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staying away from a toxic forum

How do I stop myself from crawling back to this toxic forum where I keep getting verbally abused? [more inside]
posted by timsneezed on Jan 10, 2012 - 49 answers

My breasts are large for my frame, how can I downplay them and avoid back pain?

My breasts are disproportionately large for my frame (34E/F, 5'2", upper-normal BMI). Because of this, my posture is terrible and my style has been decidedly cramped. Short of getting a breast reduction, how can I dress better, improve my posture, and keep my back from hurting all the time? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 17, 2011 - 26 answers

"Take these broken wings and learn to fly/All your life/You were only waiting for this moment to arise"

Help me learn to not be such a doormat – and maybe get a tattoo to remind me not to be one. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 8, 2011 - 12 answers

"Please like me."

Why do I get so stressed out by the idea of confrontation, or of people being angry with me? I obsess about it for ages. How can I move past this constant need for people to approve of me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 30, 2011 - 21 answers

How to stop worrying and love myself

Lately I have been binging on self-help books, surfing the internet for articles on family issues -- I just want an answer, to know what went wrong and how to fix it. But everything seems hollow. I feel horribly stuck and I desperately want to move forward and I don't know how. Lots and lots of details inside. [more inside]
posted by bunderful on Nov 27, 2011 - 18 answers

Why can't I like my body?

Body dysmorphic disorder with no insurance, self diagnose before investing in a shrink? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 16, 2011 - 14 answers

Unemployment is wrecking my self-esteem. How do I keep going?

Six months of unemployment has destroyed my self-esteem. Help me persist through the awfulness of writing cover letters and applying to jobs. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 7, 2011 - 20 answers

What am I doing wrong in my relationships?

Why do my relationships enter the LET'S MAKE THIS A SERIOUS COMMITMENT I WANT TO SPEND MY LIFE WITH YOU stage at an absurdly rapid pace? I used to think this was a kind of charming quirk, but my apparent inability to slow things down in order to determine the suitability of my partner has begun to concern me a bit. Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 7, 2011 - 31 answers

No, really, you don't want to publish that.

How do I deal with my impending success? Is there any way I can feel like less of a fraud, and can anyone who has been through this before give me tips to move the process along? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 11, 2011 - 21 answers

Stupidity or self esteem?

He says it's poor memory and stupidity. I say it's low self esteem and insecurity. How to tell? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 25, 2011 - 20 answers

I'm Gonna Like Me!

BookFilter: Please help me find the adult equivalent of I'm Gonna Like Me [more inside]
posted by thewestinggame on Aug 10, 2011 - 1 answer

How can I learn to be more assertive?

I want to be more assertive - to be able to express my needs, ask for and state things clearly without feeling guilty or being whiny. Please give me suggestions for how to learn and especially how to practice/build up to this so it becomes a habit. [more inside]
posted by needs more cowbell on Jul 8, 2011 - 20 answers

Moving on from a bipolar ex

Recent break up, ex is bipolar, need some help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 6, 2011 - 9 answers

just please don't hate me more

I would like some help in dealing with my insecurities. How can I ask it from my loved ones without coming across as selfish or annoying? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 6, 2011 - 21 answers

Show me the money, or help me to say no.

My boss wants to fly me from Sydney to Perth to assist in training new employees. Should I ask "What's in it for me?" [more inside]
posted by robotot on May 23, 2011 - 29 answers

Thriving as an adult after a dysfunctional authoritarian childhood?

Resources for adults who have trouble living day to day after growing up in an authoritative family in which abuse was present? [more inside]
posted by GEB's fun world on May 7, 2011 - 6 answers

Weren't we supposed to get along once I grew up?

My mother and I have a difficult relationship. Looking for advice about how to get through a period during which my mother, my daughter, and I are spending a lot of time together. (And, yes, there's a lot more information inside.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 11, 2011 - 18 answers

How can I overcome my fear of self-promotion?

How can I get better at promoting myself and my work, without dwelling on my failures or fearing I'll be judged? [more inside]
posted by cortisol on Apr 2, 2011 - 11 answers

My boss thinks I'm dumb. Maybe I am.

My boss thinks I'm incompetent. Maybe I am. Sinking self esteem inside: [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 26, 2011 - 22 answers

Does cosmetic surgery actually work?

Does cosmetic surgery actually make people happier? [more inside]
posted by metaBugs on Mar 21, 2011 - 10 answers

How to overcome feeling lost, aimless, confused, and alone?

How to overcome feeling lost, aimless, confused, and alone? Thirty years into my life, I feel like I haven't accomplished anything, and I'm not sure how to go about achieving the things I want from where I am (physically, mentally, and emotionally) right now. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 27, 2011 - 21 answers

Used to be confident, got the girl, now I'm a wreck. Why?

I was confident and had loads of self esteem right up to the moment I actually started a real relationship. Now I'm a mess. How did I lose it all? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 10, 2011 - 23 answers


I'm a bit lazy, and a bit irresponsible. But most of all, I'm scared. Hope me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 9, 2011 - 19 answers

thicker than a snickers

I suspect that my boyfriend likes women who are 'thicker' than me. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 8, 2011 - 27 answers

Stay positive positive after moving back home?

How do I not put myself down after moving back in with my parents at 24 after almost losing my job due to alcohol? [more inside]
posted by nurgle on Nov 20, 2010 - 31 answers

Need clips about self esteem

Need clips discussing self esteem and need them fast. [more inside]
posted by cali59 on Nov 3, 2010 - 5 answers

How can I put myself first in my life?

I've always been a "fixer/problem solver/peacemaker". How do I really focus on myself instead of thinking about others? [more inside]
posted by MultiFaceted on Sep 18, 2010 - 14 answers

Sexless wife feels fat.

Should I be worried if my husband refuses to have sex? Or is it just me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 14, 2010 - 33 answers

How to handle feelings of inadequacies ?

How do I diminish my feelings of envy ? At work. I'm surrounded with married folks gushing about their new born babies, their super-awesome wife or husband (I am single by the way). Online, my facebook/twitter friends promotes their fast-paced lifestyle, the gadgets they've acquired, their overseas travels, the concerts they're attending & generally all of them have way more facebook friends or twitter followers than me. [more inside]
posted by lahersedor on Apr 15, 2010 - 32 answers

He's awesome and I need him, but he's also my boss...

What is acceptable for a mentor/mentee relationship? I feel like I'm taking mine too far... [more inside]
posted by semp on Feb 20, 2010 - 16 answers

How can I make myself feel better?

How can I make myself feel better (about myself and in general) without using food, money, or dieting inappropriately? [more inside]
posted by dumbledore69 on Jan 29, 2010 - 55 answers

Looking past the pizza face

I skipped out on most of the woes of growing up; I've never had issues with my figure (naturally wicked metabolism), never cared too much about social circle pressures, no issues with clothes and dressing up. But...I've always had issues with my skin. [more inside]
posted by Hakaisha on Jan 23, 2010 - 38 answers

Inherent self-worth?

How do you develop a sense of inherent self-worth? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 18, 2009 - 25 answers

Hell is thinking about other people.

Since childhood I've been a rather sensitive and justice-obsessed person, but also pretty interested in / attentive to the well-being and inner lives of other people. But I feel increasingly drained. In my field of work there is a lot of getting-ahead through nepotism/ingratiation rather than ability/ passion/effort, and it bothers me. In my life I have people whom I generally like and have opened up to, but who, at critical junctures, exhibit such self-absorption that I'm left feeling not only outraged but injured. I want to change the intensity and duration of my reaction to these things, as it's a huge waste of time, and sometimes upsets my own self-esteem. Please help me stop thinking about other people without becoming alienated and alienating.
posted by taramosalata on Nov 18, 2009 - 9 answers

Just asking this question feels like self-indulgent wallowing

Why am I such a pathetic sad-sack these days, and how can I shape up before I drive all my friends away? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 14, 2009 - 15 answers

What's a kid to do?

I have had self-esteem, confidence, and anxiety issues my entire life. Lately, my confidence has been getting much better, but it is still very unstable. More than anything else, I want to be able to feel good about myself consistently. Is this possible, given my background (see inside)? If so, please share your success stories or advice on what I can do to feel good. [more inside]
posted by ahrara_ on Aug 31, 2009 - 14 answers

He said I'm chubby, but now he says he didn't mean it...

A week ago, my boyfriend of three years said that I was chubby. I am hurt, and having trouble moving on. Am I overreacting? [more inside]
posted by BusyBusyBusy on Aug 5, 2009 - 85 answers

Quitting the competition, while still running the race

Help me get my focus back on my own life and happiness and stop comparing/competing with my ex in my own mind... and stop having how I compare with others as a condition to my happiness/self esteem in general... [more inside]
posted by Chrysalis on Jun 16, 2009 - 13 answers

How to be productive all day?

How do I become the kind of person who can be productive all day? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 10, 2009 - 25 answers

What is her issue with my issues?

I have issues. My new friend takes issue with that. [more inside]
posted by crickets on Apr 3, 2009 - 31 answers

What do you do to feel 'good in your own skin'?

What do you do to feel 'good in your own skin'? [more inside]
posted by different on Feb 11, 2009 - 29 answers

Can we talk? No wait it's not like that.

Omnibus Relationship Question: Getting married, and can't wait, but have numerous small issues I want to resolve. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 13, 2009 - 20 answers

How do I learn to embrace my own mediocrity?

How do you feel good about yourself working in a career you're pretty mediocre at, but stuck in? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 9, 2009 - 17 answers

Body Image... Ugh.

Tips for improving persistently miserable body image? Warning: emo. [more inside]
posted by Ambrosia Voyeur on Dec 8, 2008 - 56 answers

Help me not care.

How can I ignore my ego and feelings of self-importance? [more inside]
posted by PFL on Oct 30, 2008 - 19 answers

How to help a teenage girl do what she loves?

Two part interrelated question: 1) How to improve the self esteem of a 16 year old girl 2) who can't act but would like to be a good actor [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 2, 2008 - 24 answers

books on cd for depression and low self esteem

I'm looking for books on cd that help with low self-esteem and depression. I'm not religious or spiritual and not looking to become rich, just want some inspiration and practical techniques.
posted by anonymous on Aug 4, 2008 - 6 answers

Show me people who feel good about the way they look.

I'm looking for pictures that could serve as an antidote to "thinspiration". [more inside]
posted by arianell on Jul 18, 2008 - 21 answers

How do I rebuild my self-esteem after a break-up?

How can I rebuild my self-esteem after a break-up? [more inside]
posted by zembla3 on Jul 9, 2008 - 18 answers

To sleep? Perchance to sleep?

Dear Type A personality, what helps you ward off insomnia? [more inside]
posted by MaddyRex on Jun 19, 2008 - 20 answers

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