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How do I feel better about my looks?

Being the adult human being that I am, I'm not as thin as I was in my early 20s. Intellectually, I am fine with this. Emotionally, not so much? How can I be more confident about the way I look? [more inside]
posted by Sara C. on Sep 6, 2014 - 33 answers

I will go down with this ship

How does an insecure person become a good manager? Is it possible? - [more inside]
posted by themaskedwonder on May 28, 2014 - 15 answers

Ghost in the brain

Based on my dysfunctional upbringing, it finally occurred to me that a lot my anxiety comes from being concerned that I will get "in trouble" a disproportionate amount for doing something that I didn't know was so wrong as to be deserving of the punishment. I have just recently started therapy again and will certainly bring this up, but I'm sure some of you will have some advice for me. [more inside]
posted by inmyhead on May 15, 2014 - 15 answers

Building better judgment

I lack good judgment, common sense, and impulse control. Is there a way to improve any of these things? [more inside]
posted by silly me on Mar 1, 2014 - 16 answers

The Greatest Love of ALLL

How do I like myself more? [more inside]
posted by dinosaurprincess on Feb 17, 2014 - 14 answers

How do I get a boyfriend?

How do people go from crushes to more? [more inside]
posted by dinosaurprincess on Jan 14, 2014 - 23 answers

Scatterbrained sadness. How to feel better about myself?

I've been having a hard time for the past few months. With what? Just being me! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 15, 2013 - 8 answers

How to cure longstanding self-loathing?

Have you managed to come around from loathing yourself (and I do mean loathing), to being ok with yourself? How did you do it? I hate every aspect of my being, from my looks to my personality, and it’s grinding me down. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 1, 2013 - 40 answers

Am I overreacting or is this totally illegal/wrong?

The new job I applied for called a work reference I did not authorize and I got a bad review. Should I leave this entire job off my resume? Bonus general career anxiety/issues inside! [more inside]
posted by themaskedwonder on Aug 21, 2013 - 28 answers

Strong Single Woman? Is there like...Cliff notes for this or something?

I'm single again. I know...KNOW that I MUST learn how to be OK with myself single. I crave being that strong, single women that people are drawn to and admire. But I'm to the point that I can't just say "I'm amazing!" and *snaps fingers* everything is peachy keen again. I need some specific things to do in order to move forward, distract myself from my loneliness, and learn to like being single. Can you add to the list of things to do? Come on in! [more inside]
posted by MultiFaceted on Aug 16, 2013 - 26 answers

dying alone with cats/fear of intimacy

I need to get over my fear of intimacy. I need help recognizing self-sabotaging behavior, when dealing with the opposite sex and otherwise, that is preventing me from having a grown-up healthy heterosexual relationship. [more inside]
posted by DayTripper on Aug 4, 2013 - 18 answers

Self-Esteem 101

How do you square having good self-esteem without becoming a narcissist? [more inside]
posted by tafetta, darling! on Aug 3, 2013 - 16 answers

How to fix self-esteem after a failed crush?

I recently found out the girl I have crush on is traveling the world with her rock star boyfriend. I can let go of the crush, but I'm having a hard time with my self-esteem by comparing myself to him. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 2, 2013 - 32 answers

How to curb career-related jealousy in a relationship?

My boyfriend (of 8 months) and I work in the same industry, but have different aspirations and skillsets. We more or less started "on the same level," but he's shooting quickly up the ladder since getting a promotion and I'm stuck in an awful rut at my current company. How do I cope with this? [more inside]
posted by themaskedwonder on Aug 2, 2013 - 8 answers

How many mistakes do most people make in a day or week?

I worry that I make an abnormally large amount of mistakes at work. How often is "normal" to make mistakes? [more inside]
posted by tweedle on Jul 16, 2013 - 15 answers

It'd be improper to tell him his joke made me suicidal, I guess.

I keep finding myself in a peculiar and incredibly disheartening group social dynamic. I need practical guidance on how to "fix" the latest one, and maybe some suggestions on how to head these things off before we get to Suicidal Ideation pass. [more inside]
posted by Fee Phi Faux Phumb I Smell t'Socks o' a Puppetman! on Jun 22, 2013 - 58 answers

Going bald at 23 is not an option. What do I do?

I'm a 23-year-old guy, my hairline is starting to recede, and I want to know what my real options are. [more inside]
posted by nickhb on Jun 13, 2013 - 40 answers

Getting over a toxic boss in time for a new job

For the past year or so, I've been supervised by an especially moody and critical manager. Fortunately, my contract ended and I'm getting ready to start a new job at a different organization. How can I get over my grudges and feel confident in my new position? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 8, 2013 - 9 answers

Please don't let middle school go on forever in my head.

People don’t like me. Somehow, I’m one of those individuals who rub most of the population the wrong way. All right, then. With that knowledge, how do I move ahead and have a decent life? [more inside]
posted by silly me on May 19, 2013 - 24 answers

How do you deal with jealousy of your spouse/partner?

My partner and I are currently at rather different points in our careers. I have struggled for years to make a living out of freelancing in one area. I'm told I'm good at it but have never made it into a company that can offer me long term work, career development or support. My partner has a stable job in a multinational company and has just been offered and started training in my area, with a probable supported move into my area in the next couple of years. I am not dealing with this very well. Have you dealt with something similar, can you offer advice? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 12, 2013 - 23 answers

I want to not need this validation.

I think I have a problem with self esteem. Objectively, I know that I am a physically attractive person. This has been confirmed by plenty of people throughout my life. I want more than anything to be told by my husband that I am beautiful in certain ways, but he can't or won't. I don't want to need something from him that he is unable to give. How can I either stop focusing on this, or learn how to validate myself without his input? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 22, 2013 - 33 answers

Help breaking a cycle of destructive thinking and behavior?

I have some very poor ingrained behaviors that center around low self-esteem. Has anyone been successful in interrupting the chain from emotional reaction->saying stupid things->causing upset and hurt? If so, how? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 8, 2013 - 8 answers

How do I forgive myself for being a pothead?

I started smoking weed in my early twenties, when I moved away from my hometown to a larger city in a different country. It's enough to say that I wasn't adapted well to being on my own; that, combined with the stress of a new job, a language barrier, and a few health problems that chipped away at my self-esteem, led me to take comfort in marijuana, on and off, for ten years. How do I forgive myself for the feelings of shame I have? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 8, 2013 - 26 answers

How to deal with feelings of inadequacy?

I'll be blunt: I think I married a man who is too good for me. I'm having trouble dealing with my feelings of low self-worth and am tormented by insecurity. It's like the relationship version of Imposter Syndrome. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 21, 2013 - 27 answers

TIRED of being a virgin!

I'm a 20 year old girl, and I've never been in a relationship. I feel weird about that. Where do I meet guys, apart from school, and how do I get more confidence? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 17, 2013 - 19 answers

How can I get over feeling like I'm not good enough?

Due to my dad, I feel like I am stupid and can't do anything right. How can I rebuild my self-confidence? [more inside]
posted by stedman15 on Dec 4, 2012 - 16 answers

Now that I'm single, how do I stop needing validation from men?

Now that I'm single, how do I stop needing validation from men? [more inside]
posted by moons in june on Nov 27, 2012 - 16 answers

I don't like being me

I have recently realized that I am a selfish person, and I'm afraid my selfishness has been sabatoging my chances at having lasting, fulfilling relationships. I'm also self-loathing, which doesn't help matters, either. [more inside]
posted by dean_deen on Nov 22, 2012 - 22 answers

How can I figure this all out?

My self esteem is at an all time low. I have a huge case of impostor syndrome. I feel like I half ass everything, this has got to stop, it's making my life miserable. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 12, 2012 - 27 answers

Can I start over in my own town?

New leaf, same old city? Seeking advice—both practical and symbolic—on attempting a "fresh start" in a city I've lived in for 10 years. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 23, 2012 - 9 answers

The oldest story ever told.

Do we all need therapy? What in the hell is going on? [more inside]
posted by themaskedwonder on Aug 21, 2012 - 40 answers

I wish I could be a completely different person.

I have so many problems--I'm so far from being the person I want to be --that I don't even know where to start. If you were me, what would you do this week to try to build up to some change? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 23, 2012 - 45 answers

Please provide some anecdotal evidence that it can, as you claim, get better...

Help me find some inspiring examples of individuals who floundered and failed through their young adulthood, but ultimately obtained success and/or happiness (either by their own or society's definition). [more inside]
posted by lordcorvid on Jul 1, 2012 - 18 answers

Things said can't be unsaid

How do you deal with the horribly cruel things people have said to you throughout your life? [more inside]
posted by thrasher on Jun 25, 2012 - 66 answers

Facebook's Skewing My Sense of Real Friendship

I'm a supportive, loyal, and giving friend. My friends do not treat me the same way. [more inside]
posted by iLoveTheRain on Jun 9, 2012 - 45 answers

Help me get rid of the princess complex

I have no idea how to be independent. I’m in my early twenties, working and living in a big metropolitan city, finally in my own apartment with roommates but I’m very reliant on my parents to get by. I was also very reliant on my ex-boyfriend, whom I still love dearly, to take care of things for me and I want to change that now that I’m single. [more inside]
posted by themaskedwonder on Jun 4, 2012 - 49 answers

What is normal and how do I minimize any discomfort?

Are my boundaries "normal" or oversensitive, and should I apply them to this person I am soon to meet? Supersnowflakery within. [more inside]
posted by thrasher on Jun 3, 2012 - 18 answers

"Is it the sea you hear in me, its dissatisfactions? Or the voice of nothing, that was your madness?"

How do I deal with my (very insecure and overly sensitive) friend's tendency to take things said in passing as deep, personal criticisms? I used to be able to take it in stride but his recent prescription steroid treatments have ramped this trait up to stratospheric levels. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 4, 2012 - 8 answers

What would you do with a million dollars? "Nothing."

Is Ambition required for Success? Is it possible to be too well adjusted? What if you don't like what you're good at? I have been struggling with the concepts of ambition and achievement in regard to self-esteem and a sense of self-worth (warning: long, vague) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 29, 2012 - 15 answers

respect after getting dumped?

Does the person who did the breaking up typically look down on the person broken up with? How can I stop worrying about this issue? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 23, 2012 - 23 answers

how do you stop caring what other people think?

When you have very low self esteem how do you brush off negative feedback? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 18, 2012 - 11 answers

Hair Loss and Depression

I'm a 24-year-old female with severe hair loss from Accutane, and it's only getting worse. How do I get past this, emotionally and practically? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 16, 2012 - 18 answers

Is it normal for a woman to begin feeling invisible in her thirties?

Is it normal for a woman to begin feeling invisible in her thirties? Please excuse the fact that this question might come off as totally narcissistic and a little crazy but it's been something that has been on my mind a lot lately and I was hoping to get some perspective on the situation. [more inside]
posted by thelastgirl on Apr 4, 2012 - 48 answers

One word: earphones

I have a lot of weight, eating, and body-image related issues that I am trying my best to overcome. It is going to be a long hard slog. I'm much better than I used to be, but one thing that makes me feel really bad is when colleagues and friends talk about dieting and working out. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 26, 2012 - 30 answers

"why, what a remarkably self possessed young woman"

What are specific things have you done that have improved your self-esteem and confidence? [more inside]
posted by geegollygosh on Mar 16, 2012 - 40 answers

How can I get over the emotional baggage from my failed startup?

I was bullied out of one startup and joined another one that is struggling. How can I regain my professional confidence and move on with my life? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 8, 2012 - 11 answers

I want you to want me. And you. And you...and you too.

How do I get over not feeling wanted? For a long time (since childhood for sure) I have never felt "wanted" by anyone. I am absolutely tired of feeling this way, especially when rejected for relationships, but I cannot honestly wrap my head around how to move forward. HALP! [more inside]
posted by MultiFaceted on Feb 15, 2012 - 17 answers

Living with yourself after doing a horrible and selfish thing

I need help in moving on with my life after telling a lie. Many lies. That hurt someone very badly. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 22, 2012 - 28 answers

staying away from a toxic forum

How do I stop myself from crawling back to this toxic forum where I keep getting verbally abused? [more inside]
posted by timsneezed on Jan 10, 2012 - 49 answers

My breasts are large for my frame, how can I downplay them and avoid back pain?

My breasts are disproportionately large for my frame (34E/F, 5'2", upper-normal BMI). Because of this, my posture is terrible and my style has been decidedly cramped. Short of getting a breast reduction, how can I dress better, improve my posture, and keep my back from hurting all the time? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 17, 2011 - 26 answers

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