http://ask.metafilter.com/tags/sadism Questions tagged with 'sadism' at Ask MetaFilter. Wed, 14 Oct 2009 18:25:45 -0800 Wed, 14 Oct 2009 18:25:45 -0800 en-us http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss 60 http://ask.metafilter.com/135504/I%2Dwant%2Dhim%2Dto%2Dknow%2DI%2Dcan%2Drelate%2Dto%2Dhis%2Ddark%2Dside%2Dbut%2Dhow%2Dto%2Dbring%2Dit%2Dup%2Dafter%2Dthe%2Dfact How do I properly initiate contact with a person who dumped me because he thought I may not sexually accept the way he is? How can I let him know that I'm the same way too? This is hard to ask but I am not sure how to go about it. For anyone who has advice... how would you go about letting the friend who dated you but distanced away due to dark sexual matters, know you are actually into the same thing? You see, I lead on to make him believe that I don't have the capability to be into S&M, however, part of me really is. I just need to trust them first. I noticed he was trying to incorporate some subtle hints but was too scared to go all the way with me. He never bothered to ask. It was less than 4 months of dating but I truly feel he doesn't know that I totally get him. I was just scared to go there with him. We check on each other once in a while but I want to go to the next level to tell him I can relate to his dark matter. Is there anyone here who understands the distance and embarrassment of what he might be going through? I know I may not be asking correctly but if you need more detail you can email me at IamNotHere87@gmail.com tag:ask.metafilter.com,2009:site.135504 Wed, 14 Oct 2009 18:25:45 -0800 dark dating friend masochism sadism sexual Anonymous http://ask.metafilter.com/60271/What%2Dis%2Dthis%2Dgrotesque%2Dpossibly%2DGerman%2Dshort%2Dstory Help me remember the name and author of this short story. The pathetic male main character is abused and humiliated by an abusive female character (his wife, I think). The culmination involves some sort of grotesque and humiliating performance by the main character at a party, arranged by the wife. I vaguely remember the author being German (though I could be wrong), and I read it in an anthology, so it's probably by someone pretty well known. tag:ask.metafilter.com,2007:site.60271 Mon, 09 Apr 2007 17:53:30 -0800 authorship bookidentification books grotesque sadism shortstories shortstory thomasmann unanswered bubukaba http://ask.metafilter.com/30141/Sadistic%2Dkids%2Dcard%2Dgame My niece is trying to remember the rules of a card game that involves inflicting various acts of sadism on whoever ends up holding a black Jack. Said sadistic acts are determined by the suits of cards somewhere in play - for example, a Diamond results in a punch, a Club results in a pinch, and so on. The only other thing that she can remember is that one of the black Jacks is removed from the deck before play commences, leaving just one. Any ideas what the game is called, and how it's played? tag:ask.metafilter.com,2006:site.30141 Tue, 03 Jan 2006 21:18:47 -0800 cardgames cards games kids sadism obiwanwasabi