I am divorced and retained my married name because I like it and it suits me, and my kids share it. I would like to keep my name, even if I married again. I am dating someone casually who has mentioned that anyone he would marry would have to change her name to his. What is the hive opinion of keeping a name from a previous marriage? Is this unheard of? Should this be a dealbreaker?
posted by Goodgrief on Dec 11, 2009 - 90 answers

Has anyone taking the birth control pill Levora/Levlen had a loss of libido? [more inside]
posted by roxie110 on Nov 12, 2009 - 15 answers

Lonely, hungry for intimacy, ravenous to be touched, coddled or stroked. I'm old, sick and unattractive, I used to be smoking hot but men don't look at me any more, nor do they even acknowledge my presence. The area I live in is sparse for dating, and I've even tried one night stands. I have given up. What are some other ways to get the physical needs I have for the human social intimate relationship I do not have? I've done the CL casual encounters, internet dating etc.... Going for a massage now to see if it helps, and yes I have a loving and much loved pet....but I need more. Any resources? I'm sure there are others like me out there.
posted by ~Sushma~ on Nov 6, 2009 - 15 answers

When is it time to get rid of the dog? Fiance's poorly-trained dog has bitten me three times. I'm nervous about moving in with them and our future children. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by emkelley on Nov 3, 2009 - 51 answers

Previously dated men, now wants to date women. Problem: I can't tell when women are interested in me or if they just want to be friends. [more inside]
posted by Eleutherios on Oct 13, 2009 - 17 answers

Online-dating filter: Should I confront him about bringing his girlfriend on what I thought was a date, or just let it all go? [more inside]
posted by aabbbiee on Oct 12, 2009 - 30 answers

I'm 25 years old, male, attracted to women. I have some funny fetishes, and there is something called "autogynephilia", love of oneself as a woman, that I'm pretty sure applies to me. What kind of woman can I get into a relationship with who would be understanding? [more inside]
posted by jikeda on Sep 18, 2009 - 19 answers

Why wasn't I invited on this fishing trip? [more inside]
posted by wv kay in ga on Sep 8, 2009 - 29 answers

2 weeks out from my wedding, and future mother-in-law is creating drama about future father-in-law's partner, who is roundly despised by all involved. [more inside]
posted by Seppaku on Sep 5, 2009 - 66 answers

My mother's grief is overwhelming me. How do I keep my cool? [more inside]
posted by Monsters on Sep 5, 2009 - 25 answers

So I've been dating this really cool gentlemen for 2 months. We are taking things slow but I find myself getting caught up with him. This is a problem. It's a problem because now he's holding back a bit whereas he was stronger in pursuing me before. Can anyone share advice as to how I can keep my cool so he doesnt become disinterested? Also, how will I know when a man has become disinterested? I'm rambling, sorry but when i become infatuated or "in love" I can't think straight and I lose my sense of self. Save this poor girl from herself. Ha!
posted by InterestedInKnowing on Aug 27, 2009 - 16 answers

Are mix tapes (Mix CDs, online playlists et al) still relevant? [more inside]
posted by animerion on Aug 17, 2009 - 15 answers

Should I be content with just being friends, or should I push more? [more inside]
posted by animerion on Aug 8, 2009 - 16 answers

In your experience, what is the average normal length of time a couple is in a honeymoon period before they transition to the normal day to day getting to know you phase of a relationship period? I'm looking for personal anecdotes, tell me what your experience has been. I know there is no one perfect answer out there, I'm just trying to figure out if this is a relationship I should pursue if I'm feeling like its only been two months and perhaps that period is over (or it never really began because he's really difficult to communicate with). I enjoy this person's company tremendously, we do a lot of activities together, however, we don't spend a lot of time just talking. We don't spend much time even fooling around, even though the attraction is there and its palpable. He avoids intimacy. How do I coax him out of his shell?
posted by dmbfan93 on Aug 7, 2009 - 22 answers

Grad-school, med school, residency match, geography...help? [more inside]
posted by DeucesHigh on Aug 2, 2009 - 12 answers

I'm looking for some success stories from or about people in a relationship with someone who appears to struggle with loneliness, anxiety and introversion. Can it be done? [more inside]
posted by ninotchka on Jul 23, 2009 - 24 answers

Help me go back to being a happy girl. [more inside]
posted by cobain_angel on Jul 20, 2009 - 20 answers

How do I stop acting like a complete weirdo? It freaks people out, which freaks me out, which freaks them out more on and on in an infinite cycle. [more inside]
posted by wiretap on Jul 15, 2009 - 44 answers

My heart just got smooshed, and then I woke up to this on my iGoogle page. Can you help me keep the hobgoblins of my mind at bay today? [more inside]
posted by ohyouknow on Jul 1, 2009 - 31 answers

Working in Family Business. What would you consider that "line" where you are no longer dealing with a family member but a co-worker, boss, etc.. [more inside]
posted by Gravitus on Jun 13, 2009 - 5 answers

How do you define "success" in relationships? [more inside]
posted by pauldonato on May 27, 2009 - 22 answers

I met this girl, and we were sorta-dating for a couple of weeks, before eventually she decided she wasn't up for dating anyone at the moment and we had the "just friends" talk. I'm fine with that, but would like AMF's advice on best practices for making her have second thoughts. This is less of a bad idea than it might seem, I promise. [more inside]
posted by Jacen Solo on May 26, 2009 - 52 answers

Tell me the best way to introduce my kid to new significant others. [more inside]
posted by RajahKing on May 14, 2009 - 17 answers

Would my ex really lie about something like this? [more inside]
posted by InterestedInKnowing on May 10, 2009 - 29 answers

Relationship Filter: I dated this guy for a month. We broke up a few weeks ago mainly because I am moving this summer. We have overlapping friends and hang out at the same places, which was fine until last week. He hooked up with a girl that I also know. Since we aren't together, I really don't care, but I think he does. Am I wrong not to be jealous? [more inside]
posted by xyla2000 on May 7, 2009 - 26 answers

How do I maintain a new relationship when we both know that we are going to break up soon? [more inside]
posted by xyla2000 on Apr 1, 2009 - 17 answers

Just started a new job. I want these people to like me. Other than working hard, what's the best way for an introverted person like me to make a good impression with my new co-workers? [more inside]
posted by Effigy2000 on Mar 31, 2009 - 23 answers

Spending the first night of Passover with a newish SO's family... I need suggestions for a gift that makes a dazzling first impression. [more inside]
posted by honeybee413 on Mar 31, 2009 - 12 answers

22-year old relationship-newbie nerd girl seeks strong, silent men. Is it possible? In which context? Anything to do to better my chances? [more inside]
posted by Dukat on Mar 20, 2009 - 43 answers

How can I learn to be more manipulative? [more inside]
posted by mercredi on Mar 16, 2009 - 55 answers

I am suing my ex in small claims court for my Xbox 360, please review the evidence and help me out. [more inside]
posted by ascetic on Mar 9, 2009 - 31 answers

I'd like advice on how to overcome my fear of disapproval from others. It manifests itself as lack of confidence/assertiveness, self-consciousness, anxiety and fear of not being good enough. Looking for all kinds of techniques, suggestions. [more inside]
posted by richar4 on Mar 8, 2009 - 16 answers

I'm waaaay too serious (please excuse the irony in my even asking this question): What makes for good humor and how can I learn to get better at using it to improve my relationships with other people? [more inside]
posted by SocialArgonaut on Mar 4, 2009 - 41 answers

I've been working with this guy for 3 months, and we've gotten on really well the whole time. Today he casually brought up his girlfriend for the first time. Why hasn't he mentioned her before? [more inside]
posted by bibliophibianj on Feb 11, 2009 - 31 answers

I want to propose to my amazing girlfriend! (Yay!) Please help me figure out how to talk to her parents. Details inside! [more inside]
posted by mockjovial on Feb 5, 2009 - 16 answers

What's the term for a woman who's trying to steal someone else's husband? I thought the term was "cuckold," but that's a husband whose wife is committing adultery. I'm in the odd position of having to console a friend who's believes her man is the target of a campaign of seduction, and I'd like a succinct term. [more inside]
posted by Mozai on Feb 2, 2009 - 37 answers

Horrors-of-Dating-Filter: Defining the relationship: How soon is too soon? And what about early-relationship-stage gifts for birthday and Valentines? [more inside]
posted by adjockey on Jan 21, 2009 - 29 answers

How can we get our friends to put their 4 year old to bed so we can have grown up evenings together? [more inside]
posted by lilyflower on Jan 18, 2009 - 45 answers

What's a girl to do? [more inside]
posted by faeuboulanger on Jan 12, 2009 - 43 answers

I had a very deep relationship with a woman a couple of years ago. She ended it and my reaction, to say the least. was not the best (no violence or threats). [more inside]
posted by Carbolic on Jan 1, 2009 - 30 answers

How do I deal with a racist boyfriend? How did you help someone overcome their racism, or did someone help you overcome yours? [more inside]
posted by lblair on Dec 2, 2008 - 55 answers

How do you complain about something in a way that's not a put down? [more inside]
posted by Muffy on Nov 26, 2008 - 40 answers

I'm nervous about spending Thanksgiving weekend with my boyfriend's Midwestern family out-of-state in Indiana. They're flying both of us out for Thursday-Sunday, and I want to be sure to make a good impression. Advice? [more inside]
posted by booknerd on Nov 10, 2008 - 54 answers

Man who was raised in a culture where animals are meant to be working on a farm and not kept for fun... dating a dog-lovin' woman who owns a face-licking puppy. Clearly not a long-term match perhaps, but how to ease the discomfort of either party, respect everyone's feelings, and bypass disagreements? [more inside]
posted by miss lynnster on Jul 22, 2008 - 69 answers

I'm looking for thoughts on how to split up baby care between partners during maternity leave. [more inside]
posted by A Terrible Llama on Jul 10, 2008 - 17 answers

RelationshipFilter: I told my boyfriend I was fine with him traveling in Europe for a couple of weeks with his ex-girlfriend. Now I'm having second thoughts. Help me figure out how best to handle this and get my confidence back? [more inside]
posted by booknerd on Apr 22, 2008 - 68 answers

Is my fiancée cheating on me, or is this simply a case of a wrong number at the wrong time? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 29, 2007 - 131 answers