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How to be friends when you wanted more

I have a lot of female friends, but no guy friends. So it's already a little harder for me to navigate this. I have a few questions: 1. Is it normal behavior for a guy to text everyday and only go on one-on-one hangouts with a girl? 2. Is it even possible to be friends with someone you have some sort of feelings for? 3. Do I tell him I feel confused? [more inside]
posted by flowy on Mar 5, 2016 - 15 answers

How can I develop sparks while dating Mr. Sparkless But Right?

I finally met a guy who's perfect for me on paper: he's kind, polite, and considerate, and he shares many of my interests. He seems to be looking for something serious. We both want to get married and start a family (not necessarily with each other... yet). But we don't have fun together and there aren't ANY sparks. I think it's because we're both mild-mannered introverts who need a more outgoing and sexually aggressive dating partner. Help! Do I need to morph into a different kind of person to keep this relationship going? [more inside]
posted by Guinevere on Mar 1, 2016 - 63 answers

Help me not be defined by my losses

I let the losses of loved ones, which I have experienced quite a lot over the years, define who I am and how I behave. I'm in therapy and working on it, but I'm looking for advice from people who fear losing others on how to deal with that ever-present shadow. [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Mar 1, 2016 - 9 answers

Could my ethnicity play a role in my disappointing love life?

I am a 27 year old woman, and have always had horrible luck with relationships. I'm starting to wonder if my ethnicity, culture, background (Asian-Indian/Hindu) could have something to do with it? [more inside]
posted by summertimesadness1988 on Feb 27, 2016 - 35 answers

Like, fifty green-eyed monsters.

My fiance just helped my--to be as melodramatic as possible about it--archnemesis into the same elite career/institution he's in, so that now I have not one, but two people to pathetically peer at, looking in with my nose pressed to the glass. He also had a thing for her before we started dating (and during). I'm freaked out and bitter. Help me figure out how not to be a huge evil baby while I taste the many acrid flavors of the jealousy rainbow. [more inside]
posted by bugperson on Feb 26, 2016 - 131 answers

Folding without breaking: define long-term relationship compatibility?

Help me define long-term relationship compatibility. How do /you/ define it, or, what do /you/ think compatibility is all about? [more inside]
posted by dubhemerak3000 on Feb 25, 2016 - 23 answers

break-up the breakdown

Give me your tips on getting through the acute part of a break-up. [more inside]
posted by quadrilaterals on Feb 18, 2016 - 30 answers

Help dealing with a dying NT-Aspie relationship

In short, I am trying to help myself accept that I have to end my relationship with my boyfriend. Although he has never been diagnosed, I'm fairly certain that he has Asperger's (whereas I'm NT), and our inability to communicate with one another is taking a toll on my mental health. He is full of love and respect for me but has done things that hurt me and our relationship so badly, that I feel that I cannot recover at this point. Please help me find the strength and resources to get through this. [more inside]
posted by NeverGrowSoOldAgain on Feb 17, 2016 - 41 answers

Preserving the stability I've worked so hard to achieve

After being diagnosed with bipolar II, my partner and I accidentally built my coping strategies around my total emotional reliance on him. Now that I have my career on track and have moved into what was to be "our home," I feel my stability at risk as it truly sinks in that he is exiting the relationship, but wants to remain as friends and a support system. How can I process this grief without compromising my stability? [more inside]
posted by asmith30 on Feb 17, 2016 - 19 answers

Is there hope for HSV+ and OCD+?

Found out the guy I'm seeing, whom I really, really like, has oral HSV-1. I have OCD and GAD and a huge phobia specifically of herpes. Can this work out? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 14, 2016 - 18 answers

How do I trust myself with affirmations after a recent breakup?

How do I trust myself with affirmations if I constantly seek validation from external sources, especially intimate relationships? I am coming out of a recent breakup that triggered severe anxiety and dependency. I am keeping busy after the breakup (it has been 2.5 weeks) but I still feel like there is something missing from my recovery process. I am seeking professional help soon (I have an appointment scheduled) but I find anecdotal examples of others' experiences to be extremely helpful. [more inside]
posted by modernman on Feb 10, 2016 - 7 answers

Did I miss the boat in life? Will I be able to maintain relationships?

If you are successful in maintaining relationships, maybe you can answer some questions. My main concern is that I haven’t developed typically like others. When I went to high school, I was depressed and had social anxiety. Therefore, I didn’t have any kind of high school experience-no friends, no funny stories, no major personal development, and no boyfriends. [more inside]
posted by crystal_stair on Feb 8, 2016 - 28 answers

A friendship ending unexpectedly

A friend who has meant the world to me has ended our friendship because...well, I'm not sure. [more inside]
posted by Champagne Supernova on Feb 8, 2016 - 28 answers

Help me be as supportive as possible while pregnant and full of anxiety

I'm 32 weeks pregnant with my first child. Meanwhile, my sweetie's father is succumbing to cancer (so, by the way, is my stepmom, whom I love dearly). I'm interested in tips on how to cope with tough stuff like this while pregnant, how to both be supportive and get the support I need right now. [more inside]
posted by Lisitasan on Feb 5, 2016 - 11 answers

Seeking romantic compatibility anecdata

Deep in limerence, but the first attempt at sex was disappointing. [more inside]
posted by hellameangirl on Jan 31, 2016 - 21 answers

I'm in a rough spot in my relationship. Should I tell my mom?

I'm quite close with my mother, and discuss many aspects of my life with her. She is a good sounding board, and has good advice, especially about interpersonal issues. I've been having difficulties in my relationship with my SO for several months now. Would talking to my mother about this be a terrible idea? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 31, 2016 - 23 answers

Shaving every day as the price of admission for sex

Had a tiff last night with my boyfriend regarding leg stubble. When I tried to get frisky he told me I needed to go shave first since it had been three days. This has come up before and I'm feeling a bit hurt and resentful. He insisted he was joking and didn't care if I'd shaved. Do I need to just let it go? [more inside]
posted by Chkalovskaya on Jan 30, 2016 - 156 answers

How do I navigate the break-up with my first and only love (at age 30)

After having gone through cancer and mental illness together, the love of my life and I are on the verge of splitting up for good. How can I best try to salvage the relationship? Details below. [more inside]
posted by asmith30 on Jan 27, 2016 - 35 answers

I am EXTREMELY attracted to my professors/TAs. Help?

I've been in school (grad school!!) for two years, and I want to sex every single one of my male professors/TAs, with very few exceptions. How can I turn this infernal brain thing off?!?! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 27, 2016 - 20 answers

Ok to still be friends with someone you have slept with in the past?

Say you're in a committed monogamous relationship. Your partner has a friend with whom they once had a one-night-stand, which was a singular event at the start of the friendship. This friend is close with your partner, and they discuss personal things like sex, and talk regularly. Is this ok, or not? Snowflakes within. [more inside]
posted by mymbleth on Jan 23, 2016 - 46 answers

Friendship after a break up

If you are someone who is or has been good friends with an ex-partner, how does that happen and what does it look like? What do you think are the necessary conditions for this to happen? How do you navigate feelings and boundaries? What are timelines like (ie is there a cooling off period involved)? Do you get jealous of their new partners? Thanks in advance. [more inside]
posted by mossicle on Jan 23, 2016 - 17 answers

How do I end two relationships in a positive note?

Need help in ending two relationships in a way that is not too hurtful for any of those involved. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 21, 2016 - 15 answers

Should I leave the relationship?

I have been in a relationship for 3.5 years and have currently been told by my partner to have a 'think' about what I want to do. I don't expect you to solve my problems for me but other perspectives might be useful. Apologies as there is a background blizzard which I will try to keep brief. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 19, 2016 - 21 answers

My fiancee is uncomfortable with my friendship with another woman!`

My wife-to-be made a friend. That friend and I also got along well and became friends. My fiancee was hurt by this, the friendship ended and now I'm unsure how to proceed. Much, much more below [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 13, 2016 - 74 answers

High Risk HPV Transmission

Can HIGH risk HPV be transmitted by performing oral sex? [more inside]
posted by Asian_Hunnie on Jan 7, 2016 - 6 answers

I'm worried about being a successful woman when it comes to dating.

At 24, I worry about how to present myself without coming across as intimidating to men. [more inside]
posted by Ariel432 on Jan 7, 2016 - 58 answers

Cancer troubles vs relationship troubles?

Boyfriend has colorectal cancer and I am starting to struggle to support him as I feel increasingly resentful and like I'm losing my own life to support his. Please help.... [more inside]
posted by starstarstar on Jan 7, 2016 - 16 answers

How has your extended family handled your poly relationship?

Asking for a writing project (not in need of personal guidance). Have you told your parents, siblings, aunts, etc. about your "other" partner(s)? How do you handle family gatherings/occasions, and more importantly, how much or how little have your (or your partners') family accepted it? For lack of a better phrase, what happened when you "came out" as poly? [more inside]
posted by scaryblackdeath on Jan 3, 2016 - 7 answers

Adressing emotional infidelity

I've been dating Laura exclusively for 6 months. She was recently vacationing at a resort without me, and I have found out that she spent a lot of time getting to know another guy in a pretty intense/intimate way. I don't believe she slept with him but I can't be sure. She has not talked to me about this herself, normally we share practically everything and have discussed the issue of exclusivity/jealousy in the past. She's omitting it in my case but has talked about it to others and this is how I found out. Now I can't shake feelings of hurt and betrayal and I'm not sure what to do with them. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 1, 2016 - 40 answers

resources for troubled in-law relations?

Yeah, I know, in-law problems are so common as to be a cliche. But I don't want my family to be a cliche! The resources I've found on in-law relationships have typically been super conservative/religious, or deal with highly toxic and dramatic situations (which ours isn't), or are mostly parenting-focused (we don't have kids). Surely someone has written a book or a blog about in-law issues that are mostly about clashing personalities and priorities? [more inside]
posted by We put our faith in Blast Hardcheese on Dec 28, 2015 - 23 answers

Office Hours at Home

My partner often comes up to me and starts talking no matter what I'm doing - reading a book, writing, working on a drawing. He doesn't wait until I make eye contact or acknowledge him - he just starts talking. This means that when I'm concentrating on something I'm frequently interrupted. Is there a way for me to remain physically present and available for occasional conversation while signalling that I am busy and don't wish to be constantly interrupted? [more inside]
posted by sleepy psychonaut on Dec 26, 2015 - 30 answers

How to be okay with the ex-wife at Christmas (and other family events)

How do you deal with new partners with adult kids - and more importantly, the ex partners! Asking for my MIL (I haven't told her I'm doing this, I just want to be a good DIL and want some good advice to give her - whether she accepts it or not is another matter, that will probably be down to how I present it...) [more inside]
posted by finding.perdita on Dec 26, 2015 - 20 answers

They're singin' Deck The Halls, but it's not like Christmas at all...

The ex and I have started hanging out frequently again after a several month period of no contact and a couple of other dates/relationships with others under our belts while maintaining a loose friendship, and I want a second chance at our relationship. What's the healthiest way to proceed without screwing this up? [more inside]
posted by Malleable on Dec 22, 2015 - 15 answers

How to help cheating ex without hurting myself

Ex cheated on me. It hurts. She's now in an abusive, controlling relationship. Where do I draw the line between helping her and helping me? Many, many snow flurries inside. [more inside]
posted by AnonymousPuppet on Dec 21, 2015 - 30 answers

Feeling ambivalent about my relationship, but I don't know how to say so

In recent weeks I've started to notice that I've become ambivalent about my relationship with my GF. Recently she was away for a weekend and I realised that I didn't miss her all that much. I think that I need to talk to her about this but I don't know how to do it fairly and kindly. [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Dec 17, 2015 - 32 answers

Coming to terms with yourself and your thoughts

I have a hard time making decisions or trusting my gut. I'm a big worrier and I am hard on myself. I need an objective opinion on thoughts I have been struggling with regarding my relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 16, 2015 - 15 answers

Am I unlucky, or unlovable?!

Ok, that was a very dramatic question title. But dude: I'm 32 and haven't had a relationship for 5 and 1/2 years! How do I change this and/or shake the feeling it's because I'm just not worthy? [more inside]
posted by dryersock on Dec 13, 2015 - 15 answers

Tell me this isn't limerence

I have been pretty sure I like this girl for a while now, and now that the issue has been raised and left unresolved, I'm in crisis mode and don't know what I'm feeling. [more inside]
posted by myitkyina on Dec 13, 2015 - 12 answers

How to get through a toxic work relationship/environment?

I'm having a hard time aligning with my co-worker. I think we're incompatible. There's also been the feel of a toxic work environment. More under the fold. [more inside]
posted by dubious_dude on Dec 10, 2015 - 17 answers

How to Deal With My Mother (Not Just Holiday Edition)

I've always had a strange relationship with my mother and the holiday season obviously makes it harder. I live overseas and today I learned my cousin died two days ago .. via my mother putting up an In Memoriam video on FB. It's the latest blow in a long series of disappointments. I'd appreciate advice on how to deal with a mother who both pulls me in and keep pushing me away. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 2, 2015 - 24 answers

For a successful marriage, marry your second spouse.

What are some truisms that you know of or have learnt through your personal experience when it comes to deciding whom to marry? What are some good rules of thumb to finding the right partner the first time around? [more inside]
posted by rippersid on Nov 30, 2015 - 51 answers

How do I stop being infatuated?

I'm a 40-ish married man. How do I stop being infatuated with a younger woman that I know very well? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 29, 2015 - 43 answers

My partner has ED. How do I make him feel better?

My boyfriend has had problems maintaining an erection and reaching orgasm for the 7 months we've been together. I love him a lot and know that this hurts him, probably far more than he is letting on. This isn't about me - I would just love some advice from people that have either been in my or his situation about things that have helped them to feel like they aren't a failure or less masculine because of it. [more inside]
posted by kyetak on Nov 26, 2015 - 16 answers

A two-part question about cheating

For those who have been cheated on: how did you deal with the heartbreak? For those who have cheated: how did you deal with the guilt? Would like to hear from those who were in very long-term relationships (10+ years) and whose relationships did not survive. [more inside]
posted by puppet du sock on Nov 24, 2015 - 26 answers

It's not you, it's me, no, it's you.

I went out with a guy a few months ago. It didn't work out and for some reason I'm still puzzled by and dwelling at times on his behavior. Was it him? Was it me? Wtf. [more inside]
posted by a knot unknown on Nov 24, 2015 - 22 answers

How do we improve our intellectual connection?

I’m dating a man who is my kindred spirit in many ways. However, we have been dating for a year now, and I have felt over most of this time a sense of yearning for challenging conversation that I just don’t get with him. How have you seen people develop their critical thinking, abstract reasoning, and complex verbal expression abilities as adults? Conversely, if you have found happiness being with someone with whom you don’t have an intellectual connection, how have you managed around this on an everyday basis? [more inside]
posted by forasong on Nov 23, 2015 - 88 answers

How to deal with insecurity over exes in a new relationship

My new boyfriend's recent ex still contacts him. I don't think there is anything inappropriate going on, but the fact that they still have an emotional connection makes me uneasy. Can you give me a reality check on whether I'm being reasonable, and how to address it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 22, 2015 - 21 answers

What should I do about this contact from an ex?

Three and a half years ago, I (a man) ended a relationship with a woman and have not had any interaction with her since. In the past few months, she (1) left a series of love notes for me on a tree by a running path near my house; (2) sent me a letter at my work asking to meet in person to speak about our breakup; and (3) sent me an email the same day asking why I hadn't agreed to meet with her in person. All of this would be okay (but awkward) had we broken up three weeks ago, but, as it's been three and a half years, I'm a little concerned. What should I do? Not do? I have not yet replied in any way. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 19, 2015 - 38 answers

Is there some Facebook tradecraft I need to learn?

For the sake of relationship harmony I've created a Facebook profile. How can I use Facebook without having it become an intrustive and hateful thing in my life? [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Nov 19, 2015 - 30 answers

How to tackle multiple goals or get shit done w/anxiety etc.

Sort of recently (about 2 & a half months in) moved to a brand new town so my husband (I'm, 29, he's 32) could go to uni. I was so stoked on having a clean slate to start everything anew, but not so much any more. Reality has set in and i'm dealing with soaring bouts of anxiety and pretty severe mood swings, and can't seem to decide anything tangible to get shit actually done. Any ideas / practical advice regarding how to deal with this would be so welcome. I have so much time alone i think i'm actually going a little nuts. More inside [more inside]
posted by speakeasy on Nov 18, 2015 - 18 answers

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