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Dating (and friendship): Screening for reliability

How do you screen for reliability and filter out self-centered/selfish nature in dating in real life and online dating? And, how do you find out whether a person (for dating or friendship) is a 'giver' or a 'taker'? By reliability and being a giver, I don't mean something as trivial as calling when they say they will. I mean more like being there for you when you are going through one or more major challenging life events, putting the relationship and "us" before individual interests especially when the going gets rough for you and not for them individually. Does this kind of reliability even exist among partners and can one really, truly, deeply trust another human being or do you feel you always have to watch your back even with a partner of months or years or decades?
posted by xm on May 7, 2013 - 20 answers

Stop Shooting Myself in the Foot

I keep picking women who don't give as much as I feel I give and so I always end up feeling used. And because I keep picking them (even though the last one should've been enough to warn me off of the next one), I also end up feeling stupid too. Meanwhile, I've had women who've given to me the way I've given to those others, but I never seem to end up with them, even though they are exactly what I say I've wanted. How can I keep the good one and stop picking the bad ones? What is my problem? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 26, 2012 - 15 answers

Depends on what your definition of "is" is.

How can I best cope with this relationship impasse? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 28, 2011 - 54 answers

Am I overreacting?

Am I overreacting to my boyfriend's behaviour? Very confused about recent events and trying to work out what to do. Details and back story under the cut. Anonymous due to private details. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 23, 2011 - 50 answers

heartless heartbreaker

Why do I keep stringing people along/breaking their hearts? Or...why do I not seem to be able to love deeply? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 23, 2011 - 33 answers

Grief vs Sexuality

How do I reconcile my interests and passions with creativity and human sexuality, in the face of death, grief, and tragedy? Are there any thoughtful heartfelt resources from those who have talked about the two? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Jan 3, 2011 - 10 answers

How to help a person to see the better side(s) of life?

I have been with my girlfriend for what will be 4 months total as of October 4th. Still feels like the “honeymoon” period. Though, neither of us have had the best lives, so meeting each other was a blessing to say the least. Life changing in a lot of ways. The only issue that seems to ever come up doesn't even directly relate to us or our relationship. It's her one friend of 3 years. [more inside]
posted by jolynntech on Sep 24, 2010 - 21 answers

How selfish is too selfish?

How much selfishness is normal in a relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 19, 2010 - 33 answers

These Days

Help me become less selfish/self-absorbed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 14, 2010 - 16 answers

Am I Selfish?

I have just broken up with my girlfriend, because I can't change. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 8, 2009 - 54 answers

How do I become more humble?

Help me become less selfish [more inside]
posted by Scientifik on Nov 3, 2008 - 19 answers

Can I buy the bride a pair of reality goggles?

What do you do when buying a gift for friends soon to be (re)married but think the happy pair are being selfish twits? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 5, 2008 - 44 answers

How to handle pushy former flame?

Do I stay or do I go? A former flame wants to be a friend, and I'm honestly at wit's end about what to do. [long explanation] [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 13, 2008 - 26 answers

My mother-in-law secretly baptized my Jewish children

I'm Jewish. My wife converted many years ago. I found out that my Mother-In-Law secretly baptized my children. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 27, 2007 - 114 answers

Does helping others succeed hurt your own success?

Can helping aspiring authors succeed somehow help me, or does it hurt my own chances of being published? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 22, 2006 - 19 answers

selfish to confess a crush?

Would confessing my crush be selfish? [more inside]
posted by invitapriore on Jul 26, 2006 - 27 answers

Schizophrenics are selfish?

Are schizophrenics really selfish? (warning: spoilers to an old episode of House) [more inside]
posted by dagnyscott on Jun 16, 2006 - 15 answers

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