Ever since I was adolescent, so before there was even TV in my country, let alone Internet, I've always been attracted to the same type (skinny men with high cheekbones), and wonder what determines the physical type of people one is attracted to. Is there some kind of cultural, biological, Freudian or whatever explanation?
I'm helping a performing artist friend with media outreach. I've been a reporter and PR flack before, but always on the print side and for organizations, not individuals. What should be in her online media kit that will be posted on her website? [more inside]
My friend, an attractive woman in her late forties, recently had a fling with a significantly younger (early thirties) guy whom she met by chance and who did all the pursuing. Both of them were unattached and, for various reasons, not interested in "real" relationships. It ended amicably and she realized that she would like to have this kind of lover in her life again, but how should she go about deliberately finding a willing partner? [more inside]
We are getting iPad mini 2's for our 3 kids for Xmas, and I'm trying to decide how to get the best deal, particularly with Black Friday/Cyber Monday coming up in 2 weeks. How do you know when to wait vs. buy? [more inside]
My kitchen and living room are one open space. In the middle of the longest wall, I have a kitchen window that is 69 inches wide, and approximately 80 inches high. This window is bare, as I have been paralyzed with indecision about how to treat it. I'm hosting Thanksgiving here in a few weeks, and the time has come to dress this window....but how? [more inside]
Our vet doesn't want to neuter our four-month-old kittens due to their weak positive FeLV status. We feel the importance of neutering now outweigh the risks and have found a vet willing to neuter them both next week. Can we continue seeing the old vet after the operation or should we find a new practice? [more inside]
What is the best travel pillow that provides side-to-side neck support with minimal back-of-neck support? [more inside]
I have a CSV with one column that contains User IDs. I need to make another CSV that counts how many times each User ID appears in the document, and output it to another CSV That has something like UID1 >> 3; UID4 >> 1; UID20 >> 0. There are thousands of User IDs, so I need to be able to set up a range for it to scan for. Is this possible with free software and not much programming expertise? [more inside]
They say you shouldn't rinse chicken before cooking because it just spreads bacterial contamination (and I agree). But how, then, am I supposed to deal with brining chicken, which involves both dumping out raw chicken water and rinsing the raw meat? (Assume I am not interested in dry brining.) [more inside]
My wife and I are heading to Puerto Rico for a few days, and plan to explore the island and see a couple baseball games. One is in Mayaguez, but it's only just occurred to me that means driving back to San Juan at probably a little before 10pm. We live in the middle of nowhere, so I'm used to hours-long drives home late after we do something in the city, but my only experience driving in PR is from San Juan to the rainforest, during the day. Are highway conditions OK for driving at night if I only have tourist Spanish and don't really know where I'm going? I'll have an iPhone, but should I spring for the GPS with the rental car?
Wells Fargo has required that I fill out a Uniform Borrower Assistance Form because my wages are being garnished for repayment of credit card debt. Is this considered a reduction in income outside of my control?
I get sweaty, and having tried a backpack with a suspended mesh back panel (aka trampoline suspension aka tensioned-mesh panel), there's no going back. But these all seem to be gormless with one giant chamber and maybe one or two small pockets -- I also want the sort of organizer panel and multiple compartments you get from a commuter daypack. And a hip belt to put the load on my hips. Anyone know a specific backpack with all of the above? [more inside]
This will be my fourth winter living in a place that gets snow every winter. Every year I get VERY VERY excited when it snows for the first time. Other than squeeing joyfully, what is something I can do each year to celebrate the first snow of winter?
A long time ago, on another forum, someone wrote a quote that came from Pride & Prejudice, or some other work by Jane Austen. The quote criticized women who put down other women in an attempt to appeal to men. [more inside]
Help me think of a not-too-expensive gift (under $50) to take to a friend's baby shower. They have a registry but I'd rather get them something fun that they weren't expecting. [more inside]
I'm travelling to West Africa soon. I need to make calls from the airport as soon as I've landed. I could choose a cheap sim-free phone with a global sim, or a more expensive dual sim phone*. My questions are, firstly has anyone done this and what sim/phone combination would they recommend? Secondly, given that the dual-sim phone runs on GSM 850/900/1800/1900 is it likely I would be able to use my usual 3G sim in this phone while still in the UK? Websites tell me 3G Band 2 uses 1900 MHz (PCS), is this equivalent to GSM 1900? [more inside]
I’m looking for suspenseful, edge-of-your-seat movies (horror, mystery, thriller, action) that are reasonably realistic and have a conclusive, unambiguous ending. When watching movies, I’m always willing to suspend some disbelief, but only up to a point. I’m turned off by gaping holes in the plot line, implausible twists, and puzzling endings. [more inside]
Since Verizon ditched the subsidized-phone-with-contract deal, I'm not sure what the best way to buy a phone is anymore. My contract just ended and I'm DYING to get a new phone. My last one failed under warranty and the replacement that they gave me had a battery that would barely make it through the day ("like new", my ass). I've been counting the days until I was able to upgrade. [more inside]
Where can I buy Sea Tangle kelp noodles in Manhattan (or, perhaps, near Cobble Hill if necessary). [more inside]
I used Yahoo Pipes to make a fantastic literature skimmer, but now it is dead and I'm struggling to find a replacement. [more inside]
So: my 2-month-old PS4 has broken down, with error CE-34878-0 across all applications. Sony US normally replaces machines that have this issue. My problem: I have a Japanese PS4, and Sony US refuses to service it. Sony Japan could probably help, but I don't speak Japanese (and I live in the US). What can I do? [more inside]
I'm going to be starting a graduate program in St. Paul in February (coming from Omaha) and need to get my (new) life together in a fairly short period of time. Where can I find a place to live and a roommate? Details below the fold. [more inside]
Returned a rental car recently, had some damage in a crowded parking garage. Seems like the rental agent was trying to get me not to admit fault, but I was dumb and did so. Can they void my LDW by saying it was "reckless"? I'm worried: only light body damage, but will be hella expensive, plus downtime charges, if I'm on the hook.
So, I'm trying to pay the filing fees online that I never got around to. The personal tax account I made, my business tax ID number is attached to as well, HOWEVER, it's not indicating that I owe anything. I looked everywhere on the site menu to see how I can pay and it says I owe nothing (I owe a lot, even with no sales). Tax man is after me and I don't know what to do, please help! I'm in NY.
They have moved very quickly: red flag? How much stock should I place in Glassdoor reviews? Is any "consultant" title a useful foot in the door to the industry? Is this uninspiring salary reasonable given my background? Intricacies below the fold. [more inside]
My Palmy U lock, with one of those simple circular keys, is stuck. How do I open it? [more inside]
I am terrible at maintaining contact with former supervisors/professors and have the tendency to put it off until it can't be avoided, then I feel like a jerk for only reaching out when I need something. How does one word a professional keep in touch email? [more inside]
After a year of normal functioning, my washing machine's spin cycle is not extracting properly -- but ONLY with flannel sheets. They go through the spin cycle, but the water doesn't extract. The wash drum has no puddle. Just the flannel sheets are soaking wet. Other types of fabrics come out normal, with excess water extracted. Towels, jeans, percale sheets come out normal. Small flannel pillowcases come out normal. [more inside]
I been told to setup a meeting with one of my professors, but faculty will only vaguely say it is about my "level of participation" and "demeanor," and have refused to give any further details. What are my options for declining to meet with this professor or arranging some alternative to a one-on-one private meeting? This is at the university level. [more inside]
My 9 year old son is having a very hard time learning to spell. He's a voracious reader, and reads above grade level with good comprehension. In general he's plenty smart. But spelling even basic words is a struggle for him. It has gotten to the point where "just practice more and you'll catch on" doesn't seem like the right strategy. Is there a specific learning disability related to spelling? [more inside]
Four people, one competition. One officially won. The others want half the prize. Details within. [more inside]
My 5-year-old son has been getting notes and gifts from classmates who seem to be quite fond of him. Now what? [more inside]
I'm trying to find the story about some big oil guy, like president of Shell or Exxon or something like that. He was at home and some students, or just garden variety environmental protesters, had gathered outside his house to shout at him. He went out and instead of arguing with them, he sat down on the lawn and invited them to join him and talk. [more inside]
From a non-medical perspective, what is it like to recover from having most of a leg amputated? [more inside]
I'm helping in the planning stages of a swap(s) (it's for a quilt guild) and I'm trying to find a site that will help with the matching of pairs, kinda like the secret santa thing Metafilter and Reddit does. Prerequisites after the break. [more inside]
You are not my architect but maybe you can explain these concrete things to me. [more inside]
I am seeking the absolute most top-notch way to make popcorn at home. Ideally, it would be air-popped, though I could use a little oil if needed. Looking for recommendations on both cooking method/devices, popcorn types, and any other accoutrements. [more inside]
I replaced my laptop's hard drive, and it sometimes comes loose because it doesn't fit snugly into the compartment. Solutions? [more inside]
I couldn't sleep last night, so I re-read Johnny Got His Gun, of course. Ever since the movie was released, I've wanted to see the actual crater of Joe's injured head. I've searched the web and Images using several phrases/key words, but the results are only the novel cover art or the drummer of the same name. [more inside]
I'm a single straight man in my mid 30s. I'm seriously considering buying and wearing a (cheap) wedding band for reasons I'll list out below, but I know it will seem weird when I have to explain to someone that I'm not actually married. I can't gauge how weird, though, so please help. [more inside]
My four-year-old is as obsessed with Hamilton as I am. He is full of Alexander Hamilton facts and keeps sing "Oceans rise, empires faaaaaaall" with Broadway gestures. We need some high-quality Founding Father (and/or Mother!) children's books! Obviously the big gets are the guys from the musical: Hamilton, Washington, Adams, Jefferson, and Madison. But we will also accept Franklin, Jay, lesser founders, and assorted wives and girlfriends. And I suppose Aaron Burr, sir. [more inside]
CPAP users: How do you prevent rainout (condensation forming in your hose and landing on your face) in your CPAP, besides using a heated hose? My "hose cozy" is just not cutting it. Is there anything I can do before I see my doctor about a new prescription for a CPAP with a heated hose? [more inside]
How can I become satisfied enough by non-relationship pursuits that a relationship no longer feels necessary? Using "relationship" to mean a romantic relationship, here. [more inside]
My four year old son is showing a lot of interest in our cameras, and I'd like to get him one of his own. I'm looking for recommendations from parents whose kid(s) have had and used one for a while and had a good experience with it. [more inside]
Not a sexy task, I know, but I would like to create a log to help prove that - via hotmail and/or viber - I had regular communication with someone across a period of two-ish months. [more inside]
(Asking for a friend) Mom and I used to use a 1970s cookie recipe from Sunset magazine for making Christmas cookies every year, which I now cannot find anywhere in the kitchen. All I really remember about the recipe is the photo that accompanied it. It's a little girl proudly holding up a cookie she made from the recipe. I believe she shaped it into a number (possibly a 5?) for her birthday. It is a plain cookie, so it doesn't have any unique ingredients. Possibly sugar cookie.
In a relationship that is heading towards marriage, how do you decide on how much to compromise on? Does being practical trump being emotional when in a relationship? How do you make big life decisions? [more inside]
I work in a large company with offices around the world, but with head offices in North America. Today, as I was reading a policy update, I came across the usage of the term "act as a quarterback". To me, this idiom seems to be a little biased towards North American workplaces (especially given that my company has a presence outside of North America), and can easily be replaced by "coordinator". But I'm not sure if I should let it go or to ask the copywriter of the release to consider using a different term to eliminate unconscious bias (and in the unlikely event that I do contact the copywriter, what would be the best approach) so I would like to see how everyone on Metafilter thinks. Thank you in advance!
We're holding interviews this week for a new team member, and we're trying hard to come up with (preferably fun) questions that will help us determine if the folks we're interviewing are a good fit. Details inside. [more inside]
I opened iTunes today to play some music, and discovered that of the 13,129 songs in my library, only 22 truly remain. Where did the rest go? [more inside]