I know that I should not let these comments annoy me and take the high road. But, sometimes I don't want to. To summarize, someone who is close to me speaks with a southern accent and I get really irritated when people make fun of southern accents. I wish I had a witty comment or retort that made people think twice about making these types of comments. I'd like to communicate how rude it is and actually just makes them look judgmental and small-minded, while at the same time keeping it light-hearted and not too critical. Yes, I know it's probably better to ignore it, but for the purposes of this question, please assume that is not an option! Any advice?
So, I have friends who run fitness programs and help many people. I introduced a "friend" who I met through work but distanced myself from her because she's racist. She says pretty shitty things about black people but once she knows what you're into, she panders. I don't trust her and don't feel emotionally safe. [more inside]
I'm ashamed to say I've been somewhat avoiding the whole job application and networking stuff. I find it very difficult to speak to people because I have a quiet voice and I'm very standoffish. I tend to have a very robotic way of speaking and I've been told I look overwhelmed and scared a lot. I find it very difficult to express myself and sometimes I wonder if I even have a personality. How do I change so I can be more likable and approachable? [more inside]
I had a crummy experience during my morning commute just now that made me feel pretty awful. How can I keep this from ruining the rest of my day, and what can I do in the future if it happens again? [more inside]
Twice this year, I have had the experience of a business I patronize asking me for the name of my employer. The first one was my dentist. The second was a car rental company. What is up with that? Why do they need to know this information? Do they have a legal right to this? Is there some kind of business reason for it? I find this practice rather aggravating and would like to be better informed so that I may do a better job of deflecting these inappropriate inquiries in the future. Many thanks in advance.
I'm really sick of dealing with rude people. Its like everywhere I go people are terribly rude and mean. Like people who are supposed to be doing their jobs and greeting you and being polite. I respect and treat people good but they are rude and condescending and it makes me so angry because I don't understand why they talk to me in such a way when I haven't done anything wrong. [more inside]
I'm in a sticky work situation. My account manager, who I'm partnered with, is pretty great overall - tries to be understanding, gives me enough rope to succeed but enough support to perform, even spends extra hours with me for development. But we're all in our early to mid-twenties, which can be kind of a rough age. One of our other account managers is pretty blunt, quite potty-mouthed, abrasive with terrible delivery. For example, she will regularly say people "shit the bed" "absolutely fucking suck" "is a sack of shit" as a reason not to work with them. [more inside]
Got an email from someone I dated very briefly, some time ago, which unsettled me. I have not replied, and don't want to, but I still feel somewhat guilty about ignoring/blocking this person. Please help me walk the line between "honoring my inner Gavin de Becker" and "being kind of an asshole to someone." [more inside]
My dad was just incredibly rude to me. again. Please help me sort through my feelings, possible responses, and the wisest course of action. [more inside]
How do you deal with rudeness from people of authority? [more inside]
Managing your boss or her expectations [more inside]
How can I control my yawning tic, or at least make it less offensive? It seems to really put people off, and I feel terrible. [more inside]
How can I request that someone stop correcting my grammar and/or pronunciation of words? [more inside]
What can I say to people who make racist comments about my baby? [more inside]
Hi. Help me find fun pop songs, not in English, which are full of profanity. [more inside]
How much hounding of someone is too much when applying for something like a scholarship or internship? [more inside]
I bike frequently in Cambridge and Boston and have been having problems with rude motorists (none, thankfully, involving injuries). On reflection, I think my actions in response to these incidents have been counterproductive. What should I be doing differently? [more inside]
trying to compile a list of condescending terms like "kid" or "son" [more inside]
I need to learn how to fake my feelings better around people I dislike. [more inside]
I am required to interact with an individual who is rude, unpleasant, and socially retarded. I can't take it anymore and don't know what to do. [more inside]
How to deal with a rude table next to you at a restaurant? [more inside]
How do I get people to stop asking if I'm pregnant, or respond in a way that deters further inquiries? I've been married for a little over a year, I'm nearing 30, I carry my weight in my belly instead of my hips. I get it that people are curious, but it's none of their business. [more inside]
Is it rude to stare at a stranger's tattoo? [more inside]
Why do people consider it rude to ask how much money a person makes? Or to ask a woman how old she is?
MeFites:Help me figure out the best way to deal with my ridiculously rude, yelling neighbor. [more inside]
Help me get people to leave me and my pearly whites alone! [more inside]
Snappy comebacks, please, for the question: so, when are you going to have children? [more inside]
I'm due to meet my new girlfriend's father for the first time next month. He has a great sense of humor apparently, but bad eyesight (and is too vain to wear glasses). Would wearing one of these T-shirts be a good idea or not? (Any other suggestions welcome!)
Many years ago, WGBH (NPR) in Boston had a Saturday afternoon folk music program. One day they played exerpts from an album by a singer/guitarist who had recorded rude songs that children sing when they think that there are no adults around. Who could this be and what is name of the album?
Which songs/albums (preferably otherwise good) feature extreme amounts of cussing and swearing? [more inside]
My girlfriend chews food with her mouth open. In the past four years, I've tried everything from polite admonition to blunt, borderline rudeness. She's not stupid, and she's generally well-mannered -- but she can't drop this habit. She's 23. Any suggestions?