This seems petty, but I am sincerely and exorbitantly bummed out (with some jealousy and hurt feelings to boot) that MY best friend didn't choose me to be her maid of honor. I'm clearly the next-in-line bridesmaid, but I haven't as of yet achieved many positive feelings about the honor I've received, but would like to, and as quickly as possible.
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posted by lovingkindness
on May 13, 2013 -
54 answers
My husband of 8 years and I have come to an impasse: he wants a free-love, open relationship because he stifled his sexuality as a religious person before we were married, and I want...well, not that.
How do I move forward when it means breaking the most important bond I have?
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posted by SarahBellum
on May 7, 2013 -
28 answers
My best friend is dating a new guy and is currently in the "floating in the clouds" stage. He's all that she talks about, texts me about, emails me about, mentions, quotes, you name it. I'm happy for her, but I am quickly reaching "who cares" stage. She does this with everyone she dates, but this guy might become permanent, so I'm not brushing it off as "just wait until this passes". How can I politely tell her that we need to have conversations about OTHER THINGS? She can be very sensitive, and I don't want her to feel that I am not interested in the relationship or not happy for her. More details inside.
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posted by ElectricGoat
on Apr 28, 2013 -
26 answers
My main squeeze is moving in! Our finances are starting to be a little more comingled and I'm looking for the best, healthiest way to start having a regular "money check-in" as part of our new life together. He is on board with this. How do we structure the conversation? Is there a sample agenda? Do we make it a date night? Help, please.
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posted by amoeba
on Mar 26, 2013 -
12 answers
I can't tell if I’m overreacting/over analyzing because I've been single for so long. Do I just need time to adjust to being a couple? Should I just calm down and stick it out for awhile?
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posted by g33kygal
on Mar 25, 2013 -
28 answers
My older brother (in his 50s) posted something on FB regarding the Steubenville rape case, which was:
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posted by HopperFan
on Mar 17, 2013 -
52 answers
Help me Metafilter! I need cognitive and/or behavioral hacks to better deal with someone whose anxiety/self-esteem issues tend to make every conversation into a battle.
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posted by celtalitha
on Feb 28, 2013 -
30 answers
I've been seeing my boyfriend for about three months, and just about everything is great. We see each other almost every day and sleep at each other's houses so often we practically live together. We have everything in common, and I've never met anyone I click with that much. One thing we have in common that's not so great, though: we're both shy, and sometimes we don't know what to say to each other! How can we overcome this? And, while we're on the subject, what are some good conversation starters? More info below.
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posted by Gee, June!
on Feb 27, 2013 -
39 answers
I’ve realised in recent months that everyone I’ve been in a relationship with had/has a mood disorder - depression, or in a couple of cases, cyclothymia with crushing lows. This seems like more than coincidence. What can I do about it?
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posted by Someone Else's Story
on Feb 18, 2013 -
22 answers
As a 22-year-old woman with zero real relationship experience, I'm turning to AskMe in this time of indecision. One of my best friends wants to date me, and I like him, but I also want to make out with boys I might like more. Does that make me a bad person? Should I forget about the other boys? Details inside, naturally.
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posted by jouir
on Feb 12, 2013 -
33 answers
Over the weekend, I turned down an invitation to a birthday party (from a man I've been seeing for 3 months) because I wasn't actually invited to it by the girls who held it. It just so happened to be one of several incidents in which I have turned him down for weekend festivities. Now he seems to be ignoring me...or am I going crazy?
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posted by 01080591
on Feb 5, 2013 -
59 answers
What are your tips to keeping the lines of communication open in the first few weeks of dating someone new?
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posted by toerinishuman
on Feb 3, 2013 -
6 answers
I don't want to breech the fb borders yet, as I feel it could kill some of the mystery and magic of getting to know her in real life, but we may never cross paths again. Do I exercise my limited patience for a moment that I can't wait for or just send a msg and start the ball rolling?
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posted by talljamal
on Feb 1, 2013 -
26 answers
I have been dating a guy and he hasn't responded to my text message for over a day, its quite unlike him. Why is he ignoring me?
I was wondering if anyone can help me understand what is happening? Has anyone had this experience before and guys in particular, what do you think? Am I over-reacting?
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posted by artystar
on Jan 15, 2013 -
60 answers
A guy called Matt used to flirt with me a lot and said I was one of the prettiest girls he has seen, asked me out but never went through with it, making me confused. I asked him out and he said yes but in the end nothing happened. I made out with his friend (did not know they knew each other) and yesterday Matt told me that he used to like me but wanted to take things slowly, but will not do anything now because of what happened. Is that just an excuse for him to reject me? Should I should just let this go? Thank you!
posted by lovisa91
on Jan 12, 2013 -
20 answers
Got a message out of the blue on a social network the other day from an ex; mentioned it to my partner (we're both big believers in transparency when it comes to random messages from exes) and we're each taking a different read from the message, so we figured we'd turn to the hivemind for input.
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posted by MarchHare
on Jan 10, 2013 -
60 answers
I broke up with my then-fiancée in September 2012. What is the appropriate amount of contact after a break-up? I've struggled with finding a good balance. Give me some advice for the next go-round.
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posted by mellosphere
on Jan 8, 2013 -
32 answers
I’m considering ending my relationship. Should I give him another chance to make changes?
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posted by Ms.Stocking
on Jan 4, 2013 -
47 answers
I have a lot of female friends. Lately, a number of them have begun giving me romantic vibes. I have never dated a friend in my entire life - I have often
become friends with people I dated, but never the other way around. How do I pursue this type of thing? (Snowflake details inside.)
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posted by wolfdreams01
on Jan 2, 2013 -
25 answers
Is there a polite way to tell your significant other that you absolutely hate the gifts you've received from them for holiday? But wait!! I'm not being snooty for the reasons you'd think I would! More inside..
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posted by baconandvodka
on Dec 29, 2012 -
68 answers
Is it worth it to live in a city with too many bad memories? I love Los Angeles, but I feel that pieces of my heart are scattered all over it.
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posted by Cybria
on Dec 26, 2012 -
15 answers
What is the real difference between friends and lovers? (Codependency question)
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posted by Cybria
on Dec 18, 2012 -
15 answers
Help me, I get frustrated and it's not helpful. I want to find a better way to act to relationship communication frustrations. Snowflakes inside
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posted by couchdive
on Dec 12, 2012 -
13 answers
Random thought/Someone must have made this question: Anyone know of an online site that allows you to map out areas on a (3D or 2D) human model as "hot" or "cold"?
I'm thinking of something that would allow people to map out their erogenous zones as they know them or discover them.
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posted by Decimask
on Nov 28, 2012 -
1 answer
Holidays always seem to bring relationship issues to the surface. My 46 year old boyfriend of five months isn't ready to cut the apron strings from his family - should I stick around and hope this changes or learn to accept it or move on? How do you accept something so annoying? Snowflake details inside.
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posted by BlueMartini7
on Nov 24, 2012 -
43 answers
Never been on a date and approaching my mid-20's, so I should probably figure out what I'm doing wrong, eh?
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posted by Geektox
on Nov 22, 2012 -
38 answers
My roommate situation is becoming untenable. Should I ride out the storm or leave? What is the best way to bail? Snowflakes inside.
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posted by munyeca
on Nov 12, 2012 -
12 answers
Help me navigate my way through dating in my twenties and escaping the perpetual friend zoning: lesbian edition. Long story with links to my dating profiles for critiquing.
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posted by HiphopAnonymous
on Nov 12, 2012 -
19 answers
My boyfriend and I met with a female friend of his last night, and he started behaving very uncharacteristically distant with me while we were with her. Am I making a mountain out of a molehill or was something more going on?
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posted by chatelaine
on Oct 24, 2012 -
25 answers
Think I saw The One, over three years ago, while in another relationship. How do I find him again, or get over it?
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posted by 6 of 1
on Oct 23, 2012 -
44 answers
I have two romantic interests in my life: one who adores me and is giving herself to me wholeheartedly, and one who seems to be a better match but lives 850 miles away and is just getting out of a relationship. What should I do?
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posted by sockpuppetryarts
on Oct 14, 2012 -
34 answers
I gave a guy a second chance, but found out later that he had been extremely shady with me the first time around (details inside). I don't know how to get over it. Should I leave the past in the past and focus on us growing together or should I chalk it up to bad judgement/being too trusting on my part and leave the relationship? The explanation is pretty long. Thanks for taking the time to read. I need advice.
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posted by spooky car
on Sep 26, 2012 -
35 answers
AdviceFilter: What life experiences (or fun things) should my partner and I make time for, before having a baby?
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posted by amoeba
on Sep 19, 2012 -
19 answers
I have no idea how to talk to normal people about my not-normal relationship, particularly when it comes to parents. At what point does it become strange?
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posted by platypus of the universe
on Sep 14, 2012 -
34 answers
Can you help me improve my relationship with my grandparents? They recently moved across the country to be closer to family (my parents, my sister and me + husband). We've grown apart since I transitioned from child to adult (which I think is fairly normal) and I was looking forward to having them in the same city to get closer again. This is turning out to be more difficult than originally premised. Special snowflake details within.
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posted by pallas14
on Sep 3, 2012 -
25 answers
My father and stepmother have rejected my son, after I placed him in an Open Adoption following his birth earlier this year. How do I deal with important family events where both parties would be welcome and invited? Snowflake details within.
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posted by erasorhed
on Aug 6, 2012 -
21 answers
Is it cool to send a parting note to the ex-boyfriend I'm leaving behind when I move countries, or should I just leave it?
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posted by pink_gorilla
on Jul 23, 2012 -
23 answers
Earlier this year I was asked by a friendly co-worker to be his best man. I accepted against my better judgement because I got the sense he had no one else he could ask. Now faced with writing an appropriate heartfelt (possibly humorous) speech I am at a loss.
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posted by iheijoushin
on Jul 23, 2012 -
20 answers
I pissed off a lot of people at a meetup. How can I patch things up with them and be friends, or is it even possible anymore and should I just give up?
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posted by dekathelon
on Jul 22, 2012 -
90 answers
Please help me figure out what I should have done differently in this argument with my boyfriend. It gets long, sorry.
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posted by guessthis
on Jul 18, 2012 -
74 answers
I recently met online a former high school boyfriend from 25 years ago. We've seen each other briefly at reunions, but now we are both single and he is over the moon with me before we've even had a chance to meet in person again, which will happen tomorrow. I am confused and overwhelmed by his interest in me, how do I proceed?
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posted by waving
on Jul 17, 2012 -
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