I am a petite white woman in my forties. How can I pass as a conservative? Hateful people seem to be able to tag me immediately as a leftist, no matter what I'm wearing. [more inside]
My girlfriend and I recently visited Kansas City and stayed at an Airbnb. The accommodations were great, the hosts were friendly, and our overall experience was very positive. However, the area nearby that they told us was safe is not safe (in fact, I heard a shooting there overnight). Do we mention this in our review? [more inside]
I am in some conversations about a potential new job at an organization based in Newark, NJ. When I was growing up in NJ the city had a reputation for being unsafe. My sense is that things have improved, but how much? What is it like to work in, and live in or near Newark? [more inside]
Please recommend a toaster oven available in the US market without a
stay onfeature. [more inside]
Several days a week I commute by bicycle around East Oakland, a neighborhood with limited bike infrastructure and a lot of unsafe driving, speeding, and using bike lanes as car lanes. I've had a number of near misses lately. I would like to purchase a loud horn. What bike horn have you used and liked? [more inside]
To put it bluntly my mother's driving is terrifying and sometimes dangerous. To put in context she is 70 next year and its getting worse. She speeds, drives too close to other cars, lacks concentration and acts as though she owns the road. How can my sister and I tell her things need to change and she either needs a refresher driving course or to not drive at all? We have tried telling her that her driving is scary. (Snowflakes follow) [more inside]
Do drivers of a vehicle on a road perpendicular to a road with a school bus stopped with flashing red lights have to stop for that school bus? I'm in Maryland. [more inside]
Asking for a friend: how safe are women on early morning/evening transit between New Westminster and Surrey? [more inside]
I recently entered therapy for depression, social anxiety and other issues. Part of my first session was writing up a suicide prevention/safety plan. I am supposed to have a list of things that are easy to do and take less than an hour that will help me feel better. I am struggling to come up with anything that seems like it would help. [more inside]
Our family is in need of a new car, and based on many recommendations here, a late-model used Mazda 5 seems like it would be a very good fit. However, I'm nervous because recent safety tests give the Mazda 5 a "poor" rating in the front small overlap test and a "marginal" rating in side impact tests. How much should these impact my thinking? If we do go with the Mazda 5, what's the best way to spend a bit of money (up to 1K) to increase safety? [more inside]
I'm moving to a nice but rather old apartment complex soon. There are lead and asbestos addenda in my lease (that I haven't signed yet). What, if anything, should I be careful about while living in this apartment? Should I be worried about the piping? If so, what do I do? [more inside]
Looking for hotel or AirBnB recommendations walking distance from a beach. Snowflakes: female going by myself (no travel groups/guides, please); seeking a balance of safety+pleasantness between empty (would feel too unsafe to doze, walk at sunrise) and unpleasantly packed; I don't drive so need paid/free conveyance from airport/train station to hotel/beach/groceries. [more inside]
Asking for a friend: Single US woman, mid-20s, wants to spend a week or so in Tallinn this autumn. She's heard some pretty sketchy stories about the hostel situation in the city, and is wondering how safe it would be for her to travel and stay there. Other than the usual travel precautions, is there anything in particular for her to be aware of in Tallinn?
So.. Half a package of organic, raw almonds broke open in my hiking backpack, spilling its overly expensive contents into the kind-of-gross bottom of the bag. My partner thinks the dirty nuts should be immediately discarded. I'm not so sure. Help us decide whether to toss these nuts in the trash, or grant them a second life. [more inside]
Hello. I just got confirmation from my Uni that their accommodations are setting me up with a flat in Shadwell. It was my 3rd choice and 2 trains from my college. But just reading online, I didn't realize that Shadwell doesn't have a good reputation, has had some violent crime in recent months and has some... 'Extremist' possible group activities going on there. Therefore I was wondering if anyone has any feedback, insight or experiences w/ this and these neighborhoods in the SE London/Lewisham area who can let me know which may be better options? Here is a map link to my Flat/Dorm building. [more inside]
Can anyone suggest a life jacket/life vest/PFD for an adult man with physical problems swimming who doesn't want to feel smothered by a "normal" model? [more inside]
Extended family that I visit (I'm in Canada) and stay with a few times a year have started the application for a "pistol permit" in New York state. I have a toddler who's never met a button that he didn't press or a latch he didn't fiddle with. I know it's unlikely a gun would be accessible during a visit but I've seen the statistics. My gut reaction is to not visit anyone who has a gun (maybe having one locked in a gun safe would be ok) but I don't know if that is excessive. They are buying the gun "for protection" so I am assuming it will be carried and I want to get a handle on my feelings before I discuss it with them. Have you been in this situation? How did you manage it?
I just opened a package of Florida Crystals Natural Sugar, and the odor is quite strong. It's difficult to describe, but it's kind of acrid/acidic. Can I Eat It? [more inside]
We're making BBQ sauce. Yay! A single cherry pit has been chopped up by a hand blender in an 8 quart pot of sauce. Boo! Should we toss this pot or will it be safe? [more inside]
We're thinking of doing Jamaica for Christmas. We're hearing conflicting reports about how safe it is, how serious harassment by hustlers and panhandlers is, etc. We've heard ten different schools of "common knowledge" ranging from: okay if you stay in a resort to okay if you keep your head about you to completely okay and shame on you for doubting. I'm tired of asking my pal Google and I'm looking for first hand experience. Specifically, we're interested in Negril/Montego Bay. [more inside]
My 75 year old dad is not as sharp as he used to be (recent example inside). However, he still has a motor boat that he takes out on the water (Long Island Sound) when he's up north for the summer. The problem: he continues to want to take my seven year old son out on the boat with him -- just the two of them. How can I make sure that I or my husband always accompany my son on the boat, without insulting dad's competence? [more inside]
My case is very similar to this woman's story. Otherwise I feel I'm at my wits end regarding this issue. Would appreciate thoughtful answers, as I've asked this in other forums and have gotten some of the jealous lot who say I must be a flirt, I must dress sexy, I'm a hoe, etc. -- which all are not true and are really the opposite. I have strict rules of having male friends to only past work colleagues, classmates and social circles. [more inside]
Please suggest tips and gear for keeping an active toddler safe for a week's vacation at a lakefront rental house. [more inside]
My younger sister just graduate from high school this year and will be attending a local university in the fall. Although I won't be far away, I'd like to give her some practical graduation gifts. The incidents of campus assault and rape have worried me for some time and I want her to be prepared. [more inside]
I have a lamp. The socket is marked "660W", but the outer part of the lamp says not to go over 60W. I used a 250W infrared bulb in the lamp for a few hours with no problem. Is it safe to continue doing so? Is it even safe to use a normal 60W bulb?
Soon, I'll be face-to-face with a former friend who's been harassing me. What are some things I can say/ do to get out of there, while also keeping the public 'scene' to a minimum? [more inside]
When and where in the SF Bay Area can I safely boogie board? Are there safer beaches? Safer tides? I see scary reports of several drownings a year, and it seems like all the beaches say, "Hazardous rip currents, if you go swimming you're an idiot." Baker Beach and Ocean beach don't seem especially hazardous to me, but the conventional wisdom is that they aren't safe for swimming. [more inside]
I have a bookcase in the corner of my room. I want to replace it with a taller one. Is there a safe way to anchor it given that it's not against a flat wall? Do I need to anchor it at all? [more inside]
(Opening a new business) how do I protect young employees that I will be sending into stranger's homes? How are real estate agents protecting themselves these days? My question is about screening clients and possibly live-streaming the actual meet-up. [more inside]
The IMMI GO looks interesting, since it also looks semi-portable for travelling, but doesn't yet have IIHS ratings. The seat is only available through the website, so it has no user reviews on Amazon. Does anyone have personal experience with this seat? [more inside]
I'd like to sew a version of this Amazon Cable Management Sleeve for my home office in a fabric that matches my decor. Would a loose-fitting cotton or polyester sleeve for 5-10 computer cords be flammable or dangerous? Do I need to get a different type of fabric or scrap the idea altogether?
I got stuck with a work trip to Nicaragua, and have to admit that I'm a little concerned about the safety aspect among other things. Any tips or advice to stay safe and not worry so much? [more inside]
I have a Marantz receiver that uses a C17/18 power cable. I just got a new media cabinet and it is shallow enough that the door will not close due to the clearance required for the reciver's power cable. I would like to find a replacement cable with a right angle at the female end. Please help! [more inside]
I have left over slices of abs fab BBQ beef brisket from Franklin's BBQ in Austin, TX. It will have been at room temp for 12-16 hours, wrapped in plastic. I dearly want to eat this ... dare I?
Workmen just came to my new apartment to remove a broken washing machine. After they left, I found a crushed AA battery where the machine was left. I have no idea how old it was or if they crushed it moving the washer. There was liquid on the floor, but that could have been from disconnecting the washer. How do I clean this up safely? [more inside]
My wife and I recently moved to Miami, Florida, having previously lived in more pedestrian-oriented cities. We've learned that many people view driving here as a free-for-all, with little regard for rules, responsibility, or merely trying not to kill anyone. I don't expect to single-handedly change this culture, but I would like drivers to have better awareness of one pedestrian crossing in particular and for cars to actually stop when people are walking in it. What are the things I can do to make this happen? [more inside]
I've done my research and had concluded that driving around the Yucatan with my husband would be safe - only now circumstances have changed and I'm alone. Should I still do it? Bonus points for other things a slightly morose woman could do around Cancun to lift her spirits. [more inside]
Hey all. I'm looking for advice as well a good novice level resources to beef up the IT security at my workplace regarding use of the internet. [more inside]
It occurred to me if you're making a right turn from, say, a parking lot, you would be in obvious conflict with someone in the left turn lane who decides to make a u turn (which you would have no way of knowing beforehand). When you're making a right on red or from a parking lot, do you usually wait for the left turn lane to be clear of cars? Or is that overkill? I never see people taking that precaution and I think lots of honking would result if you did.
Will TSA confiscate my emergency pain med pill box? [more inside]
Is there something like a call-for-help necklace that isn't tied to a specific location? If not, what are some ways to ensure the safety of skiers? [more inside]
Baby Grr is soon going to be crawling (yay) and my Google-fu is failing me for door safety as I am not really sure what I am looking for. On my main floor there is a door to the basement which needs to be open at least partially for the cats to get to their litter boxes, but obviously can't be open all the way with a little mover scooting around. Is there a product that will lock the door partially open?
I know it's not safe to make a left in front of a car that has stopped for you, or in front of backed up traffic, when entering the main road from a side street or parking lot since they are blocking your view. But that made me wonder about when there is cross hatching on the road specifically indicating to keep the intersection clear, and the backed up traffic is obeying those instructions. Will you turn left in such a situation? Or is that still unsafe? I have a hard time drawing the line between safe driving and just being a timid driver sometimes.
Pretty simple question: how do you keep your cat(s) from darting out the front door when you leave/come home? [more inside]
Turkey defrosted for Thanksgiving. Sat in the fridge until yesterday, when it was re-frozen. If it safe to cook and eat? [more inside]
We live on the third floor of an apartment complex, we have kittens, we need to ventilate the apartment without jeopardizing the safety of the kittens; help us solve this problem. [more inside]
So, my daughter's daycare/pre-school is doing a "safety awareness" week. Yesterday was fire safety, there was a firetruck there, the kids practiced what to do in an emergency. Today it's earthquake safety. Tomorrow, it's "Silent Evacuation / Active Shooter." This is causing me some intense anxiety. I haven't done a whole lot to prepare my four-year-old for the fact that if someone in her community has access to firearms and they feel upset that they might try to murder all the teachers and students. [more inside]
Last night I made this recipe for a creamy pork shoulder stew (which was delicious). Everything was thoroughly cooked as it was simmering for probably 1.5+ hours. I put the leftovers in a covered (but not sealed) container and forgot to put it in the fridge. I just found it this morning, so it was sitting out for about 12 hours. Can I eat this? I was thinking I could throw everything in a pot and boil it again, or perhaps microwave it.
After deciding to leave my current job that has grown to be a toxic, stressful environment which is exacerbating my mental health issues, I finally have a job offer that I am excited about! But I'm on the fence as to whether or not it's worth making the jump for - if these concerns are legitimate or if it's my anxiety holding me back from a great opportunity. Please help me decide the most appropriate course of action. [more inside]
We are friends with a family that has a daughter the same age as mine. On a recent visit, my daughter told me that the father offered to leave her and her friend (both 10 y.o.) at home alone while he went to pick up his wife. My daughter didn't want to be left alone, so he had them hide between two of the van seats as he drove to pick up his wife to play a "joke" on her. I am not ok with either of these things. [more inside]