Sure, the, "no, where are you really from?" thing gets old fast, but that's so minor compared to everything else I've experienced. How can I keep my chin up as a minority who is living in a place that is 90% white? [more inside]
My life overall is good. I want for very little in the way of material things, I have friends and lovers who are wonderful, I have fulfilling hobbies, I do meaningful volunteer and professional work, I live in my favorite place on earth, and I generally try to enjoy life to the fullest extent possible. But I also have a relationship that is secretly falling apart, body image issues directly related to the relationship problems, trouble finding enough work to be comfortably financially independent, parents on the other side of the country who are suffering in ways I cant do anything to help with, and a few other things going on that are legitimately upsetting. So when I have bouts of crushing sadness and feelings of hopelessness, I'm not surprised. But the bouts have been lasting longer and coming more frequently, and things feel more and more hopeless (not to the point of wanting to self-harm, but to the point of feeling like my only options are resign myself to this forever or leave everything I know and love and start over alone). Recently a friend asked me if I was depressed, and I had to stop and wonder. Could I be? Can depression co-exist with legitimate sources of sadness and despair? Should I consider seeking treatment for depression as well as figuring out how to resolve all this other crap?
I had a wisdom tooth extracted yesterday, surgically with IV sedation. I was very very nervous, but it went fine, and today the pain is under easy control from paracetamol. However, I feel not just completely drained (which is, I guess, understandable given how tense I was yesterday and the small physical trauma) but unusually sad. I can't remember the procedure due to the sedation, and I feel weirdly like I'm missing a bit of time that I shouldn't be. I feel ashamed that I was so nervous beforehand. But more than that I just feel so sad about nothing I can put my finger on. I take lofepramine for depression, which is generally pretty well under control. Would any of the drugs I might have been given yesterday counteracted it? Has anyone else experienced this?
I started lifting weights at the gym about 8 months ago. Initially I made some small gains, but I quickly plateaued and now I feel like I'm putting way more in than I'm getting out of it. As a vegetarian, should I drink like 4 protein shakes a day? [more inside]
Help! I’m having trouble adjusting to college and accepting myself, and it’s stressing me out. What can I do to fix this? Lots of details inside. [more inside]
I'm a 24 year old lady with failed relationship woes. Help me stop feeling so crummy about myself and give me day-to-day ways to feel more centered, happy, and not-desperate. [more inside]
I'm in my 20s and I always thought my life would be better than this by now. I'd love some advice on how to make friends and be happier and improve my life generally. [more inside]
Nobody's walking out on this fun, old-fashioned family Christmas. No, no. We're all in this together.
How can you "fake it" or "power through it" or "put on a brave face" to make the holidays as normal as possible, when other people depend on it? [more inside]
Is it normal to experience emotional distress as physical pain? [more inside]
How do I overcome this crushing sense of regret at my "lost 20s" and how do I build a life from scratch? [more inside]
Ghosts-of-relationships-past-filter: How do I forget an old girlfriend, years gone by? [more inside]
How can I cope with strong negative emotions without overeating? [more inside]
My partner of almost two years and I are "taking a break." Is it possible that this could be a period of growth and not just the death rattle of our (up until recently) happy relationship? Have you ever taken a break successfully? [more inside]
I think I recently emerged from a long term funk (perhaps dysthymia, or long term mild depression, but I'm not going fix on a diagnosis). I've had a few awesome weeks recently, but also a few that were just as bad as before. The trouble is: I'm not used to feeling good, so I don't understand what I can expect. Help me understand this. [more inside]
I've been in only one relationship. It lasted three years, and it was fabulous in many ways. Now that it's over, I'm not sure how I can ever have that again. [more inside]
Am I unhappy because of my relationship or am I just unhappy in general and attributing it to my relationship? [more inside]
Seeking short-term coping mechanisms for being productive in school during a devastating breakup, and for comedy TV I can watch to help me through it. Long story inside. [more inside]
Why am I suddenly unable to stop obsessing about the childhood bullying that happened to me? [more inside]
I'm having trouble understanding and dealing with a sudden wave of sadness which came over me while leaving a new romantic partner's house. (Overly long relationshipfilter details follow.) [more inside]
Where on the internet can you go for anonymous support when you are feeling just a little blue? [more inside]
How does one cry? [more inside]