The New Year is approaching and I need some guidance on how to move forward with my life. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 26, 2009 - 9 answers

I'm closing the family bank/charity. What do I say when the next sibling asks for a "loan"? [more inside]
posted by sfkiddo on Dec 26, 2009 - 23 answers

Can you rekindle feelings for an ex by acting like you love them? [more inside]
posted by whitelily on Dec 25, 2009 - 12 answers

Where is the line between asking someone to comprise for the sake of the relationship, and asking someone to change who they are? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 24, 2009 - 17 answers

How do I figure this out? Am I suffering from "the grass is greener" syndrome or do I truly love my girlfriend? [more inside]
posted by kleenkat on Dec 22, 2009 - 24 answers

I'm 27 and single. I've never had a serious boyfriend. Just throwing that out there. My brother is 24. Our 1st cousins are visiting for Christmas. One of them is male and 19, the other is female and 16. Tonight we somehow got into a huge discussion about relationships. Basically my brother and cousin (the 19-year-old) were making the following points: [more inside]
posted by starpoint on Dec 21, 2009 - 113 answers

How do you deal with instant messaging early in a relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 21, 2009 - 18 answers

I'm considering a great job offer in another state, and what it might mean for my two-year relationship. Help me develop a framework for making some decisions about all this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 19, 2009 - 15 answers

My boyfriend has a tendency to lose shit. His wallet, his license, cell phones, keys, ipod, money. This mostly happens when he’s drunk but it also happens when he is stone cold sober. At first, I thought it was weird. Then it became annoying. Now it absolutely infuriates me. Despite his tendency to lose things, he still likes to borrow stuff from other people. And becomes offended when he gets refused. [more inside]
posted by mokeydraws on Dec 15, 2009 - 51 answers

What do you wish you knew about Mainland Chinese dating and relationships that would have made your relationship easier? What are some common sources of misunderstanding between Westerners and people from China? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 15, 2009 - 2 answers

How can I teach my ex what I've learned while we were apart? [more inside]
posted by blackcatcuriouser on Dec 15, 2009 - 16 answers

You're dating someone. Something just doesn't feel right in your gut. You feel uneasy. What could be all the possible reasons for that feeling? [more inside]
posted by VC Drake on Dec 11, 2009 - 33 answers

I'm extremely infatuated with my boyfriend of 1 year, to the point where it's getting a little annoying. Advice? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 11, 2009 - 20 answers

I am divorced and retained my married name because I like it and it suits me, and my kids share it. I would like to keep my name, even if I married again. I am dating someone casually who has mentioned that anyone he would marry would have to change her name to his. What is the hive opinion of keeping a name from a previous marriage? Is this unheard of? Should this be a dealbreaker?
posted by Goodgrief on Dec 11, 2009 - 90 answers

Had good reasons for breakup. Then a reconciliation. And then... (Only those who can't turn away from gawking at a bloody traffic accidents need read on...) [more inside]
posted by iam2bz2p on Dec 7, 2009 - 41 answers

I am a straight 29-year old male who has never been in a relationship or had any sexual experience. When I find out that other people I know are entering into relationships or getting frisky, I get slammed by a whole cluster of negative emotions, and I need help coping. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 2, 2009 - 40 answers

Help me make specific suggestions to someone who needs to become more proactive and collaborative, and less reactive and emotional. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 1, 2009 - 8 answers

Why would a woman be jealous of the attention her girlfriends receive from their significant others? There is an answer, but the issue has formed a pattern in my life that I fear is getting out of control! I would appreciate anyone who could take the time to help me out by reading more...:) [more inside]
posted by dentro on Nov 30, 2009 - 18 answers

How do I tell my friend the truth in a way that she can hear it, then take what she can from it and do what feels right to her? [more inside]
posted by Hydrofiend on Nov 29, 2009 - 29 answers

How common is it for someone to make a devastating deathbed declaration, like "I never really loved you," or "I'm not really your father?"
posted by quidividi on Nov 28, 2009 - 24 answers

How can a gimp who's got a lot going for himself get a date and maybe even get a little somethin' somethin' after a loooong dry spell? More details with minimum self-pity inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 27, 2009 - 13 answers

My world is destroyed after an affair. I desperately need advice. Its a long story... Please help. [more inside]
posted by wantstobeadesigner on Nov 26, 2009 - 54 answers

College freshman drama: After knowing A. for a week, I dated him for two; I was the one who broke it off. A month later, I started dating D. It's been three weeks since that started and things have been fantastic, except A. still refuses to talk to either one of us. This is awkward because we all live in the same dorm. Is there anything I can do to make things smoother? [more inside]
posted by flawsekno on Nov 24, 2009 - 36 answers

Help! Can I salvage this friendship even after experiencing the searing pain of rejection? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 23, 2009 - 13 answers

This is REALLY not about the toilet seat...or is it?!? Men, I need your advice!! Women, there is a question inside for you too! [more inside]
posted by hollygirl on Nov 22, 2009 - 73 answers

Three years ago, I was date-raped by my then-boyfriend. Some of our mutual friends know, some don't. I just found out that a friend in the know is trying to set up another friend's sister with my rapist. What, if anything, should I do? (Apologies for the lengthy description that follows...) [more inside]
posted by honeybee413 on Nov 22, 2009 - 59 answers

Little known facts about men [more inside]
posted by lunalaguna on Nov 20, 2009 - 345 answers

I need help dealing with "unknown", especially in personal issues. I have an intense desire to know why something is happening, what someone's explanation is and I wind up a big ball of anxiety while overthinking it. I want to know how to be comfortable with just "not knowing", and how to be comfortable with the resulting feeling of not being able to control the situation. [more inside]
posted by MultiFaceted on Nov 19, 2009 - 20 answers

I have a friend who laments she cannot find a partner. She is gay (I am not) so when she tells me tales of past relationships and the aftermath of breakups I don't usually comment much. But this last time she reported actions that were boarderline stalking and she has not clue. [more inside]
posted by shaarog on Nov 19, 2009 - 10 answers

Have been dating this guy for almost three months, am feeling very serious about him, and he about me. There’s just one thing: he doesn’t laugh. Hardly at all. Almost never. I am trying to figure out if I should move forward with a relationship which is wonderful in pretty much every other way. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 17, 2009 - 30 answers

Every night that he comes home and winds up browsing the internet for hours, I feel like I'm going to scream. Am I a nagging worrywort, is my boyfriend mildly depressed, or both? And what's the best way to work on it? [more inside]
posted by brisquette on Nov 17, 2009 - 33 answers

What can I do to get along with my husband's family? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 17, 2009 - 43 answers

My wife has confidence, self esteem issues. We have been married for four years and we have two kids. I live in Canada and she's from S. Africa. She lived there all her life until she was 22. We met there. Got married there. But now live in Canada. [more inside]
posted by alshain on Nov 15, 2009 - 48 answers

how to get over this friendship/relationship/whatever that was [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 15, 2009 - 13 answers

My SO has no passion and this turns me into an asshole. When I talk to her about things like finances or anything serious, she ignores me, and she doesn't know what she wants from life and has no wish to find out. She settles for what she has with no desire to improve anything. And the very very douche-y tone that I write that description in is a problem as well. [more inside]
posted by DerangedGoblin on Nov 14, 2009 - 66 answers

I need help with a new complicated relationship. Give me advice! Please! [more inside]
posted by GComes on Nov 14, 2009 - 20 answers

I get mad, he gets silent. The madder I get, the more silent he gets. Eventually I give up, we move on, and the problem gets swept under the rug, only to turn up again months later. Lather, rinse, repeat, over and over and over again. I'm seriously considering starting a habit of drinking in the evenings. [more inside]
posted by weesha on Nov 14, 2009 - 62 answers

How do I make it feel like home? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 14, 2009 - 16 answers

How do I break the "ice" with others (especially girls) and get closer with them? [more inside]
posted by rintako on Nov 13, 2009 - 19 answers

Has anyone taking the birth control pill Levora/Levlen had a loss of libido? [more inside]
posted by roxie110 on Nov 12, 2009 - 15 answers

How have you made your best and most lasting friendships? [more inside]
posted by cymru_j on Nov 12, 2009 - 42 answers

Please shed some light on my extramarital issue. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 11, 2009 - 43 answers

What did you get out of reading How to Be An Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving? It's recommended here all the time and I just can't slog through it. [more inside]
posted by heatherann on Nov 10, 2009 - 25 answers

I'm part of a short-term couple. We both know it will probably end in about six months from now, due to a long-distance move. I feel that there's a multitude of things I can experiment with here, due to the short-term nature of the (non?)relationship. But what are those things? Also: I know that each relationship is different, but what are the general rules of such relationships, anyway? How am I supposed to be in love, without falling in love? What can I do to make the most of the time we have left? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 9, 2009 - 16 answers

Going from friends to more-than-friends to back to friends, successfully. Can it be done? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 9, 2009 - 12 answers

Why does it seem like men are more desirable when attached (married or taken), particularly when you are with that person? (expl. inside) [more inside]
posted by teg4rvn on Nov 9, 2009 - 30 answers

Seeking short-term coping mechanisms for being productive in school during a devastating breakup, and for comedy TV I can watch to help me through it. Long story inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 8, 2009 - 32 answers

Lonely, hungry for intimacy, ravenous to be touched, coddled or stroked. I'm old, sick and unattractive, I used to be smoking hot but men don't look at me any more, nor do they even acknowledge my presence. The area I live in is sparse for dating, and I've even tried one night stands. I have given up. What are some other ways to get the physical needs I have for the human social intimate relationship I do not have? I've done the CL casual encounters, internet dating etc.... Going for a massage now to see if it helps, and yes I have a loving and much loved pet....but I need more. Any resources? I'm sure there are others like me out there.
posted by ~Sushma~ on Nov 6, 2009 - 15 answers

Conquering confidence issues at the age of 25. [more inside]
posted by lwclec072 on Nov 4, 2009 - 15 answers

A friend of mine is currently pretty pissed at me because I'm about to hang out with a girl that's friends with his ex's sister. In his mind it's only a matter of time before I'm hanging out with his ex too. Is he being an irrational dick, or will continuing to hang out with this girl only result in me getting a taste of my own dick medicine? [more inside]
posted by Venadium on Nov 4, 2009 - 34 answers