I have a dim memory of an essay/article floating around a few months to a year ago. It was basically an argument against disconnecting and 'digital detoxing'. Can you help me find it? [more inside]
Actually, we will be living in Zekeriyakoy
, north of the city, but I am guessing a lot of my questions could be answered by Istanbul residents, past and present. [more inside]
Plantfilter: What is this large flowering leafy bean plant in our yard? The plant in question
(scroll down, it's an album of pics) is a large, leafy beast growing up and over our back fence in Los Angeles. [more inside]
Is there a way to order online these Porigami laser-cut popup cards of Tokyo sights
and have sent to me here in the US?
My BF and I ended our six month relationship several weeks ago. Since then we've been in touch a few times and both expressed culpability, longing, and regret. We've had one conversation about giving it another chance that seemed to put a line under things, but since then we've had contact again, expressed the same feelings again, and we're on track to having the same conversation again. We're not moving on and we're not getting back together. How do I make this next conversation "stick?" More details inside. . . . [more inside]
I have piles of books scattered all over the house, plus the Kindle, so tracking this down is possible, but it would be so awesome if anyone else could identify this story/book I read recently (recently: maybe within the last few months?).
There are a man, and a woman, and I gather she is pretty self sufficient, because he says something of her like she's withdrawn into the room of her mind, and is sitting in there, knitting.
This is driving me slowly nuts. Does it ring a bell? Thanks!
Once in a blue moon, I have a weird joint issue - my finger knuckle seems to get "stuck". My father - who has arthritis - says that's probably what it is. But I'm not so sure. Help? [more inside]
I recently adopted a 10 month old cat. He wants to eat a lot more than I expected. What is the right amount? [more inside]
I'd like some recommendations for windshield or dashboard mounts for my iPhone 4s. [more inside]
My club's Constitution (written in 1934) requires that members be notified of proposed changes by mail. I would like to send a notification via email rather than postal mail and am looking for any legal precedent (preferably in New York State) showing that the legal definition of mail in this case would include e-mail. [more inside]
My mother-in-law is a prolific knitter, and I'd like to get her to knit me a pullover for winter. Trouble is, most home-made knitwear tends towards the baggy, which looks ridiculous on me - I wear a European size slim fit small for most tops. Is there anywhere online I can search for knitting patterns that won't look like a tent one me?
Are an out-of-state license and a social security card enough to establish "birth date and legal presence" for the California DMV? [more inside]
Are there any healthy meals available which are similar in convenience to the instant noodles? Something I could prepare easily using just a microwave and is healthy and tasty? [more inside]
How do I write a memorable, but not too memorable wedding toast? I've looked at previous questions
, and looked online but I'm having a trouble due to complicating factors. [more inside]
This is for an older friend. She remembers a movie made in the fifties that was about a couple of American housewives going to Italy. She thinks that the name Sally was either in the title or a name of one of the characters. My google searching is yielding nothing. It was not Three Coins in the Fountain. Thanks!
My husband, a mechanical engineer from the rural midwest, recently moved to a position in the white-collar engineering workforce - what does he need to know to thrive? [more inside]
Hullo, I am trying to identify the names of these songs I learned to play years ago. According to my music book they are childrens' songs from the UK. Google (and Baidu, since these are from a Chinese music book) are not helping. Names and song lyrics are awesome. Here are links posted on Flickr (since YT doesn't wanna work with me):
1. Big Geese song
2. Calendar song
Looking for ideas of really great food to bring on a car camping trip. Bonus points if it involves cooking over the campfire. I am attending an annual family long weekend camping trip with my fiance in a few weeks, and am drawing a blank on what to bring foodwise. I'm looking for ideas of main courses suitable for dinner as well as side dishes or dessert, that will blow people's socks off. [more inside]
Hi Mefites. I'm planning, finally, on taking a chance with my personal and professional life and leaving my current place of residence (NM) to move to California to pursue better opportunities. Yay! [more inside]
How useful is it to practice sailing on a lake, if what one wants to learn is sailing on the ocean? [more inside]
I bought my very first mac yesterday - an iMac. Very excited!!!! I went through the start up screens where it offered to automagically transfer my files from my 5 year old sony vaio laptop, sitting in the same room. I am normally skeptical but decided to exercise blind faith and let it do it's thing. When it starting the transferring/migrating sequence, it said 40 hours left. Should I have done something different/better and why didn't it warn me? [more inside]
As I approach my fifties and confront the reality that parts of my body are wearing out and will never be young and resilient again, I turn to the arts for deeper philosophical understanding of this aspect of the human condition that I am facing. I'd like recommendations of fictional treatments of physical aging which are realistic but compassionate. Guidelines and caveats behind the fold. [more inside]
I'm feeling extremely irritable today and every person I'm in contact with is pissing me off. But I need to get in a good mood fast! I'm leading an important meeting this afternoon (3 hours from now) and I cannot be scowling or grumbling. But my chest feels tight and heavy like lead--basically, what feels like an acute and grouchy depression-ish thing. How can I quickly suppress (or deal with) this and power through an intense interpersonal time? [more inside]
I have been offered a new position at work that has the potential to be a good, but not great, opportunity, but there are multiple other positions that I would like to pursue with outside organizations. Is it acceptable to take the new position knowing that there is a small chance that I would leave shortly after it began if offered a different job? [more inside]
I'm putting together a gift basket for someone who is on a low, fixed (disability) income. What sort of household staples might they appreciate? [more inside]
Purchasing a new iMac, looking for accessories recommendations. [more inside]
Years ago I saw a version of the classic weird animated sci-fi movie Fantastic Planet (Planete Sauvage)
where the sounds and dialogue had been completely replaced by electronic music from Venetian Snares, Matmos, and the like. I can't find it anywhere - all the sites that blogged about it link to the same outdated video link. Anyone have a line on it? [more inside]
Do I have the right to request another nurse? [more inside]
I have a document in English of about 1500 pages that was originally derived from OCR scans of varying quality. I've proofread manually and by spell-check. What is the best strategy to eliminate the remaining errors? [more inside]
Have you ever had to talk to someone about their uncircumcised penis hygiene? Has anyone ever had to make suggestions/requests about your foreskin odor? How did it go? What do you wish you had said/heard instead? [more inside]
OK, this is going to be tricky: A friend of mine saw an exhibit at the St. Louis Art Museum that she talks about all the time. There was a hands-on type of piece, probably on a piece of paper or cardstock, and you could flip it: One side said something akin to "I'm where I need to be" and the other side said something in the vein of "Anywhere but here." [more inside]
I spend 10+ hours per week commuting, 40+ hours wearing headphones at work (open-plan office: boo!), and ANOTHER 5+ hours wearing headphones at the gym. As such, I plow through an absolutely obscene volume of podcasts. I'd like some recommendations for more (lest I be forced to spend even a single second alone with my thoughts). To help you get an idea of my preferences, here are a few lists: [more inside]
My boyfriend and I both hate making each other feel bad. Does this mean we can't talk about things that aren't going well? He in particular feels very hurt when I bring up things that are bothering me. [more inside]
Girlfriend needs to have fibroids removed, but needs to see a specific "out of network" surgeon. Is there any way (like some kind of a special consideration) that she can see this surgeon without paying the higher out of network cost? [more inside]
Haven't had any luck in identifying this object found, at about 5m depth, just off Ammouso beach on Lefkada - some sort of pithos
, or something left over from a war? Photos: 1
In a brief, snorkeled dive down, though it looks rather thin, the surface did seem to the touch to possibly be terracotta, and the four regularly placed, circular handles remind me of a pottery feature. Any ideas?
Hi. I know I've posted about my depression before. But I just don't know what to do about it. I can't get better [more inside]
Dear Mefi, I need some animal vengeance reading to soothe me. [more inside]
I love the androgynous, monochrome, highly structured, and BIZARRE look of Rad Hourani, Gareth Pugh 2011-2012, Boris Bidjan Saberi. I'd like to get my everyday look closer to the aforementioned, but I need some advice.. [more inside]
Anyone know any indoor play spaces for toddlers in the Honolulu area? [more inside]
Calling moderate to biggish wave surfers: Every time I watch a surfing video, I always notice the amount of sand suspended in the water column - aka at 1:11 of this video
. I know there's a lot of other things going on for a surfer to think about, but I've always wondered if surfers feel or notice sand grains in any way. [more inside]
appears in Jiayuguan province, near the western end of the Great Wall of China. It appears to be made out of planted trees. What does it mean?
I haven't been feeling so confident lately. I know my SO could also be much happier if she felt a bit more confident. When we first met around 3 years ago, we were both extremely confident. Now we seem to have trouble being decisive, making decisions to better ourselves/get necessary things done, and choosing a restaurant or a date idea gets harder and harder. I would love ideas of things that could help with this. [more inside]
What restores your confidence after a significant setback? I need to remind myself why pursuing your passion is worth it when it can be so unpredictable. I'll take anything from deep, meaningful advice to funny motivators. [more inside]
My brother has been on a downward spiral for many months now. I would like to help him, but don't know how. [more inside]
Some time in the mid-to-late '80s, I borrowed a book from my local public library (in the UK). I recall neither its title nor the author's name, but I think it may nevertheless be uniquely identifiable from those details of its plot I can remember. Its protagonist is a genealogist, who is hired to discreetly research the family background of a US presidential candidate. There is an element of cat-&-mouse as unknown individuals try to put a stop to his researches, but he perseveres... [more inside]
As a follow-up to this question
, can anyone tell me what medium I need to procure to mix with essential oil to make my own reed/bamboo/tatami scent diffusers? [more inside]
I was laid off a few weeks ago, "wasn't a good fit" was the reason given. What do I say in my upcoming interviews? [more inside]
I'm (23f) seeing someone who is wonderful, except for the fact that he doesn't seem to be aware of his male privilege. A few questions: has anyone stories for me about managing to change this in their own relationships? Ought I to bother to begin with?
The Red Thoughts consort and I want to go to New York City as part of a 3 week getaway in October. We thought that we might also visit some other places in the US. The problem is, we don't know where else to go. Hope us, MeFites? [more inside]
I've just baked my first two fruit pies from scratch, and have a few questions about the process, namely about prebaking and getting a good top crust. [more inside]