This is a big ask: help me find out how to healthily move on, be comfortable with myself and have an inkling of ambition. I've had a little trouble moving on from this one relationship, and I think some perspective would be nice. It is also related to various anxieties I have now. Snowflakey details inside. Sound advice deeply, deeply appreciated.
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posted by lethologues
on Nov 9, 2012 -
12 answers
So, am I a magnet for toxic relationships? Is it them? Is it me? And...is it really such a bad thing?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 8, 2012 -
14 answers
Should I leave him? I've been dating someone for five months. In the beginning, he asked that we take it slow; he'd been out of a very long relationship for about a year and a half. I said I'd be happy to take it slow if he was open to the possibility of a committed relationship eventually.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 7, 2012 -
32 answers
I am a good friend, I meet loads of interesting people, but I am terrible at maintaining friendships. Help me not end up alone, on my couch, eating out of a tuna can every night wondering what happened to all my friends.
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posted by amoeba
on Nov 5, 2012 -
17 answers
I'm struggling with some issues in my relationship that I'm realizing are unlikely to change. I love him very much, and they are not dealbreakers, but they are definitely things that drive me crazy. I've never been in a healthy relationship before, so I don't know how to think about these things, especially if they are never going to change. Most of my friends are single or in hookup situations, so that's not very helpful.
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posted by 3491again
on Nov 5, 2012 -
23 answers
I'm in a long-distance cross-cultural relationship with the love of my life. Unfortunately we're having communication issues that are hurting us both. Please help.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 5, 2012 -
40 answers
Help me understand what’s going on in my relationship and to set appropriate boundaries. My boyfriend’s possibly depressed behavior is triggering my feelings of abandonment/insecurity and I want to know how to support him through this without getting taken advantage of.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 4, 2012 -
10 answers
Can you really be addicted to a certain kind of sadness?
Ugh...I hate that song. My boyfriend has serious intimacy issues but is trying to work on them. I feel intermittently insecure/frustrated/sad/angry and I don't know how much longer I can take it...
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posted by entropy33
on Nov 4, 2012 -
14 answers
My boyfriend is depressed about the current state that his life is in and it translates to him being negative, sad, or angry pretty much all the time.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 1, 2012 -
23 answers
I like a guy. I don't know how he feels about me. Would it be weird to make him a gift?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 31, 2012 -
35 answers
I have just ended a long term relationship due to a breach of trust. This has, however, added to my increasing lack of trust in other people -- which was little to begin with. Why should and how do I learn to trust people again?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 31, 2012 -
15 answers
I'm a terrible communicator in relationships. If we're talking about feelings, I freeze up and can't say the simplest of things. How can I get past this?
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posted by sockypuppeteer
on Oct 30, 2012 -
11 answers
What are the ethics of disclosing an eating disorder to your partner if you're not prepared to tackle the problem?
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posted by terretu
on Oct 28, 2012 -
15 answers
So my boyfriend went away for a week for work. I thought I'd miss him like crazy, but I kinda don't? Is this normal??
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 27, 2012 -
25 answers
How common is it to masturbate to people from your past if you are in a relationship?
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posted by Issas
on Oct 25, 2012 -
24 answers
My boyfriend and I met with a female friend of his last night, and he started behaving very uncharacteristically distant with me while we were with her. Am I making a mountain out of a molehill or was something more going on?
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posted by chatelaine
on Oct 24, 2012 -
25 answers
How can I allow myself to be open to a relationship and not go nutsy thinking about guys, and/or how do I cultivate relationships with men without constantly screening them for evidence that they may "like" me?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 24, 2012 -
9 answers
The girl I've been dating for two months told me she was raped five years ago. What could be her motivation for telling me now?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 24, 2012 -
47 answers
How to properly pursue a budding romance when hoping for some kind of fairly serious relationship. Difficulty level: I am young and foolish and what is this.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 24, 2012 -
6 answers
Think I saw The One, over three years ago, while in another relationship. How do I find him again, or get over it?
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posted by 6 of 1
on Oct 23, 2012 -
44 answers
I'm a 20 year old girl who has had little experience with real romantic relationships. I also have trouble with friendships---though I am super extroverted and can mix and mingle in parties with ease, creating sustainable friendships is very difficult for me. I'll be going on exchange in France for 5-6 months in January. I'd like to practise and build intimate friendships and romantic relationships (short-term, but meaningful!) when I'm there, and try to get a handle on WHY I usually have trouble. How can I do this? More deets inside.
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posted by rhythm_queen
on Oct 22, 2012 -
18 answers
I was with my boyfriend for 3.5 years and we lived together for much of that time. We had built a home and a family (albeit a two-person family), but two months ago he left me. On paper, I'm doing really well. But I still struggle with blame and attachment. Can you offer advice that will help me let go? (Lot's more detail inside. Hope it's not
too much).
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posted by pantheON
on Oct 20, 2012 -
22 answers
I'm a 24 year old lady with failed relationship woes. Help me stop feeling so crummy about myself and give me day-to-day ways to feel more centered, happy, and not-desperate.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 17, 2012 -
9 answers
How to deal with feelings of revulsion when others are expressing their need for your time and care?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 17, 2012 -
31 answers
My boyfriend cleans up nice! Yay! But...how do I get him to clean up, just a wee bit more frequently? And should I?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 15, 2012 -
32 answers
Every morning I make idle chit-chat on the bus with a young man around my age. Lately I've been getting the impression that he wants a more personal relationship between us. Me, not so much. Keeping in mind that this is someone I will have to see every weekday morning for the next three months at the very least, how can I minimize the number of uncomfortable bus rides in my life?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 15, 2012 -
59 answers
There is a deal breaker and mismatched wishes about marriage to work through, but neither of us really want to break up. Can we, or should we try to work it out and stay together?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 15, 2012 -
35 answers
I have two romantic interests in my life: one who adores me and is giving herself to me wholeheartedly, and one who seems to be a better match but lives 850 miles away and is just getting out of a relationship. What should I do?
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posted by sockpuppetryarts
on Oct 14, 2012 -
34 answers
Are these mixed signals intelligible? Are they even mixed signals, or just a polite way of telling me to get lost?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 14, 2012 -
37 answers
Going round and round in circles in a relationship that has me asking 'what's the point?' and thinking 'why bother, he doesn't care'. Add to this my freelance work pattern, cohabitation but sleeping in separate rooms, his eating disorder, my issues with child abuse, his distance geographically from his family... and it's all just a big mess. I don't know what to do. Perhaps you can help me untangle things?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 13, 2012 -
26 answers
My BF suggested that I ask this question here, as I am at a loss as to what to do: A 'poet' came up to me the other day at the university, asking me if i could tell him more about a poet from my (Asian) country. After that, we met twice, all he is talking about is his poems (which he has been planning to publish for years) and "inventions" on paper. After 30, he still lives with his parents and is not working (he is a mature student). After learning i've got a boyfriend, he seems to have become so upset and heartbroken and told me that relationships never happened to him for many years and he doesn't know why. He writes me long and emotional text messages. He doesn't seem to have many friends and he obviously lack confidence. Now he has told me he loves me and wishes to spend his life with me but he can't meet with me ever again as it upsets him too much. I wonder if I could help him in anyway, he obviously needs to do something to get out of his rut, perhaps join some student societies to socialise more with other people, but I don't know if he would take well to receiving such advice from me.
posted by Morbuto
on Oct 11, 2012 -
29 answers
Can you recommend a good therapist in Vancouver, BC with experience with open relationship/marriage and LGBT issues?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 11, 2012 -
0 answers
How to quiet the "think about other women" impulse and become faithful in thought as well as action?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 11, 2012 -
52 answers
Is sex vital in a marriage? Do I need a new perspective, a new conscience, counseling, or a divorce? (NSFW)
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 10, 2012 -
42 answers
How do you know if someone might drink more than you are comfortable with if you do not live together? Or am I still bruised from my previous relationship?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 10, 2012 -
16 answers
My fiancée and I are thinking of getting married in a few months and we're both still in school, I work part time and make about $20,000 a year. She does not work but receives vocational rehab and Social Security (SSI) for her permeant disability she was born with.
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posted by snow_mac
on Oct 9, 2012 -
7 answers
How do I make friends in an unfriendly place for young folks (18-20), and how can I make him believe that I've made changes to myself?
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posted by orchidgenes
on Oct 6, 2012 -
13 answers
