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Give me feedback on my OKC profile!

I've decided to commit more fully to online dating, and since I am I might as well do a good job of it. Take a look, what can I improve? Link is currently my "homepage" on my mefi profile. [more inside]
posted by coolname on Jul 21, 2016 - 16 answers

New guy -am I worrying too much?

I am 37, divorced....Recently, a guy from my hometown (same age) contacted me on Facebook...he lives a 4 hour drive from me. We agreed to meet at the halfway point, and our first date went really well. A few days ago he drove down to see me before heading up to camp with his buddies... He drove 10 hours out of his way for me, and stayed overnight. It was an amazing night, we had been talking regularly for 3 weeks, and ended up sleeping together. Now I am wondering if I'm worrying too much about his texting habits? [more inside]
posted by Maggsie97 on Jul 4, 2016 - 27 answers

Late 30yr Little Person keep getting hit by Married (fetish) men. Advice

My case is very similar to this woman's story. Otherwise I feel I'm at my wits end regarding this issue. Would appreciate thoughtful answers, as I've asked this in other forums and have gotten some of the jealous lot who say I must be a flirt, I must dress sexy, I'm a hoe, etc. -- which all are not true and are really the opposite. I have strict rules of having male friends to only past work colleagues, classmates and social circles. [more inside]
posted by sam3cat on Jun 17, 2016 - 17 answers

Was I "getting to know you" too hard on a first date?

A woman, who I met through the gym and who eagerly interacted with me on social media and dating sites, told me the day after a first date (that I initiated) that she felt weird about dating someone from the gym. What did I do/not do/say that completely changed her mind about me? Was I asking too many deep questions for a first date? [more inside]
posted by modernman on Jun 9, 2016 - 67 answers

Healthily approaching close friendships with a bit of attraction in them

I'm a guy and have this lovely female friend of mine who I get along with fantastically. The two of us have a supportive, companionable friendship, and are seeing each other frequently; we're both really enjoying the dynamic we've been having. For special snowflake reasons, though, it's better that I don't endeavor towards dating her for the meanwhile. Please give me your perspective: help me to manage my expectations to better maintain this friendship. [more inside]
posted by a good beginning on May 6, 2016 - 19 answers

Is my OKCupid okay, cupids?

I'm hoping for some feedback on my OKCupid profile, general and specific. [more inside]
posted by sleevener on May 5, 2016 - 23 answers

Asking Ex About Why He is Using a Picture of Us on a Dating App

I happened upon my ex's profile on a dating app and of course, I looked at it. I was completely shaken to see that he is using a picture of US as the last of his 6 pictures. I was upset and in a pretty passive way tried to ask him about it through text, which he has not responded to. We have plans to meet up next week and I'm wondering how to address this now. [more inside]
posted by cristalina on Apr 30, 2016 - 28 answers

How do I talk to attractive people?

I'm having success with online dating insofar as I've been lucky enough to go on dates with people I'm very physically attracted to! However, I turn into a terrible conversationalist with them when I'm on dates: I talk too fast, spiral off on tangents, try too hard to impress, fail to make decent eye contact and generally act like a schoolkid with a huge crush rather than the intelligent, mature adult I like to think I am. As a result, things tend to disintegrate after a couple of dates, because I'm not really being myself. How can I overcome this? [more inside]
posted by Panthalassa on Apr 24, 2016 - 12 answers

Should I Even Date?

I don't know if I even want a relationship. How do I find out? [more inside]
posted by zchyrs on Apr 5, 2016 - 11 answers

Dear Crush: Did you notice that I initated?

"Hi! Just wanted you to know that if you ask me to coffee, I would say yes." [more inside]
posted by RaRa-SpaceRobot on Mar 28, 2016 - 18 answers

Could I ask out a girl on ride-shares like lyft without sounding weird?

I have hard time meeting people. While driving for lyft, I am very professional and have good reviews and at times I strike up a nice conversation with the riders especially women and feel like getting to know more about the girl(about 5% of time). But I chicken out in the end and just stay professional, wondering if it would be appropriate to ask a girl her number, or if she has a bf etc. Is it okay to ask people out? If so, how you do it without sounding weird? what is a good exit strategy if it doesn't work out?
posted by daveg02 on Mar 28, 2016 - 71 answers

My guy does not like dogs the same. Comments? Advice?

My new guy does not like dogs the same way I do. Mainly he believes large dogs should be outside at all times because then if they poop he doesn't have to clean up large poop. He states he's a dog lover. [more inside]
posted by LadyAerin on Feb 28, 2016 - 107 answers

Folding without breaking: define long-term relationship compatibility?

Help me define long-term relationship compatibility. How do /you/ define it, or, what do /you/ think compatibility is all about? [more inside]
posted by dubhemerak3000 on Feb 25, 2016 - 23 answers

How do I trust myself with affirmations after a recent breakup?

How do I trust myself with affirmations if I constantly seek validation from external sources, especially intimate relationships? I am coming out of a recent breakup that triggered severe anxiety and dependency. I am keeping busy after the breakup (it has been 2.5 weeks) but I still feel like there is something missing from my recovery process. I am seeking professional help soon (I have an appointment scheduled) but I find anecdotal examples of others' experiences to be extremely helpful. [more inside]
posted by modernman on Feb 10, 2016 - 7 answers

How forthcoming should I be about my sexual inexperience?

Hard as it may be to believe I have reached the age of 27 without ever having had sex with a woman. Thinking about sex may even be getting too ahead of myself since I've never even kissed a woman before either. I'm not proud of any of this but unfortunately circumstances have led to where I am today. [more inside]
posted by Dynamo05 on Jan 19, 2016 - 27 answers

Dating in NYC?

No, seriously, why am I having zero luck? I ended a long-term relationship in June. I'm still getting over it, but I want to get back on that damn horse. I moved to NYC for grad school in August, and I have had zero (literally, 0) luck with men since the breakup. [more inside]
posted by Ragini on Oct 12, 2015 - 47 answers

Am I being creepy?

I picked out a guy from afar that I thought was cute, found out his name, and added him on Instagram. Is it creepy for me to start messaging him? [more inside]
posted by sweetshine on Sep 30, 2015 - 39 answers

A hot date with a ball of wool?

I enjoy knitting while watching TV. I sometimes enjoy watching TV or a movie with an SO. Sometimes I like doing those things together. Is this going to be a problem in most relationships? How do I find someone who wouldn't be weirded out by that? [more inside]
posted by blerghamot on Sep 20, 2015 - 51 answers

Shy, inexperienced woman needs help getting things started with shy guy

I'm a woman in my mid-30s with very little dating or relationship experience. Several months ago I met a younger guy (early-mid 20s) and we've become gradually closer. We now exchange texts most days and have recently spent time alone together on a couple of occasions in frustratingly ambiguous contexts. (Is this a date? Search me.) I'm reasonably sure he's interested in me, and I'm positively sure I'm interested in him. But I need help moving things beyond this weird limbo stage. [more inside]
posted by SoLongLivesThis on Sep 13, 2015 - 19 answers

The best way to structure a relationship hiatus?

I have a relationship that is going phenomenally, 6 months deep. We have the same values, we're excited to support what the other is doing, and we have compatible goals for our future.... but he never got a chance to date as a single person. How to proceed? [more inside]
posted by thelastpolarbear on Aug 29, 2015 - 39 answers

Navigating the tricky waters of an ever-changing dating status tide.

Dear Mefites, this is my first question! I'm excited to hear from the community i've been reading since forever. Here's an issue I'm facing that's bothering me: someone i'm seeing has a some-what change of heart/mind towards me in terms of how he envisions our future/potential. I've been confused from the beginning as it started sexually quickly, then to possibly serious, to suddenly somewhat possibly just casual now. Grateful if any of you could advise me on what you observe his character/behavior/mindset to be, from the descriptions that I will best try to relate. Please excuse the extremely long post. [more inside]
posted by eustaciavye87 on Aug 3, 2015 - 17 answers

Appropriately, Respectfully, Feminist-ically

Assume I'm not from this planet. What is the appropriate way, if even allowed, to approach a woman at a bar? [more inside]
posted by bonje on Jul 16, 2015 - 42 answers

Befriending the Ex

My girlfriend wants to reconnect with a former partner and would like to invite the ex to a Big Event taking place next year. I am not comfortable with this. What to do? [more inside]
posted by Gray Skies on Jul 16, 2015 - 24 answers

How can I communicate about intimacy issues?

I've been actively dating and having intimate encounters, but it's hard for me to address my sexual limitations and lack of experience with new partners. How to deal? [more inside]
posted by cosmicbeast on Jul 2, 2015 - 13 answers

Please assure me my Tinder is malfunctioning

I recently started using Tinder again after not using it for about nine months. In a week of use, I've only had one match - and that on the first day. Last year, not to brag, I would have had upwards of 50 by this time. My ego is mortally wounded. [more inside]
posted by pot suppeck on Jun 25, 2015 - 5 answers

Go through with this first date or not even bother...?

While dating online I am planning on meeting a man tomorrow for a first date. He proposes his city. At the same time I am trying actively to progress in making better choices in men, being assertive, trusting my gut, realistically doubting myself, and am afraid of being too negative ("cutting off my head because of a toothache", or an English equivalent). [more inside]
posted by Dutchmeisje on Jun 20, 2015 - 17 answers

Dating confusion

Please help me sort out a new-ish dating situation. [more inside]
posted by young sister beacon on Jun 16, 2015 - 31 answers

Relationship Anxiety

I am dating someone in my social circle who I've know for around 8 months. We've been dating for the last 2 months. I think she's great...smart, funny, attractive. We get along well and there is lots of chemistry. I'm happy that I've been able to find someone. Being in a relationship has brought some of my insecurities to the surface. Specifically, there's a couple areas where I could use some advice. [more inside]
posted by QuietType on Jun 10, 2015 - 18 answers

Dating someone for their character vs physical attraction?

How to convince oneself to make the right choice [more inside]
posted by winterportage on May 24, 2015 - 32 answers

As an introvert, I struggle to meet women outside of work

I cannot seem to meet interesting women outside of work because I either scare the holy daylights out of them with my silhipence, my sexuality (I identify as a mild sado and naturally am very dominant), or my intensity. Help? [more inside]
posted by thebotanyofsouls on May 16, 2015 - 86 answers

Am I over-reacting?

I met up with this guy from OkCupid two weeks ago, and he seemed really charming. We've met up around three times to do various activity-oriented things in the city. He's done a few things to set off my alarm bells, and I'm not sure it's safe to see him anymore. At the same time, maybe these things are no big deal. Details inside [more inside]
posted by MFZ on May 13, 2015 - 79 answers

Dating storm in a teacup

A friend of mine just asked me about a guy I had a long weekend visit with; seeing us together one evening, she assumed he was very into me and that I was totally uninterested. That was really not the case, but it might shed light on why he has been fading since he left (I kind of hope it does!). Can you help me make sense of this (and myself)? [more inside]
posted by laceysocks on May 13, 2015 - 12 answers

Was he interested or not?

An older guy flirted with me at work. I finally got a chance to give him my number but it's been awhile and he hasn't called. I'm VERY confused. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by divina_y_humilde on Apr 26, 2015 - 17 answers

Dating dilemma: Should I text this guy again or is it done?

I've gone out a few times with a friend of a friend. Although initially he texted me a lot, he's stopped and I want to know if I should text him (again). My minimal dating experience and social anxiety are making it difficult for me to decide what to do. Way more detail inside. [more inside]
posted by peppermintchaya on Apr 23, 2015 - 28 answers

Thwarting loneliness in times of trial

How can I cope with the fact that I will likely be single for the next several years? [more inside]
posted by cosmicbeast on Apr 18, 2015 - 21 answers

Is it ok to date/meet new people now?

I am in the process of getting a divorce. I have separated from my wife, have filed for a divorce but have not been able to serve her summons because she has been avoiding that. So, in a sense, the divorce process has not really started. Now I need to figure out when I should start dating or meeting new people again. [more inside]
posted by questionsquestions on Apr 3, 2015 - 29 answers

OK Cupid for the uninitiated

…and various other OKC questions and discomforts [more inside]
posted by miorita on Apr 3, 2015 - 19 answers

Hallmarks of not having "done the work"?

What are the signs of someone who hasn't pursued therapy and healing and isn't ready for a relationship? [more inside]
posted by morganw on Mar 29, 2015 - 30 answers

I'm not being unreasonable... right?

My boyfriend has connections on LinkedIn that I would like him to get rid off. He thinks I'm being unreasonable. Am I? [more inside]
posted by milque on Mar 20, 2015 - 49 answers

Should I date my opposite-sex twin or find someone who complements me?

I'm shy, unassertive, and nerdy. Should I date someone just like myself or try to find someone whose strengths are my weaknesses? [more inside]
posted by Guinevere on Mar 14, 2015 - 28 answers

Modern Dating/Online Matching 101, please?

For a fiction project, I need to come to a better understanding about how modern dating works, particularly with regard to Tinder. From my perspective (I'm older, I've been married a long time and I have absolutely no experience with the modern dating scene), I wonder why women might be using Tinder. Is it just for hooking up? Or do woman (or men) look to Tinder to try to meet someone for actual dating and long-term relationship? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa on Mar 11, 2015 - 23 answers

Should I prepare to experience discrimination when I get hearing aids?

It's time for me to get hearing aids. It isn't age-related but genetic. I am still relatively young, and I'm concerned about discrimination professionally and socially. Please provide advice and reassurance. [more inside]
posted by Beethoven's Sith on Feb 26, 2015 - 23 answers

Should I wait, or just give up and go back to my singletude?

I met someone at work a little while ago. I thought he was gorgeous and worked up the courage to say hi. Not only do we have a lot in common, he turns out to be one of the sweetest, most respectful people I've ever dated: very understanding, reliable, actually responsive to calls and texts, accepting, wanted to take things slowly, the works. And then I call him after not hearing from him all weekend, and I get his voicemail. He still hasn't called me back, and I'm wondering if I've done something wrong. [more inside]
posted by oogenesis on Feb 24, 2015 - 62 answers

How to Balance Life & Debt?: dating, hobbies, money

My goal is to pay off my large student loan debt, do I need to put life on hold? [more inside]
posted by mannermode on Feb 10, 2015 - 16 answers

Romantic Triple Threat! How to move forward?

I’ve fallen for my coworker-friend-roommate I’ve known for a year-and-a-half, and I need advice on how to escalate without it all blowing up in my face. We've roomed together (just the two of us) for six weeks, but I've been away for half that time. Also, we get along well and flirt occasionally, but I’m the worst at reading signs. [more inside]
posted by Nunipaht on Dec 28, 2014 - 46 answers

I will give you space until it comes out of your ears

It's early days in our relationship yet, and I like this guy tremendously, but his communication practices are driving me up the wall. Am I being too demanding or do I have some basis for feeling neglected? more flakey snowflakeness inside [more inside]
posted by starcrust on Dec 9, 2014 - 42 answers

Should I wait a little, act now or just forget about it?

I met a guy. I liked him and I'm pretty sure he liked me too BUT I might not see him again if we don't do something about it right now. [more inside]
posted by divina_y_humilde on Nov 29, 2014 - 22 answers

Boyfriend doesn't want to live together. Am I deluding myself?

I have a darling boyfriend who I have been dating for 1.5 years. We are generally very happy (so much fun, so much in common, and very attracted to each other), and I love him. My lease is up, and he's decided that he's not ready to live together yet. Other people (especially my family) are giving me a hard time about it. How do I know if they're right? [more inside]
posted by socktothepuppet on Nov 20, 2014 - 47 answers

Reason to feel insecure or am I just being borderline insane?!

Argh, so here goes, my first MetFilter question. I'd love some perspective here on whether I have a reason to be as worried as I am or whether, in fact, I'm overreacting - and any tips of ways to cope and not act out self-destructively would be very good. [more inside]
posted by starstarstar on Oct 30, 2014 - 31 answers

Is it possible to find dates if you're a person seeking a person?

I am potentially interested in dating again. I had a breakup of a 1.5 year relationship around this time last year and feel emotionally over it. However, I feel like I will have a bit more challenges in regards to dating than the average person. (I'm mostly asexual, not very feminine, and a non-traditional undergraduate student in a college town). Special snowflakes inside... [more inside]
posted by sevenofspades on Oct 11, 2014 - 16 answers

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