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Statute of Limitations on Saying Nasty Things After a Bad Breakup

Long story lots of snowflake details to follow. First girlfriend and I broke up about 10 years ago. Haven't spoken since. I made the mistake of looking at her social media accounts recently out of curiosity, and uh...she has been saying some pretty mean things about me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 20, 2016 - 25 answers

How to support an abusive friend?

I have a long-term friend who recently assaulted someone at a party. My peer group has basically cut them off at this point. Is there any way to be a good ally AND a good friend or am I going to have to choose sides and end one of the longest relationships in my life? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 14, 2016 - 44 answers

LDR breakup logistics?

I think it's time for me to breakup with my long distance GF. The "if I should" questions aside, when should I do this, and should I do it in person? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 9, 2016 - 17 answers

Help a guy keep his eyes on the prize in dating and romance

I'm a straight man in his mid-40s who has lost the ability to romantically fantasise. After a late start with the business of touching other people, and some relationships with awesome people where I just wasn't having fun, I've gone too cynical and lost sight of the fact that intimacy makes people happy. Are there stories or dramas that will help me imagine a fulfilling love life? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 7, 2016 - 6 answers

How to date ethically when you're at the top of a hierarchy?

Everyone says not to do it, but you're going to do it anyway: how to approach dating ethically within a hierarchical community, when you're at the top? I'd like to protect myself, the person I'm interested in, and the other community members who may be affected as much as possible. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 4, 2016 - 15 answers

Low Libido... Nooooooooo

I’m a 35-yr-old cis woman married to a wonderful man. I’m attracted to him in every way, and we’ve been together for 10 years. This is the first time I’ve needed to reach out for this problem… [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 21, 2016 - 18 answers

I love my husband…but I don’t want to sleep with him. Does it matter?

Until I slept with someone else, I didn't realise what I was missing. But I can't break up our lives on a whim. I don't know what to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 16, 2016 - 38 answers

When Judas repents: Forgive or tell her to f*** off?

Is forgiving someone who has hurt you before and believing them when they say they won't again just naive wishful thinking? Or is it a virtue of the brave and the only path to maturity? The rest of the drama inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 14, 2016 - 34 answers

How to hit the reset button on our sex life and libidos?

Our sex life has been lackluster for a long time and I want to change that, but there's a long and complicated history.. Wall of text inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 14, 2016 - 33 answers

How can a fundamentalist explore beyond her upbringing?

How can I respectfully explore the possibility that, as a woman, I'm attracted to women? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 17, 2016 - 14 answers

Gay man in a relationship which could be going better

I'm a gay man in a relationship with a closeted man. We've been dating for a few months, going out to dinner and to movies, texting each other for an hour or two every night, talking about all sorts of things ... but things could be going better. (NSFW) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 3, 2016 - 20 answers

GF is more successful than me, how do I deal?

My girlfriend is more successful than me. How do I keep myself from turning into a jealous weird guy? I want to celebrate and support her success, without getting bummed out and feeling emasculated. Looking for strategies (non-redpill) on how to not let this get to me, not blow my budget, and maintain my sense of masculinity. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 28, 2016 - 31 answers

Tell me a story of rekindling romance in a long term relationship?

We've been together for over ten years, and we started out with the normal amount of crazy making out and new relationship energy. Our intimacy (by which I mostly mean sex and physical affection, but some in other ways, too) faded over time, though, despite some effort to beat the fade-out back. I'd really like to hear from people who have had a similar problem and have worked through it to have a close, at least moderately sexually active marriage. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 21, 2016 - 20 answers

How do I cope with not being #1 with my g/f who has 2 young kids.

All my past relationships were ones which we could both selfishly be top of the totem pole to the other, now I've been dating a woman with 2 children under 10 and I'm struggling with being too needy or feeling like I want more of her time than I guess she wants to/can give. I understand I'll never come before her kids and I do care for them as well but it's very challenging lately to cope with since there's been a dramatic drop in intimacy lately too (not just sex but random acts of kindness; the "honeymoon period" type affection stopped almost at the same time as moving in with her). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 14, 2016 - 20 answers

Do I tell the 'other' person about an affair?

Long story, short, I have recently discovered my long term partner has been cheating on me with (many) different people. However, one that I know for certain are/were (now ex I guess) acquaintances of mine. Do I tell the husband??? I'll give more details below, about the specific situation, for those interested. I would be interested to hear from people who have specifically been the 'other' person in a situation like this, and if/when you would have wanted to know, or not know as it were, as opposed to getting into an ethical discussion about what is or isn't anyone's business, from people who have never experienced this before. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 7, 2016 - 27 answers

Is there hope for HSV+ and OCD+?

Found out the guy I'm seeing, whom I really, really like, has oral HSV-1. I have OCD and GAD and a huge phobia specifically of herpes. Can this work out? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 14, 2016 - 18 answers

I'm in a rough spot in my relationship. Should I tell my mom?

I'm quite close with my mother, and discuss many aspects of my life with her. She is a good sounding board, and has good advice, especially about interpersonal issues. I've been having difficulties in my relationship with my SO for several months now. Would talking to my mother about this be a terrible idea? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 31, 2016 - 23 answers

I am EXTREMELY attracted to my professors/TAs. Help?

I've been in school (grad school!!) for two years, and I want to sex every single one of my male professors/TAs, with very few exceptions. How can I turn this infernal brain thing off?!?! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 27, 2016 - 20 answers

How do I end two relationships in a positive note?

Need help in ending two relationships in a way that is not too hurtful for any of those involved. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 21, 2016 - 15 answers

Should I leave the relationship?

I have been in a relationship for 3.5 years and have currently been told by my partner to have a 'think' about what I want to do. I don't expect you to solve my problems for me but other perspectives might be useful. Apologies as there is a background blizzard which I will try to keep brief. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 19, 2016 - 21 answers

My fiancee is uncomfortable with my friendship with another woman!`

My wife-to-be made a friend. That friend and I also got along well and became friends. My fiancee was hurt by this, the friendship ended and now I'm unsure how to proceed. Much, much more below [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 13, 2016 - 74 answers

Adressing emotional infidelity

I've been dating Laura exclusively for 6 months. She was recently vacationing at a resort without me, and I have found out that she spent a lot of time getting to know another guy in a pretty intense/intimate way. I don't believe she slept with him but I can't be sure. She has not talked to me about this herself, normally we share practically everything and have discussed the issue of exclusivity/jealousy in the past. She's omitting it in my case but has talked about it to others and this is how I found out. Now I can't shake feelings of hurt and betrayal and I'm not sure what to do with them. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 1, 2016 - 40 answers

Coming to terms with yourself and your thoughts

I have a hard time making decisions or trusting my gut. I'm a big worrier and I am hard on myself. I need an objective opinion on thoughts I have been struggling with regarding my relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 16, 2015 - 15 answers

How to Deal With My Mother (Not Just Holiday Edition)

I've always had a strange relationship with my mother and the holiday season obviously makes it harder. I live overseas and today I learned my cousin died two days ago .. via my mother putting up an In Memoriam video on FB. It's the latest blow in a long series of disappointments. I'd appreciate advice on how to deal with a mother who both pulls me in and keep pushing me away. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 2, 2015 - 24 answers

How do I stop being infatuated?

I'm a 40-ish married man. How do I stop being infatuated with a younger woman that I know very well? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 29, 2015 - 43 answers

How to deal with insecurity over exes in a new relationship

My new boyfriend's recent ex still contacts him. I don't think there is anything inappropriate going on, but the fact that they still have an emotional connection makes me uneasy. Can you give me a reality check on whether I'm being reasonable, and how to address it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 22, 2015 - 21 answers

What should I do about this contact from an ex?

Three and a half years ago, I (a man) ended a relationship with a woman and have not had any interaction with her since. In the past few months, she (1) left a series of love notes for me on a tree by a running path near my house; (2) sent me a letter at my work asking to meet in person to speak about our breakup; and (3) sent me an email the same day asking why I hadn't agreed to meet with her in person. All of this would be okay (but awkward) had we broken up three weeks ago, but, as it's been three and a half years, I'm a little concerned. What should I do? Not do? I have not yet replied in any way. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 19, 2015 - 38 answers

My partner thinks I am emotionally manipulative. How do I address?

My partner read last week's FPP about emotional manipulators. He says that while he does not want to imply this is me at all times, it resonated, particularly this article. The internet is replete with advice on how to spot manipulators and get them out of your lives. It has little on how to stop it in yourself. Help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 5, 2015 - 47 answers

Help us find a sex therapist in the Twin Cities

Wife and I recognize that we need outside help, but aren't sure how to find it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 3, 2015 - 2 answers

Am I being unreasonable, or is my girlfriend right?

I'm male, mid 30s. I've been dating a woman (GF) close to my age for several weeks now. My best friend (BF) is female, early 30s. I have a camping trip coming up with BF (we do this semi-frequently). GF doesn't want me to go because "grown men in relationships don't go camping alone with other women". Is she right? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 17, 2015 - 107 answers

Can't love someone or just don't love someone? How do I fix this?

I have been a series of unsuccessful relationships where my feelings disappeared over time. I cannot feel love for my long term partner, but also no longer feel love for family members. I have a history of severe depression, which is clearly an issue, but am not currently feeling particularly depressed (by my own standards, if not those of most people). I don't know how to proceed in my current relationship, as I don't know if my feelings are masked, possibly recoverable or just gone forever. I have posted here before about other emotional issues, but I’m keeping this anonymous because the other threads would link this one back to me. The MeFi community was *amazing* last time. This is a much more complex issue, but I would still appreciate your views. Can I learn to love - my partner, myself, anyone? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 16, 2015 - 8 answers

What is it like to be in a partnership where one person has limited mobility?

What are the adaptations in your house that you've made to make your life a little easier (e.g., walk-in shower, service dog)? Is the limited mobility something you think about every day, or does it just become a part of your life after a while? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 14, 2015 - 12 answers

When things start going very wrong...

I started a new job in another country 15 months ago. It seemed to be going great and changed my life for the better. But then last couple of months, things started to go unexpectedly downhill and it snowballed from there. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 11, 2015 - 8 answers

How to find a balance with a (maybe?) flirty partner?

My husband and I have different boundaries when it comes to what we consider to be 'kind of cheating' behaviour and I'm struggling to deal with it. My current plan is based on a tit-for-tat approach, but that seems pretty childish. What is a better way to deal with this without becoming a crazy jealousy monster? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 9, 2015 - 33 answers

Approaches for financial imbalances in a committed relationship?

My partner and I are in a committed relationship of over three years. She's in academia getting her PhD, I hold a professional 9-5 "knowledge-worker" position making a substantial salary. We've been living together for a year and a half, and have worked out a financial situation based on equitable contributions (pretty much a percentage of our incomes). But, my partner is about to enter into the writing the dissertation phase, but her grant money will run out and taking out additional student loans just seems like digging deeper into insane debt. We're discussing a situation where temporarily I'll effectively be supporting her fully. What approaches have other MeFites taken in this situation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 3, 2015 - 39 answers

Compromise... how does that work?

I am madly in love with my boyfriend and I want to spend the rest of my life with him. But I also desperately miss being single and only being responsible to and for myself. I'm not sure how to cope with this; I don't know whether it's going to get better on its own as we get better at communicating with each other, whether I'm just going to gradually get used to the status quo, or whether I need to mourn that loss of independence and move on with my (generally pretty great) new life (maybe all three). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 3, 2015 - 16 answers

Your mind is telling me no... and your mind is telling me yes...

The Situation: A guy whom I felt complicatedly "led me on," and with whom I thought I had begun to come to a resolution, has rapidly returned to strong behaviors that led me to fall for him in the first place. This is upsetting and confusing, as I had made clear that these were what led us into the situation in the first place. I'd love some help and advice as to navigating a conversation with him about boundaries, while balancing complicated feelings of deep connection to this gentleman and the need to respect myself and model such self-respect. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 29, 2015 - 21 answers

Appropriate ways of coping

Two years ago, my husband and I separated. A year ago we got divorced. Although he initiated the split, we both agreed it was probably the best thing to do. We had managed to maintain a cordial but distant relationship until a few weeks ago, when he informed me that he is dating an old friend of ours who also happens to live on my street. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 29, 2015 - 22 answers

Recommendations for a psychiatrist in Manhattan?

I have wasted years, literally, recovering from recent breakups and life is slipping away. Is there a psychiatrist in Manhattan or Brooklyn who could help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 23, 2015 - 5 answers

Girlfriend has possibly hereditary depression---education for me?

I'm looking for resources, either literature or conversation, to help me think about getting into a serious relationship with someone who is mentally ill and has enormous family history of mental illness. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 18, 2015 - 33 answers

Nice is creepy

I am really struggling with developing relationships with nice nonsocially awkward people. Having gone to a few different cbt therapists, I have made major improvements with anxiety/perfectionism/feeling judged. However, when I start chatting with someone who seems not at all socially awkward and appropriately nice, I feel my skin start to crawl and distance myself. How can I fix this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 15, 2015 - 9 answers

For me it's never "F*ck Yes"

Referring to the title of this article: F*ck Yes or No. I never feel so charmed by someone I meet that I am no-question into them. How do people like me create meaningful romantic relationships? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 7, 2015 - 27 answers

How do you define a sex addict?

A close friend and confidante of mine has started a new relationship, but she's questioning what's "normal" for sexual appetites. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 5, 2015 - 30 answers

Boyfriend extremely pushy with sex

I have been seeing someone for 4 months. Quite a few times he was very pushy with having sex while I am sick or during period when I made it clear that I don't want to. He never actually crosses the line in forcing me to do it but I still feel weirded out. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 3, 2015 - 84 answers

I want a divorce, he doesn't

After a long consideration phase, I have decided that I want a divorce but my partner is refusing to start the formal process. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 29, 2015 - 25 answers

i love you, but your happiness is smothering me

As someone with a history of transcience and instability, can I be happy in a relationship with someone who's had a very conventional life? A looooong explanation follows. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 25, 2015 - 16 answers

Searching for answers regarding lack of success in romance

Why am I also so disappointed and unsuccessful when it comes to dating, romance, and relationships? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 18, 2015 - 12 answers

Figuring out your relationship as a younger sister

I have an older half-sister, who I refer to as my sister because we are (were) very close. She is 14 years older than me. I am 23. Due to the age gap, we now have an odd sibling relationship, and I'm trying to figure out my place in it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 17, 2015 - 17 answers

Can I save my relationship? Is it worth saving?

I have been with my fiancée three years, but he doesn't communicate with me, and I'm at my wits end. Is it worth ending an otherwise good relationship if he won't listen to you? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 16, 2015 - 53 answers

Can you Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind someone virtually?

Yeah, that question is a weird one, so I will try to sum it up; boy meets girl, girls sleeps with boy, boy is a stunning wild Ukrainian flower that does not take life seriously and sleeps around on a daily basis, girl gets deeply attached, boy does not. However, I have become addicted to masochistically googling his name so I can view his social networks' pages (mostly Instagram, but also his VKontakte page). It became a daily ritual that deeply interferes with the fact that I absolutely know I should forget all about him and move on, cause as some of you know, this is a cul-de-sac and it hurts. So, I was wondering (perhaps very naively) if there is some way, or even some kind of a paid service, that will make it practically impossible for me to do this. It will make it impossible to google him, OR will block his social status pages from me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 16, 2015 - 16 answers

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