How do I get rid of feelings of worthlessness, anxiety, and distance in my relationship that seem to occur when I'm not having sex?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 18, 2013 -
29 answers
I want to be a healthy, fit person, and I want my partner to want that, too. What's the selling point? How can I convince my SO to make this change with me and notice how our generally very sedentary life is sucking the life out of our relationship? Help!
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 16, 2013 -
31 answers
How do I decide whether this relationship is worth staying and working on or leaving and working on myself?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 30, 2012 -
31 answers
I'm looking for practical suggestions on finding casual sex in the context of an open relationship.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 19, 2012 -
19 answers
My boyfriend has been sneaking porn into bed to secretly look at while having sex with me (pictures on cell phone while behind me). He has been doing this for a year. How do I deal with my resulting body issues and how do we repair intimacy?
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posted by cakebatter
on Aug 31, 2012 -
92 answers
He's into being dominated; I'm not into dominating. He wants to visit a dominatrix; I'm terrified about what it might do to our relationship, but also worried about our sans-dominatrix relationship more generally. Help?
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posted by sock puppety puppet
on Jun 22, 2012 -
26 answers
Dear MetaFilter: I need advice on serodiscordant dating. (That is, when a HIV- guy starts seeing a HIV+ guy.)
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 5, 2012 -
10 answers
My wife of 14 years never tells me she loves me. She never initiates sex. She never holds my hand, kisses or casually touches me. No pillow talk. No thoughtful little gifts. I do all of these things for her as often as I can.
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posted by anonymous
on May 22, 2012 -
43 answers
Four years ago I married a great guy. We've been together a total of eight years. Sometime around when we got married...maybe a little before, I stopped wanting sex with him. I dreaded it on our wedding night/honeymoon. At first I thought it was just a phase, something to do with wedding planning burnout and general nerves. Four years later, it's even worse than it was. Otherwise, we have a good relationship, I think. We have everything in common, a shared worldview, good communication. Because of the sexual issue, we have talked numerous times about separating. I guess what I can't figure out is, why this has happened, and if our entire relationship is worth ending over it.
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posted by anonymous
on May 20, 2012 -
80 answers
Do healthy, happy couples ever have periods where one or the other feels the ennui of "I love you, but I'm not
in love with you?" If so, how do they resolve it? How do they decide if it's worth resolving?
posted by Caligula's Idiot Cousin
on Apr 10, 2012 -
12 answers
I've lost interest in sex with my boyfriend, and find things increasingly uncomfortable in that department. What should I do?! I'm a 28 year old female, and have been in a long term committed relationship with my current boyfriend for about 3 years now. I'd been a virgin up until about 2 and ½ years ago. My upbringing was uneventful, and I've never had any traumatic experiences that I can recall involving sexuality, however I have always felt embarrassed about sex related things, which is why before my current boyfriend I always just made out with whoever I felt like.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 28, 2012 -
15 answers
I'm dating a girl who has had a difficult past and who seems to be strangely absent during sex. Help me figure out how best to deal with this.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 6, 2012 -
6 answers
I think my boyfriend is cheating on me, or at least looking for opportunities to do so. The problem is, if I can't trust him not to cheat, then I also can't trust him to tell the truth if I confront him. So how do I deal with this? (details below)
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posted by myShanon
on Dec 10, 2011 -
48 answers
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We are happy and are sexually active, but we just don't have sex. I know that everybody does it at any age now, and that everywhere you turn, you are somehow reminded of it, but is that so bad? Basically, when we first got together, everything was (of course) perfect. He was a virgin but I wasn't, and he knew that. I liked the fact that we had a lot of sexual tension but that he didn't ever pressure me to do anything I didn't want to. Basically, he wanted me to make the shots. And I feel almost like it's still that way now.
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posted by xopaigexo
on Nov 29, 2011 -
29 answers
Help me accept my sex drive and become okay with fulfilling my sexual needs outside my sexless (and open) relationship.
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posted by chameleon
on Nov 16, 2011 -
16 answers
My girlfriend and I have been together for over 2 years now. Without getting into too much details, I have real no desire to have sex with her for reasons I'm not sure of.
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posted by Peeekay
on Oct 18, 2011 -
13 answers
I was set to marry "The One." He broke my heart. Sex hasn't been the same since, nor have I fallen in love. Is this just because I haven't found the right guy, or is it all in my head?
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posted by DoubleLune
on Oct 4, 2011 -
16 answers
I'm having a difficult time trying to mentally process an ex's recent wedding because I'm hung up on the sex/religion aspect of it all. I need advice on how to stop thinking about him.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 21, 2011 -
33 answers
Should I be feeling upset/insecure about a change in my boyfriend's attitude towards certain sexual activities (NSFW)?
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posted by 2X2LcallingCQ
on Jul 13, 2011 -
30 answers
I met a girl from a club and we had sex. She had a boyfriend then (she cheated on him with me). She is now single & we have been incredibly close. I think I'm being clingy and I need help BIGTIME because I really like her.
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posted by Vandal
on Apr 30, 2011 -
23 answers
MentalHealthFilter: Anyone personally dealing with bipolar partners sexual issues? Mildly NWS, and long as heck.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 23, 2011 -
8 answers
My 20 year old younger sister is dating a 30 year old man. Is this a cause for concern?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 14, 2011 -
62 answers
I hooked up with my friend but she doesn't remember doing it, what is going on? (NSFW possibly)
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 7, 2011 -
25 answers
SexFilter: I am a woman who is orgasming too soon, too powerfully, such that it's interfering with my boyfriend's ability to do the same. What do we do?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 10, 2011 -
12 answers
I feel under enormous amounts of pressure to have sex with my boyfriend, but I'm just not interested in sex right now. I have some issues with anxiety/depression, and I'm going through therapy that is raising certain questions for me about the nature of my past sexual interactions. I'm very confused, and I need time to sort it all out. But in the meantime, what am I supposed to do/say? What do I owe my SO as a loving partner? (possibly nsfw)
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posted by Tulip
on Jan 9, 2011 -
22 answers
How can I move from hook-up or "one night stand" to a real relationship? Is that possible? How would a "slut" get into a relationship?
I am a 26 year old female who many might describe as promiscuous. I'm not embarrassed or ashamed of that, I'm having a lot of fun. But recently I now have a habit of sleeping with guys who I have a pretty big crush on, but the next morning they are always very "see you around!" If I invite them to hang out later they usually kindly decline. But honestly, I'd like to date them! I'd like to sleep with them again, and not just by accident because we happened to be at the same party. Is it possible to turn this sort of hook-up into more?
Maybe nsfw inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 2, 2011 -
44 answers
The person I'm going out with claims they have no sexual imagination, essentially. Can this be true? What can I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 24, 2010 -
46 answers
I found out my 40 year old boyfriend was looking at porn of girls that look underage, should I be creeped out by this? These sites are definitely legal and there aren't actual underage girls on them, but they certainly look it. I'm looking for a guy's perspective on this.
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posted by LOLcat
on Jun 11, 2010 -
70 answers
Is it wrong to want to continually date new and interesting women? I'm almost 40 (male). Do I just need to grow up? Looking for book recommendations/advice/etc.
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posted by sharingideas
on May 15, 2010 -
43 answers
How to talk to my partner about sexual fantasies when he’s avoiding the subject? (Kinda NSFW, I guess?)
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posted by anonymous
on May 6, 2010 -
29 answers
(relationship filter] Please help me choose between true love and great sex. Of course, I don’t really mean that. But I do need help making a decision and whatever I decide to do, someone’s heart is going to be broken.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 25, 2010 -
47 answers
