witnessing public displays of affection (PDA) or overhearing sex (e.g. anger, disgust, heart racing, crying). I get that I need therapy, but what kind should I be looking for?
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posted by Manlee Forresiddy
on Nov 30, 2012 -
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This is a big ask: help me find out how to healthily move on, be comfortable with myself and have an inkling of ambition. I've had a little trouble moving on from this one relationship, and I think some perspective would be nice. It is also related to various anxieties I have now. Snowflakey details inside. Sound advice deeply, deeply appreciated.
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posted by lethologues
on Nov 9, 2012 -
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I get really nervous during (attempted) sex with new people. I feel like a nervous teenager. Help me get out of my own damn head!
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 8, 2012 -
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I've lost interest in sex with my boyfriend, and find things increasingly uncomfortable in that department. What should I do?! I'm a 28 year old female, and have been in a long term committed relationship with my current boyfriend for about 3 years now. I'd been a virgin up until about 2 and ½ years ago. My upbringing was uneventful, and I've never had any traumatic experiences that I can recall involving sexuality, however I have always felt embarrassed about sex related things, which is why before my current boyfriend I always just made out with whoever I felt like.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 28, 2012 -
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I'm a sexually inexperienced lady and sex scares the hell out of me! How can I calm down and have a good time?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 20, 2011 -
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How can I have a more sexual relationship with my boyfriend, and stop freaking out all the time? Or, how can I accept that this is the relationship we have and it's not going to change? Warning: this is going to be both long and stupid.
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posted by krakenattack
on Nov 14, 2011 -
47 answers
I'm facing down 26 years years of virginity. Help me succeed at Operation: Get Laid By My Birthday.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 30, 2011 -
29 answers
Anecdotal experiences wanted: I am considering trying SSRIs for my anxiety, but I am worried that my already-low libido will disappear altogether. Psychiatrist suggests that the low libido may be caused by anxiety, and so taking SSRIs could actually help. Has either of these things happened to you?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 13, 2011 -
26 answers
A fetish is causing me a great deal of anxiety, could anyone help me figure out how to deal with this?
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posted by Scrimshaw
on Apr 26, 2011 -
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Performance-anxiety filter: I'm a early-30s guy who is incredibly sexually inexperienced who has some questions about the pills that tend to help with this problem.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 15, 2011 -
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Given that I know my defence mechanisms are still operating on high after leaving an emotionally abusive relationship, and I keep getting cold feet with anyone who tries to get close to me, and yet still crave small doses of intimacy, how can I ethically conduct myself with people who are/could be interested in me?
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posted by Chrysalis
on Dec 21, 2010 -
6 answers
Help me stop obsessing over having an orgasm with my partner (because if I can do THAT, I might actually stand a chance of having one - d'oh! Obsessing again...)
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posted by anonymous
on May 22, 2010 -
14 answers
Insight, advice, perspective required for relationship dramas/attempt to become emotionally unstuck (longggggg)
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 16, 2010 -
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I feel like my life is over and I'm only 35. I feel completely stagnant and stuck, relationshipwise and jobwise. Do I need to change things or do I need to learn how to deal? Help me figure out how to be a happier person.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 28, 2009 -
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I've been hanging out with a girl for a while, just as friends because she's had a boyfriend for as long as I've known her. I am, of course, into her. She's intelligent and beautiful and laughs at my jokes--all that good stuff. So, I was honestly quite pleased when she started having problems with her boyfriend. Every couple of days, we'd see each other and she'd tell me about some other dick thing he'd said. She'd also started sitting closer to me, touching me on the arm when we talked, and holding on a little too long when we hugged. My experience with women is somewhat limited (I've had two serious girlfriends), but I could see that she liked me.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 16, 2009 -
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I'm not even thirty and the sex is terrible. Am I the only person with this problem and what should I do about it? Apologies, there is...
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 28, 2007 -
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Why does male performance anxiety continue to severely hamper my sex life?
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posted by kyle
on Mar 12, 2006 -
11 answers
ErectionFilter: Anyone had performance-anxiety erection issues that they have successfully solved?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 23, 2005 -
19 answers
