So I got engaged and bought a house with my fiancee. We lived together for a couple of years but it did not go well and she moved out. So I'd like to keep the house but do that I'll need to get her off the mortgage and off the deed.
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posted by anonymous
on May 22, 2013 -
21 answers
I’m a 31 year-old female. About 9 months ago, a 2-year relationship ended. I’m still struggling a lot with it. How abnormal is this, and what else can I do?
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posted by anonymous
on May 1, 2013 -
17 answers
I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 years and am very much in love. She is bipolar and it is affecting my emotional and mental health. I cannot shake these feelings of leaving her but I know love is hard to come by. What should I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 22, 2013 -
25 answers
I recently broke up with my long-term girlfriend because of her refusal to seek treatment for alcohol abuse, and, in my opinion, the maladaptive behavior that causes it. She (now) says that she wants to work on these issues for herself and her future, but I have my reservations (read: she didn't work on any of these issues in our relationship, so I doubt she's going to work on them now). Is it appropriate to send her links that describe these disorders, symptoms and treatment options? I realize that this may result in resentment, utter hatred, and most likely her resorting to the same old tendencies (maybe even worse???), but I do still care for her and want her to be the best person she can be.
posted by mrrisotto
on Apr 1, 2013 -
22 answers
BreakupFilter: I've been dating a woman for about five months now, and whilst she's lovely I'm starting to think that maybe I've been hit by a limerence bomb... As it starts to fade, is it time for me to walk away?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 22, 2013 -
17 answers
Is it better to just break up with my SO, or tell them how anxious I am about moving in together?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 25, 2013 -
25 answers
Hi. So I am a 30 year old woman dating a 37 year old guy. We started dating back when I was 22 and he was 29. I was pretty young then really now I think about it. Early days were great. However we've now been in a rut for the past 8 months or so and I'm starting to question whether I should make the effort to help fix things,... or whether it might be better to breakup. What is it like to be a newly single woman in her early thirties after the breakdown of a long relationship? I had always thought we would end up married, with kids and a house together. :(
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posted by ohayo_lion
on Jan 11, 2013 -
32 answers
I’m considering ending my relationship. Should I give him another chance to make changes?
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posted by Ms.Stocking
on Jan 4, 2013 -
47 answers
I have just ended a long term relationship due to a breach of trust. This has, however, added to my increasing lack of trust in other people -- which was little to begin with. Why should and how do I learn to trust people again?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 31, 2012 -
15 answers
There is a deal breaker and mismatched wishes about marriage to work through, but neither of us really want to break up. Can we, or should we try to work it out and stay together?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 15, 2012 -
35 answers
My ex has sneaked back into my life during a difficult time. I'm appreciative of his support but I'm nervous about backsliding emotionally. How do I set the right boundaries? Or is this just the "being friends with your ex when you're ready" thing I've read so much about here on the green?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 26, 2012 -
17 answers
When everything on the surface seems healed and healthy after a breakup, how do you quash obsessive thoughts and anger about an abusive ex- two years on?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 17, 2012 -
20 answers
I recently broke up with my boyfriend of three and a half years. In the time we were still living together but broken up I found out he was starting several relationships. Should I let these women know?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 27, 2012 -
88 answers
I will soon be breaking up with my very dear partner. Typically, this is the point at which my life goes off-track for the next few years and I lose all perspective and any mental health I've achieved. I want to approach this period in a very different way this time. My question is how to avoid both zoning out/creating a protective fog/rewriting the past to be less dramatic than it is, and avoiding the other extreme of drowning in guilt for my partner's pain and their wasted energy and my destruction of our planned future.
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posted by teslateslatesla
on Aug 23, 2012 -
19 answers
My ex-boyfriend and I (27 and 28, respectively) were together for 9 months. The last 3 months were a little rough because he has serious insecurity issues and they manifested in our relationship in multiple ways. As soon as I thought we were hitting our stride around the 9 month mark, he went away for the weekend for a "boys' trip" to the beach and sent me a Facebook message to break up, to not speak or see each other ever again, and refused to give me a reason. Since then he calls me, crying, begging for guidance...what is happening?
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posted by orumi
on Aug 14, 2012 -
90 answers
When breaking up with a live-in girlfriend, should I let show just how much forethought I've put into it?
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posted by Theophilus
on Jul 19, 2012 -
17 answers
I recently met online a former high school boyfriend from 25 years ago. We've seen each other briefly at reunions, but now we are both single and he is over the moon with me before we've even had a chance to meet in person again, which will happen tomorrow. I am confused and overwhelmed by his interest in me, how do I proceed?
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posted by waving
on Jul 17, 2012 -
15 answers
Should we break up? The middle aged version...
I see these sorts of questions all the time from people in their 20s, but I'm a little older...
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 12, 2012 -
57 answers
After a recent and unexpected breakup, I'm starting to feel like relationships can end at any time, and finding it hard to imagine letting myself love again. Help me figure out a healthier way to think about dating in general.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 22, 2012 -
22 answers
My ex-boyfriend informed me recently that he got engaged. He and I were together for almost four years (the last of which was spent long-distance), and broke up early in the fall. We both agreed that we would do our best to maintain a friendship, as we had been good friends before we entered into a relationship. Aside from the fact that this announcement of engagement comes less than six months after our relationship ended, I am most upset that he
emailed this information to me. My question is this: do I have any right to be upset by his choice of communication in this matter?
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posted by singinginmychains
on Feb 24, 2012 -
52 answers
My girlfriend and I had a rocky start to our relationship. Broke up, got back together. Our day to day is fine but we've had huge, rude fights in the past. I'm at a crossroads now.
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posted by blizkreeg
on Feb 6, 2012 -
19 answers
Fears about the future interfering with the now? Or: how hard I should try to convince him to give us another shot.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 22, 2012 -
17 answers
Recently, I said some harsh things to an ex whom until recently I had remained very good friends with. These things had been boiling inside me for months and I had to say them at this point. However, ever since I said them, she has disappeared from her online profiles (which she updated multiple times every day), I have no way of contacting her, and I'm worried. Obviously there's a lot going on, and some of it may be serious.
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posted by marriedtotacos
on Dec 18, 2011 -
33 answers
I've been dating a woman for almost a year now and I've decided it would be best for us to stop. But there are no notable "problems" in our relationship, so I don't know how to go about doing it.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 9, 2011 -
22 answers
Long-term love under siege because he can't seem to get his life started, and I think I am turning into his mom. Please help.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 16, 2011 -
54 answers
I recently broke off a 7-year relationship with my fiancee, who was already in a bad way at the time. How do I cope with the guilt?
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posted by ambassadeur
on Oct 10, 2011 -
20 answers
How do I get over an ex girlfriend? No joke, I cannot get over this girl. we met last summer, and shared great times and it lasted for months. It was intense. Then, it just died. She lives in another state and I cannot just go see her, not without her wanting me to do so. We have talked some but that is all. I can accept that it's over, but I just cannot stop thinking about her. Help! I don't want to forget her, but I don't want to have her on my mind always!
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posted by cvoixjames
on Oct 4, 2011 -
11 answers
A guy I was seeing abruptly decided he was not gay and cut off contact with me. How can I help him through what he's going through and preserve our friendship, or at least make sense of this?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 6, 2011 -
20 answers
Breakupfilter: When you are feeling regret for things you did that pushed the other person away or made them unhappy, how do you cope? How do you learn from your mistakes or even know if they were mistakes?
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posted by 3491again
on Jun 8, 2011 -
10 answers
How can I maintain my resolve to follow through with this difficult breakup?
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posted by spinto
on May 4, 2011 -
9 answers
Have you ever successfully fought for a relationship that you knew was worth saving? How did it work out?
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posted by newlyminted
on Apr 28, 2011 -
24 answers
My girlfriend of 3.5 years (I'm 25 and a he, she's 24) just dumped me after I moved out to another city for a job. Help me decide if there's any life left here.
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posted by speedgraphic
on Apr 7, 2011 -
46 answers
The ex and I broke up a year ago. I've been seeing someone else and am extremely happy, but it still bothers me that the ex's new relationship is going well. I don't understand why he's treating this other person so well when he treated me so poorly.
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posted by Pericardium
on Mar 30, 2011 -
45 answers
