My husband of 8 years and I have come to an impasse: he wants a free-love, open relationship because he stifled his sexuality as a religious person before we were married, and I want...well, not that.
How do I move forward when it means breaking the most important bond I have?
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posted by SarahBellum
on May 7, 2013 -
28 answers
I went on two dates with a guy and we clicked so hard. I ended it because he's recently separated from his wife and I'm moving out of state. WHY do I feel so torn up? It's only been two dates!
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posted by pintapicasso
on May 3, 2013 -
15 answers
My wife and I separated six months ago. Now, after marriage and individual counselling, it looks like we might be ready to give things another shot. How do we go about re-integrating our lives whilst there are still small alarm bells ringing?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 1, 2013 -
32 answers
My boyfriend has talked about us separating, but it seems like he still wants to be with me. I think he's overanalyzing our relationship to death, and I want to talk to him about how relationships take work and we should refocus on what's important to us, but is that true? How would that look, what would we do?
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posted by brisquette
on Mar 29, 2013 -
20 answers
My wife and I separated a few months ago (which was my choice, not hers) and it seems that many of the things that I left over may have been addressed, but I still feel cagey about it all. How do I square this circle in my head and in my heart? Blizzard inside.
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posted by six sided sock
on Feb 26, 2013 -
40 answers
While recognizing that I'd like your advice on the principles and best practices of a shared child custody agreement.
I currently share both joint and physical custody with my daughter's mother, and things are going just fine, but wondering if you know of any resources (online, written, or your own experiences) to help me consider what is best for my daughter now and in the future, and maybe it can serve as a general resource for other parents' looking to establish positive custody agreements.
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posted by RajahKing
on Feb 7, 2013 -
21 answers
I split up with my wife a couple of months ago, and have been doing really well since then. Recently I've been feeling a little bit like she's been stalking me on social media, and today I've woken up to messages asking me why I'm in contact with someone from my past. How do I handle this?
(I've tried to anonymise this as best I can)
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 24, 2013 -
45 answers
A couple of weeks ago, I moved out of my marital home (details in my posting history). Whilst I seem to be doing okay, most people expect me to not be. In fact, they seem to expect a fragility and sadness from me that I'm not feeling even remotely. This has lead to some judgements from people that I could have done without.
How can I navigate the sympathy of folks during the holiday season without having to pretend to be an emotional mess (which I'm not) and without suffering judgement from people who don't know the whole story (Which I can happily live without).
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posted by six sided sock
on Dec 22, 2012 -
27 answers
Please help me get my financial situation in order during a separation from my husband. Looking for advice and suggestions from your own experience, or factual knowledge of "legal separation" in Washington state. Also looking for personal experiences relating to credit counseling, credit attorneys, etc.
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posted by virginia_clemm
on Dec 7, 2012 -
7 answers
Marriage fizzling; need your best holiday coping methods to get through the rest of the year.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 4, 2012 -
12 answers
I'm ready to leave my unhappy, borderline-abusive, caretaker-y marriage (details in a series of posts, most recently
here). Do I just wait until I've got all my ducks in a row and then go, or should I be kinder, and give my spouse some kind of notice period.
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posted by six sided sock
on Nov 23, 2012 -
69 answers
I have a question regarding employer's health insurance coverage of a separated spouse. I understand that the information I might (hopefully) be given would be general and not necessarily pertinent in my case but since it's close to a holiday and I cannot get more specific information until next week, I'm hoping that some general info will calm the freakout I feel just around the corner.
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posted by SweetTeaAndABiscuit
on Nov 20, 2012 -
9 answers
Hoping for advice on setting boundaries within a co-parenting relationship following a marital separation.
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posted by justonegirl
on Nov 9, 2012 -
27 answers
You decided to leave your marriage, which has had good times but also so many bad ones. You finally came to the point where you realised you had to get out; how did you go from realising it to actually doing it, despite the inertia of being with someone whom you still loved (just not enough to overcome all the negatives in the marriage any more)?
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posted by six sided sock
on Nov 5, 2012 -
33 answers
What can I do to stop insecurity from boyfriend's from seeing into our relationship? The divorce isn't final, and it's placing a strain on our relationship. I'm afraid that my anger/confusion/fear may sabotage the relationship.
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posted by lastcall17
on Oct 28, 2012 -
14 answers
My sister is separating and likely divorcing her husband after 15 months of marriage, and my family strongly disagrees with her decision. Do we tell her this?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 21, 2012 -
65 answers
How do I help my boyfriend, who I think has adult separation anxiety disorder? How do I deal with his neediness without feeling unhappy or guilty?
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posted by DianaV
on Oct 5, 2012 -
20 answers
Asking for a very dear friend, YANAL/YANHL/TINLA/OMG/WTF: my friend wants to divorce her emotionally-abusive husband. He doesn't want a divorce and intends to fight her tooth and nail. They live in MD. What to do?
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posted by julthumbscrew
on Sep 27, 2012 -
15 answers
Please help me buckle down and survive the 16 months I have left before my husband abandons me and our kids.
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posted by justonegirl
on Aug 29, 2012 -
142 answers
Can anyone point me to a financial analysis of what would happen if Quebec separated from Canada?
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posted by Shepherd
on Aug 21, 2012 -
1 answer
Family law in Mumbai? Wondering if anyone has recommendations for lawyers practicing in Mumbai/Bombay... An older (60s) Indian couple I know appears to be heading for divorce, and I am trying to help the woman as best I can. Unfortunately, there are a number of complicating factors, and I do not personally know any lawyers in Mumbai, so I thought I would ask here. I realize it's a long shot, but it's worth a try...
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posted by aramaic
on Aug 12, 2012 -
4 answers
I think it's time for my wife and I to separate, but I have no idea exactly how to go about it. Help me out, hive mind.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 5, 2012 -
18 answers
I have a sister about to go through a separation and likely divorce while in a foreign country. Would appreciate any comments/advice on the impact of the separation on the visa of the dependent husband, and how to prevent the husband taking the child out of country.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 20, 2012 -
5 answers
I'm increasingly certain that my marriage is dying, and I need some help negotiating the time between now and my first realtionship counselling appointment. (Apologies for the long post)
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 24, 2012 -
27 answers
Post-separation/divorce depression...need a good therapist in Vancouver, BC. And also just general advice on getting back on my feet.
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posted by wutangclan
on Jun 17, 2012 -
5 answers
What can I do to cope with relationship (adult) separation anxiety/missing someone strongly? It happens after just one day without seeing my partner. I don't want to get clingy or go through so much ickiness so I need some coping ideas!
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posted by hungry hippo
on Jun 13, 2012 -
11 answers
We've been together for the past 15 years. My wife recently discovered that she in fact does not love me. It's making me feel very weak - we've started therapy, but i'm looking for ways to cope between sessions, and also come to terms with the fact that we may separate. Long story follows.
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posted by anonymous
on May 21, 2012 -
20 answers
I've been separated from my wife for over six months. During that time I got involved with someone else, but now I'm thinking about going back to my wife. Please tell me I'm not making a mistake.
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posted by quoth_the_raven
on Apr 23, 2012 -
53 answers
My dad cut all ties with me and my siblings and left the country. Now he's back and has repaired his relationship with my siblings...but not with me. What do I do? (It's a long one.)
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 6, 2012 -
32 answers
My ex has developed stuttering when he talks to me. Am I being played? Is there such a thing as emotionally-caused stuttering?
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posted by b33j
on Oct 18, 2011 -
19 answers
Ask people who knows child developmental psychology stuff about separation anxiety for 1 yr old. Will there be permanent damage to the kid?
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posted by akomom
on Sep 29, 2011 -
13 answers
TL; DR: I think my marriage is at an end, and I need some coping strategies. May be the victim of visa fraud. No money for an attorney or another place to live. Help? Suck it up?
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posted by book 'em, danno
on Sep 7, 2011 -
39 answers
SO moved out over a year ago and we made attempts to resolve issues needs and wants during that time. Admittedly, I could've put forth more effort in being a better partner. Now he is moving back in, although I'm glad about that, he's coming back as a "roommate". Oh, and I work for him.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 30, 2011 -
29 answers
My wife and I married over 27 years ago when she and I were 25; we’d known each other for three years. Our marriage has had its ups and downs--in many cases, the "downs" were provided by her unwillingness/inability to communicate honestly and openly and by my anger at same as well as my on-and-off depression. That said, we always had fun and shared love. In particular, I always stuck in there during arguments in order to try to get her and us to a point of honest communication.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 13, 2011 -
38 answers
