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Help with asking my father for financial support

My dad will be making his last child support payment to my mother next month for my brother who is 19 and no longer in full time education (he’s going to university). After then he will no longer financially support my brother - he hasn't financially supported me since I was 18 when he made his last support payment. I am now thinking of asking him directly to make a monthly payment to me and my brother since he isn’t supporting us in any other way. [more inside]
posted by fallingleaves on Sep 17, 2014 - 38 answers

Making friends halfway through college?

I'm a college junior who has had trouble making many friends, help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 31, 2014 - 20 answers

Dating someone who has AD/HD and narcolepsy - how do I cope?

I just found out that my boyfriend, who has narcolepsy, also has AD/HD. Many of our problems make so much sense now, and I'm kind of at a crossroads. Do I have what it takes to lead a happy relationship with this very, very dear person? Will I get used to the sacrifices and compromises I have to make? [more inside]
posted by doctordrey on Aug 13, 2014 - 20 answers

I desperately want to be who she needs: emotion control advice

I'm caring for my sick and declining wife, but my own anger issues have made me a terrible caregiver at times, let alone partner. We both love each other deeply, and want to spend our final years together, but if I can't stop making her miserable I have to go. I'm already pursuing therapy, have a psychiatrist, etc. I am not ashamed to seek help; the stakes are so high. I will be devastated if I have to walk away because I am a toxic presence, and so I'm determined to address my problems and be the husband she needs. I'm seeking ideas and advice on how to eliminate the bad so we can enjoy the good. More below... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 23, 2013 - 55 answers

What is a life changing realization that you wish you'd had sooner?

I have a birthday coming up soon (28 - which for some reason feels like a milestone to me) and have been spending some time thinking about some of the small epiphanies I've had in the last few years that have made my life infinitely better. Such as - it's ok to let go of friends who no longer bring anything positive into your life; you are not responsible for your mothers happiness; and it's OK if the person you are seriously dating and thinking about settling down with is very different from the person that you thought you'd be with. In fact, it might be a very good thing. All of this thinking has made me realize that 1) if I had known this a few years earlier I might have avoided some serious heartache and anxiety attacks and 2) that there are probably plenty more epiphanies that I haven't had yet. So, I'm asking you all wise and all knowing MeFiers - what is a life changing realization you wish you'd had sooner?
posted by Bokonon11 on Aug 12, 2013 - 107 answers

Friend just gave birth. Leaving her husband. What does she need to know?

Not the happiest circumstances to bring a new child into this world. After years of supporting her husband, financially and emotionally, she's reached her limit. He's dealing with some addiction issues, and has become increasingly hostile with the birth of this baby. Maybe they'll work this out one day, but right now she doesn't feel safe, has filled her car with personal belongings and is staying with family. She left him a lengthy note, but does not want to talk to him in the next few days. This has been a long time coming, and while I don't imagine it will be a surprise—his family has actually encouraged her to do this—he won't react well. What sort of legal precautions should she begin taking? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 29, 2013 - 19 answers

Why do I always end up in the 'Friend Zone'?

This happens to me far too often when I've dated men, I hear the 'I like you as a friend' after a handful of dates far too often. Is there something I could be doing wrong? [more inside]
posted by bluehermit on Jun 11, 2013 - 33 answers

I have no idea how to get past the honeymoon period. It's killing me.

I have a history of romantic involvements that usually never get past three or four months (with a single exception that went on for 3.5 years). This didn't used to bother me so much, but it's now starting to make me ridiculously sad. I'm 30. How can I learn to hold someone's interest in me and/or choose better? Sorry for the book below, and thanks for any suggestions. [more inside]
posted by oogenesis on May 2, 2013 - 34 answers

Another "One More Chance" Question

I’m considering ending my relationship. Should I give him another chance to make changes? of course it's long [more inside]
posted by Ms.Stocking on Jan 4, 2013 - 47 answers

My girlfriend mentioned suicide last night...

My girlfriend mentioned suicide last night... [more inside]
posted by *lostatsea* on Nov 30, 2012 - 21 answers

how to initiate a separation?

i'm unhappy in my marriage but my wife is very dependent on me. how do i do this? [more inside]
posted by saraswati on Nov 12, 2012 - 22 answers

We're no strangers to love / You know the rules and so do I

How to properly pursue a budding romance when hoping for some kind of fairly serious relationship. Difficulty level: I am young and foolish and what is this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 24, 2012 - 6 answers

What fun things should we do before having kids?

AdviceFilter: What life experiences (or fun things) should my partner and I make time for, before having a baby? [more inside]
posted by amoeba on Sep 19, 2012 - 19 answers

Should I Stay in a Relationship that I Helped Ruin?

I deeply hurt my partner emotionally. I was insecure and stupid. She was there for me when I wasn't for her. Now, I've gotten all my confidence back, and she's not present in the relationship. I truly love her and want her. Should we continue? [more inside]
posted by sunogenous on Sep 14, 2012 - 26 answers

How to convince my friend to go to counseling

Help me convince my friend to talk to a therapist [more inside]
posted by grokfest on Jul 29, 2012 - 22 answers

Advice for doing a best man speech for someone you hardly know?

Earlier this year I was asked by a friendly co-worker to be his best man. I accepted against my better judgement because I got the sense he had no one else he could ask. Now faced with writing an appropriate heartfelt (possibly humorous) speech I am at a loss. [more inside]
posted by iheijoushin on Jul 23, 2012 - 20 answers

Long lost advice column by a dishwasher

Long lost advice column by a dishwasher [more inside]
posted by goodsearch on Jul 9, 2012 - 6 answers

True friendship sometimes means letting go

Tell me about situations where you've reluctantly cut off contact with a close friend, family member, or confidant -- especially those in which the relationship was good to you but you felt that letting go was the best move for *their* sake. [more inside]
posted by renovatio1 on May 27, 2012 - 9 answers

Work-y Love Triangle: Help Me Keep It Simple.

I like him, I am pretty sure he likes me, yay! Complications: we essentially work together, and he theoretically has a girlfriend. Tips/suggestions needed for navigating this situation with maturity, honesty, and a minimum of hurt feelings. Stories and anecdotes about similar situations--with good outcomes or otherwise--VERY welcome. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 7, 2012 - 63 answers

Being Mentored by Boss and Colleagues are Feeling Insecure!

How should I handle this tricky situation at work? My boss has taken me under her wing to guide me on the path of success. I feel she did this because I was open to her assistance. We have now developed a friendly "quid pro quo" type of agreement. She assists me by sharing her expertise on certain work-related items and vice-versa. I will in turn share with my colleagues when I feel capable of doing so. Some of my closest colleagues are feeling insecure about my friendly and close relationship with our boss. It seems like they feel threatened by it...like they think I am privy to all this "important information" that I won't share with them. [more inside]
posted by thatgirl1985 on Mar 19, 2012 - 15 answers

Sleeping Beauty - Sleep, Eat, Go online, Yawn…

Sleeping Beauty - Sleep, Eat, Go online, Yawn… [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 4, 2012 - 27 answers

Too sad to be good convo partner?

Ok, so I've been having this problem lately (and I think it's related to my recent depression) where I meet new people and kind of expect that I'll never develop any friendship with them, but then it actually does happen, and I realize in horror that when they bring up previous conversations we've had, I act completely clueless because I didn't bother to remember it in the first place, and they say something like, "Remember we were talking about how my mom lives literally right next door to you?" (seriously, that happened today) and I remember suddenly, but clearly have already made it obvious that I didn't remember it in the first place... That's been happening a lot lately, and I want to know how to recall what I talked about with people more. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 1, 2011 - 8 answers

What are the sexual steps you take while dating?

I'm female in my mid-twenties and due to circumstances have been a late entrant into dating. I've been out with several guys (ages 27 - 33) and am trying to get a better handle on how quickly things move forward in terms of physical/sexual. So while every guy, girl, and experience is different, could someone share what they might consider standard in their experience? I'd be curious to know what peoples' typical natural progressions are (for a person they're dating, not a hook up) in terms of the steps, not necessarily timing. For instance, do you generally do the first base/second base/third bases in order? [more inside]
posted by sowrite on Nov 26, 2011 - 32 answers

How do I accept my divorce for what it is?

Now my divorce is really happening, how do I learn to accept this is the way its going to be now? [more inside]
posted by Under the Sea on Sep 26, 2011 - 12 answers

Love In A Void

My other half seems utterly paralyzed. How do I talk to him about it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 9, 2011 - 22 answers

What does a virgin need to know for the first time?

I'm probably going to lose my virginity in the next few weeks. What do I need to know? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 23, 2011 - 49 answers

Let's Just Be Friends?

I have had a few fledgling relationships that have gone from awesome platonic friendship --> sexual tension ---> hook-up (instigated by the guy)--> awkward, painful attempt at going back to friendship (also instigated by the guy). I'm really confused and bitter and angry. Can you help me decipher what's going on and figure out if these friendships are salvageable? [more inside]
posted by calcetina on Feb 11, 2011 - 36 answers

How do I motivate my boyfriend?

I love my boyfriend and want to build a life with him. He is stuck in a low wage dead end job and seems unmotivated to change this, while my career is just starting to get off the ground. I am confident and excited about the near future, but I'm afriad that my worries about his future will destroy our relationship. [more inside]
posted by Anthro girl on Oct 17, 2010 - 38 answers

Why is she always to tired to hang out with me, but always has energy for her friends?

Why is she always to tired to hang out with me, but always has energy for her friends? [more inside]
posted by plechazunga on Jul 24, 2010 - 24 answers

the importance of passion in the long run

So I'm turning to MeFi for relationship advice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 24, 2010 - 38 answers

Entering the gay dating scene late

I'm a gay man in my late 20s who has never gone on a date before. Where do I start? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 14, 2010 - 12 answers

Advice needed on an amicable separation.

Advice needed on an amicable separation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 2, 2010 - 17 answers

Don't be once bitten twice shy...

Relationship Filter...One of my best female friends went through about 10 years of a bad marriage.... [more inside]
posted by keep it tight on Feb 27, 2010 - 12 answers

Help! Need advice for giving friend advice!!

How do I tell my friend the truth in a way that she can hear it, then take what she can from it and do what feels right to her? [more inside]
posted by Hydrofiend on Nov 29, 2009 - 29 answers

How do you save a marriage after an affair?

My world is destroyed after an affair. I desperately need advice. Its a long story... Please help. [more inside]
posted by wantstobeadesigner on Nov 26, 2009 - 54 answers

Too horny. Can't think. Need sex.

I'm a mid-20s British male and I haven't had sex for about three years. Manual Overides are barely taking the edge off these days and the horniess is getting so bad I can't think clearly. Help me get laid. Complications inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 4, 2009 - 31 answers

Should I acknowledge ex's wedding?

I found out recently that my ex-girlfriend of 3 years is engaged and getting married in less than 2 months. Should I acknowledge it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 11, 2009 - 54 answers

What's the key to getting involved with as many interesting projects and meeting as many interesting people as possible?

What's the key to getting involved with as many interesting projects and meeting as many interesting people as possible? [more inside]
posted by coffeecold on Apr 12, 2009 - 17 answers

How do I overcome my fear of disapproval?

I'd like advice on how to overcome my fear of disapproval from others. It manifests itself as lack of confidence/assertiveness, self-consciousness, anxiety and fear of not being good enough. Looking for all kinds of techniques, suggestions. [more inside]
posted by richar4 on Mar 8, 2009 - 16 answers

Moving in with an S.O. - General advice

Moving in with your significant other: Please tell me your stories and general advice. Good, bad, things you wish you'd talked about ahead of time, things you'd do differently. How long had you been together? Do you wish you'd moved in sooner, or later, or not at all? What can one do to make things go smoothly? What changes should I expect? [more inside]
posted by soleiluna on Oct 30, 2008 - 41 answers

Should I stay or go?

Follow-up to this. So I finally managed to break things off with the one in my class. I had some talks with some other people also and realized that it wasn't good for me, and I was essentially being used. Right now we don't speak at all, which is perfectly fine for me, and I spend my time interacting with everyone else. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 23, 2008 - 13 answers

A newsletter by any other name induces cringing...

I am working on branding a newsletter that will offer love advice, statistics, and bites of information related to dating in general, online dating and relationships. What's a clever (but not cringeworthy) name for it? [more inside]
posted by Unicorn on the cob on Feb 14, 2008 - 19 answers

Post-Breakup Friendship Battles

My girlfriend of four years broke up with me. We're stuck in the same small clique for a while. How do I manage to still see all of our mutual friends? Do I just give up on seeing "her" friends? [more inside]
posted by FuManchu on Dec 3, 2006 - 21 answers

What is an original format for a sex/relationships advice column?

What is an original format for a sex/relationships advice column? [more inside]
posted by stokast on Sep 1, 2006 - 21 answers

How to date two women at once?

How do I date more than one person at a time? [more inside]
posted by callmejay on Aug 9, 2006 - 23 answers

Can my female friend become less emotionally sensitive? Can I help?

My best female friend is very emotionally sensitive-- to the point where we can't mention a specific ex-boyfriend from three years ago in her presence. I and her other close friends are starting to think she can't control her responses about this, and that it's starting to impact how honest we can be with her. What can we do? [more inside]
posted by woot on May 27, 2006 - 22 answers

What do I do about my food-addicted boyfriend?

My boyfriend of three years has an eating disorder. It's getting worse, and I need help (advice, emotional support, AskMeFi words of wisdom). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 16, 2005 - 43 answers

Constant grass-is-always-greener syndrome

I contantly suffer from the-grass-is-always-greener syndrome. When I'm single, I crave being in a relationship. When I'm in a relationship, I crave being single. I'm afraid that it's going to screw up my current, excellent relationship ... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 18, 2005 - 20 answers

Second date advice sought

I've gone out with this girl on one date which went “ok”. And, at the time, I figured on going out with her at least once more since first dates can often be unrepresentative of other dates. [MI] [more inside]
posted by Handcoding on Dec 25, 2004 - 44 answers

Can someone's standing be vitiated by honesty?

Can someone's standing be vitiated by honesty? For example, telling someone they are fat and need to lose weight? [more inside]
posted by the fire you left me on Aug 29, 2004 - 33 answers

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