I've been seeing someone semi-casually for about five months -- not quite a proper relationship, but definitely not just casually dating either. Recently I met someone else whom I now want to date exclusively. What's the script for this?
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posted by modernserf
on Apr 23, 2013 -
12 answers
I'm on OkCupd, and I've been chatting with someone who seems pretty cool and cute. We made plans to meet on Sunday, but she said she was busy but wanted to meet up later. I had a free ticket to a movie yesterday, so I asked if she wanted to come out. Again, busy, so I said "Hey, I'm free on Thursday and Sunday if you want to meet, but if not it's cool". I got a message back saying "I did want to, just got busy. Not into the attitude though so lets leave it there."
The logical thing is just to leave it at that and not pursue her any more, but part of me wants to try and figure out if I can fix my mistake and at least meet up for a coffee to see if there's any chemistry there. Is it possible?
posted by Charlemagne In Sweatpants
on Apr 15, 2013 -
45 answers
I can't tell if I’m overreacting/over analyzing because I've been single for so long. Do I just need time to adjust to being a couple? Should I just calm down and stick it out for awhile?
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posted by g33kygal
on Mar 25, 2013 -
28 answers
It doesn't show up in pictures. I don't want to make a big deal out of it, but don't want it to seem like I'm trying to hide something. What should I do?
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posted by mermily
on Feb 27, 2013 -
25 answers
I've been seeing my boyfriend for about three months, and just about everything is great. We see each other almost every day and sleep at each other's houses so often we practically live together. We have everything in common, and I've never met anyone I click with that much. One thing we have in common that's not so great, though: we're both shy, and sometimes we don't know what to say to each other! How can we overcome this? And, while we're on the subject, what are some good conversation starters? More info below.
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posted by Gee, June!
on Feb 27, 2013 -
39 answers
I followed your overwhelming advice and gave
this guy my number. It worked! He immediately texted me back and we have a date tonight. Trouble is I'm a bundle of nerves because he intimidates me. I need advice on how to keep my cool tonight. :)
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posted by timsneezed
on Feb 23, 2013 -
45 answers
Don't worry, I'm not about to ask anyone 'But whyyyyy don't you like meeeee??'. I totally get that someone can be not-into-me for the colour of my t-shirt if they want: no harm, no foul. But I would like to know how much follow-up is normal after a first date, and also if anyone has any idea how I could get this so wrong?
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posted by Salamander
on Feb 17, 2013 -
39 answers
As a 22-year-old woman with zero real relationship experience, I'm turning to AskMe in this time of indecision. One of my best friends wants to date me, and I like him, but I also want to make out with boys I might like more. Does that make me a bad person? Should I forget about the other boys? Details inside, naturally.
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posted by jouir
on Feb 12, 2013 -
33 answers
27 year old straight male living in Pittsburgh.
I'm doing the OkCupid thing. I would like to go on a few dates, but I don't know where to go for a first date. Elsewhere on AskMe, people have said that a first date with someone you met on Okcupid should be brief compared to a first date with someone you've known in person for a while. Makes sense. I could put together an awesome date that was three hours long, but when I try to think of something short and sweet, I'm at a loss.
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posted by UrbanEye
on Feb 5, 2013 -
18 answers
Over the weekend, I turned down an invitation to a birthday party (from a man I've been seeing for 3 months) because I wasn't actually invited to it by the girls who held it. It just so happened to be one of several incidents in which I have turned him down for weekend festivities. Now he seems to be ignoring me...or am I going crazy?
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posted by 01080591
on Feb 5, 2013 -
59 answers
What are your tips to keeping the lines of communication open in the first few weeks of dating someone new?
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posted by toerinishuman
on Feb 3, 2013 -
6 answers
Started dating a great guy, he became my boyfriend probably a month and a half ago. A few weeks into the relationship we were talking and it turns out that he has a "dating coach" and he still meets with her in weekly phone calls because he enjoys her advice. This rubbed the wrong way and googling her, I found she's also totally hot. It just creeps me out that this totally hot woman has so much impact on my boyfriend's life.
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posted by ponytime
on Feb 2, 2013 -
51 answers
I don't want to breech the fb borders yet, as I feel it could kill some of the mystery and magic of getting to know her in real life, but we may never cross paths again. Do I exercise my limited patience for a moment that I can't wait for or just send a msg and start the ball rolling?
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posted by talljamal
on Feb 1, 2013 -
26 answers
Please share your knowledge about the customs of dating, my question being from the point of view of a sexual abuse victim, and of the reactions of men who go on dates with her.
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posted by Jireel
on Feb 1, 2013 -
37 answers
Bad divorce, after many years of pretty much only dating men I really didn't care about, I finally met a great guy that I want to care about very much. Help me not fuck it up.
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posted by Lizlemondrop
on Jan 28, 2013 -
14 answers
How do I get a fair size (100+ messages) corpus of first-contact messages on dating sites?
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posted by curuinor
on Jan 25, 2013 -
9 answers
I have been dating a guy and he hasn't responded to my text message for over a day, its quite unlike him. Why is he ignoring me?
I was wondering if anyone can help me understand what is happening? Has anyone had this experience before and guys in particular, what do you think? Am I over-reacting?
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posted by artystar
on Jan 15, 2013 -
60 answers
A guy called Matt used to flirt with me a lot and said I was one of the prettiest girls he has seen, asked me out but never went through with it, making me confused. I asked him out and he said yes but in the end nothing happened. I made out with his friend (did not know they knew each other) and yesterday Matt told me that he used to like me but wanted to take things slowly, but will not do anything now because of what happened. Is that just an excuse for him to reject me? Should I should just let this go? Thank you!
posted by lovisa91
on Jan 12, 2013 -
20 answers
I broke up with my then-fiancée in September 2012. What is the appropriate amount of contact after a break-up? I've struggled with finding a good balance. Give me some advice for the next go-round.
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posted by mellosphere
on Jan 8, 2013 -
32 answers
Should I pursue a casual FWB relationship with this narcissistic but very intellectually interesting and sexy jerk?
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posted by tamagogirl
on Dec 27, 2012 -
109 answers
I like him a lot, but I have PTSD don't feel like I have much to give in a relationship. He wants to wait, but I'm not so sure.
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posted by proximacentauri
on Dec 22, 2012 -
7 answers
I just got asked by email to meet for drinks by this guy in my Meetup group. He's a nice person, and I'd like to be friends. I have a boyfriend, and I don't think he knows this. How do I politely deflect?
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posted by iadacanavon
on Dec 16, 2012 -
23 answers
I was dating multiple people from OKcupid and Match, and now I've gotten serious with a guy I met outside of online dating and am no longer looking. Who should know?
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posted by ponytime
on Dec 14, 2012 -
13 answers
I have a second date coming up this weekend. I think. The guy seems to like me in some way, but there is an odd vibe with the friend vs. date signals and I have no idea how to proceed. Any advice?
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posted by houndsoflove
on Dec 11, 2012 -
20 answers
I'm dating a divorced dad. I realize his kid is always and rightfully going to be his top priority, but is he going too far? I feel like he's spoiling her and creating a situation in which I will get excluded in the same way his ex-wife was excluded.
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posted by ceiba
on Dec 7, 2012 -
84 answers
After posting
this question, I asked out a guy that I was interested in. It's going pretty great, except that my friends won't leave me the hell alone about it, and I want to think about something else!
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posted by windykites
on Nov 25, 2012 -
8 answers
Never been on a date and approaching my mid-20's, so I should probably figure out what I'm doing wrong, eh?
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posted by Geektox
on Nov 22, 2012 -
38 answers
I've been dating a depressive for about 4 months and just recently called things off with him because I couldn't handle all the baggage that comes with dating one - like withdrawal or detachment, in communication or otherwise. It was fine for the first couple months but when he got given longer hours at work, we communicated/saw each other less to the point where I sounded like I was practically begging him for time to meet.
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posted by brokenwitch
on Nov 15, 2012 -
30 answers
Help me navigate my way through dating in my twenties and escaping the perpetual friend zoning: lesbian edition. Long story with links to my dating profiles for critiquing.
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posted by HiphopAnonymous
on Nov 12, 2012 -
19 answers
What should I do about this guy? I'll preface this by saying I have pretty much no prior experience, so I'm not sure about what's considered "normal" in terms of communication (FYI this is a little long)...
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posted by Sakura3210
on Oct 26, 2012 -
28 answers
I've read about 50,000,000 assorted peices of dating advice and there's one rule that I've followed religiously: Girls (who want LTRs) Should Never Ask Out Guys. This advice has some seemingly-reasonable justifications backing it up. You can respond to the justifications or skip the whole thing and just tell me whether or not it's legit. I would especially like to hear from men about this. Have you ever willingly entered a happy, functional, long-lasting relationship with a girl who asked YOU out?
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posted by windykites
on Oct 23, 2012 -
108 answers
I have two romantic interests in my life: one who adores me and is giving herself to me wholeheartedly, and one who seems to be a better match but lives 850 miles away and is just getting out of a relationship. What should I do?
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posted by sockpuppetryarts
on Oct 14, 2012 -
34 answers
He's just not that into you. How much of this is true and how can one ever really know? Scenario/question after the jump.
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posted by patientpatient
on Aug 30, 2012 -
23 answers
A man is in love with a woman but admits to disliking and resenting her children. Am I trying to rationalize a relationship that doesn't (and will never) work?
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posted by passing.by
on Aug 20, 2012 -
74 answers
Tell a friend/colleague who I have no intentions of dating that I find him very attractive?
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posted by dolce_voce
on Aug 10, 2012 -
85 answers
How do I approach a castmate I've developed feelings for? We've been working on a show together for about a month, and I've developed an attraction to him. I immediately determined I should wait until the show closed to make any obvious moves, but I'm not sure how to do it.
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posted by lemoncakeisalie
on Jul 21, 2012 -
35 answers
I googled someone I've been dating for almost 3 weeks and discovered that they had a sibling die in a work related accident just over a year ago. Now I feel I have deeply personal and traumatic information about them without it having been given freely and not sure what to do with it.
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posted by Dynex
on Jul 13, 2012 -
31 answers
On dating sites/OKCupid: Once I get past the initial introductions, where do I go in the conversation? Alternately, could it be something in my profile that encourages people to not respond past the initial reaction?
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posted by CrystalDave
on Jul 5, 2012 -
20 answers
My OkCupid profile--any suggestions? And what's the best way to initiate conversations with women?
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posted by Willpower
on Jun 29, 2012 -
51 answers
