I have a friend who insists on a certain way of understanding how men and women couple off. Basically, he sees the situation as rather animalistic, where all the women are essentially waiting to be asked out, and the first men to do so get the "choicest" women. The rest of the women are left for, well, the rest of the men. Obviously, this is pretty traditional/sexist/chauvinistic. Anyway, barring all that, he feels a constant urgency to get to women "before somebody else does," because "the best women will be taken." Of course, I understand asking someone out before someone else does, but his theory is off-putting to me.
It seems like human personalities, reasoning, circumstances, geographies, and cultures throw a monkey-wrench into his theory. Things are a lot more complicated in my mind. Do you have an alternative way of seeing the dating world, have a different experience, or are there any studies that you could point me to on this subject?
posted by uncannyslacks
on Jan 23, 2013 -
38 answers
Testosterone supplementation for women - looking for research or information to share with my doctor.
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posted by anonymous
on May 17, 2012 -
5 answers
Is it normal for a woman to begin feeling invisible in her thirties? Please excuse the fact that this question might come off as totally narcissistic and a little crazy but it's been something that has been on my mind a lot lately and I was hoping to get some perspective on the situation.
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posted by thelastgirl
on Apr 4, 2012 -
48 answers
Is it a poor idea to let your partner have sex with other people, knowing that you will be hurt by it? Will it be more likely to help or hurt our relationship if he indulges in his fantasies with other women – and is this a reasonable compromise for someone to make?
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posted by labandita
on Jan 22, 2012 -
107 answers
What is good sex for men? Once, I was married, in an abusive relationship. I've suddenly realized it is 15 years ago, and that I still haven't moved on. I've been in relationships since, each in their way failed, and each more or less failed because of my inability to get over the trauma of the abuse. Now, I've met someone new, after an almost total abstinence of 10 years. And I need to move on.
The main issue for me, right now, is lack of confidence regarding sex. My ex-husband repeatedly told me I was no good in bed. And now I feel I have no idea what is good in bed.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 8, 2012 -
31 answers
At what point does it go from typical pregnancy hormones to a physiological/psychological concern?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 1, 2011 -
14 answers
Stuck in an impossible dating dilemma: overhaul my entire self, or never have a relationship with a man?
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posted by tamagogirl
on Dec 7, 2010 -
28 answers
Which cardinal rule of dating am I breaking? If I don't know what I'm doing wrong, how can I stop doing it? (Perhaps mildly NSFW).
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posted by motsque
on Aug 17, 2010 -
59 answers
I'm 27 and single. I've never had a serious boyfriend. Just throwing that out there.
My brother is 24. Our 1st cousins are visiting for Christmas. One of them is male and 19, the other is female and 16. Tonight we somehow got into a huge discussion about relationships. Basically my brother and cousin (the 19-year-old) were making the following points:
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posted by starpoint
on Dec 21, 2009 -
115 answers
Previously dated men, now wants to date women. Problem: I can't tell when women are interested in me or if they just want to be friends.
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posted by Eleutherios
on Oct 13, 2009 -
17 answers
How accurate are the media portrayals of young people engaging in risky sexual behaviors?
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posted by reenum
on Jul 8, 2009 -
54 answers
Sex is often touted as beneficial for one's health. Is this supposed to be true for both men and women, and how much evidence is there for the claim (apart from calorie expenditure, which is still negligible compared to actual aerobic exercise)? And is it primarily the orgasm that's supposedly healthful, or even sex sans orgasm?
posted by taramosalata
on Nov 10, 2008 -
20 answers
As a man, does talking to a woman about your adventures with other women put you on the friends ladder?
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posted by harwons
on Sep 5, 2008 -
66 answers
I'm interested in reading feminist commentary on female sexual preferences, especially on the near-universal (?) preference of women for taller and older men. What does the range of opinions within feminism look like, and what books or articles or essays ought I search for? Suggestions for materials that respond to feminist perspectives on this topic are also welcome.
posted by Cucurbit
on May 21, 2008 -
4 answers
I'm 29 and haven't had sex. How can I reconcile with the fact that it might not ever happen for me?
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posted by anonymous
on May 17, 2008 -
42 answers
My girlfriend and I have religious and cultural differences. How can our relationship work?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 21, 2008 -
47 answers
[NSFW] Women of the world...how can I have an orgasm when everything just feels so intense?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 16, 2007 -
21 answers
I’d like to read some fiction books where the heroine is intelligent,
40+ years old,
not incredibly gorgeous or incredibly wealthy or incredibly famous, but with responsibilities (like teenage kids or a career), who has explicit & hot sex. Chick lit all grown up, you might say.
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posted by b33j
on Jun 14, 2007 -
24 answers
Is there academic research that claims that viewing of advertising material a ritual of genderization?
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posted by bilabial
on Apr 28, 2007 -
25 answers
SexualityFilter: I was raised as a strict religious conservative, but have realized that's just not me and I am starting over. I'd like to learn a lot more about myself, sexually. What tips and books do you have to help give a 23 year old woman sexual knowledge and confidence?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 4, 2007 -
36 answers
Not sure if this is AskMeFi material, but google returns mostly porn results for "Asian wife backseat," and I can't find any previous question: I often see Asian men driving with women (presumably their wives) in the backseat. Nobody is riding shotgun. It is definitely the exception (i.e., most putative Asian couples I see are riding side-by-side). Does anyone know what this is about?
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posted by oxonium
on Jan 20, 2007 -
33 answers
Is it normal for a woman to be unable to orgasm alone or with a (male) partner unless she fantasizes about women?
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posted by orangeshoe
on Aug 30, 2006 -
37 answers
So apparently it's
legal to have sex in a bar bathroom in Italy, but what about the U.S.? Related question: is it illegal for a woman to go in the men's room (or vice versa)? Anybody ever gotten in trouble (beyond just embarrasment) for something like this?
posted by rorycberger
on Oct 6, 2004 -
22 answers
Equality of rights under the law shall not be denied or abridged by the United States or by any state on account of sex.
How could anyone possibly be against THAT?
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posted by John Kenneth Fisher
on Oct 5, 2004 -
11 answers
Why are sexually promiscuous men "studs" and sexually promiscuous women "sluts"? And on that note, is it studly or slutty to hook up with one person on a Monday and go out with a different person on a Tuesday? Just asking.
posted by adrober
on Dec 16, 2003 -
19 answers
