I have always been an a emotionally sensitive guy, and I guess being this way has its pros and cons. In my current and past relationships, my emotions really seem to get the best of me. When I am single, I usually have a firm grasp over my emotions, but when I am in a relationship, my emotions become heightened. I am usually very sensitive to the moods of my significant others, to the point that if they are in a bad mood, I also get in a bad mood. And a lot of times, I think I wrongfully attribute the reason for their bad moods to myself, and therefore get somewhat insecure. I don't think this is very healthy. My current girlfriend thinks its great that I am sensitive some of the time, but not great at other times. It drives me crazy when she says "I am too sensitive" when she may tease me about a topic that I am sensitive about, but she feels is funny or harmless. I don't like feeling like a wimp, but I also don't like feeling like my sensitivities are unwarranted. I guess I want to figure out how to be more disciplined with my emotions while at the same time not becoming a heartless boyfriend. Help me become emotionally mature and intelligent.
There's this girl. I have been a casual aquaintance of this girl for about two years. A week and a half ago we bumped into each other at the grocery store, and something was in the air. Two days later, we bump into each other again at a restaurant where we somehow exchange phone numbers. Since then, a week and a half later, we have been texting each other like crazy, talking on the phone, emailing, and have had a few walks and talks together. There is some intense chemistry going on. This is a great thing!
Now if it was only that simple. This girl just broke up with her boyfriend of two years yesterday. They actually lived together but she moved out about 4 months ago when they broke up for the first time.... She was the one that has initiated the breaking up, and from what I have gathered from her friends, she was going to break up with him regardless of any chemistry between us. It sounds like they have pretty much been on the outs for quite some time.
So.....with this 'situation' and this intense chemistry, how do I approach this one. Head for the hills? Give her some time? Wear a shirt that says 'Rebound Boy'? I am very interested in getting to know her but I also am very aware of what she may or may not be going through right now. Am I a complete idiot?
I am 30 years old and have been living in beautiful Bermuda for 4 years. I work as a computer analyst, have a good amount of money saved, and I am entirely single. Problem is, I am now ready to settle down, but a small island like this doesn't lend itself very well to meeting compatible single women who aren't tourists. If I was in love, I would stay in Bermuda as long as immigration laws would let me. I have been thinking about moving somewhere in which I can sustain my outstanding lifestyle ( think laid back, friendly people, beautiful landscape, great money ), while at the sametime increasing the likelihood of meeting / getting to know that special someone ( think hot, smart, down-to-earth, worldly ). I consider the world my oyster. I like small towns and big cities alike. Where should I consider living?