So... I drunkenly hooked up with one of my really good friends and found out he's had feelings for me for YEARS, I had a good time, but am not looking for a boyfriend, what's the right thing to do? [more inside]
posted on Jul 2, 2008 - 24 answers
Lately, the concept of "friends" seems to have become incredibly diluted by the casual use of the term by Facebook, MySpace et al. But in "the real world" what do you consider to be important when you are making and becoming friends? Is it how long you've known someone? How frequently you meet up? What you have in common? Something more intangible?
Also, I'd love recommendations of any books looking at the psychology of how people become friends.
posted on May 14, 2008 - 21 answers 
Netiquette and/or legal requirements for posting stories and pictures of other people?... [more inside]
posted on Apr 6, 2008 - 7 answers
I have very few close friends. Most of them I have known for a few years (on the internet) but have never even met. I've never known how to have a superficial friend. I don't keep old friends. Has there been any research on how many close friends people usually have and keep during their lifetimes? [more inside]
posted on Mar 3, 2008 - 2 answers
Can you recommend books, movies, or essays with good portrayals of friendships or people's social circles? [more inside]
posted on Jan 27, 2008 - 30 answers
Help me stop meeting more acquaintances and start meeting more close friends [more inside]
posted on Sep 17, 2007 - 19 answers
I've developed a bit of a crush on a girl that I consider to be a good friend. How to tell her that I have these feelings for her? [more inside]
posted on Aug 7, 2007 - 33 answers
When, if ever, do I try to repair this post-relationship friendship? [more inside]
posted on May 18, 2007 - 16 answers
I'm being cut out by my "friends" and I need advice on how to feel less shitty about it. [more inside]
posted on Apr 21, 2007 - 29 answers
What are the best ways of dealing with dramatic friends, to give them the love and support that they need without rewarding their dramatic strategies? [more inside]
posted on Apr 20, 2007 - 29 answers
Throughout my life, I've had to learn social interaction as if I were a Martian anthropologist... consciously studying, taking notes, and practicing. A few years ago, I finally cracked "how to make friends" and seemingly overnight, I started making real connections. It was amazing. But now, from experience and from talking to my all-too-quickly growing posse of close female friends (most of whom I wished could have been more than that), I'm learning that the way you interact with someone you're interested in isn't as simple as having a great friend that you make out with like there's no tomorrow. There are subtle, maybe very simple, but essential things that separate lovers from pals. I need you to tell me-- in the most literal terms possible-- what those things are. [more inside]
posted on Mar 20, 2007 - 39 answers
I have one of those "movie" situations: A really good friend of mine and I finally realized that we "like-like" each other. When I told my good friend (a mutual friend of us both) she said "Finally!! Everyone has seen it all along except for you two!!" I'm really happy with how everything's happened. But now I don't know how to proceed! [more inside]
posted on Feb 27, 2007 - 20 answers
How does one make friends in LA? [more inside]
posted on Feb 3, 2007 - 25 answers
My girlfriend of four years broke up with me. We're stuck in the same small clique for a while. How do I manage to still see all of our mutual friends? Do I just give up on seeing "her" friends? [more inside]
posted on Dec 3, 2006 - 21 answers
How do I deal with a relentless 'score-keeper'? [more inside]
posted on Oct 26, 2006 - 15 answers
Whenever a relationship question is asked, it seems like the answer is always "communicate". Talk to the person, explain what's wrong, establish the communication barrier. I'm not saying the answer is wrong - after all, it's a requisite answer for a reason - but surely, it's easier said than done? [more inside]
posted on Oct 14, 2006 - 12 answers
Yet another "How To Make Friends" post. Because they never get old. [more inside]
posted on Sep 14, 2006 - 15 answers
Someone I care for deeply is in a predicament, and I'm not sure what, if anything I can do to help her, but I will be damned if I won't try. [more inside]
posted on Sep 10, 2006 - 36 answers
Is it just me with friends split into two distinct camps--the interesting ones and the dependable ones? How do I attract people who are both? [more inside]
posted on Aug 14, 2006 - 14 answers
I am seeking advice/opinions on the situation with my crush. So many questions - is it a hopeless situation? [more inside]
posted on Aug 4, 2006 - 23 answers
Why does she get close & then shut me out? What can I do? [more inside]
posted on Jun 26, 2006 - 27 answers
Crossing the line or being petty? [more inside]
posted on Jun 15, 2006 - 46 answers
What to do with a friend that completely lacks social skills? [more inside]
posted on Jun 8, 2006 - 26 answers
Two friends agreeing to marry each other if they are single by a certain age: does this really happen in real life? [more inside]
posted on May 20, 2006 - 47 answers
How to remain friends after breaking up? [more inside]
posted on Feb 18, 2006 - 18 answers
How do I tell a crush from high school that I still have feeling for her? How do I act on those feelings? [more inside]
posted on Jan 21, 2006 - 44 answers
Please explain to me about hugging and social touching in human relationships. [more inside]
posted on Dec 11, 2005 - 33 answers
How do I learn what to say to a friend in need? [more inside]
posted on Apr 19, 2005 - 18 answers
How do you keep your friends? [more inside]
posted on Feb 8, 2005 - 31 answers
I've fallen in love with one of my best female friends, someone I have practically no chance of ever being with, and I'm unsure of how to deal with the situation. Do I cut her off completely and try to get over it? Do I act like nothing's happened and continue to be her friend despite the fact that it gets worse every time I talk to her? Do I ask her to give me space without telling her why? Help me, mefites; this is rotting me from the inside out.
posted on Jan 22, 2005 - 46 answers
How does one best handle attraction to friends of the appropriate sex, in rather complex situations? (vastly more inside)
posted on Dec 12, 2004 - 13 answers
I have a friend who stinks. He has horrible breath (he's a chain-smoker), and his clothes and body reek. I'm not sure what to do. It's so bad that many people have commented that it's hard to be around him. But other than the smell, he's a great guy. He's also lonely, and can't get a date. His life would be so much better if he had better hygiene. So what do I do about this? Tell him face-to-face? Send an anonymous email? Do nothing? If I do bring it up, how do I do it sensitively? Added to the problems, he's very poor. He can't even afford a phone. My guess is that part of the problem is that he's trying to save money on laundry. Still, soap is cheap. I'm trying to obey the Golden Rule, but it's hard. If I was the smelly one, I would want to be told, I guess. But I would be SO humiliated! He's in his early 40s. Really smart and literate.
posted on Nov 6, 2004 - 18 answers
