Lonely, hungry for intimacy, ravenous to be touched, coddled or stroked. I'm old, sick and unattractive, I used to be smoking hot but men don't look at me any more, nor do they even acknowledge my presence. The area I live in is sparse for dating, and I've even tried one night stands. I have given up. What are some other ways to get the physical needs I have for the human social intimate relationship I do not have? I've done the CL casual encounters, internet dating etc.... Going for a massage now to see if it helps, and yes I have a loving and much loved pet....but I need more. Any resources? I'm sure there are others like me out there.
posted by ~Sushma~ on Nov 6, 2009 - 11 answers

Conquering confidence issues at the age of 25. [more inside]
posted by lwclec072 on Nov 4, 2009 - 15 answers

A friend of mine is currently pretty pissed at me because I'm about to hang out with a girl that's friends with his ex's sister. In his mind it's only a matter of time before I'm hanging out with his ex too. Is he being an irrational dick, or will continuing to hang out with this girl only result in me getting a taste of my own dick medicine? [more inside]
posted by Venadium on Nov 4, 2009 - 34 answers

When is it time to get rid of the dog? Fiance's poorly-trained dog has bitten me three times. I'm nervous about moving in with them and our future children. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by emkelley on Nov 3, 2009 - 51 answers

How do I put my foot down? My longterm girlfriend and I recently bought a house together; an older 1950s house that is in decent condition and we decided to renovate it throughout the next few years. The first thing we wanted to do was rip up the old vinyl tile and stain the concrete underneath in the kitchen - about 250 sqft. Turns out, it was old asbestos tile which we had to CAREFULLY remove, and a layer of regular 1970s vinyl. What was underneath was a black, thick mess of mastic that we have been fighting with for weeks to bring up with nasty chemicals. I work full time and I have 9 hours of graduate school (full time). I work longer hours than she does and i finally told her i think it would be easier if we just etched the concrete (so the grout would bond) and lay tile instead. But no, she wants the stained concrete. [more inside]
posted by kleenkat on Nov 3, 2009 - 50 answers

What clever relationship "hacks" have you come up with? I'm looking to build up my mental catalogue of examples of non-obvious solutions to relationship difficulties. Help me think out of the box better in the future! [more inside]
posted by wyzewoman on Nov 3, 2009 - 54 answers

How to go about the final talk, the post-mortem, if you will. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 31, 2009 - 28 answers

How to deal with "I can't be in a relationship right now"? [more inside]
posted by mattsweaters on Oct 31, 2009 - 33 answers

In need of human distractions. Help me stop taking it out (mentally) on my boyfriend and other friends. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 29, 2009 - 11 answers

I frequently want to avoid the girlfriend, even though I always have a great time with her. This has happened with every girlfriend I've ever had. Is this an issue for you? How do you deal? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 29, 2009 - 23 answers

(RelationshipFilter) My now boyfriend used to sleep with a good friend of his, while he was dating me. How do I deal with my feelings about him hanging out with her? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 28, 2009 - 49 answers

I feel like my life is over and I'm only 35. I feel completely stagnant and stuck, relationshipwise and jobwise. Do I need to change things or do I need to learn how to deal? Help me figure out how to be a happier person. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 28, 2009 - 34 answers

Generation/culture gap + relatively young relationship, please advise. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 27, 2009 - 11 answers

Help me get my libido in check with reality. Very long story inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 27, 2009 - 17 answers

Help me get over a broken heart uber-style. I'm taking my recent relationship experience to the max and looking at why I do what I do. Can you help me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 25, 2009 - 16 answers

Worried about my emotional well-being, and my future. Need some good Metafilter advice.... I am a 34 y/o female who is gainfully employed and generally self-sufficient (own my own home, car, take care of the house, etc.) but I am extremely lonely and feel more and more isolated everyday. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 25, 2009 - 29 answers

You're a late 30's, attractive female who is separated and looking to explore your horizons. How would you like to be approached by a younger couple? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 22, 2009 - 17 answers

Is this settling? Where are those heartpangs I should be feeling? [more inside]
posted by blackcatcuriouser on Oct 22, 2009 - 12 answers

Why have I suddenly started to dream about other women? [more inside]
posted by kleenkat on Oct 21, 2009 - 23 answers

How do you tell the difference between someone who's an extrovert and someone who's romantically interested in you? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 21, 2009 - 22 answers

I keep noting a familiar pattern among my friends who "settle down" - either in marriage or a long-term relationship. They inevitably seem to cut themselves off from their friends and refuse to leave the house, even on weekends. Job situations remain a stable variable from their earlier, more social lives - the only thing that changes is the seriousness of the relationship. Kids being a time commitment (and source of exhaustion) I understand - but many if not most of the couples I'm describing do not have children. Is this "normal"? Or is it dysfunctional? What causes it, do you think?
posted by macross city flaneur on Oct 21, 2009 - 82 answers

How can I help my girlfriend who's coming out of depression, without going out of my mind? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 20, 2009 - 16 answers

Falling in love pretty quickly. First time for a lot of things. Some issues are coming up. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 19, 2009 - 14 answers

I've been with my current girlfriend for about 6 months. We are sexually active and have intercourse about 5 times per week (sometimes more frequently). However, throughout our relationship, my girlfriend has only touched my penis twice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 19, 2009 - 24 answers

After divorce, how can I learn to be a confident, whole individual without being in a relationship? I'm struggling with insecurity, I feel like there is a part of me missing, and I've gotten myself so worked up about it that I'm in a state of "analysis paralysis." Please help me break through that paralysis! [more inside]
posted by MultiFaceted on Oct 17, 2009 - 23 answers

The healthy way to deal with those little petty disappointments in a relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 17, 2009 - 18 answers

I've been cooped up and dealing with excessive work and depression for a while. I'm on the mend, and doing better than I've been in a while, and I'm looking for ways to meet more people. I hear all kinds of great things about volunteering, and while it appeals to me, I haven't had very good luck with it. (More inside.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 13, 2009 - 20 answers

Previously dated men, now wants to date women. Problem: I can't tell when women are interested in me or if they just want to be friends. [more inside]
posted by Eleutherios on Oct 13, 2009 - 16 answers

I am in (long-term, abiding) love with more than one woman. I am marrying one, but I need to deal with my feelings for the other. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 12, 2009 - 30 answers

Online-dating filter: Should I confront him about bringing his girlfriend on what I thought was a date, or just let it all go? [more inside]
posted by aabbbiee on Oct 12, 2009 - 30 answers

Is it possible to fall out of love overnight? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 10, 2009 - 18 answers

Dont love the new girl I'm seeing........ I dont want to hurt anyone - but dont want to lose her either... Can i fall in love months later? or is it always love or chemistry at first sight? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 9, 2009 - 31 answers

How can I support my good friend (and roommate) through a breakup, and not lose my patience? [more inside]
posted by jalebi on Oct 9, 2009 - 11 answers

What do you wish your first relationship had been like? [more inside]
posted by Gotham on Oct 8, 2009 - 28 answers

Do I need to know what (or who) he did while we were broken up? Is it wrong to ask? [more inside]
posted by blackcatcuriouser on Oct 7, 2009 - 35 answers

So my boyfriend and I had the marriage talk; he said no. I'm having difficulty coming to terms with it. Help! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 5, 2009 - 54 answers

How can I get over him when I fell for hard for him? Recently my "friend" I have been seeing dumped me. Ok, his name is Alex. We said we would take it as friends and see where it goes since I prefer my relationships to go like that anyway but I need to get over what happened just over the summer. This is going to be LONG, I must warn you. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 4, 2009 - 19 answers

Your tips on figuring out my feelings as I enter into casual play relationships? (risque elaboration within) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 4, 2009 - 10 answers

I have moved back to my home town after about ten years. Throughout those years, an ex-boyfriend has been slandering me to old friends, colleagues, etc. I haven’t been in touch with a lot of these people and simply didn’t want to talk about the situation, so I didn’t. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 4, 2009 - 14 answers

I'm a mid-20s British male and I haven't had sex for about three years. Manual Overides are barely taking the edge off these days and the horniess is getting so bad I can't think clearly. Help me get laid. Complications inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 4, 2009 - 31 answers

How should I go about handling my (very) mentally ill father who goes through (primarily) emotionally/psychologically abusive phases with anyone he holds a relationship with? Completely cutting off contact is probably not a solution for a few reasons. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 3, 2009 - 23 answers

My coworker/friend/crush has just broken up with her long-term SO. Can I help her? [more inside]
posted by wayofthedodo on Oct 2, 2009 - 15 answers

Help me understand this dating situation. Sort of long. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 1, 2009 - 21 answers

My girlfriend was just diagnosed with genital herpes. What can I do to make this easier on her? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 30, 2009 - 13 answers

Should I go to a religious weekend retreat w/my wife and kids even though I am very, very lukewarm towards the the idea of attending a religious weekend retreat? [more inside]
posted by plowhand on Sep 29, 2009 - 31 answers

How can love and the certainty that you want to marry someone fade away and leave numbness? [more inside]
posted by whitelily on Sep 28, 2009 - 46 answers

Should I believe him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 26, 2009 - 51 answers

I met a new guy who I've instantly clicked with. Chemistry seems to be there, yet something is bothering me. He rarely (as in hardly ever) asks me specific questions about me or my life. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 24, 2009 - 43 answers

Keeping photos of your ex: how has this changed in the digital era? [more inside]
posted by cgs on Sep 23, 2009 - 44 answers

Is He Just Not That Into Me: Part Deux [more inside]
posted by cscott on Sep 23, 2009 - 31 answers