I have a history of romantic involvements that usually never get past three or four months (with a single exception that went on for 3.5 years). This didn't used to bother me so much, but it's now starting to make me ridiculously sad. I'm 30. How can I learn to hold someone's interest in me and/or choose better? Sorry for the book below, and thanks for any suggestions.
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posted by oogenesis
on May 2, 2013 -
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I’m considering ending my relationship. Should I give him another chance to make changes?
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posted by Ms.Stocking
on Jan 4, 2013 -
47 answers
How to properly pursue a budding romance when hoping for some kind of fairly serious relationship. Difficulty level: I am young and foolish and what is this.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 24, 2012 -
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AdviceFilter: What life experiences (or fun things) should my partner and I make time for, before having a baby?
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posted by amoeba
on Sep 19, 2012 -
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I deeply hurt my partner emotionally. I was insecure and stupid. She was there for me when I wasn't for her. Now, I've gotten all my confidence back, and she's not present in the relationship. I truly love her and want her. Should we continue?
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posted by sunogenous
on Sep 14, 2012 -
26 answers
Earlier this year I was asked by a friendly co-worker to be his best man. I accepted against my better judgement because I got the sense he had no one else he could ask. Now faced with writing an appropriate heartfelt (possibly humorous) speech I am at a loss.
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posted by iheijoushin
on Jul 23, 2012 -
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Tell me about situations where you've reluctantly cut off contact with a close friend, family member, or confidant -- especially those in which the relationship was good to you but you felt that letting go was the best move for *their* sake.
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posted by renovatio1
on May 27, 2012 -
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I like him, I am pretty sure he likes me, yay! Complications: we essentially work together, and he theoretically has a girlfriend. Tips/suggestions needed for navigating this situation with maturity, honesty, and a minimum of hurt feelings. Stories and anecdotes about similar situations--with good outcomes or otherwise--VERY welcome.
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posted by anonymous
on May 7, 2012 -
63 answers
How should I handle this tricky situation at work? My boss has taken me under her wing to guide me on the path of success. I feel she did this because I was open to her assistance. We have now developed a friendly "quid pro quo" type of agreement. She assists me by sharing her expertise on certain work-related items and vice-versa. I will in turn share with my colleagues when I feel capable of doing so. Some of my closest colleagues are feeling insecure about my friendly and close relationship with our boss. It seems like they feel threatened by it...like they think I am privy to all this "important information" that I won't share with them.
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posted by thatgirl1985
on Mar 19, 2012 -
15 answers
Ok, so I've been having this problem lately (and I think it's related to my recent depression) where I meet new people and kind of expect that I'll never develop any friendship with them, but then it actually does happen, and I realize in horror that when they bring up previous conversations we've had, I act completely clueless because I didn't bother to remember it in the first place, and they say something like, "Remember we were talking about how my mom lives literally right next door to you?" (seriously, that happened today) and I remember suddenly, but clearly have already made it obvious that I didn't remember it in the first place... That's been happening a lot lately, and I want to know how to recall what I talked about with people more.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 1, 2011 -
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I'm female in my mid-twenties and due to circumstances have been a late entrant into dating. I've been out with several guys (ages 27 - 33) and am trying to get a better handle on how quickly things move forward in terms of physical/sexual. So while every guy, girl, and experience is different, could someone share what they might consider standard in their experience? I'd be curious to know what peoples' typical natural progressions are (for a person they're dating, not a hook up) in terms of the steps, not necessarily timing. For instance, do you generally do the first base/second base/third bases in order?
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posted by sowrite
on Nov 26, 2011 -
32 answers
I have had a few fledgling relationships that have gone from awesome platonic friendship --> sexual tension ---> hook-up (instigated by the guy)--> awkward, painful attempt at going back to friendship (also instigated by the guy).
I'm really confused and bitter and angry. Can you help me decipher what's going on and figure out if these friendships are salvageable?
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posted by calcetina
on Feb 11, 2011 -
36 answers
I love my boyfriend and want to build a life with him. He is stuck in a low wage dead end job and seems unmotivated to change this, while my career is just starting to get off the ground. I am confident and excited about the near future, but I'm afriad that my worries about his future will destroy our relationship.
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posted by Anthro girl
on Oct 17, 2010 -
38 answers
How do I tell my friend the truth in a way that she can hear it, then take what she can from it and do what feels right to her?
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posted by Hydrofiend
on Nov 29, 2009 -
29 answers
I'm a mid-20s British male and I haven't had sex for about three years. Manual Overides are barely taking the edge off these days and the horniess is getting so bad I can't think clearly. Help me get laid. Complications inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 4, 2009 -
31 answers
I found out recently that my ex-girlfriend of 3 years is engaged and getting married in less than 2 months. Should I acknowledge it?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 11, 2009 -
54 answers
What's the key to getting involved with as many interesting projects and meeting as many interesting people as possible?
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posted by coffeecold
on Apr 12, 2009 -
17 answers
I'd like advice on how to overcome my fear of disapproval from others. It manifests itself as lack of confidence/assertiveness, self-consciousness, anxiety and fear of not being good enough. Looking for all kinds of techniques, suggestions.
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posted by richar4
on Mar 8, 2009 -
16 answers
Moving in with your significant other: Please tell me your stories and general advice. Good, bad, things you wish you'd talked about ahead of time, things you'd do differently. How long had you been together? Do you wish you'd moved in sooner, or later, or not at all? What can one do to make things go smoothly? What changes should I expect?
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posted by soleiluna
on Oct 30, 2008 -
41 answers
Follow-up to this. So I finally managed to break things off with the one in my class. I had some talks with some other people also and realized that it wasn't good for me, and I was essentially being used. Right now we don't speak at all, which is perfectly fine for me, and I spend my time interacting with everyone else.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 23, 2008 -
13 answers
I am working on branding a newsletter that will offer love advice, statistics, and bites of information related to dating in general, online dating and relationships. What's a clever (but not cringeworthy) name for it?
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posted by Unicorn on the cob
on Feb 14, 2008 -
19 answers
My girlfriend of four years broke up with me. We're stuck in the same small clique for a while. How do I manage to still see all of our mutual friends? Do I just give up on seeing "her" friends?
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posted by FuManchu
on Dec 3, 2006 -
21 answers
My best female friend is very emotionally sensitive-- to the point where we can't mention a specific ex-boyfriend from three years ago in her presence. I and her other close friends are starting to think she can't control her responses about this, and that it's starting to impact how honest we can be with her. What can we do?
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posted by woot
on May 27, 2006 -
22 answers
My boyfriend of three years has an eating disorder. It's getting worse, and I need help (advice, emotional support, AskMeFi words of wisdom).
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 16, 2005 -
43 answers
I contantly suffer from the-grass-is-always-greener syndrome. When I'm single, I crave being in a relationship. When I'm in a relationship, I crave being single. I'm afraid that it's going to screw up my current, excellent relationship ...
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 18, 2005 -
20 answers
I've gone out with this girl on one date which went “ok”. And, at the time, I figured on going out with her at least once more since first dates can often be unrepresentative of other dates. [MI]
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posted by Handcoding
on Dec 25, 2004 -
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