My girlfriend broke up with me out of the blue because I'm doing better mental health wise. How do I fill my time and deal with being alone when she was my best friend and I thought we finally had a chance at a drama free future? How do I deal with the hurt for being dumped for drawing healthy boundaries? [more inside]
I'm hitting a rough patch in my life and really failing at something for the first time(bout to drop out of graduate school). I'm looking for recommendations of novels or books that feature characters failing(in whatever way you define that). Not necessarily looking for feel-good/happy endings(although those are alright!). I'm more just curious about how others deal with failing + failing. Kind of a listening to sad music after a break-up thing.
Would a SAD light box help my medication resistant depression? (details within) [more inside]
I am having the worst holiday season of my life. Help me cope. [more inside]
Whenever I get sick, I also get concurrently really sad. Something about the physical crapness and being alone all day really gets to me. Any suggestions for keeping your spirits up when you're feeling low both physically and mentally? What has worked for you? [more inside]
Are there any stores in NYC where I can buy a lightbox today or in Denver/Boulder where I can buy one this weekend? [more inside]
I am faced with a hugely exciting, complex, challenging project of my own devising. It's a chance for me to build my dream and ... I'm sitting here crying instead of working. [more inside]
I'm at a point where I just don't know what to do - I feel hopeless, aimless, and lost; I feel like there's little hope for my life getting better, and that I'll spend the rest of my life alone, just doing... nothing meaningful. I need help. [more inside]
For purposes that I probably don't need to get into, I'd like your saddest and/or most heartwarming links / photos / stories / etc. on the internet about dogs and our relationships with them. [more inside]
Name-that-song filter, hard mode (?)... vintage soul heartbreak. [more inside]
I'm struggling today with both. The ADHD makes searching for help a little more difficult than normal. Can you give me (really short) one liner suggestions for making it through? Mostly focusing on being productive, and coping strategies, but also maybe ways to be kind to oneself. [more inside]
I have battled horrible depressions for as long as I can remember (I think this is probably a combo of inherited predisposition/anxious attachment style and life experiences). I have been through a lot (diagnosed with ptsd though that's not so bad now) and attracted a lot of undesirable people into my life (as well as some good ones). I am so tired of trying to feel ok and really draw blanks on thinking about what could bring joy. Can't imagine what my perfect day would be :(. I feel genuinely out of ideas about what to try next. [more inside]
My internet (AT&T DSL) got weird a few hours ago this morning, and is still struggling. I went through a long list of stuff with a tech, who is sending out a new modem. Here's what's happening. Certain sites are loading fine, while others just time out to the "The connection has timed out" message. [more inside]
I feel many emotions when I am listening to music - happiness, melancholy, goosebump-y, etc. - but I rarely find albums that can bring me to tears. I just bought a Non-English album that brought me to (mostly joyful) tears many times; the experience was almost cathartic. Please give me songs (in any language, or even without any singing) that provoked a strong emotional response in you the first time you heard it - I'm talking powerful feelings like awe, joy, sadness, etc. that would make you tear up or outright cry. Details inside. [more inside]
I've always been good at being on my own. I read a lot, love going to movies and museums alone. I've traveled alone extensively. But lately, being alone has become almost unbearable, and I can't figure out what the problem is. I have lots of good friends (though my very best friend moved thousands of miles away a few years ago, I have at least five "one of my best friends" in the area). My husband and I enjoy each other's company immensely and never run out of things to talk about. I have a large social circle, and there are big parties at least a few times a month, and lots of smaller get-togethers. My "events' page runneth over. A few things have changed in the last year, though. [more inside]
I want to cry my eyes out over a book. It's been a long time since I have and I need the catharsis. [more inside]
I think my girlfriend is wonderful and funny and gorgeous and sexy and amazing and talented. But she doesn't believe that. The relationship isn't perfect, but it's fun and good. The problem is, I've come across somebody with whom it seems like it might be great, but my girlfriend will be (in her words) destroyed if I leave her. And I don't know what to do. [more inside]
What are some movies that make light of sadness or hard times in a non-mean-spirited way? [more inside]
I can sing in an alto or soprano range and I love to sing with my NOSE [more inside]
I've been listening to a lot of Pete Seeger since he died. What other old time banjo players might I like? I'm not looking for fast rolls, finger picks, bluegrass style. I'm looking for frailing, clawhammer, and plaintive melodies. This sort of thing.
I'm having a real bad night and pretty bad month or so. I'm trying to stay optimistic but it's so, so hard. Any kind words and support will help. [more inside]
Whenever I see one of my close friends or family members, as soon as we part company I kick myself for not being more demonstrative of my love and appreciation of them. Am I Doing It Wrong, or is this a cognitive problem? [more inside]
I am looking for gardening books focusing on perennial flowers or vegetables or books on landscaping design/ideas that will make me drunk with plans for spring. [more inside]
I have been having some really really terrible back pain lately and I need to know roughly what it might be and what kind of doctor person I should see about it and what I can do in the meantime so that I don't end up defenestrating myself in order to escape it. [more inside]
My mood has always taken a downturn around November and picked up again mid-April for as long as I can remember. I've been getting particularly depressed this year, so I talked with my therapist and was diagnosed with SAD. She recommended a light therapy box to help, but with my circumstances I am unsure of which to purchase. Details inside. [more inside]
How do I come to terms with the glaring in-your-face reality that I have a gluten allergy and that it is not going to go away? [more inside]
I feel really undervalued and unappreciated in every arena of my life. I'm already in therapy. What can I do to quiet these feelings? [more inside]
I recently moved. The only light in my bathroom is from five of these bulbs (with the smaller bases -- I don't know exactly what they're called) over the medicine cabinet. I'm wondering if there are nice, bright, LED (full spectrum?) SAD-fightin' bulbs, ideally with warm white light, that I could screw in in their place. Any additional brightness would be welcome to help my brain as I get ready for the day and the year gets darker (I have to get up very early for work). Thanks very much!
I love the theatrical, haunting, sad, yet, beautiful music of Lana Del Ray. Can you recommend any similar music, or accompanying literature and cinema? Thank you!
I'm looking for some new suggestions for good sad bastard music - that is, stuff that can leave you nice and melancholy when it's late at night and you want to feel comfortably down & depressed. To frame this a little I should note that Nick Drake, The Softies, early-period Belle & Sebastian, and The Mountain Goats have been go-to choices in the past. Thanks!
I'm a student nearing graduation. I'm in debt, I work full time during the summer but I barely make any money. I'm totally broke and I don't see that changing in the near future because the job market for my degree sucks. I'm trying to save but I keep reaching barriers. And then everyone around me has it so much easier, and I'm just so tired and unhappy. [more inside]
So I'm feeling miserable a lot lately. What do you do when you're feeling bad, to cheer yourself up? Restriction: Must be something I can do alone.
I suspect my partner may be an ectotherm. Is there such a thing as the combo full-spectrum lamp + heat rock that you'd get for a lizard tank but for adult humans? Anyone have any success making one? [more inside]
I'm on Verizon, I have no warranty, started a contract in July w/ a Samsung Galaxy Nexus 4G Android Phone. I was a n00b and walked into my car really hard the other night and it was in my pocket. The screen now will barely turn on, the touch screen is cracked. The touchscreen is unusable. I cannot dial or even use the phone. A google nexus will be $299. What are my options? The phone itself, I kind of hate, the OS is nice but charging has always been an issue and it dies pretty quickly. I need ideas on either should I replace it? (With what and how much?) I don't want to renew as Verizon has had terrible quaility and I want to dump them in 18 months and go back to Virgin Mobile (I even have a phone for it). Should I foot the $350 ETF and switch back to Virgin? Cost to fix it? Other options?
I hate the summer. I know it is March, but summer is coming and I am already fretting. [more inside]
My baby brother moved to London yesterday and I'm sadder than sad. We're really close and he lived a couple of minutes from me so we hung out a lot. I'm going to miss him so much and it'll take me a while to accept that he's a flight away, and I can't just randomly drop in on him, hear his little hello, and settle down for a few hours of putting the world to rights. My usual way of dealing with sadness is not very productive - namely substances of varying degrees of legality, and chocolate. Help me make a list of positive things I can do to lift me out of the little pool of tears I'm in. He's left me one of his guitars - which was mine about 20 years ago - and I'm determined to learn it this time. Any other suggestions? Thanks.
Happily one year and a few months sober, after close to a decade of progressively heavier drinking and self-destructive tendencies. After the first three months or so last year, dealing with the day to day of people having alcohol around me started to become much, much easier, until the past month or so, where the urge has hit me substantially harder. Seasonal? Just part of the territory? [more inside]
My wife has had an awful day. I mean awful. She is stressed, upset, feeling pretty depressed about it. Between the kids having a rough day and one of her clients cheating and taking advantage of her, her short term self-esteem and resiliency are shot. Wow... she has every right to feel this bad. I've got 30 minutes to try to do something nice for her before she gets home. What little things would make you feel better after a rough day? [more inside]
How do I learn to live happily in a city where it snows? Also, what are some coping methods that I can use to help get me through these winter months? [more inside]
How do you take care of a sick significant other without feeling resentful? [more inside]
Are you sometimes completely overwhelmed by unknown feelings? [more inside]
Depressing holiday songs? [more inside]
I love food, but eating makes me feel terrible. What can I do about it? [more inside]
My little family doesn't care for Christmas like they used to, among other things. How can I avoid or learn to cope with the holiday blues this year? [more inside]
Looking for a movie I saw on TV in the 80s that was about a sad clown/mime who left his circus and was wandering around the city - a foreign city, probably Europe. It is NOT Children of Paradise, but maybe some remake inspired by it. I believe it was a foreign film and was probably shown on Nickelodeon - it was a color film. Very atmospheric and followed the clown wandering in the city. Any ideas?
Winter Sun holiday destination, less than a 12-hour flight from the UK, safe for a single woman to go on her own. Are there any? [more inside]
Light therapy for depression that gets worse in the winter: when does it start working? Any tips? [more inside]
I'm looking to buy a "light box" to treat Seasonal Affective Disorder. I'd love some recommendations on a good quality unit. Suggestions from those who have tried and tested would be much appreciated!
Looking for sad music: instrumental, ambient, classical or swelling musical scores. [more inside]
Why am I hopeful with this ex-girlfriend ? [more inside]