I'm moving back to Portland in a few days to finish my senior year of college, and I'll be looking for a room in a shared house/apt over the next few weeks to move into November 1st while I stay in an AirBnb. While I have lived in shared housing in Portland before, my memory is a bit fuzzy regarding the difficulty. I'm wondering whether I should lower my standards due to scarcity or hold out for a room that fits my needs more. I also would like to know whether I should wait for a room that is available on my target date of November 1st or one immediately and pay more money? [more inside]
So I'm moving and getting roommates, any advice from the green on how to move forward with my life? [more inside]
My housemates and I interviewed several people yesterday for a new roommate. We chose the person whose move-in schedule logistically worked best. However, we got along with all of the interviewees surprisingly well; each one stayed and chatted for at least an hour.
I especially got along with two people, and I'd like to contact them again to see if they want to get together as friends, or - especially one of them - as a date. How inappropriate is this? Would you feel flattered or stalked if someone who didn't choose you as a roommate asked you out? [more inside]
I'm going through a breakup. My ex very suddenly served me a Notice To Quit today. I'm not sure what rights I have here. I'm also pretty destitute because of recent medical bills. Further details inside. [more inside]
Why would a former quasi-tenant address a package to an erroneous address and write my address as his own? This package just got "returned to sender" and he hasn't lived here in 7 months! Should we be worried? [more inside]
I'm a mid 30's female living with another mid 30's female. I'm not a big fan of having out of town house guests. But I'm not sure how to broach the subject when my boyfriend occasionally stays at our place. Do I have the right be bring up my irritation? [more inside]
My housemate and I have reached the point where it's really, really clear we aren't going to be able to work things out and get along. Despite this, she is digging her heels in about moving out. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
Moving in with roommate problems! [more inside]
I've made my roommate's life kinda shit the entire school year. Should I just get out of her life, or try to keep in touch in case I become a better person? [more inside]
Her sister is coming to stay with us for (??) weeks, how do I protect my boundaries [more inside]
My girlfriend (25) and I (cis male, 26) have been dating for about a year and a half, are pretty sure that this is the real deal, and are ready to move in with each other. We're trying to decide if I should move into her apartment with her and her flatmates, or if we should move in to our own apartment together. Lots of extra details below! [more inside]
Problematic roommate finally moves out. Everybody is happy! Problematic roommate gives one day's notice that she is moving back in. Everybody is sad! How to head off disaster? [more inside]
Should I have a roommate if most of my experiences with roommates have been bad? / How can I be better at living with others? [more inside]
I am getting a new roommate soon and this time, I want to do everything right. Please share your platonic cohabitation tips! [more inside]
How much notice should I give my roommates if I want to move out as fast as possible without being a total jerk? Would paying the rent I owe for April be acceptable instead of giving them a 30 day notice? I'm not actually on the lease, if that helps. I haven't been in a situation like this before, so I am not 100% sure what to do. Thanks.
Getting to know your new roommates when a problematic roommate dominates it all [more inside]
I work in a human services discipline, and recently one of my clients passed away unexpectedly, most likely due to natural causes. I was shocked and very sad to find out about this, but also had a number of other clients to see that day, and so coped with it during the day as best I could. That evening, when my roommate asked about my day, I briefly told her what had happened and that I was pretty affected by it. She, a nurse, gave a response best paraphrased as "Yeah, that sucks, when my first client died it was really hard for me, it could have been suicide, did you think about that?" and then launched into a long description of everything that had happened to her that day. I was rather stunned by her apparent disinterest in my experience, and didn't say anything, but I've been feeling pretty annoyed since then, and am not sure how to best deal with this. [more inside]
How do you live in an apartment with a roommate who would probably prefer if you dropped dead? [more inside]
O wise people of AskMeFi, please help me decide if I'm being too impulsive in jumping at a chance to move out of my parents' place. I really want this, but I want to make sure I won't regret it a few months down the road. [more inside]
I'm a fresh college graduated from a European academy for Graphic Design and want to move to NYC to gather more experience in the field, and live there for a while. Question about job search and accommodation. Considering doing a masters degree too. [more inside]
Ok, so I'm living in Chicago with a few of my SO's old roommates from college. We've known them for less than a year and I can admit maybe we jumped into a year lease too soon. However, what recourse do we have right now? [more inside]
And what to do when someone blows up at you for what you believe to be a reasonable request. [more inside]
I'm looking for an Oct. 1st roommate share in Brooklyn, and so far I'm coming across shockingly few places listed on Craigslist. Is there another list I'm not aware of? I already put word out to my network.
-- I've lived in BK for six years (Crown Heights + Park Slope), and have never had trouble finding a place before.
--Budget is $1100 and under.
--Looking to stay for 6 months or longer
--I'm searching under "rooms & shares" AND "sublets & temporary"
I've been planning to move to another city, and become roommates with a friend, but things got a bit weird this week and I don't know whether to fight the urge to run away fast or instead listen to it and head for higher ground. [more inside]
My roommate has a problem cat. The cat pees where she shouldn't pee, has created $400 in vet bills in one of my cats, and continues to fight with aforementioned cats. The problem: my roommate won't actually do anything about any of this. Now what? [more inside]
If you've lived in a house with a lot of other people in it, what has helped keep the peace and made things run smoothly for the household, short and long term? [more inside]
I'm down to buy a couch, but I don't want to own
a couch. I think everyone else I'm living with feels the same. But we have a big empty living room and need a couch. [more inside]
How do you develop an eye for seeing messes and clutter before they get out of control? [more inside]
I moved to a new city and I'm currently living by myself in a decent sized but single bedroom apartment. I recently met a friend who's looking for a place to stay with his girlfriend for one month so they can save a little money to get on their feet again.
Raising all sorts of red flags already? That's why I love you guys. Besides "Just say no", what can we both do to protect our interests? [more inside]
One of three mutual friends of mine (who are all roommates) has been behaving very strangely and it is making things awkward. Should I address this or hope it goes away on its own? [more inside]
How do I live with roommates (mega-extroverts at that) when I'm introverted and kinda crazy? [more inside]
A friend is in an abusive situation with her current roommates and I would like to be able to provide some resources to help find alternate housing and tips on how to deal with the bad situation until she can find something else. [more inside]
A relative of mine is on SSI (and has been for a decade). He has always lived with family members until recently. He just moved to a different state (WA) and rented a room in a house occupied by a couple. The rental house owners put him on the lease. Of the couple, only the female is on the lease. When he went to the SSA office to change address, the worker wants the couples income and expense information before they will approve his SSI transfer. Is this normal? [more inside]
What is a normal way to share common spaces among four roommates? If there isn't a norm, how do I (should I?) approach a roommate about her things in common spaces? [more inside]
CatLivingFilter: One of my roommate's two cats has become very attached to me, probably because my roommate (by his own admission) inherited the cat from an ex relationship and never really liked it that much. That's cool--I like cats, and cats like me. What I don't like is that the cat has become so attached that it will yell inconsolably outside my door, scratch at my door, and sometimes even bash
into my door in despair of not being in my room. This has become a major sleep disrupting problem for me. What can I reasonably expect my roommate to do to respond to this situation? [more inside]
I bought a new car. What is a reasonable and fair way to split car usage expenses with roommates? [more inside]
My roommate and I both moved in to the apartment a few months ago. Her long-term boyfriend lives two hours away -- I knew about this beforehand, and was prepared for frequent visits. But it's exceeded my expectations, and I don't feel very comfortable. [more inside]
Roommate troubles: how to be diplomatic when I'm just really annoyed? (Chinese roommate filter - cross cultural perspectives appreciated) [more inside]
How would you handle this? I need to get my roommate to: 1) accept there are fleas in the house and that his dog has a really bad case of them; 2) accept that if there are fleas, that it's a problem that we need to try to fix; 3) treat his own room. [more inside]
At what point is a roommate's SO effectively considered "moved in"? And how do you deal with that? [more inside]
Is there a good way for my family to keep inventories of our refrigerator and freezers? [more inside]
Back in May I cosigned a lease for an apartment with a friend of a friend running from July to July. Thanks to changing circumstances since then, I can't afford it and I have no choice but to get out of the whole arrangement by September, before university starts back up again. The province I'm in has extremely pro-tenant rental laws, so transferring the lease will not be a problem. What concerns me is dropping this bomb on the cosigner, who is 4000 km away until, well, just when I'd have to leave. Since we were introduced in April for the purposes of being roommates, he's also shown himself to be far more naive than he appears when it comes to stuff like this. But I've also committed a huge error in judgement by signing for this place, and I feel guilty for helping to convince him. I've accepted I'll have to burn more than one bridge. But I'm way too overwhelmed by the hundreds of responsibilities have piled up on my shoulders, and need to tell him very soon. How do I make this as quick, painless and guilt-free as is possible? More on the "changing circumstances" inside: read just the bold bits if you're short on time. [more inside]
I think I'm allergic to my roommate's new cat. What can I do? [more inside]
We want to politely ask our roommate to leave and are wondering about how to do this politely while also avoiding any possible legal issues in California [more inside]
Tell me about the practicalities of finding a new roommate/apartment. [more inside]
I live with two roommates and need to provide a new cleaning schedule. The once a week, one person does everything, seemed ok until someone started missing weeks. [more inside]
Where/how to find a good roommate? [more inside]
I live in a complete dump. How can I make the best of my crappy living situation while I look for a new place? [more inside]
How much should I expect to get repaid? [more inside]
Just found out that the NYC Statute of Limitations is 6 years. The roommate stole my security deposit 6.5 years ago. Is it too late? [more inside]