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So I'm the common denominator, right?

I'm struggling with the idea of not internalizing rejection and trying to come to terms with why I've had so much trouble with relationships in a romantic context. Normally I'm able to make really good decisions, but for some reasons with relationships I seem to be hitting the proverbial brick wall. Please classify my snowflake. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 21, 2014 - 3 answers

I want to want you to want it (that way)

I am having trouble directing my kinky desires towards my long-term partner. Help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 21, 2014 - 3 answers

Family Drama Filter: Help me distance myself from a parent

I've come to realize over the years that while I love my father, I am so different from him, and do not share his and his wife's (he is remarried) lifestyle and values and really wish I could come to accept it and completely distance myself from them. Please help me do this. [more inside]
posted by SanSebastien on Dec 21, 2014 - 6 answers

Post-coital repulsion

I use sex-related words in my question, so I've placed it in the extended area in case anyone is browsing at a prudish workplace. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 21, 2014 - 16 answers

Was this a weird thing to do or am I just having major anxiety?

How can I escape a spiraling anxiety and shame based mood and be realistic? I'm drivong myself crazy. [more inside]
posted by anon1129 on Dec 20, 2014 - 27 answers

How do I protect myself emotionally as a submissive?

I'm a bi female in my early 30s, just out of a decade long very vanilla relationship. I live in NYC and have been exploring my submissive side. Really enjoying it. Like, alot. I have never had better sex in my life and it is amazing. I am extremely submissive and I'm having a little bit of difficultly making sure I am emotionally safe. Because of the nature of my situation, I can't really talk to my usual family or friend connections when I need to vent. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 20, 2014 - 22 answers

Boyfriend texting another girl?

When my boyfriend (of 6 years) and I had a fight, I noticed he was texting all night. I had a look at his phone out of anger, and I wish I hadn't, because now I can't un-see what I saw, nor stop thinking about it. It's probably nothing, but it's got me checking. I know I need to stop, but I need to deal with this issue at hand first. Should I confront him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 18, 2014 - 31 answers

Why won’t you listen?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?! We are going to fail!

A friend and former colleague came to us as subject matter experts in international sales and market development. He came to us for our expertise but he will not listen to our recommendations and is putting us on the brink of failure and this is a company that should not be failing. What are techniques for dealing with stubborn people that refuse to listen and learn in a professional situation? [more inside]
posted by Che boludo! on Dec 16, 2014 - 17 answers

Making choices about whether to drink alcohol when at home or not

My 58 year old husband who is soon to retire from a CEO job(ie high stress) loves alcohol and drinks each night. When we are at home, he offers it to me. I have a love/hate relationship with it and seem to get pulled into drinking with him and then regret it when I get sleepy during a movie or feel somewhat impaired reading a book. [more inside]
posted by seekingsimplicity on Dec 16, 2014 - 31 answers

Am I looking a gifthorse in the mouth?

I found the greatest guy when I wasn't even looking. But I'm not too long out of a relationship (10 months) where I think I really loved him (despite current man looking so much better on paper), intimacy is taking a while to grow and I just feel a bit wary and not sure I'm into him some of the time. It's been 3/4 months of dating but I'd now say we're firmly headed to relationship territory. But I don't want to stay and waste this person's time if he's not the one for me. I also don't want to throw away something which could be really special, and this person is special, but maybe I know that on paper but don't really appreciate it which doesn't seem like a good start to a relationship. [more inside]
posted by starstarstar on Dec 14, 2014 - 7 answers

I will give you space until it comes out of your ears

It's early days in our relationship yet, and I like this guy tremendously, but his communication practices are driving me up the wall. Am I being too demanding or do I have some basis for feeling neglected? more flakey snowflakeness inside [more inside]
posted by starcrust on Dec 9, 2014 - 42 answers

Dating advice for an inexperienced neurotic person

I've been using OkCupid for a few months now and have been on around 4 dates with different people. I (22) started talking to a woman (also 22) last month and we really hit it off online. We've met up twice now and had a lot of fun together (both dates were over 6 hours long) and we ended up kissing the last time we were together. At the end of the second date we talked about meeting up again, however I'm having serious doubts and anxiety. [more inside]
posted by fallingleaves on Dec 8, 2014 - 16 answers

Please help me decide if I should move back to NYC from SF

Can't decide if I should move back to NYC from SF. Please help me find some new ways to think about the problem. [more inside]
posted by apostate street preacher on Dec 4, 2014 - 27 answers

Domestic violence survivor needs help evaluating current relationship

We're both in our 30's, no kids. I'm not very experienced in healthy relationships and want to check my gut reactions to some things. I don't have girlfriends close enough to ask and my therapist says I'm just thinking too much. (ugh) [more inside]
posted by amirite on Dec 3, 2014 - 33 answers

In search of red and yellow flags for new relationships

Is there something I should I be on the lookout for if I am dating a new guy with (a lot of) close female friends? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 2, 2014 - 19 answers

Do I REALLY need to take a break from dating?

I know I "should" take a break from dating, but I don't want to. Why "should" I? Snowflakery follows [more inside]
posted by Chrysalis on Nov 29, 2014 - 27 answers

Gettin' it on

How have you reconciled differing sex drives? [more inside]
posted by little beast on Nov 26, 2014 - 11 answers

Do sex drives ever INCREASE after 3+ years in a relationship?

My SO and I have been growing together more and more in the last three years. However, one thing seems to grow less and less, and as we move closer to thinking about marriage, I am a little concerned that our sex drives are mismatched for a very long term relationship. I am 23 and she is 21. I've heard a ton of anecdotes about women "waking up" sexually around 25. Is it realistic for me to think that that could be a possibility? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 25, 2014 - 33 answers

How do I get used to being single?

I've been out of a relationship for over a month and I'm running into trouble reconciling with the single status. It doesn't help that the ex seems to be moving along well. How do I reconcile with the feeling that I'm completely isolated? [more inside]
posted by skippingcharades on Nov 25, 2014 - 16 answers

How do I become more comfortable with being single?

I would like to shake off the discomfort that sometimes comes with being single and learn to develop myself more. [more inside]
posted by Kat_Dubs on Nov 23, 2014 - 8 answers

Are academics more happily married with each other?

Looking for studies with data. [more inside]
posted by chrysanthemum on Nov 20, 2014 - 8 answers

He didn't even want to have sex with me

My co-worker is the first guy I have been attracted to in a year and he seemed to reciprocate but then abpruptly lost interest. I can't stop obssesing over it and feeling rejected and down. [more inside]
posted by sabina_r on Nov 19, 2014 - 27 answers

Managing relationship doubts while depressed

I've been with my girlfriend for 5+ years, and lived together for 4. We've moved around the country together, adopted a pet together, and spent a lot of time thinking about/planning our next move together (we've moved around a lot, most recently so she could go to school). Lately, though, I've had significant, plaguing doubts about whether we should be together, and I'm having trouble parsing what's really going on. [more inside]
posted by batscam on Nov 16, 2014 - 14 answers

Am I broken?

I used to like people, but now I don't. I fear I'm creating an irreversibly solitary life for myself. I think the problem must be me, but I'm not sure what the cure is. Looking for advice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 16, 2014 - 73 answers

Great industry but the people suck. Help?

I'm a university graduate with entirely separate vocational training in an industry that always interested me. I've since worked an entry-level position in said industry but I've discovered that the employers and employees alike are similar culturally in a way that I am not. If I were to draw a Venn diagram of my interests and theirs, it would look like this: O O. I can't change everyone, so do I change myself or my job? [more inside]
posted by thethirdoption on Nov 14, 2014 - 12 answers

Special words to describe specific relationships?

English does not have words for certain kinds of specific relationships, but other languages do. I am interested in learning examples of some of these words. [more inside]
posted by JoannaC on Nov 14, 2014 - 30 answers

Getting over irrational jealousy/inferiority complex of other lady

My excellent partner was once in love for years with a lovely lady and dear friend of his who is gorgeous, elegant, accomplished, well known and admired in her line of work. It's in the past but it bothers me. This is my issue alone. Help me get past my feelings. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 11, 2014 - 18 answers

It's Breaking, if not Broken: Can I fix it?

My partner confessed to entertaining the idea of moving out, because living with me has been difficult of late and it's starting to hurt them. Is there any way back from this? [more inside]
posted by Ashen on Nov 10, 2014 - 13 answers

Halp! First experience with nonmonogamy

First non monogamous relationship. First serious post-marriage relationship. Lots of feelings. Need a navigator. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 6, 2014 - 39 answers

Asking for a friend... Is this relationship something that can be fixed?

"My fiancé and I started dating when we were 16. We are now 21. Our relationship started out great, and we moved in together quickly when we were 17. We lived together from that point on until he took a job out of state last October. He currently works about 12 hours from where I live. We have been having a lot of problems lately and I'm trying to figure out if it is worth saving. More details inside." [more inside]
posted by sarahgrace on Nov 5, 2014 - 41 answers

What percentage of trans individuals are gay/queer?

I am interested in learning to what extent individuals who identify as transexual also identify as queer or homosexual. Have there been any good studies of this? I googled but could not find much - please link me to any studies/findings about the issue.
posted by Another Fine Product From The Nonsense Factory on Oct 31, 2014 - 7 answers

hurting from co-worker's joke

How would you have handled this from a co-worker? [more inside]
posted by bananaskin on Oct 30, 2014 - 44 answers

Reason to feel insecure or am I just being borderline insane?!

Argh, so here goes, my first MetFilter question. I'd love some perspective here on whether I have a reason to be as worried as I am or whether, in fact, I'm overreacting - and any tips of ways to cope and not act out self-destructively would be very good. [more inside]
posted by starstarstar on Oct 30, 2014 - 30 answers

Need help with Emotional Regulation

I'm flailing and feeling like I've backslid on a lot of personal progress. I don't know what's going on, and I'd like some advice for getting myself back on track. I've attempted to keep this concise. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 28, 2014 - 8 answers

Oops, I did it again :(

How can I forgive myself for exercising such poor judgment? [more inside]
posted by Chrysalis on Oct 28, 2014 - 25 answers

A Long Time Ago, In A Relationship Far, Far Away

When should I tell new partners about past abuse? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 23, 2014 - 11 answers

Am I long forgotten?

During my last year in university (a few years ago), I always chatted (online) with a girl who went to the same department as me, and after many months, she told me that she had feelings for me. [more inside]
posted by cyrusw8 on Oct 19, 2014 - 23 answers

3 Years... Feeling Conflicted About The Future

I'm going to try VERY hard to keep this brief, but it will end up being stupid-long. Bear with me. Basically, I've been dating a guy for three years who I love very, very much, and has alternatively felt like the perfect match for me and like someone I may not be able to stand for 20 years. I go through periods of being very happy with him, but also periods of being very sad. [more inside]
posted by noteasyisit on Oct 15, 2014 - 42 answers

Fact, fantasy, or fiction: what am I thinking.

I'm a straight female, married for 15 years, two kids. My marriage is not perfect but pretty darn good. After my kids were born, I've started fantasizing about lesbian relationships. Fantasy is great, but shoud I act on it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 12, 2014 - 14 answers

Is it possible to find dates if you're a person seeking a person?

I am potentially interested in dating again. I had a breakup of a 1.5 year relationship around this time last year and feel emotionally over it. However, I feel like I will have a bit more challenges in regards to dating than the average person. (I'm mostly asexual, not very feminine, and a non-traditional undergraduate student in a college town). Special snowflakes inside... [more inside]
posted by sevenofspades on Oct 11, 2014 - 16 answers

How to make the best use of two (only two!) mediation sessions

My spouse has long resisted going to couples’ mediation, despite on-going problems in our marriage. After a particularly bad fight a few days ago, my spouse reluctantly agreed to attend two sessions. I’m responsible for selecting the mediator. What’s the best way to extract the most benefit from just two sessions? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 10, 2014 - 15 answers

How do I deal with a relationship that'll end when I move away?

Started a relationship with someone and it feels like the closest most intimate relationship I've ever been in, but, I'm financially committed to starting a new job in another country, in a month's time. We've already talked about spending as much time together as possible before the move (and we have a trip somewhere planned our last weekend together) but I don't know what to do after I move away. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 9, 2014 - 8 answers

Should I end it with my great companion of a SO?

I'm unsatisfied in the passion and effort in my relationship but love the companionship. We are like best friends. However, it's been so long since I've seen makeup or hair down, or her really initiating to me. Tons of details inside... thanks for your help. My frustration has been building over a long time. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 6, 2014 - 88 answers

How do I get there from here?

I'm pretty sure I'm not ready to date, but I'd like to be ready to date. Thoughts on how to get there? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 5, 2014 - 15 answers

How to stop resenting my partner's drinking

Am I overreacting to my partner's occasional drinking when trying to get sober? It makes me angry and I don't quite know exactly why. Should I ask him to stop drinking around me altogether, or is that unfair and unrealistic? [more inside]
posted by Weng on Oct 3, 2014 - 27 answers

So, how long have you been dating?

Like many other on-again, off-again couples, my boyfriend and I are having problems answering the question, "how long have you been dating?" [more inside]
posted by SkylitDrawl on Sep 28, 2014 - 23 answers

Help me get over and move on from this disappointing non-relationship

I recently came out of a disappointing "non-relationship" and am finding it hard to move on, and to know how to deal with this person (who is someone I see regularly). Hoping someone out there may have been through a similar thing and have some wisdom for me. [more inside]
posted by ss79 on Sep 27, 2014 - 24 answers

How do gf and I deal with different approaches to irritation and anger?

Our relationship is mostly great, but we disagree about the appropriateness of expressing irritation and anger at your partner. She can be outbursty, and I can be over-sensitive, so we might bicker, and then fight about the fighting, and we're trying to break the cycle. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 27, 2014 - 55 answers

Perspective on the idea of "growing apart" in a long term commitment?

I recently started seeing someone new, who happens to be the first person I've dated who's divorced. When he told me that he was divorced, he said they "grew apart," after over a decade of marriage, though he also indicated that his ex-wife didn't feel that way, and didn't want to get divorced. I had the sense (though this was a brief conversation, and we're just getting to know each other) that he didn't necessarily *try* to fix things. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 27, 2014 - 26 answers

You're making me justify all the things

My SO has a tendency to ask a lot of mundane questions that make me feel defensive. Please help be less bothered by this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 25, 2014 - 78 answers

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