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How can I stop body image issues getting in the way with a new partner?

Please help me to get over my body image issues when it comes to sex with someone new. [more inside]
posted by NatalieWood on Nov 30, 2015 - 14 answers

Please help a sexless relationship.

Everything is going great, until at some point my partner doesn't seem to be interested in me anymore. Physically. Everything is great, there is just no sex. [more inside]
posted by Tiffy119 on Nov 29, 2015 - 30 answers

My partner has ED. How do I make him feel better?

My boyfriend has had problems maintaining an erection and reaching orgasm for the 7 months we've been together. I love him a lot and know that this hurts him, probably far more than he is letting on. This isn't about me - I would just love some advice from people that have either been in my or his situation about things that have helped them to feel like they aren't a failure or less masculine because of it. [more inside]
posted by kyetak on Nov 26, 2015 - 16 answers

Issues with long distance relationship.

I am living in a long distance relationship and have encountered an issue I do not know how to cope with. I hope you can help me. [more inside]
posted by Salicornia on Nov 24, 2015 - 13 answers

Surely People Want to Test...

Where are the cross-brand variety packs for finding your favorite lubricant? [more inside]
posted by alice_curiouse on Nov 12, 2015 - 8 answers

Talking with my daughter about sex

My daughter is eleven. When she was a toddler, the advice about talking about sex that I read emphasised answering their questions. Kids are naturally curious! They will have all sorts of questions! Just answer them truthfully and you’ll be fine! Of course that did not happen. My child is apparently not very naturally curious about these things, and suddenly she’s a teenager and I have not talked to her about sex yet. I now know I should have handled this differently, but I can’t do anything about that anymore and could use some help with how to talk about this now. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 11, 2015 - 31 answers

The fire is out, but is it possible to spark a new flame?

I don't feel sexually attracted to my spouse anymore. What now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 10, 2015 - 27 answers

How to handle longtime opposite sex friendships in a relationship?

what is everyone's take on handling opposite sex friendships when you’re in a relationship, especially as we get older? i'm 32. my best guy friend from college moved in with his girlfriend over a year ago. i have met her several times (which i initiated as i wanted to meet her) and i like her (although i have seen her freak at him and noticed she has some insecurity issues) but since they moved in together he always brings her when i ask if he wants to catch up [more inside]
posted by cultureclash on Nov 7, 2015 - 41 answers

Help us find a sex therapist in the Twin Cities

Wife and I recognize that we need outside help, but aren't sure how to find it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 3, 2015 - 2 answers

Getting body image issues out of my head: Dating while fat

So I am an intelligent, funny, kind, 30-year-old fat woman who generally has a healthy and pragmatic attitude about being fat. I felt constantly shitty about not being thin when I was younger, but whatever the wider world thinks, I know being fat doesn't mean I'm not pretty, or that I'm lazy, or whatever. But the negative self-talk, fueled by cultural narratives and negative experiences, rears it ugly head while dating sometimes. I want to get that voice out of my head. [more inside]
posted by Squalor Victoria on Oct 26, 2015 - 18 answers

Found a black metal ring in a urinal--is this a sex accessory?

OK, so I saw this black metal ring sitting in a urinal at a grocery store. Kind of an odd place for one. I'm curious if this is some sort of sex-related accessory that I'm not familiar with, or if it's just some random chain link that happened to end up in a urinal. It was about an inch in diameter. There's a small break in it. Pics are here.
posted by Slinga on Oct 23, 2015 - 7 answers

Quiet Sex Punishments?

What are some ways my sex partner (male) can punish me (female) that are quiet? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 21, 2015 - 12 answers

Condom after blow job? Will my saliva make it slip off?

As above - if I give a bj to my boyfriend as foreplay and then put a condom on him, will my saliva make it more likely it will slip off? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 17, 2015 - 13 answers

Why am I unwilling to try sex things that would make my boyfriend happy?

My boyfriend and I are in our early twenties. He would like some things out of sex and related things that I do not want to do. Given everything I explain below, I would certainly understand if my boyfriend didn't want to be in a relationship with me anymore. I feel bad for not even wanting to try these things when they would make him happy and when it could mean throwing the relationship away. Why do I feel so unwilling to try these things? [more inside]
posted by SillyEvelina on Sep 21, 2015 - 34 answers

Seeking sexually-charged, body-horror / generally-weird passages.

I'm looking to find short scenes in which puberty, or other moments of sexual awakening, are represented through disturbing, surreal elements with a sexual subtext. I'm sure I've encountered this trope a lot, but my mind is coming up completely blank, either of any example or even what it's called! Can anyone help?
posted by piato on Sep 11, 2015 - 36 answers

Music for the bedroom?

What are some songs I can use to mask the noise of sex so I can be polite to my roommates and allow my girlfriend and me to fully enjoy ourselves? [more inside]
posted by mtphoto on Sep 9, 2015 - 28 answers

Bad Wrists. No Orgasm.

I'm a young woman. Health troubles have led to wrist pain that's rendering many things impossible with my right hand (and I'm right-handed) and possible-but-painful with my left. I'm otherwise able-bodied. As I work through the health concerns personally and professionally, I'm left stumped as to how to have sexual pleasure at this time. More (and throwaway email) inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 7, 2015 - 12 answers

Legitimately dom or mentally unstable?

If it's apparent that a guy's interest in being a dom is linked to emotional issues, is that a red flag? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 31, 2015 - 17 answers

I Don't Like You That Way: Love, Sex and Dating On Four Wheels

What do you do about your fear of intimacy and your lack of potential sutiors when you're a virgin at 25 and universally held to have the sexuality of a potato? [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 on Aug 30, 2015 - 35 answers

Calling all playlists! ISO popular songs w/consent lyrics/theme

I will have some college students in a talk that discusses consent , along with some older folks, and I'm out of touch with recent popular music that has even a whiff of healthy consent and is sex-positive/relationship-positive (MJ's Let's Wait a While also fits the criteria, but has been around for a decade) Oh, and for a bonus the brainstormer said - how about a fitness class with these themed songs that I'm drawing a blank on...flailing thoughts below the fold.... [more inside]
posted by childofTethys on Aug 18, 2015 - 19 answers

Going on a date. He uses a wheelchair. Help me not be an idiot.

I have a date coming up with a man who uses a wheelchair. He is super funny and smart and super hot. I have never dated someone who uses a wheelchair. In fact, I've never even known someone who uses a wheelchair. Help me not screw it up! [more inside]
posted by dinnerdance on Aug 15, 2015 - 29 answers

I Don't Orgasm, and I Don't Care

I'm in my 30's, and I don't orgasm during sex. I still like sex - a lot! - but I find myself compulsively "faking it" in every single relationship, and I'm not sure how to stop or if I should. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 14, 2015 - 34 answers

It Really Has Been That Easy For This Pretty Boy

So, I am married to a very pretty guy. We are both mid 30s. His entire relationship history includes women just throwing themselves at him, so he hasn't had to ever make any effort to learn how to be romantic or initiate foreplay. His current method is to just tell me he wants to have sex. When I complained that his method wasn't enough for me, he asked me what I want him to do. It is like I'm dealing with an adolescent boy. What resources could I steer him towards that don't include a sex therapist?
posted by LilithSilver on Aug 11, 2015 - 22 answers

How do I tell s/o they need to change everything they do in bed, for me?

I'm wrestling between not trying to date this person - who's one of my best friends - and trying to make it work. The problem is the sexuality - either the chemistry is off, or it needs to be adjusted. I just don't know *how* to do that, without hurting his feelings, or if I should at all. [more inside]
posted by meeeese on Aug 10, 2015 - 13 answers

How is babby is formed, 1980s edition

"When a Mummy and a Daddy love each other very much..." is the default amusing quote for pretending to explain the facts of life to children. It is enough of a meme it must come from somewhere. But where? [more inside]
posted by slightlybewildered on Aug 8, 2015 - 15 answers

How do you define a sex addict?

A close friend and confidante of mine has started a new relationship, but she's questioning what's "normal" for sexual appetites. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 5, 2015 - 30 answers

Boyfriend extremely pushy with sex

I have been seeing someone for 4 months. Quite a few times he was very pushy with having sex while I am sick or during period when I made it clear that I don't want to. He never actually crosses the line in forcing me to do it but I still feel weirded out. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 3, 2015 - 84 answers

Navigating the tricky waters of an ever-changing dating status tide.

Dear Mefites, this is my first question! I'm excited to hear from the community i've been reading since forever. Here's an issue I'm facing that's bothering me: someone i'm seeing has a some-what change of heart/mind towards me in terms of how he envisions our future/potential. I've been confused from the beginning as it started sexually quickly, then to possibly serious, to suddenly somewhat possibly just casual now. Grateful if any of you could advise me on what you observe his character/behavior/mindset to be, from the descriptions that I will best try to relate. Please excuse the extremely long post. [more inside]
posted by eustaciavye87 on Aug 3, 2015 - 17 answers

Are rebound relationships (and rebound sex) really often helpful?

Looking at the end of a significant LTR that's probably going to be crushing once I get over the shock. They say that the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else. I have no experience with this. Is it really often true? (they also say that low-fat deserts and education debt are good for you). [more inside]
posted by wildblueyonder on Jul 19, 2015 - 16 answers

Why might people want more sex in my writing? Why don't I?

I'm no prude. But I don't like writing sex scenes. I've been told on multiple occasions that my writing suffers from a lack of detail when it comes to getting it on. Are you a writer? Did you face a similar issue? How did you resolve it? [more inside]
posted by angrycat on Jul 15, 2015 - 20 answers

How to talk about sexual dissatisfaction

My partner of twelve years is kind of selfish in bed, but also pretty sensitive about talking about it and hasn't taken any initiative after previous discussions. How should I approach this? Am I asking for too much? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 12, 2015 - 33 answers

My 8 year relationship lacks passion... should we move on?

I am in my early 30s and have been in a loving relationship for over 8 years. We live together and our lives are very intermingled. But the passion is gone, and I am beginning to wonder whether we'd be better apart. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 10, 2015 - 16 answers

How do I deal with this intimate relationship with my ex?

Today is the 1 year anniversary of my divorce. The ex, our child, and I just spent the weekend with his extended family, visiting them in another state. We laughed, played darts, had a great time. We have been doing many things together (volunteering, gardening, walking, watching shows, going out) over the last month or so. Today he broke up with his girlfriend, because, among other reasons, he and I spend so much time together. But there is a problem. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 8, 2015 - 32 answers

a big ole bag of confusion, a possible engagement, and me

When faced with sexual confusion, mental health struggles, and a possible engagement, what is a guy to do? [more inside]
posted by MyBeautifulThrowaway on Jul 8, 2015 - 27 answers

Name for science fiction writers ramping up sexual content?

There are numerous shorthand descriptions of various phenomena, like Rule 34 and Godwin's law and Sturgeon's law. Is there a shorthand term for the tendency of science fiction writers to ramp up sexual content over time? I know Heinlein did it over time. Niven did it in the Ringworld series. Simmons apparently did it. Now I find out that Herbert did it in the later Dune books. It seems to be a common phenomenon, but is there a specific name for it?
posted by Bugbread on Jul 5, 2015 - 19 answers

How can I communicate about intimacy issues?

I've been actively dating and having intimate encounters, but it's hard for me to address my sexual limitations and lack of experience with new partners. How to deal? [more inside]
posted by cosmicbeast on Jul 2, 2015 - 13 answers

How to meet guys while gay and trans

I am ftm trans and while I am not on hormones & have not had surgery, I still pass a decent amount of the time. Sometimes I get long, cruising looks from guys who I am sure are gay (on the street, in a mall). I have no idea how to move forward in these situations; porn is my entire frame of reference and I'm sure it's not that simple. How do guys meet guys in public? [more inside]
posted by AFABulous on Jul 2, 2015 - 6 answers

What's going on? How can we best enjoy sex?

We've been in a relationship for some time - I am 24 and she is 28 - but we only recently started having sex regularly because we used to live a distance from each other until we (finally!) moved in together. Both of us have physical challenges that seem to be making sex less enjoyable. [more inside]
posted by 8LeggedFriend on Jun 29, 2015 - 14 answers

boyfriend refuses to talk about sex

special snowflake details and lots of confusion within... [more inside]
posted by megan_magnolia on Jun 29, 2015 - 15 answers

I just want to hit my crotch until it starts working again

My partner just broke up with me, and I’m pretty sure it’s because I have no desire to have sex. Can I be fixed? What do I do about us? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 26, 2015 - 26 answers

First time woes...

Short version: I had sex for the first time with someone I thought I really liked, but it didn't quite go the way I expected it to and now I'm completely panicking about it. Long version inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 21, 2015 - 12 answers

Sex-positive advice books on consent for prospective college kid

Asking for a friend: looking for recommendations for a book on relationships, sex, and consent that a 27-year-old brother can give to his 18-year-old sister before she leaves for university in September. [more inside]
posted by Phire on Jun 15, 2015 - 19 answers

How do I find out my boyfriend's secret desires?

I'm afraid of boring my boyfriend in bed. He's a decade older and has had quite a few relationships in his past. I can't imagine he's as vanilla as he professes to be--I'm willing to do ANYTHING, and he wants missionary every time. Does he view me as too innocent for anything else? [more inside]
posted by Guinevere on Jun 15, 2015 - 29 answers

Any recommendations for a good sex therapist in the SF East Bay?

I am looking for a good sex therapist in the SF Bay Area, preferably the east bay, as that's where I live. I need someone who identifies as female and is queer friendly. Bonus points for can talk from experience about lesbian sex. Also prefer someone who is very, very smart and who can handle the idiosyncrasies of PTSD-ish reactions. Thanks for your help!
posted by anonymous on Jun 12, 2015 - 3 answers

Unprotected sex after second mirena insertion.

My doctor didn't know the answer to this, looked at me deadpan, and said "you can wait". Obviously. I'm just curious though, having immediately replaced one mirena with another, is there still the prerequisite seven day alternative contraceptive wait time?
posted by Marinara on Jun 5, 2015 - 12 answers

Hands around my throat

My partner and I have discovered that he likes to choke me sometimes during sex and I like to be choked. How do we learn to do this safely? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 5, 2015 - 13 answers

Monkey sexual politics documentary scene

A few years ago I watched a David Attenborough nature doc in which he narrated a scene that took place in an ancient, overgrown jungle temple. An alpha male monkey was surrounded by females, and a smaller, cheeky, male monkey waited nearby. A scene unfolds where a particular female waits for the right moment, calls the cheeky monkey over when the alpha isn't looking, and quickly mates with him, before he runs off into the jungle. What is this scene from? I would LOVE to find it again. Thanks.
posted by 0bvious on Jun 3, 2015 - 5 answers

My wonderful Mr. Right sucks in bed and I don't know how to tell him

I am in love with my wonderful boyfriend of 3 months. The only problem is that he doesn't seem to care that I am not having ANY orgasms with him, he's not into oral sex (the only thing that has worked for me in the past), he's not into foreplay, he barely kisses me, and he doesn't even realize that I'm unhappy because I am too wimpy and unassertive to voice a word of complaint. He's a very macho "alpha male" old-fashioned chivalrous type and I am afraid to emasculate him by giving him directions in the bedroom or telling him that I'm not satisfied. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 3, 2015 - 55 answers

How do I meet men now?

I'm a straight, overweight but otherwise generally considered attractive, woman in her early 40's. I got out of a LTR a year and a half ago. I am more than ready to date, but having major problems finding anyone interested :( [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 29, 2015 - 25 answers

booking sex-related work as a woman

How does one navigate sex work or sexological bodywork as a female client in the United States? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 3, 2015 - 3 answers

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