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Anonymous — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 14:23:43 -0800

Sexual assault recovery filter: It's been 15 years, I'm well, but I still have some physical scarring that I'm self-conscious about my husband seeing (newly married). I guess there are two parts to my question.

I'm not sure how I'm going to explain the evidence to my husband. He has not actually seen anything yet, but I'm sure that day will come soon. We have a great and adventurous sex life. My scarring is a result of being sodomized by my attacker. Some day, when we have the lights on, DH will notice and probably wonder what he is seeing. And I will, of course, explain the deal. While I am as healed psychologically as I will ever be- discussing the specifics of my attack is going to be uncomfortable for me and painful for him to hear. He knows the story, but I haven't given, you know, a graphic description of everything that happened.

Fretting about this has led me to wonder if I can have some sort of cosmetic surgery to fix/ mask the scars... but, that involves explaining everything to yet another doctor- this is a conversation that makes me seize up when I imagine having it. "Can you fix the scar that's around my xxx? Right, I guess you'll need to see it to answer that question..." I have a lump in my throat typing this.

I lean towards explaining all of this to DH. I worry so much that it will so upset him to know the extent of my wounds, that the carefree, fun, and GGG will go out of our sex lives- and I REALLY worked hard to get to a place where I can share this with someone. So then I flip-flop back to the idea of secret surgical repair...

Please help, if there is anyone at all out there who can deal with this question...and yes I have a therapist.

throwaway email: mefianon0@gmail.com

Keloid scarring from a tattoo?

doriangray — Mon, 05 May 2008 11:15:37 -0800

I know a half-Chinese, half-Filipino male with a tendency toward keloid formation who's interested in getting a first tattoo. What tattoo experience and advice do you have for him regarding the likelihood of developing a keloid at the tattoo site?

Treatments for keloids?

ClaudiaCenter — Sun, 27 Aug 2006 23:53:42 -0800

Suggestions for, experiences with, treatments for keloid scarring? Especially in Bay Area, California. This is for my foster son (biracial, black), who has scarring on his ears associated with pierced ears. We're meeting with a plastic surgeon at SF General, but surgery is not supposed to have a very high success rate for keloids. (The internet says injected steroids and pressure clips.) Also, his medical coverage is MediCal.

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