LongDistanceFilter: Ok, well technically we're broken up but its purely for strategic reasons. But we both believe that we both have serious long term potencial, the only problem is that circumstances are against us.
[more inside]
posted by apfel
on Sep 24, 2006 -
17 answers
I am in my first serious relationship in my 30s, and am no catch - overweight, balding, and impotent (what a winning combination). My girlfriend is also my best friend, she is a virgin and the lack of sex she can live with (perhaps it's true that you don't miss what you never had). However I'm not sure if we should be boyfriend and girlfriend or just friends. I enjoy the companship and the cuddles but miss the independance of being single, and don't really feel any physical attraction for her and never have. I am wondering if I am "settling" which I always read that I should never do, however I am really not much of a catch for the reasons above (although I am kind, caring, and a good friend) so perhaps this is as good as it gets? Without going into personal details, can anyone relate or advise? We have been going out for three years now and she speaks hopefully of the future and of moving in with me, but much as my life would be simpler if I was able to love her the way she wants what I feel is more like strong caring, friendship and deep companionship. Since I have so little relationship experience, should I stay single or try to find a way to create some romantic feelings for me?
posted by anonymous
on Sep 23, 2006 -
22 answers
I'm toying with the idea of taking my friend who has Asperger's to a brothel before he returns to Canada. Good idea or am I insane?
[more inside]
posted by Silentgoldfish
on Sep 20, 2006 -
32 answers
To what extent is it okay/normal to have feelings for one's ex? What if you're in a new, very serious, relationship?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Sep 18, 2006 -
20 answers
Did penetrative sex 'work' for you the first time? If not, how long was it before it did?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Sep 17, 2006 -
24 answers
RelationshipFilter: Tell me about dating rituals different from those in traditional Western culture.
[more inside]
posted by drkrdglo
on Sep 12, 2006 -
29 answers
What are some good strategies and resources for deepening a nascent romantic relationship when your partner is in a two-month pre-election frenzy of activity?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Sep 12, 2006 -
12 answers
Someone I care for deeply is in a predicament, and I'm not sure what, if anything I can do to help her, but I will be damned if I won't try.
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Sep 10, 2006 -
36 answers
So I've been/was dating this 'older' man and I think he's copping out. Do I make one last effort? (long explanation inside)
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Sep 7, 2006 -
26 answers
I work as a graphic designer for a small retail production company in a very rural area. We're a very tech-centric company with about 10 employees, and 4 core players: myself, two other managers and the owner. All of us are from the city, and the owner, one of the managers and myself have been friends since before I came to work for the company (I'm closer friends with the other manager than I am with my boss, but we all met online)... Here's the rub:
[more inside]
posted by finitejest
on Sep 6, 2006 -
14 answers
You have been together and/or married for a long time. You are still very much in love. How do you do it? What advice can you give someone just starting out?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Sep 6, 2006 -
35 answers
I recall reading (online maybe) an article that discussed something like the top 8 things that a couple needs to be in agreement upon for the greatest chance of a successful marriage. Money was obviously one of them, but I'd like to see the whole list again. Ring any bells?
posted by sharksandwich
on Sep 4, 2006 -
11 answers
I am a female in my late twenties dating a guy in his mid thirties. We live together and have been together a few years. It's the best relationship I've ever had and I would like to marry him some day. Nevertheless I am sometimes plagued by fears that he's going to turn out to be gay.
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Sep 2, 2006 -
76 answers
[Gayfilter] I have a huge crush on a guy I've dated once, and he's moving abroad in three weeks' time. How can I let him know I desperately want to keep seeing him without coming across as a psycho?
[more inside]
posted by doctorpiorno
on Aug 30, 2006 -
10 answers
How would you handle a love triangle where your best friend likes the same girl you do and that she secretly has been hooking up with both of us?
[more inside]
posted by spacesbetween
on Aug 30, 2006 -
56 answers
RelationshipFilter (sorry!): I've become entangled in a complex 'relationship', and I'm not sure what to do...
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Aug 29, 2006 -
57 answers
How best to handle my partner's business proposal, given our relationship and my reservations?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Aug 29, 2006 -
21 answers
MeFi Men of the Hetero Kind: Have you found a useful book to help you improve your
emotional intimacy and related communication skills? I'm looking for recommendations from guys who were told by their Significant Others that they don't get it about what women need, and now they do -- thanks to a book. There's so much dreck out there in Self-Help Land. I'm looking for that rare book that really made a difference in your relationship.
posted by nancoix
on Aug 28, 2006 -
22 answers
Starting my grad school program next week (clinical psychology, PhD) and am joining a cohort of 7 others. Any suggestions on things to do (or not do) when meeting and getting to know people I'll have to work with for the next six years? I'd like to be friends with them, especially since we have all our classes together. But the chances of such a small group together so much so stressed without conflict seem doubtful to me. Other psych grad school advice is welcome too. Thanks!
posted by gilsonal
on Aug 18, 2006 -
6 answers
Relationship Etiquette Filter: I had forgotten that I still have a gift that an ex's mom gave to me several years ago. It supposedly had sentimental value, and I feel weird about keeping it. Will I offend by trying to return it? Oh boy, there's way
[more inside]
posted by wejones
on Aug 16, 2006 -
43 answers
Is it just me with friends split into two distinct camps--the interesting ones and the dependable ones? How do I attract people who are both?
[more inside]
posted by elisynn
on Aug 14, 2006 -
14 answers
I have been spending a lot of evenings with my boyfriend's grandmother who is almost 80 and speaks only Farsi. Any tips on hanging out with people in a language-challenged situation?
posted by tingting
on Aug 11, 2006 -
14 answers
AdviceFilter: I am thinking about starting a new business, but am concerned about maintaining a good work/life balance...
[more inside]
posted by mooders
on Aug 10, 2006 -
5 answers
There's a funny short film or ad or viral video from a few years back that takes place in an office. It's in a board room or meeting...
[more inside]
posted by wsg
on Aug 9, 2006 -
5 answers
Crime(?) Filter - My father has accused my boyfriend of stealing. Ugh. Horrible situation. What to do?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Aug 7, 2006 -
16 answers
If you're in love with a married man, and he says he would leave his wife, would you stay? Whilst i love him very much, i am not sure if i should believe him as surely if he really was going to leave her he would have done this by now. Is it possible to love two people at the same time?
posted by rainbow_2006
on Aug 2, 2006 -
88 answers
Give me some ideas to help me avoid calling someone. I am grieving the break-up of a long-term relationship. I dont know if the relationship can be salvaged at any point in the future but if it can be it will only be after we have some space and time apart. What can I do to dampen down the overwhelming desire to call her?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jul 25, 2006 -
33 answers
Question for those of you who are married/committed where one partner has genital herpes: Is there a time frame after which you'd consider not using condoms?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jul 16, 2006 -
8 answers
Do opposites really attract? And if so, why? What is it about opposites, specifically personality types, that makes some relationships click?
[more inside]
posted by Esther Festers
on Jul 16, 2006 -
22 answers
I have two tables in access, linked by a one to many relationship. I've made a query that pulls the information I want from both tables into one place. But now I can't type any data into the query or the form I made based on the query. Why not?
[more inside]
posted by misanthropicsarah
on Jul 16, 2006 -
5 answers
I've known a great guy for about 5 years and we have all the facets of a wonderful relationship... So how can I find the courage to tell him I want one? It's so hard to just blurt it out, and we have a pretty light-hearted relationship where we laugh more than anything, so I don't know how to be all dramatic and "I need to get something off my chest" - I need to be funny, casual and still genuine.
[more inside]
posted by slyboots421
on Jul 14, 2006 -
34 answers
