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Scatterbrained sadness. How to feel better about myself?

I've been having a hard time for the past few months. With what? Just being me! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 15, 2013 - 8 answers

How to cure longstanding self-loathing?

Have you managed to come around from loathing yourself (and I do mean loathing), to being ok with yourself? How did you do it? I hate every aspect of my being, from my looks to my personality, and it’s grinding me down. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 1, 2013 - 40 answers

How to fix self-esteem after a failed crush?

I recently found out the girl I have crush on is traveling the world with her rock star boyfriend. I can let go of the crush, but I'm having a hard time with my self-esteem by comparing myself to him. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 2, 2013 - 32 answers

Getting over a toxic boss in time for a new job

For the past year or so, I've been supervised by an especially moody and critical manager. Fortunately, my contract ended and I'm getting ready to start a new job at a different organization. How can I get over my grudges and feel confident in my new position? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 8, 2013 - 9 answers

How do you deal with jealousy of your spouse/partner?

My partner and I are currently at rather different points in our careers. I have struggled for years to make a living out of freelancing in one area. I'm told I'm good at it but have never made it into a company that can offer me long term work, career development or support. My partner has a stable job in a multinational company and has just been offered and started training in my area, with a probable supported move into my area in the next couple of years. I am not dealing with this very well. Have you dealt with something similar, can you offer advice? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 12, 2013 - 23 answers

I want to not need this validation.

I think I have a problem with self esteem. Objectively, I know that I am a physically attractive person. This has been confirmed by plenty of people throughout my life. I want more than anything to be told by my husband that I am beautiful in certain ways, but he can't or won't. I don't want to need something from him that he is unable to give. How can I either stop focusing on this, or learn how to validate myself without his input? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 22, 2013 - 33 answers

Help breaking a cycle of destructive thinking and behavior?

I have some very poor ingrained behaviors that center around low self-esteem. Has anyone been successful in interrupting the chain from emotional reaction->saying stupid things->causing upset and hurt? If so, how? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 8, 2013 - 8 answers

How do I forgive myself for being a pothead?

I started smoking weed in my early twenties, when I moved away from my hometown to a larger city in a different country. It's enough to say that I wasn't adapted well to being on my own; that, combined with the stress of a new job, a language barrier, and a few health problems that chipped away at my self-esteem, led me to take comfort in marijuana, on and off, for ten years. How do I forgive myself for the feelings of shame I have? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 8, 2013 - 26 answers

How to deal with feelings of inadequacy?

I'll be blunt: I think I married a man who is too good for me. I'm having trouble dealing with my feelings of low self-worth and am tormented by insecurity. It's like the relationship version of Imposter Syndrome. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 21, 2013 - 27 answers

TIRED of being a virgin!

I'm a 20 year old girl, and I've never been in a relationship. I feel weird about that. Where do I meet guys, apart from school, and how do I get more confidence? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 17, 2013 - 19 answers

How can I figure this all out?

My self esteem is at an all time low. I have a huge case of impostor syndrome. I feel like I half ass everything, this has got to stop, it's making my life miserable. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 12, 2012 - 27 answers

Can I start over in my own town?

New leaf, same old city? Seeking advice—both practical and symbolic—on attempting a "fresh start" in a city I've lived in for 10 years. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 23, 2012 - 9 answers

I wish I could be a completely different person.

I have so many problems--I'm so far from being the person I want to be --that I don't even know where to start. If you were me, what would you do this week to try to build up to some change? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 23, 2012 - 45 answers

"Is it the sea you hear in me, its dissatisfactions? Or the voice of nothing, that was your madness?"

How do I deal with my (very insecure and overly sensitive) friend's tendency to take things said in passing as deep, personal criticisms? I used to be able to take it in stride but his recent prescription steroid treatments have ramped this trait up to stratospheric levels. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 4, 2012 - 8 answers

What would you do with a million dollars? "Nothing."

Is Ambition required for Success? Is it possible to be too well adjusted? What if you don't like what you're good at? I have been struggling with the concepts of ambition and achievement in regard to self-esteem and a sense of self-worth (warning: long, vague) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 29, 2012 - 15 answers

respect after getting dumped?

Does the person who did the breaking up typically look down on the person broken up with? How can I stop worrying about this issue? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 23, 2012 - 23 answers

how do you stop caring what other people think?

When you have very low self esteem how do you brush off negative feedback? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 18, 2012 - 11 answers

Hair Loss and Depression

I'm a 24-year-old female with severe hair loss from Accutane, and it's only getting worse. How do I get past this, emotionally and practically? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 16, 2012 - 18 answers

One word: earphones

I have a lot of weight, eating, and body-image related issues that I am trying my best to overcome. It is going to be a long hard slog. I'm much better than I used to be, but one thing that makes me feel really bad is when colleagues and friends talk about dieting and working out. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 26, 2012 - 30 answers

How can I get over the emotional baggage from my failed startup?

I was bullied out of one startup and joined another one that is struggling. How can I regain my professional confidence and move on with my life? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 8, 2012 - 11 answers

Living with yourself after doing a horrible and selfish thing

I need help in moving on with my life after telling a lie. Many lies. That hurt someone very badly. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 22, 2012 - 28 answers

My breasts are large for my frame, how can I downplay them and avoid back pain?

My breasts are disproportionately large for my frame (34E/F, 5'2", upper-normal BMI). Because of this, my posture is terrible and my style has been decidedly cramped. Short of getting a breast reduction, how can I dress better, improve my posture, and keep my back from hurting all the time? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 17, 2011 - 26 answers

"Take these broken wings and learn to fly/All your life/You were only waiting for this moment to arise"

Help me learn to not be such a doormat – and maybe get a tattoo to remind me not to be one. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 8, 2011 - 12 answers

"Please like me."

Why do I get so stressed out by the idea of confrontation, or of people being angry with me? I obsess about it for ages. How can I move past this constant need for people to approve of me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 30, 2011 - 21 answers

Why can't I like my body?

Body dysmorphic disorder with no insurance, self diagnose before investing in a shrink? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 16, 2011 - 14 answers

Unemployment is wrecking my self-esteem. How do I keep going?

Six months of unemployment has destroyed my self-esteem. Help me persist through the awfulness of writing cover letters and applying to jobs. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 7, 2011 - 20 answers

What am I doing wrong in my relationships?

Why do my relationships enter the LET'S MAKE THIS A SERIOUS COMMITMENT I WANT TO SPEND MY LIFE WITH YOU stage at an absurdly rapid pace? I used to think this was a kind of charming quirk, but my apparent inability to slow things down in order to determine the suitability of my partner has begun to concern me a bit. Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 7, 2011 - 31 answers

No, really, you don't want to publish that.

How do I deal with my impending success? Is there any way I can feel like less of a fraud, and can anyone who has been through this before give me tips to move the process along? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 11, 2011 - 21 answers

Stupidity or self esteem?

He says it's poor memory and stupidity. I say it's low self esteem and insecurity. How to tell? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 25, 2011 - 20 answers

Moving on from a bipolar ex

Recent break up, ex is bipolar, need some help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 6, 2011 - 9 answers

just please don't hate me more

I would like some help in dealing with my insecurities. How can I ask it from my loved ones without coming across as selfish or annoying? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 6, 2011 - 21 answers

Weren't we supposed to get along once I grew up?

My mother and I have a difficult relationship. Looking for advice about how to get through a period during which my mother, my daughter, and I are spending a lot of time together. (And, yes, there's a lot more information inside.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 11, 2011 - 18 answers

My boss thinks I'm dumb. Maybe I am.

My boss thinks I'm incompetent. Maybe I am. Sinking self esteem inside: [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 26, 2011 - 22 answers

How to overcome feeling lost, aimless, confused, and alone?

How to overcome feeling lost, aimless, confused, and alone? Thirty years into my life, I feel like I haven't accomplished anything, and I'm not sure how to go about achieving the things I want from where I am (physically, mentally, and emotionally) right now. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 27, 2011 - 21 answers

Used to be confident, got the girl, now I'm a wreck. Why?

I was confident and had loads of self esteem right up to the moment I actually started a real relationship. Now I'm a mess. How did I lose it all? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 10, 2011 - 23 answers

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I'm a bit lazy, and a bit irresponsible. But most of all, I'm scared. Hope me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 9, 2011 - 19 answers

thicker than a snickers

I suspect that my boyfriend likes women who are 'thicker' than me. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 8, 2011 - 27 answers

Sexless wife feels fat.

Should I be worried if my husband refuses to have sex? Or is it just me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 14, 2010 - 33 answers

Inherent self-worth?

How do you develop a sense of inherent self-worth? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 18, 2009 - 25 answers

Just asking this question feels like self-indulgent wallowing

Why am I such a pathetic sad-sack these days, and how can I shape up before I drive all my friends away? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 14, 2009 - 15 answers

How to be productive all day?

How do I become the kind of person who can be productive all day? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 10, 2009 - 25 answers

Can we talk? No wait it's not like that.

Omnibus Relationship Question: Getting married, and can't wait, but have numerous small issues I want to resolve. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 13, 2009 - 20 answers

How do I learn to embrace my own mediocrity?

How do you feel good about yourself working in a career you're pretty mediocre at, but stuck in? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 9, 2009 - 17 answers

How to help a teenage girl do what she loves?

Two part interrelated question: 1) How to improve the self esteem of a 16 year old girl 2) who can't act but would like to be a good actor [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 2, 2008 - 24 answers

books on cd for depression and low self esteem

I'm looking for books on cd that help with low self-esteem and depression. I'm not religious or spiritual and not looking to become rich, just want some inspiration and practical techniques.
posted by anonymous on Aug 4, 2008 - 6 answers

Coping with balding at 19.

I'm losing my hair at 19 and I'm becoming an emotional wreck. A different person. How do I cope with this and become my old confident self again? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 20, 2008 - 56 answers

My friends are wealthy. I am not. Why do I feel ashamed and inadequate?

My friends are wealthy. I am not. Why do I feel ashamed and inadequate? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 21, 2006 - 31 answers

Insecurity in a relationship

How do I learn to overcome (better: eliminate) deep-seated insecurity in a relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 27, 2006 - 18 answers

How to stop a trainwreck

How do i convince my mother to change her life? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 2, 2005 - 12 answers

First impressions; can I improve mine?

If you met me for the first time, you'd probably think: 'He looks a bit odd'. Long, pointy nose, droopy eyes, distinct lack of chin, tall and gangly, often look sad or tired when I'm actually not. Usually, I am very unself-conscious about it, but I am aware of it somewhere in the very back of my mind. When meeting someone for the first time (in a social or work context), I'll probably not think about it at all and just attempt the usual small talk (another weakness, but hey, that's another potential thread). But later, I might dwell on the fact that whoever this person was probably came away thinking the odd/ugly thing. I still have a healthy circle of friends and there's no long-term effect. But is there anything I can do to lessen the short-term odd-factor - dress better? Sparkle with wit and intelligence? Tell jokes? Not bothered about this romance-wise (married), just social- or work-wise. Male, by the way.
posted by anonymous on Dec 7, 2004 - 32 answers

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